You seem to be one of the few well-adjusted and nice feanorian fans I know. But it could be I'm just not looking in the right places?
I don’t know if I’d call myself a Feanorian fan per se (….or nice and well adjusted) but maybe that is why I’m tolerable?
Anyway, terminology aside, I think the trick of finding cool folks in fandom, especially when it comes to controversial (i.e. kinda shitty) characters, is looking for people with a sense of humour, both about the characters they love and about themselves.
(This gets weirdly meta because @emilyenrose and I were just talking about how important having a sense of humour about yourself is for the characters of the Silmarillion - in her words, “humour is perspective with good grace!” - but the same is just as true of us. The Tragic Adventures of The Bloodstained Son of Ill-fortune, King Hair, Dad Dad Jr et al are no less tragic because they’re really fucking silly, and the same applies to our own thousands of words of elven pornography and idiot discourse)
The other thing to remember is that liking horrible characters does not make you a horrible person. …but tying yourself in knots trying to make mass murderers somehow not responsible for their actions is really not a good look.
All my mutuals are cool, chill people but I’m not sure who would object to being saddled with the label ‘Feanorian fan’? Leave a note if you are Nice and Well-Adjusted and still somehow want to be associated with idiot murderers.