stop reposting “self care isn’t drinking tea or taking baths, it’s doing all of your chores and work” shit
how many times do you have to be told by disabled people that it is ableist before you stop?
oh, self care is doing laundry? great. please figure out a way to get my bedridden ass up and down two flights of stairs with laundry baskets and I’ll get right fucking on that.
oh, self care is catching up on three days of work? tell me how to do that when I am so fatigued and cognitively impaired that I cannot form sentences. better yet, tell me how to do that when I’m too sick to have a job in the first place.
oh, self care is “taking a deep breath and sorting through what you need to do?” well, what I need to do is survive. and things that help me survive just don’t make you “Real Self Care For Real Responsible Adults” list.
we all have different coping mechanisms. what you find cliche or meaningless or even patronizing might be an incredibly important resource to somebody else. coping strategies you find helpful may not even be accessible to other people.
and to frame the entire discussion on self care around “self care = being productive and functional in a way described by a capitalist, ableist society” is to send the message that people who aren’t able to adhere to those standards don’t deserve to take care of themselves, don’t deserve to be nice to themselves, and don’t deserve to survive.
Tl;dr- go be a pretentious, ableist prick somewhere else
Funny how maya thinks lucas would be picking riley even if he picked her bc that's "who she's been lately" but he described her as the girl who he met on the subway and the girl who hahurs him and worries about him on texas not the girl she's been lately
You want a relatable TFA character with a mental illness? Finn.
You want a First Order character who gets a redemption arc? Finn.
You want a TFA character who’s an abuse survivor? Finn.
You want a really cool guy to ship Rey with? Finn.
You want a guy who you can woobify? Finn. (And man, he’s already a woobie so you don’t even have to woobify him.)
You want someone who’d be wonderful in fluffy, shippy fanfics? Finn.
You want someone who interacts with Rey and has an interesting dynamic with her? Finn.
You want someone for Rey to inspire to be a better man? Finn. (And you can even argue that she’s already done that to some extent!)
EVERY GODDAMN THING THAT KYLO REN APOLOGISTS WANT IN KYLO REN IS ALREADY IN FINN.
And better yet?
All that stuff I mentioned with Finn is already canon! Explicitly so, no guessing needed!
I’m not forcing you to love Finn. If you have legitimate reasons to dislike him, that’s cool! We all have different tastes; such is life.
But the next time you think of making Ren into this poor abused woobie baby for Rey to ‘fix’, think again…because the man you want is here for your needs. And he’s a hero, too! Granted, villains are nice, but who doesn’t love a good cinnamon roll hero now and then?
if my future kid ends up like me and becomes obsessed with some band or some shit and wants to stay up for a release you better believe I’m gonna be looking back on this right here while I’m right there next to em with snacks and a fuckton of coffee