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You And Your Kids Should Watch "Steven Universe." Here's Why.

By Lindsay Amer

Let me tell you about the best show on television. Its premise is endlessly creative, the art beautifully rendered, the stories superbly queer, and it is primarily made for kids (10+). Steven Universe might be a children’s cartoon on Cartoon Network, but it is oh so much more. If you don’t already watch it, you absolutely should.More importantly, you should watch it with your kid(s).

The show’s creator, Rebecca Sugar, is Cartoon Network’s first female showrunner and an out and proud queer lady! In Steven Universe, Sugar transports us to the quirky queer world of Beach City, populated by futuristic characters known as “gems,” who are genderless, and Steven, who is half-gem, half-human boy. There’s a lot more to it, but gems are essentially aliens with superpowers named for gemstones. The show follows Steven as he navigates his half-gem identity, learns more about the mysterious gem-homeworld, and goes on Earth-saving adventures!

Before the series begins, we learn that Steven’s mother (Rose Quartz, his gem parent) is no longer around so he is raised by three characters known as the Crystal Gems: Garnet, Pearl, and Amethyst. Steven’s parental figures (all voiced by female actors of color!) model an unconventional family structure while providing a solid feminist foundation for the show’s lessons with a strong girl power vibe. While gems are generally described by the show’s creators as “gender-less,” the Crystal Gems themselves are female-identifying and use feminine pronouns. Garnet, a tall, full-hipped stoic gem with future-vision, leads the group. Fellow Crystal Gem, Pearl, is slender, graceful, and feminine, and can also work a sword like nobody’s business. And finally, Amethyst is a short, carefree gem with a rebellious streak and an insatiable appetite. All are so different from each other, but complement and strengthen one another in times of need.

As someone with a complicated family (step-parents, step-siblings, and about five different last names in one household), I have rarely found relatable depictions of my family on television. When I was a kid, we called ourselves the Brady Bunch, but the picture-perfect kids with hair of gold never rang true to me. The happy queer family on Steven Universe, consisting of Steven, the Crystal Gems, and Steven’s awesome rocker/van-living/car-washing dad Greg Universe, can show adults and kids alike that there are many types of families outside of the frequently depicted nuclear structure.

The show’s true brilliance lies in the advent of fusion. Fusion is a gem superpower. When two gems dance together, they fuse to form a new gem, greater than the sum of its parts. Stevonnie is a non-binary fusion of Steven and his (human) best friend Connie. They navigate the world together, in the liminal space between genders, exploring their new identity as the experience of being one Stevonnie, neither half-human/half-gem boy, or human girl, but both. Their adventure as Stevonnie creates a validated space for gender experimentation and creativity in a new and unfamiliar identity.

The queer crowning achievement of the show is Garnet. Garnet is a permanent fusion of Ruby and Sapphire, two female-identifying gems who love each other. In the episode “Jail Break,” we meet Ruby and Sapphire and watch them fuse into Garnet, who sings that Ruby and Sapphire’s relationship is awesome and stable and that they are “gonna stay like this forever.” The moment is radical in its profound normalcy–I mean, apart from them being gems with superpowers. In “The Answer,” Ruby and Sapphire’s love story is a whirling watercolor fairytale of life-saving and fumbling accidental fusion. And in “Hit the Diamond,” their unabashed flirting interrupts a friendly game of baseball. Theirs is a bond to behold. It’s the show’s most present love affair, the central romance of Steven’s universe, and an exemplar of a dynamic, healthy same-sex relationship.

Stevonnie and Garnet are just the queer tip of the iceberg in the world of Steven Universe. The show’s writing is full of language acknowledging the importance of consent, respect for all genders, body positivity, and mental health.

Queer representation in children’s media is so utterly important, it is impossible to exaggerate. It’s monumental when little queer kids can hear and see their identities validated on screen. Queerness is so intrinsic to the fabric of Sugar’s world that it becomes utterly normal to Steven’s–Why can’t it be the same to ours? This normalcy, above anything else, is why you should watch this show with your kids. Lead by example. Engage them in conversation. Ask them questions. Join them in their fandom. Validate their media choices. Show them that what they see in Steven’s world can be true for ours as well. Make Steven Universe a family affair.

We might not be gems with superpowers, but we are humans with hearts, minds, bodies, and words, and we have our own power in this world. We might not fuse, but we can dance, bond, love, hurt, and grow old together, and we fuse in our own ways. If Steven, the Gems, and Greg are all happy living their lives just the way they like, then why can’t our families look different, too? So get watching. You’ll have the theme song stuck in your head by episode three. Plus, episodes are only 10 minutes long. What are you waiting for?

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Heading Back to School? We Are Here to Help!

Back to school season is here! For many, this is an exciting time full of new pencil cases and exciting opportunities for new learning and new friends. For others, though, heading back to school can be anxiety-inducing, especially considering many schools and colleges are not as inclusive of LGBTQIA students as they should be.

So, we put together a list of past advice, articles, and resources available to help you, your child, and their teachers work to make safer learning environments.

On Inclusivity and Support:

When Your Student Comes Out to You by Teresa Kane

Navigating Censorship of LGBTQ Media for Kids by Lindsay Amer

Making Your Classroom More LGBTQ-Inclusive by Sara Kost

On Bullying:

Addressing Bullying in Schools by Sara Kost

Bullying: “How Can I Help?” by Laurin Mayeno

Son Bullied for “Girly” Backpack by Karen Thompson

Covert Bullying by Anna Krieger

On College:

Choosing the Right College by Lisa

10 Things to Look For in an LGBTQ-Friendly College by Sarah Simon

10 Ways to Prepare Your LGBTQ Kid for College by Sarah Simon

Being Out at College by Sarah Simon

Coming Out in College Athletics by Lauren Neidigh

How to Foster Safe, Healthy, and Productive Dialogue in the Classroom by Cheryl Clarke

Be sure to check out these other national resources, too!

Campus Pride: A national network of college students all around the country working to create safer college campuses for the LGBTQ community.

Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network (GLSEN): A national organization that works to make schools safer for LGBT students through policy changes, research, and giving teachers and administrators the resources they need to make their schools more inclusive.

LGBTQ Student Resources & Support: A guide for LGBTQ students to find support and resources when experiencing bullying or discrimination both at the high school and college levels.

LGBTQ Scholarships: A list of scholarships for LGBTQ students at the graduate and PhD level in a variety of subjects, including law, mathematics, business, and social work.

All of us here at My Kid Is Gay hope you have a happy, safe, and inclusive school year!

doux-amer  asked:

GILDEROY LOCKHART

Not Enough Alcohol in the World || No || Maybe if I were wasted (& mistook him for a malfoy) || Maybe || Eh…Sure || Yes || TAKE YOUR CLOTHES OFF NOW!

tbh


doux-amer said: MODOK

DID I NEED THAT MENTAL IMAGE THO thanks a lot || Not Enough Alcohol in the World || No || Maybe if I were wasted || Maybe || Eh…Sure || Yes || TAKE YOUR CLOTHES OFF NOW!


doux-amer said: Okay, jk, I’ll be serious this time. Steve Rogers. Take your pick from any universe if someone asked about him already, or if you don’t want to do that, then maybe, I don’t know, Natasha Romanoff?

im mad at steve in like 3 different universes & the ones where im not mad at him hes either 1. flirting w tony nonstop or 2. literally married to natasha stark

and yet. who am i kidding i absolutely would

Not Enough Alcohol in the World || No || Maybe if I were wasted || Maybe || Eh…Sure || Yes || TAKE YOUR CLOTHES OFF NOW! || YES, immediately, w zero hesitation & no questions asked

Je veux lui dire quelque chose mais les mots n’arrêtent pas de s’évaporer, de disparaître du bout de ma langue avant que j’aie eu le temps de les prononcer. Je sens leur goût, mais je ne saurais dire s’ils sont doux ou amers.
—  Paula Hawkins, La Fille du train. 
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We just don’t give a single fuck 😏 Ne jebemo zivu silu :)

Ô mon petit coeur
Qu'est-c'que j'ai pu faire
Pourquoi ces pleurs
Pourquoi ces mots amers
Je ne me souviens de rien
A part d'un grand noir
Un miroir fracassé
Je perds la mémoire

La nuit était chaude et claire
Je sais j'ai beaucoup trop bu
La lune était pleine
Tu sais que je suis trop sensible
Beaucoup trop sensible, vraiment trop sensible
Je suis Beaucoup trop sensible
A la lune

Ô mon petit coeur
Qu'est-c'que j'ai pu faire
Pour que tu aies si peur
Que tu me souhaites l'enfer
Ma jolie princesse
Je suis un mauvais homme
J'ai honte et je pleure
Mais je ne me rappelle plus rien

La nuit était chaude et claire
J'étais en bonne compagnie
La lune était pleine
Tu sais que je suis trop sensible
Tu trembles d'effroi
Tu crois que je suis fou
Mais non rassure-toi
Je suis juste fou de toi
Où sont les enfants?
Dis-moi tout de suite pourquoi
Les murs du salon
Sont barbouillés de sang

Qu'est-c'que j'ai pu faire comme connerie?
ça y est elle est partie
Et sa mère, elle est où sa mère?
Qu'est-ce que j'ai pu faire avec sa mère?

Ô beautiful moon
I implore you to do not let me be crazy tonight
Ô beautiful moon, ancient godess
I implore you one more time
To do not let me be insane tonight

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POURTANT JE M’ÉLÈVE,
 
Vous pouvez me rabaisser pour l’histoire
Avec vos mensonges amers et tordus,
Vous pouvez me traîner dans la boue
Mais comme la poussière, je m’élève pourtant,

Mon insolence vous met-elle en colère?
Pourquoi vous drapez-vous de tristesse
De me voir marcher comme si j’avais des puits
De pétrole pompant dans ma salle à manger?

Comme de simples lunes et de simples soleils,
Avec la certitude des marées
Comme de simples espoirs jaillissants,
Je m’élève pourtant.

Voulez-vous me voir brisée?
La tête et les yeux baissés?
Les épaules tombantes comme des larmes.
Affaiblie par mes pleurs émouvants.

Es-ce mon dédain qui vous blesse?
Ne prenez-vous pas affreusement mal
De me voir rire comme si j’avais des mines
d’or creusant dans mon potager?

Vous pouvez m’abattre de vos paroles,
Me découper avec vos yeux,
Me tuer de toute votre haine,
Mais comme l’air, je m’élève pourtant.

Ma sensualité vous met-elle en colère?
Cela vous surprend-il vraiment
De me voir danser comme si j’avais des
Diamants, à la jointure de mes cuisses?

Hors des cabanes honteuses de l’histoire
Je m’élève
Surgissant d’un passé enraciné de douleur
Je m’élève
Je suis un océan noir, bondissant et large,
Jaillissant et gonflant je tiens dans la marée.
En laissant derrière moi des nuits de terreur et de peur
Je m’élève
Vers une aube merveilleusement claire
Je m’élève
Emportant les présents que mes ancêtres m’ont donnés,
Je suis le rêve et l’espérance de l’esclave.
Je m’élève
Je m’élève
Je m’élève

- Maya Angelou