Today has been an especially trying day. After some tears had been shed, I took the time to hold and share space with both my online and offline friends about our feelings, fears, and hurts. I decided to create a Tarot spread to help us feel better in regards to this difficult situation. Sometimes at the end of the day, what helps me is some wisdom from my cards. I call this spread The Card Counselor.
Position One: What can I do to validate my feelings? Often times I try to downplay my emotions because I don’t want to be a burden to others. This does nothing but hinder my progress in assessing the issue. This position provides me with the permission to feel what I am feeling unapologetically.
Position Two: How can I stay level-headed throughout this difficult situation? When I am upset, scared or hurt, my mind automatically thinks of the worst possible scenarios and rejects any positive possibilities. This position addresses how I can remain sensible in my thoughts the best way that I can.
Position Three: What do I need to feel safe? We all deserve to feel safe when dealing with difficult situations in our lives. This position provides support on what is needed to feel secure and out of harm's way.
Position Four: How can I best proceed forward? I often find myself lost on what to do next in regards to dealing with a difficult situation. Sometimes what’s next is taking time for self-care, other times it's spending time distracting myself with television. This position provides a suggestion on how to proceed without exhausting your own resources.
Is it ok to look at a drawing and redrawing it but of course not claim it as your own and also for learning purposes?
Yes. That’s the short answer. It is what you do with those drawings that is what matters. If you look at a drawing and redraw it, keep it in your sketch book, that’s fine. You can do this to learn how other artists think. If you ever have the chance to go to the Met in New York City, you will see, particularly in the Greek and Roman section, plenty of artists sitting and sketching the sculptures. When I was in school, I had to copy at least 5 works of art at the Met every semester and then write statements about the art works. Copying is totally fine, but copying and saying you drew it is not fine. Keep those works in your sketch book. If you want to, show them to your friends, use them to practice coloring or inking, but don’t post it online or enter it into competitions. It is not your creative property to do that with.
UNDER THE CUT, you will find #144 gif icons of Douglas Booth. These are styled in HS1, sized 80x80. None of the original gifs belong to me, so credit belongs to original owners. However, these were all edited by me. Feel free to use these as you wish, but I ask that you please don’t repost or claim as your own. A like or a reblog if you use or found these helpful would be much appreciated. Enjoy!
* ✰. — by clicking HERE you will be redirected to 54 gifs of the beautiful ( YULIA ROSE), as requested by @thedepxrted. all these gifs are sized (100 x 100 ). all of these gifs were made by me, from scratch. so pease don’t claim as your own. a LIKE or REBLOG if you find these useful would be appreciated, but isn’t necessary. have fun with them !! xoxo
In this gif pack you can find 75 gifs of the insanely beautiful Ginny Gardner as Karolina Dean in episode 1x06 of Marvel’s Runaways. These gifs were made by me, so please don’t claim as your own. Please don’t put them into other gif hunts and please give this a like or a reblog if using!
by clicking ⥽HERE⥼ you will redirect yourself to a page with exactly [#146] gif icons in size 90px of ›› AHN HEEYEON ( hani ) from EXID, with her magnificient fairy & blonde hair during the perfect DDD era
!none of the original gifs are mine, full credits go to the owners ─── however, i did resize, added a psd, a texture & recolored the ones that needed it. if you see your gifs here and wish for me to take them down, message me ! please do not claim these as your own, add on other gif hunts Or edit in any way.
LIKES or REBLOGS would be appreciated if you found this helpful, plan on using them or are a rph blog !
Well, it’s a test drive for something I’m thinking of doing as a Patreon Offering this coming year and I wanted to give it a test drive. Which means opening it to anybody and everybody who wants to take part in a little bit of fun.
How this works: These semi generic bits of portraits are yours to claim - in a way. Have a character that looks similar to one of these? Or inspired to create a new one based on them? You can download the psd files from the links below, color however you like and claim it as your character, or a new character, etc. Easy as that!
Do not remove my signature (I do want credit for the lineart)
Feel to edit within moderation (scars, jewelry, tattoos, horns, fangs, wings, go nuts! just try not to change too much of what already exists.)
Feel free to claim as your own character, but keep in mind that others are free to do the same
My other request is that if you do use these, please tag me so I can see the results. I love seeing how creative people can be with things like these and would love to be able to use some finished pieces for the examples of variety than be achieved.
Under the read more you will find #75 GIFS of DANNY RAMIREZ. They are all from his role on The Gifted, from episode 1x07. These were all made by me from scratch so please DO NOT REDISTRIBUTE THEM OR CLAIM THEM AS YOUR OWN. AKA,DO NOT PUT THESE IN GIF HUNTS, PLEASE. If you want to turn them into gif icons, either for redistribution or for personal use, please just ask! It would be greatly appreciated if you would like / reblog this post if you use them, but no worries if you don’t! Enjoy. ♡
hey squid kids! i have something pretty cool for all of you, recently i made an illustration with an oc of mine with this background and i realized i made the background its own element. SO ive decided to share it all with you!
The way TV shows trauma can lead people to expect every reference to trauma to be a plot point. This can be isolating to people coping with the aftermaths of trauma. Sometimes people treat us as stories rather than as people. Sometimes, instead of listening to us, they put a lot of pressure on us to advance the plot they’re expecting.
On TV, triggers tend to be full audiovisual flashbacks that add something to the story. You see a vivid window into the character’s past, and something changes. On TV, trauma aftermaths are usually fascinating. Real life trauma aftermaths are sometimes interesting, but also tend to be very boring to live with.
On TV, triggers tend to create insight. In real life, they’re often boring intrusions interfering with the things you’d rather be thinking about. Sometimes knowing darn well where they come from doesn’t make them go away. Sometimes it’s more like: Seriously? This again?
On TV, when trauma is mentioned, it’s usually a dramatic plot point that happens in a moment. In real life, trauma aftermaths are a mundane day-to-day reality that people live with. They’re a fact of life — and not necessarily the most important one at all times. People who have experienced trauma do other things too. They’re important, but not the one and only defining characteristic of who someone is. And things that happened stay important even when you’re ok. Recovery is not a reset. Mentioning the past doesn’t necessarily mean you’re in crisis.
On TV, when a character mentions trauma, or gets triggered in front of someone, it’s usually a dramatic moment. It changes their life, or their relationship with another character, or explains their backstory, or something. In real life, being triggered isn’t always a story, and telling isn’t always a turning point. Sometimes it’s just mentioning something that happened to be relevant. Sometimes it’s just a mundane instance of something that happens from time to time.
Most people can’t have a dramatic transformative experience every time it turns out that their trauma matters. Transformative experiences and moments of revelation exist, but they’re not the end all and be all of trauma aftermaths. Life goes on, and other things matter too. And understanding what a reaction means and where it came from doesn’t always make it go away. Sometimes, it takes longer and has more to do with skill-building than introspection. Sometimes it doesn’t go away.
On a day to day level, it’s often better to be matter-of-fact about aftermaths. It can be exhausting when people see you as a story and expect you to advance the plot whenever they notice some effect of trauma. Pressure to perform narratives about healing doesn’t often help people to make their lives better. Effect support involves respecting someone as a complex human, including the boring parts.
The aftermath of trauma is a day-to-day reality. It affects a lot of things, large and small. It can be things like being too tired to focus well in class because nightmares kept waking you up every night this week. TV wants that to be a dramatic moment where the character faces their past and gets better. In real life, it’s often a day where you just do your best to try and learn algebra anyway. Because survivors do things besides be traumatized and think about trauma. Sometimes it’s not a story. Sometimes it’s just getting through another day as well as possible.
A lot of triggers are things like being unable to concentrate on anything interesting because some kinds of background noises make you feel too unsafe to pay attention to anything else. For the zillionth time. Even though you know rationally that they’re not dangerous. Even though you know where they come from, and have processed it over and over. Even if you’ve made a lot of progress in dealing with them, even if they’re no longer bothersome all the time. For most people, recovery involves a lot more than insight. The backstory might be interesting, but being tired and unable to concentrate is boring.
Triggers can also mean having to leave an event and walk home by yourself while other people are having fun, because it turns out that it hurts too much to be around pies and cakes. Or having trouble finding anything interesting to read that isn’t intolerably triggering. Or having trouble interacting with new people because you’re too scared or there are too many minefields. Or being so hypervigilant that it’s hard to focus on anything. No matter how interesting the backstory is, feeling disconnected and missing out on things you wanted to enjoy is usually boring.
When others want to see your trauma as a story, their expectations sometimes expand to fill all available space. Sometimes they seem to want everything to be therapy, or want everything to be about trauma and recovery.
When others want every reference to trauma to be the opening to a transformative experience, it can be really hard to talk about accommodations. For instance, it gets hard to say things like:
“I’m really tired because of nightmares” or
“I would love to go to that event, but I might need to leave because of the ways in which that kind of thing can be triggering” or
“I’m glad I came, but I can’t handle this right now” or
“I’m freaking out now, but I’ll be ok in a few minutes” or
“I need to step out — can you text me when they stop playing this movie?”
It can also be hard to mention relevant experiences. There are a lot of reasons to mention experiences other than wanting to process, eg:
“Actually, I have experience dealing with that agency”
“That’s not what happens when people go to the police, in my experience, what happens when you need to make a police report is…”
“Please keep in mind that this isn’t hypothetical for me, and may not be for others in the room as well.”
Or any number of other things.
When people are expecting a certain kind of story, they sometimes look past the actual person. And when everyone is looking past you in search of a story, it can be very hard to make connections.
It helps to realize that no matter what others think, your story belongs to you. You don’t have to play out other people’s narrative expectations. It’s ok if your story isn’t what others want it to be. It’s ok not to be interesting. It’s ok to have trauma reactions that don’t advance the plot. And there are people who understand that, and even more people who can learn to understand that.
It’s possible to live a good life in the aftermath of trauma. It’s possible to relearn how to be interested in things. It’s possible to build space you can function in, and to build up your ability to function in more spaces. It’s often possible to get over triggers. All of this can take a lot of time and work, and can be a slow process. It doesn’t always make for a good story, and it doesn’t always play out the way others would like it to. And, it’s your own personal private business. Other people’s concern or curiosity does not obligate you to share details.
Survivors and victims have the right to be boring. We have the right to deal with trauma aftermaths in a matter-of-fact way, without indulging other people’s desires for plot twists. We have the right to own our own stories, and to keep things private. We have the right to have things in our lives that are not therapy; we have the right to needed accommodations without detailing what happened and what recovery looks like. Neither traumatic experiences nor trauma aftermaths erase our humanity.
We are not stories, and we have no obligation to advance an expected plot. We are people, and we have the right to be treated as people. Our lives, and our stories, are our own.
♛ || 𝗛𝗢𝗚𝗪𝗔𝗥𝗧𝗦 𝗛𝗢𝗨𝗦𝗘 𝗠𝗢𝗢𝗗𝗕𝗢𝗔𝗥𝗗 : 𝑯𝒖𝒇𝒇𝒍𝒆𝒑𝒖𝒇𝒇 —— ❛ Hufflepuffs are honey and flowers and the soft autumn sun. They’re knitted jumpers and scarves and soft tan boots. They’re fresh air and nature , the sound of birds singing. They’re rolling down a hill in the spring , grass stains on your knees , daisy chains in your hair. They’re waving at someone across a crowded room , bright smiles and laughter. They’re coming home after a long day and seeing your family. They’re playing fetch with your dog , your cat weaving between your feet. They’re fluffy socks and song birds and kraft notebooks with hand drawn patterns. They’re throw cushions on a bed , a tiny cottage surrounded by wilderness. They’re the ground beneath your feet , the air that you breathe. They’re the light you chase when you thought you’d never see the morning. ❜