“it was a different time”
I think the excuse “it was a different time” is such b.s. Basic human rights never go out of style.
So when you and your family are trying to tell yourselves that your great great grandpappy wasn’t a monster remember that if Abraham Lincoln can tell that slavery was wrong so could he, if the northerns can tell that slavery was wrong THEN SO COULD HE. He chose to be a slave owner, remember that.