am i allowed to be social yet

Full-control manifesto

As of now, for 3 days per week I will give Sir full control over me, with the following rules taking place. For the remaining 4 days per week, rules may still generally be followed but their application will be more flexible and relaxed.

On full-control days, Sir will decide:

  1. Whether or not I’m allowed to go out (excluding for family reasons or events)
  2. When and whether I am allowed to use the toilet, with specific rules in case Sir is unavailable at the time of request (yet to be decided)
  3. Whether or not I will wear my chastity cage
  4. When and whether I may shower
  5. What I may wear during the day and also at night (within agreed reason)
  6. When, whether and for what length of time I wear single pairs of socks and underwear
  7. When I may sleep (or, under the same ruling, when I must be awake)
  8. What and when I eat and drink
  9. Who and whether I can/must talk to on social apps such as, but not limited to, Grindr and Kik

Currently, full-control days have been set as Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday of every week. This arrangement including the rules and structure are open to amendments and alterations as Sir sees fit.

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FAT, Femme, & Fearless

The Introduction of the Beautifully Complex

I had the great opportunity to work with a close friend, Paxton Taylor, in this 80’s meets Hollywood Glam fashion shoot, which encompasses two very distinct styles that inspire much of my everyday wardrobe. Within both of those eras, a very thin yet curvaceous body standard was needed to create the signature looks of the time. I’m not thin. I definitely have curves and probably a little more. Being the Jarrid that I am, I make it my mission to break sociocultural beauty standards and allow myself to be influenced by those styles while staying true to myself.

Today I fully embrace FAT! Fabulous and Thick! Fearless and Triumphant! Fashionable and Trendy!

Before all the photo-shoots and the social media coverage, I had a negative connection to the word “Fat” and associated it with being undesirable and the lack of opportunity that exists for me based on the size I am. Boy was I wrong. FAT gives me the strongest feeling of confidence and motivation I’ve ever had. Despite what America’s perception of beauty is, I’m still turning heads and I am given the most extraordinary experiences that I could ever wish for.

As the shoot progressed I became more in tuned with my body, allowing myself to feel confident, beautiful, and sexy in the most femme ways, despite how society may try to shape my gender.

“Due to socially constructed gender roles and a strictly enforced binary, this expression is often discouraged and even shamed. It is important that we question these assumptions and attack coercion that enforces them, if we are to ever truly be free, free to be ourselves, free to live our truth. (Corey Kempster)”

I think being inspired by two, embracing two, but not being limited by two, has opened my mind to the most beautifully complex ideas, living a truth that most won’t understand and being appreciated for it. The More photo-shoots, interviews, and articles I do, the more fearless I become. It becomes less about me and more about the activism and being part of creating visibility for the gender spectrum community. I’m able to use my words, thoughts, and physical body to set a presence, not to join and become part of mainstream society, but to diversify society’s understanding of the beautifully complex.

Be Proud, Be Complicated, Be Beautiful
- Jarrid Jones

(Words of a FAT, Femme, and Fearless Being)

a shooter walked into a LGBT+ nightclub in orlando and opened fire on everyone, killing 50 people and injuring 53 and kept hostages.
This is literally an act of terrorism. it is one of the worst mass shootings in american history but 99% of news sources haven’t even mentioned it, yet when paris happened (I am in no way undermining what happened just using an example) there was round the clock coverage worldwide, #prayforparis was trending on every social network, and most people have no idea this even happened. this is not allowed to happen ever, let alone in 2016. please give your love and support to the victims, their friends and their families. stay safe friends.

Am I allowed to be upset that Obama made his Selma speech into a gay rights speech? Or at least, that’s all I’m seeing it talked about as.

Like, no, the black struggle isn’t over yet. Don’t try to wrap it up and move our attention along to the next minority group.

I’m gay and white, and I know I don’t belong as the focal point of Bloody Sunday. We have our own days.

** due to money problems in the family this is my attempt to help out where i can. i am not in control of my social anxiety enough yet to allow me to enter the working world so this is the only way i can think of to help out where i can.

for the past two months i’ve been privately doing commission to test out if they would be successful and if i could take the pressure of someone paying for my work. seeing how well they went it’s time to make this public

all infomation can be found in the ‘vi’ button on my main page!
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