and a lot more emotions

anonymous asked:

Is it common for SFPs to start cracking jokes when situations get too emotionally heavy? Or joking around when things become really serious? Or as way to avoid really talking about their feelings? I see it a lot in my SFPs friends and I was wondering why they did this. Thanks for taking the time to answer!

I haven’t seen this in SFPs specifically. I think this is a lot more dependent on emotional maturity and upbringing and life situation than any type. Like, using humor to defuse situations, especially crisis situations, is pretty common with emergency and medical personnel because it’s how they cope with some really grim realities.

talesfromcallcenters: How am I supposed to talk to someone?

For a bit of context, my entire life I have been sure that Webchat is a safe haven in the customer support world of call centres. You have a lot more freedom to express your negative emotions and to poke fun at customers. I work for an energy supplier, and customers like this are the one black spot in a lovely world of written interaction.

Customer=C, Me=M

C: . I need a Quote on my new flat for electricity. But I want to discuss telephonically and not through texting like this

M: Hi C, thank you for contacting <company> Webchat.

M: Ok, please contact <moving home dept> on xxxxxxxx - Their opening times are <blah>

M: If we supply the property already, they’ll be able to help.

M: If we don’t supply the property, you can contact <new customer dept> their number is xxxxxxxx

C:  The automated voice is asking for an account number and I do NOT have an account yet so how can I speak to someone ????

Clearly, she did not get the memo on how if she’s a new customer, she needs to contact us on the new customer number… I always like the multiple questions marks as well. My reading comprehension skill is too terrible to understand when a question is being asked.

M: Please wait on the line and you will be passed to a person.

M: It will ask for an account number 3 times, and then it will continue without it.

This takes a about one minute over the phone - one minute where she doesn’t need to click anything. She’s calling the wrong number, but hey, if that’s what she wants, who am I to argue?

C: I’m not prepared to wait three times, get someone to call me please

I’m sorry ma'am, I’m not a switchboard operator.

M: I’m sorry C, as an online agent I can’t get other departments to call you. Please simply hold the line and you it will progress further. If you are new to <company> and we don’t supply the property, please call <other dept> on xxxxxxxx and they’ll help you.

C: How come your website does not provide new customer telephone number details???

M: I’m sorry C, we do provide phone numbers if you click on help -> contact us online.

M: We also provide Webchat help, and we’re always happy to guide customers to apply online.

C: I’ve wasted enough time just to get a phone number. Not a good start as a new customer. Thank you

‘Customer’ disconnected ('Concluded by End-user’).

This happens so bloody often - if you need help, customers, click on HELP. If you don’t want to use Webchat, just don’t use it! If you’re a new customer, use the bloody new customer number!

By: GhanimaAt

Talking with writers online

Their stories: Amazing grammar, soaring vocabulary, beautiful imagery and prose which flows like a river.

In chats: no capitalisation or punctuation, swears like a sailor, misspellings everywhere, acronyms and abbreviations every five words, idek

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Let’s appreciate that Killian Jones, the Captain Hook, realized that he needed to talk to someone about how he was feeling. A man notorious for internalizing his pain and his emotional struggles. A man who, in the past, would  much rather have drown his problems in the bottom of a rum barrel than have anybody share the burden. If this isn’t a sign of growth and emotional maturity, I don’t know what is honestly. It also shows that Killian encouraging Emma to talk to Archie wasn’t some hollow sign of support. He’s practicing what he preaches, holding himself to same expectation he held to Emma. It’s such a big step for him. This was such a huge moment for him on a personal level and it makes me so proud.

Louis tweeting Harry happy birthday is fucking EMOTIONAL okay??? Those two had an undeniably close bond in the early days of the band, and over the years it’s stretched and withered and hidden itself and morphed and been tried by people putting something on it other than what it was. 

But they have grown. And gotten older. And changed. And Louis has had a son. And they have both lost people they loved. And they may not be those same boys who moved into the most garish flat in all of London together. But their hearts are the same. And the love and friendship forged in the fires of what they went through has brought them out on the other side to where they can be there for each other. To mourn and to celebrate. Publicly. 

And that’s some beautiful shit right there. 

anonymous asked:

*flies in like a bat out of hell* What about a fusion between all three? Idk if you watch SU but it's totally possible and makes for super powerful beings with extra limbs or senses. (Usually eyes tbh)

Anon said: WHAT IF ALL THREE FUSED TOGETHER?? 8D

a Disaster™

The whole ordeal over Korra not being able to Airbend until much later gives me a lot more emotions than I thought it would. 

Airbending basically demands freedom. The ability to no longer feel constrained, and move without limitations. 

Tenzin says in Book 1 that the Avatar’s most difficult element to learn is the one opposite to their personality. For Aang it was Earthbending, and for Korra it was Airbending. 

I think this is mainly because Korra was immediately trained to be the Avatar, whereas Aang was at least given a chance to be normal. He even earned his tattoos before he was informed of this huge responsibility. He was allowed to be free, which is why Earthbending was such a struggle for him: he had to be grounded (lol) for once. 

For better or worse (perhaps more the latter), Korra was told the “good” news when she was only a baby.

There was a post I saw on Tumblr a while ago, which said that A:TLA is about a human learning to be the Avatar. And TLOK is about the Avatar learning to be human. This is definitely the case. While I won’t compare the two Avatars, Korra went through so much shit when she was a teenager, up until she was in her twenties, and I do think this stems from the fact she was brought up as this weapon, not really as a normal person.

Not to mention the only real friend she had was Naga, until she followed Tenzin to Republic City. I mean, this kid has lived her life under protection, with barely anybody to socialise with, and has had it rammed into her head that she is the Avatar from a frighteningly early age. She has been disciplined harshly, been trained thoroughly, and has had many limitations set on her. It’s no surprise Airbending (the ability to be free) is so foreign to her.

To say Korra is the worst Avatar makes no sense to me. I think it’s pretty fucking remarkable she survived, mentally especially, after everything that has been thrusted at her. It gives the ending of Book 3 a much sweeter note. Korra walks into another world, another life, holding onto a girl who has never once shown her limits. Who literally makes her free.

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If you run into a wall and pretend it doesn’t exist, you’ll never make progress. The wall will never change, so you’re the one who has to change.

Happy birthday to my dear Allen!!

[ image description: A screen shot of a post that reads “Don’t cross oceans for people who wouldn’t cross a puddle for you.” Someone has crossed this out with a big grey X and underneath added “No, do it. Do cross oceans for people. Love people, all people. No conditions attached, no wondering whether or not they’re worthy. Cross oceans, climb mountains. Life and love isn’t about what you gain, it’s about what you give.” End of descripton ]

I hate this post, I hate it so much. And let me tell you why.

At first it seems like a pretty good post, right? You should love people and do things for them because you want to or because it’s nice, or just because you love them, not because you expect something in return. Yeah. We learn that as kids. But listen. Listen to me. It is not that simple. Yes you should do nice things for people. Carry in your grandmother’s grocerys even if she forgets to say thank you. Sure. But you should never, never, pour yourself into someone who does not give back to you.

Doing everything for someone who gives you nothing in return is not love.

A friend of mine worded it really well “The point of the original post was to emphasise that your own mental/physical health is more important than someone’s selfish needs.” It’s not romantic to run yourself into the ground for someone who can’t even be bothered to care about you. And not only is it not romantic, it’s unhealthy.

I have, on more than one occasion, “crossed oceans” for people who I do believe loved me, but who didn’t even come close to crossing them for me. And do you know what I got out of that? The first one I lost 10 pounds because I was so miserable I could barely eat and I was throwing up what I did eat. And I was still doing whatever I could to be with them, and make them happy, even though they didn’t seem to be willing to put any work in themself. Why bother, I was always there. The second one I ran my own mental health so thin that that literally could not do anything for him, all I could do is sit in the bathtub and think about how I coudln’t feel anything. But I still refused to turn my phone off and ignore his messages. I still made myself avaible to him because he “needed me.”

There was nothing romantic about either of those situations (note: only one was a romantic relationship but the idea of giving and giving and giving when you’re gettin nothing back is romanticized whether it’s in a romantic or platonic relationship.) There was nothing beautiful or selfless about it. It was miserable. I was miserable. I can remember one of my friends telling me he missed me because all I could talk about was the person I had allowed to become my whole life.

And in the end, both of them stopped talking to me.

Don’t believe anyone when they say the second part of that post. It’s bullshit and I’m really tired of seeing it romanticized. It tells people (especailly young girls) that this is an okay way for a relationship to be, that this is what they should be doing. 

There is nothing selfish about demanding that your emotional labour be reciprocated. That’s what makes a relationship (romantic, platonic, or otherwise) healthy. That’s what love is. Both people giving. Both people supportin each other. Not one person giving until they have nothing left for themself. 

okay so this post is wrong but what the heck it’s a Tumblr post, right, it’s mostly a joke, only it’s so perfectly echoing an idea I’ve seen elsewhere too, from actual paid critics and academic critiques, that Hugo “wasn’t writing for emotional teenagers”, that he’d be horrified by fandom, that he was too High and Erudite for the likes of  screaming theater kids and emotional teenagers

y’all. Y’all. 

Victor Hugo knew what fandom was.  And he absolutely LOVED it. 

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Can All Parents Do This For Me

Listen to your kids. I’m not kidding, listen to them. It’ll do you so much in the long run, because think of it like this. Your kids don’t instinctively avoid you, they don’t, I can bet all your kids when they were younger told you all about their day at school, the friends they made, people who rubbed them the wrong way et cetera. Although, when you stop listening to them, you stop getting all this. You start missing out on well, a lot. When you start using your position as a parent to do things like; Look through your child’s things just because, yell at them for little things and repeatedly tell them they have to listen because you’re the adult, make it seem as if they don’t have problems, you are killing that kid. You may not be grabbing a knife, but look at it like this, to look at your parents, the people who keep you safe and they blame everything on you, even their mistakes, you might as well have stabbed them. Cos it hurts like hell. Don’t accuse your children of things you don’t have solid proof of them doing, because at some point, they’ll go fuck it and do it because you already think they do. Don’t kill that light inside your child because ‘you’re the adult’, your kid deserves just as much respect. I don’t care if you’re a good bible fairing Christian because at some point the words that say to respect your parents stop, especially at abuse. I don’t care if you’ve never supported the LGBT cause in your life, don’t take that out on your kid because they obviously trust you enough to tell you about the inner turmoil they’re feeling. Raise your kids better than you were, because it may seem like something arrogant, but they will most likely follow in the path you take when they raise their own kids, and it becomes a cycle. A cycle of physical or emotional abuse and no one deserves that, especially not a kid. Listen to them, please, because you’ll find out a lot more about them then you think.

I gotta say, I do REALLY love how David is a lot more willing to openly express his negative emotions this season. Last season, he had a habit of bottling them up more often than not, and was a lot less willing to stand up for himself.

But this season, he’s been allowed to be upset and jealous and disgusted and a mix of other emotions outside his usually happy ones. Now, that doesn’t mean he always expresses those emotions CORRECTLY, but I do think it’s great that he’s a little more comfortable about showing that side of himself rather than hiding it.

And on the opposite side of the coin, we have Max. He’s been a lot LESS angry and bitter lately, and his attempts to escape the camp or ruin David’s life are clearly not as strong as they used to be. He not only seems more willing to HELP David, but to be a little more willing to participate in activities. He’s even been a lot happier than he was in season one!

Say what you want about the show itself, but their character development has been AMAZING lately.

I’ve been thinking for a while and I felt the need to make a quick little PSA for people who participate in fandoms and idolize artists and such–


I’ve noticed over the past 2 years certain people who have others practically throwing themselves at their feet when they’re not… good people. 

I just want to say that yes, you can like someone’s work, but please try not to get caught up in the idea that being a fan of theirs or trying to appeal to them will accomplish something for you on a deeper or wider level. I guess that’s how I can word it?
If you see someone doing horrible things, treating people badly, generally having a shit attitude… and just–the stances they take on serious subjects? Just because they’re someone with followers doesn’t make them right. It doesn’t mean you have to settle and agree with them, especially if it conflicts with your morality.

Just please be cautious when participating in fandoms, because the last thing I want to see more of is bad behavior being rewarded because fans feel that they have to feel that way rather than standing up against something blatantly wrong.
Your voice does matter, even if you feel like it doesn’t.


Adding onto this–I know I’m not the best person in the entire world. I know I have my own issues and my brain works in a way that I approach things that other people think is outlandish or weird. 
I don’t want any of you here if it means that you feel like you have to be here–I want you here because you’re comfortable being here, it’s why I try my hardest to both be inclusive and considerate with the subjects I speak about on this blog.

In simple terms: I’m not an extremist SJW but I AM an SJW at heart, and stars forbid I want people to feel validated and want to treat them as equals and have them feel comfortable and safe in my space.

(Also, that feeling when you have to explain that last bit because people will just hate you for being a coughSJWcough because of the horrible stigma surrounding the shitty ones. It’s why I put extremist in there, because extremist ANYTHINGS are bad news no matter what the cause is.)

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 ɪ ʜᴏᴘᴇ ᴡᴇ ᴄᴀɴ ᴋᴇᴇᴘ ᴏɴ ᴅᴏɪɴɢ ᴛʜɪs ғᴏʀ ᴀ ʟᴏɴɢ, ʟᴏɴɢ ᴛɪᴍᴇ. 

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a:tla + quotes

(inspired by i, ii)

I’ve noticed a trend in a lot of MEA discussions that really bothers me.  (Yes there was a recent post that led to this one, but it was by far not the first, just the one that finally prompted me to say something.)

Sexless relationships =/= ace relationships

Please please please stop saying “ace” when you mean “sexless.”

Not only is asexuality an umbrella term as well as a standalone identity (which covers other identities such as demisexuality and gray-asexuality, where sexual attraction is experienced rarely or only under specific situations), behavior has nothing to do with and in no way defines orientation.  Someone who feels no sexual attraction to other people can still have, want, and enjoy sex.

Instead that gets into how individual people feel about sex.  Some language commonly used in ace circles (but not only applicable to people who are ace) are sex-adverse/repulsed, sex-indifferent, and sex-favorable (occasionally “sex-positive” is used but that tends to cause confusion between personally wanting/being okay with sex and the overall “sex positive” movement).

Sorry if this is getting a little too “asexuality 101.″  My main problem with the way “ace relationships” has been used lately is that the moment its discovered that there will be a sex scene (and usually an implied sexual relationship past what the game shows) with a companion, people write off that they and their relationship cannot be ace.  Which is fundamentally untrue.

While I would kill for more relationships without sex scenes or the simple ability to skip those scenes for any/all characters, that is not what makes them ace.  That idea just adds more fuel to the “gold star ace” (never has sex, never wants sex, never gets aroused, never masturbates, etcetcetc) fire that the general ace community has been fighting to stop for a really long time.

Even just talking about ace characters and the potential for canon ace characters is a massive step forward, and I’m so grateful for that.  But we have to stop stuff like this early, especially when it might be the first or only mention of asexuality that some people see.  I’ve read stories from and talked to so many people that thought they couldn’t be ace because they didn’t fit that gold star standard and its heartbreaking.  And I just can’t stand the thought of that idea being unknowingly perpetuated, especially in a fandom I feel so close to.


These are just random habits that I’ve learned over time that have improved my productivity/mental state/ life in general:

(Obviously I didn’t come up with them all myself, but I do use all of them pretty much daily)

Mornings -

- Use Alarmy - I have only just discovered this, (I’m sure I’m late to catch on), but for anyone else like me: The app won’t stop your alarm playing until you go and take a picture of a particular place in your house that you choose. This has improved my mornings so much because once you’re up and walking around you feel awake ready to start your day, where as I used to spend at least half an hour dozing and desperately trying to wake my brain up. Also you can set it to a place that is relevant to your morning routine e.g. I have to take a picture of the kitchen sink, which means I am also reminded to drink some water first thing after waking up

- When getting ready - organise your entire outfit (including underwear/socks) and take it to the shower/bathroom with you. When you are done showering, dry yourself immediately and don’t leave the room until you are dressed. This saves so much time that you would normally waste sitting around in your towel deciding what to wear, and also stops you from getting cold on winter mornings

- If you are bad at eating breakfast - make smoothie bags the night before (or on Sunday for the rest of the week) that just need to be thrown in the blender in the morning … 

- I also really like getting up one hour earlier than the time that I need to, and watching an episode of tv over breakfast, so I can actually do something I enjoy with my morning instead of rushing … but this probably won’t appeal to everyone

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Listen what I love about Lito and Sun’s relationship is that he’s one of the few to look after her from the beginning. Not in a protective matter, but in an emotional matter in which she usually needs a lot more help. The first time he visits her, she’s crying and he’s dealing with her PMS and he gets to be an outlet for all the emotions she’s feeling. Then, when she’s getting checked into the prison, he shouts about how horrible and unfair it is. Now, he shows up to weep and complain when she won’t allow herself to feel sad or sorry about all the horrible shit going on in her life. Without even knowing, Lito is so important for Sun’s well being.