I just watched the last episode of Will and Grace and whilst I feel like the reboot is stumbling a bit I would strongly advocate watching this episode.
Jack is often the comedic fool of the show but this week he was the one to speak an important lesson, a lesson that resonated with me and I imagine so many people.
A lesson that I think everyone should heed - to think about the things they say and do through their child’s eyes.
I related to Skip because all I heard growing up from my father was that being gay was wrong, that it was unnatural and like Skip it made me think that there was something inherently wrong with me, something that needed fixing, that I had to push down and hide.
It wasn’t until I left my father’s house that I realised that there was nothing wrong with me. I wasn’t the one who was broken but that he was because he couldn’t look past his own hatred and homophobia to see that I was still his daughter.
We don’t speak or see each other anymore and I have no desire to have him in my life because I know what his lack of acceptance feels like. I know how small and hurt it made me feel. I remember how it made me hate myself for not being what he called “normal”.
I wish that everybody had a Jack McFarland in their lives to tell them that who they are is incredible, that they’re not broken, that even though it will be hard, it will be worth it. Everyone should feel like they can live their truth and a lot of parents out there could do with stepping back and thinking about how what they say makes their child feel.
People shouldn’t grow up feeling like they’re broken or unnatural or whatever homophobic/transphobic comments fill their household. They should grow up feeling accepted, feeling loved and feeling safe enough that they can be who they are without their own parents telling them their freaks.
I don’t often say you have to watch this episode, but I want everyone to watch ‘Grandpa Jack’ and sit back for a moment and let the lesson sink in.