always things to put on my blog

Just a quick thing, if you shop somewhere that has those customer surveys on the receipts, not only should you take them, but ask your cashier if you can have their name to put on it. I’ve been giving this one convenience store I go to to pick up lunch positive reviews and always naming my cashier and morale in the store is great. Also it makes them feel really good! I asked a new cashier for his name so I could say something good about him and he lit up like a Christmas tree. I know it’s not everyone’s dream to work in a store like that but that doesn’t mean they don’t feel good when stuff like that happens. Be nice and kind to everyone you interact with!

Marco-on-Wheels turns 3 today!

Going by first posts, when the blog was officially opened, the first date for this blog was July 24, 2014.

I’ve been going through a lot of stuff such as health and other muses wanting attention, but I do still love my boys here and just couldn’t miss the blogs 3rd birthday.

I would just like to take a moment to say a few things because I am a mushy mofo.

Thank you so much for putting up with me and my random disappearing acts throughout these three years and will continue to put up with me though hopefully with less of the disappearing acts.

I will now get into the main part of this post.

A:

@ari-rivaille-ackerman we pretty much created our blogs around the same time and while we haven’t done much rping lately, I still love Gi and adore little Ari and they are always welcome around my boys. Ari is Darco’s best friend and probably always will be

@armorofone I think I started talking to you right from the start as well. Probably the saltiest person I know but anytime you’re on my Dash there certainly is never a dull moment. we really need to rp more, I like how your Reiner is with my Marco and Darco

@ask-cheyenne-nascha  

@askdevsider someone I have been following since I first joined tumblr in late 2011. you will always hold a special place in my friendship heart.

B:

@belbeta  @bertl-the-warrior   @blueravencordyr   @bxtrxyed

C:

@cxrcuits  aka @fierce-amber-eyes aka a new blog you are making soon -eye brow waggle.- My internet sibling and bestie that I love almost as much as if we were actual siblings. and who I will always torment with angst and make squee with fluff and have fun with everything else in headcanons and plotting. I love every single relationship we have plotted out be it family, fren-emies, enemies, rivals, adoptive family etc. they’re all realistic and fun, even when heartbreaking. 

D:

 @discordslair   A fantastic person who i also have known since the beginning of my time on tumblr way back in 2011. you will also always have a special place in my friendship heart even if we don’t talk much and haven’t rped in years. you will always have a place on this list.

F:

@freckledbodtsoldier, pretty much a bae for ever because I love her and her portrayals, her Marco and Marku have had a huge impact on my Marco and especially Darco

G:

@godforsakxn

H:

@heiichov I love your Levi, I love how you write him. I love how he interacts with Marco and Darco. I love how he acts like a dad to Darco.

@hiiitoka  @houseofsxnners @horsefaced-demon-from-hell  @humanities-strongest-beta    

I:

@intense-screaming @intuixion    

J:

@jean-kxrstein

K:

@kare-no-hogo @kristaxxlenz 

L:

@lostlegendaerie

M:

@markiplier   @megafreeman @milkymay @mightymousespringer   

R:

@raltheangeloffreedom  @reinumiji  @romupi    

S:

 @salbelni  @sincerely-petra  @sixpenceee  @somecrazylads  @surpass-the-gods      

T:

 @treacherousarlcrt

U:

@unfortunxtesoldier    

X:

@xquus    

Y:

@yougotmyknifebloody    I miss your Kyros terrifying Darco to the point of being unable to even speak without stuttering and crying. I really hope you are doing ok and at some point come back. you will always be on this list either way because I love you too much.

I know I haven’t been on much lately and because of that I hope I didn’t miss anyone out. I love everyone here and want to love all over your faces.

Thank you all for being as wonderful as you are and I will enjoy to continue writing and following you beautiful lot. <3

feelbending  asked:

Thomas I hope you're okay with all the current drama, I personally believe that you did nothing wrong at all. You're always making sure you're inclusive and doing the right thing, sorry your fandom's exploded :(

Hey!! Yeah, I’m doing fine!! Please don’t worry, these sorts of things happen sometimes and it gets very hard to address and handle all at once! I have made mistakes though, so please don’t feel like you have to defend all that I do, that’s not your responsibility, and I’ve been doing what I can to make sure things were addressed!

There was a piece of art of myself that was posted a while back that I put under a Read More and tagged nsfw because it was, and it was revealed later, after the artists’ bio was updated, that they were not of appropriate age, and that was a complete mistake on my part to make sure! I’ve always made a point to clarify, if people asked me, that if they were to do any nsfw art of me and submit it, that they should be of appropriate age to be doing so. My tumblr started as a personal blog and I thought tagging things appropriately would be enough, but this occurrence absolutely made me rethink how my blog was laid out and how much more consideration I needed to be putting into my blog and who was viewing it, so I made a public apology for it yesterday (in the #TSask) and decided to restructure my blog in order to make sure this never happens again. Posts I deemed too questionable, I have removed and if they ever go up again, they would be going up on a sideblog of some kind. I absolutely appreciate those who brought this up to me. I should have been the one to catch it, and I need to be far more vigilant about what I post from here on out!

There was also the post I responded to about why I felt it right to include asexuals and aromantics of any combination in the community. I’ve been having many really awesome and respectful conversations with people on both sides of this argument and its been really good, for me and I think for a lot of them, to gain understanding on where we’re both coming from. I am so grateful to those who came to me and got to discuss with me incredibly important things to remember and respect: the early struggles of the trans and gay community, the Stonewall Riots, the travesties and systemic oppression that still happen around the world today that need to be fought. We also got to discuss issues like arranged marriages that affect people on all areas of the spectrum. We talked about different demographics of the community and where they would like to stand or not stand. And the importance of limited resources made available to people of the community were discussed with me as well. I’ve been so absolutely grateful to those of you who came to me and are still coming to me to talk through these things, because I don’t claim to know everything, and many of the discussions were ended wonderfully respectfully. In the end, obviously, I have no, or maybe just really little, say in what defines the community. In what I say, I am absolutely making no attempt to prioritize people over another, because there are some extreme things that need to be fought. I can only be in control of myself and who I deem to be valid and who I would like to offer my support. I truly am trying to put myself in everyone’s shoes and see where they’re coming from. And I am so grateful so many of you came to me so respectfully to talk! That’s amazing! That, I think, is the most optimal form of discussion for people on both sides. I don’t like seeing anyone on either side attacking each other, and it’s so devastating to see so much of it. 

I truly hope this helps bring clarity for those of you who were confused or looking for an update! The internet can be a confusing place and the truth can be mangled, but I am doing everything I can to make sure I amend for any bad decisions and hear you all out as best as I can. I’m only human, and I truly do care about you and where you’re all coming from, so I hope you can all bear with me! 

So my really close friend [Risa] has an amazing DBZ oc named Batata (pictured on the left) who’s an elite saiyan, and after seeing some art of her, I couldn’t help but bring back a really old DBZ OC I had in the form of a Majin named Lux. Really it was just for the sole purpose of teaming them up together as a dysfunctional duo that’s ripe for all sorts of shenanigans that I will probably never draw. But at the same time it was fun to do an update to a super old fandom OC I had from years and years ago.

They’re both world-destroying level entities but one is short, angry, and weak to food, and the other is tall, goofy, and gives off distinct “your friend’s one hot aunt” vibes.

While they kinda already posted it on their blog, I guess I’ll just put it up here too on mine ahahaha. GO GIVE THEM A FOLLOW IF YOU DON’T ALREADY.

Hawkeye (2012) #11

hydrosolhoe  asked:

What are some of your strict budget tips?

  •  The 50/30/20 rule is a good place to start if you don’t know much about budgeting; that is, 50% of your earnings is necessities, 30% is your wants and 20% is debt reduction and savings. 
  • Use money-managing apps such as Pocketbook
  • Sell things you don’t use or need.
  • Go through your closet and pick out what you don’t wear and possibly sell it or donate it.
  • Buying things secondhand is a good option; things lose their price value as soon as it has left the store.
  • Less is more.
  • Make a wish list of things you want. But leave it there for a while and come back to it within a few weeks. When you come back to it, decide if you still really want/need that item when you first wrote it. 
  • Meal prep. It saves you a lot of money.
  • Go to fresh food markets to buy groceries.
  • When you cook food, always cook a bit more so you have left overs for the next few days.
  • Cut up and freeze your vegetables to prevent them going off and wasting money.
  • Follow and listen to podcasts. Many of the minimalist ones will often discuss money-related issues. 
  • Trouble saving money? Try the 52-week money challenge; start from putting away $1 and each week it goes up one dollar until you reach $52. By the end of the year, you will have saved $1,378.
  • Read blogs, too! One of my favourite and helpful articles on money saving tips is this one called Pearls of money wisdom for twenty-something year olds.
  • Make debt repayments a priority but it’s always good to have savings in case of any accidents and as a back up, e.g. your car breaks down, you need to fly across country for an emergency etc. 
  • Remember what you’re saving for.
  • Avoid credit cards.
  • Carry and pay things with cash. You’re less likely to spend money if it’s bigger notes and you’re physically seeing how much money you’re spending.
A goodbye letter to my friends and followers.


Dear Everyone,

I am sad to say that I am resigning from the blog FatedFujoshis. As of today, the blog will no longer do scanlations and will be under new management. They will continue to pursue blcd videos since the girls want to continue/finish their projects. As for me, I am withdrawing from anything that has to do with the blog, meaning scans, videos, and overseeing the blog in action! I wanted to say a few thank you’s before I leave for good.

@sentimientoyaoi (Nikah), thank you for all your help. I don’t think we could have been able to put out great work like Katsura Komachi scans or others if it weren’t for them. They also introduced me to many players in the scanlation business, which open many doors for many things blog-related or friendship/contact wise. Yoru, I will miss your colored pages you did for us, you have amazing talent, always keep it up. (Nikah we’ll keep in touch :P)

@nijiniji-nikubou-scans, lol Nina, you are my lifesaver on so many levels lol. I think she oversaw all our projects, even including some blcd videos recently. Anytime I would hit rock bottom, you were there to help me getting the process done the way I wanted it. And thank you for letting me borrow your staff… I don’t think I abused you too much, Ash ;) ( But I won’t say goodbye to you guys, because we will remain friends on Facebook :P)

To @crappy-bl-scanlations Nagareboshi, my moon lighter translator, who will keep on helping my girls, I think I annoyed you soooo many times with Japanese proofing everything so we could put our best work forward. Thank you so much for putting up with my annoying million texts a day. Even though you made me redo a video 5 times and get mad, I knew it was for the best for the blog even if I was being snarky from being so analllll lol

To all the others, like @justpeachyicedtea The Anon, @fluffwords, @lustfulcat cat, Dhyzre, Fantaisy, (if I missed anyone else please don’t hate me ;P )  thank you for involving yourself with our group when we needed help on missing staff positions. I am overwhelmed with how everyone was ready to be hands on and help out with projects. Truly the yaoi community is very generous. So please don’t be hasty/nasty when projects are slow. All these groups take great pride in releasing awesome projects.

To my staff, thank you for helping grow the blog’s content, if it wasn’t for you guys, I don’t think we would’ve had so much content to share. Starting this blog with you guys was a lot of fun, I won’t miss the mentoring at lolol. Keep helping each other and keep going, the Yaoi community needs to hear more perverted moans lol! It was a pleasure to work with you all.

And as for the followers to, don’t be sad, more videos will be on there way, just without my editing! Love you all thank you for following me and the blog, it was a fun ride. -Katsumi xox

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Hi!! 💕💞, is me hyeris gf (hdjdhf) ibeth, ok first the ‘edit’ is so ugly im sorry😩:/, anyways i been wanting to do this since i was at 600 followers but I didn’t have time and im really lazy too 😔 but now im at 1k :’) ✨💘👌, wow thank u so much for following my mess of a blog 😩, i love each of u a lot!!!! and im always saying these things but i do really think that all of u are so so kind and sweet, and the way you all are with me is so nice and it makes me feel really comfortable:’) im getting corny im sorryjsjdhf ok now….

💐 <- these are for u !!! no really it means that i love u so much, or you’re one of my fave blogs or u just made me smile at last once and then guess what??? i love u even if we only talked once jdjdjdjd (also if we are friends or anything and I didn’t put next to yours, im sorry I get confused with the urls but i love u a lot !!! 💕💐💐💐💐

Also i didn’t put my new mutuals bc im really shy and i feel like maybe it was too soon???? but pls i hope that u know that i already love u and your blog !!!💗💞💕

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anonymous asked:

Hello! Yay new blog! I'd love to request the RFA + Saeran getting jealous over MC's best friend, who is male. Also would you mind saying what kind of requests you are most comfortable with?

Of course, love! I’m definitely comfortable with both SFW and NSFW. And I’ve done both secret ends, so I can answer for pretty much any character. Really the only things on my “NO” list are choi//ces//t and yoo///ran. I also haven’t done any bad endings except for Jumin’s first one, but in about a week or so I’ll start working my way through all the bad ends. And I’ll put this info up on the actual blog, thanks for reminding me!

Now, onto your ask  ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°):

ZEN:

  • You’re always talking about your best friend, and every week or so the two of you go out for lunch or coffee
  • Zen doesn’t think much of it, and it’s not until he decides to surprise you while you’re out that he realizes
  • that your best friend is a GUY
  • “MC, who is that?”
  • “Oh this is Sam, my friend I told you about.”
  • He pulls you aside
  • “MC, men are wolves.”
  • “Zenny, are you jealous??”
  • He leaves you two alone for the rest of the afternoon
  • but after that
  • he decides it’s time for a talk
  • man to man
  • he knows you would never cheat on him but
  • just in case 
  • he makes sure he asserts his dominance sets things straight

JAEHEE:

  • She’s met your friend, he’s a regular at the cafe
  • He’s nice enough, and she can see why the two of you are so close
  • But she has to admit, she feels a slight twinge of pain when you stop to talk to him
  • He knows you so well, so personally, and a deep part of her is afraid that she’ll never have that with you
  • She confronts you about it eventually
  • “MC, did you ever… have a relationship with him?”
  • You can hear the unasked question of “Do you love him” and you’re quick to reassure her
  • “Jaehee, you know I love you. And we’ll have that connection, it’ll just take time.”
  • Jaehee feels better after your talk and makes sure your friend gets top-notch service
  • besides, he tips really well

YOOSUNG:

  • He’s met your friend as well but he has a slightly different problem
  • He feels inadequate in comparison
  • Your friend is tall, muscular, and already started his career
  • And Yoosung is none of those
  • He quits playing LOLOL for a while, much to your shock
  • He asks Zen for exercise tips, which shocks you even more
  • You finally ask him what’s up, and after a lot of dodging you finally worm it out of him
  • “MC, I’m just not cool enough for you!”
  • “Yoosung, I’m friends with him, but I’m in love with you.”
  • THAT gets his confidence back, and he’s more determined than ever to impress you with his LOLOL skills

JUMIN:

  • He meets your friend for the first time at a business pipeline
  • You’re elsewhere at the event but he recognizes Jumin from your SNS profile
  • “You’re MC’s husband?”
  • He doesn’t think anything of it at first, and greets him with a polite smile and a handshake
  • “I am. You’re acquainted with MC?”
  • “We were best friends in college. She never mentioned me?”
  • You noticed the two of them at that point, and rushed over to greet your friend
  • “Peter, is that you? I haven’t seen you in forever!”
  • You go in for the hug, and Jumin suddenly grows tense when it lasts just a moment too long.
  • You carry on the conversation, but can’t help noticing how Jumin keeps you closer than usual
  • we all know he’s possessive af and he’s making sure you know you’re his the moment yall get home

707:

  • He lowkey doesn’t know what friends are
  • He’s never really had any outside of RFA and vanderwood, although they don’t think likewise
  • So when he sees you and your best friend being friendly and close, the jealousy settles like a hard pit in his stomach
  • “MC, do you… have feelings for him?”
  • You laugh and have to explain that platonic relationships can be just as close as romantic ones
  • He listens but his paranoid ass hacks your phone convos anyway
  • what are you wearing, jake from state farm

SAERAN:

  • He’s similar to Seven except he’s literally never had friends
  • So he’s definitely hurt and jealous that there’s someone who knows you better than he does
  • He doesn’t know how to express it beyond begging you to stop meeting up with him
  • You have a sneaking suspicion of why he would ask that of you but you give him his space until he’s ready to talk
  • When he finally does, he’s not sure where to start
  • You help him out
  • “Saeran, I promise you that he’s just a friend.”
  • You offer to take him with you when you go to meet him
  • He behaves himself and even ends up making *gasp* a friend

hope these were okay! first time doing headcanons like this!

anonymous asked:

Do you have a compilation of issues with Catholicism? I searched some tags on your blog and couldn't find much. I feel as if the Catholic church puts a bit too much emphasis on man and not enough on God, but I'd like to have some solid arguments instead of just a feeling. Thanks!

Here (finally) is a masterpost for all the asks I’ve received about this topic! I’m about to unintentionally ruffle quite a lot of feathers here, with having quite a significant amount of presumably catholic followers. Therefore, as always is my goal, there will be LOTS of scripture references to back things up, and everything I link to I do so because it also is saturated with additional scripture. Always, ALWAYS going back to what the Bible says.

I would absolutely agree that the Catholic religion puts a dangerous, even dire, amount of focus on the efforts of man, and we will see that as we dive into their claims vs. the scriptures. The false teachings of Catholicism will be in bold.

Grace plus works doctrine – Paul plainly addresses this problem in Galatians. The people were adopting what Paul calls “another gospel” which was grace plus works. This is what Paul says, “Are you so foolish? Having begun in the Spirit, are you now being made perfect by the flesh?” (Galatians 3:3) Let’s look at that verse again, Paul is saying it is foolish to think that having been begun being justified by God’s grace that your human works will complete that. He says that is foolishness! Our good works are not what save us. It is God who saves us. From the moment we believe we are completely justified because of what Jesus did in dying on the cross. That chapter goes on to use Abraham as an example, and I would absolutely advocate reading Galatians, especially chapter 3. Ephesians 2:8-10 says, “For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.” God created us to do good works, however, the Bible is clear that good works are not what save us. Otherwise we could parade our own goodness, we could say “Look at all they good I’ve done, I’m definitely getting into Heaven.” That’s not how it works. Salvation is because of everything GOD has done for us. The Bible consistently teaches that “Salvation is determined by faith alone, and demonstrated by faithfulness to obey God’s will alone” (John MacArthur).

You can lose your salvation – Romans 8:38-39 says, “For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Once we are Christ’s, that is it. We are secure. Jesus died for past, present, and future sins. The sins of those who believed before Jesus came, the sins of those who believed while Jesus was on earth, and the sins of those who would live after His resurrection. Jesus conquered sin, every sin believers ever have committed or ever will, and by believing in Him we are no longer slaves to sin or the punishment of it. If there is nothing you can do to earn your salvation, there is nothing you can do to lose your salvation. Were salvation able to be withdrawn, we would have no peace, we would spend our lives in fear that we had not done enough. The Bible has already said that no one is good enough, but God’s grace is sufficient and it is everlasting. Romans 11:29, “For the gifts and the calling of God are irrevocable.”

Baptism is necessary for salvation – Again, works based theology that does not line up with scripture and that is what salvation by baptism is. When the proper context is applied to the passages that appear to mention physical baptism alongside salvation, we see that the “salvation by grace through faith” doctrine stands. Because this is such a weighty topic, I’m going to link to an article that is rich with scriptural references. [x]

Confession – Confession is a part of repentance, but confession to man is not required for salvation. John 1:9 says, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” God is the one who forgives us and the only one who is able to cleanse us. Our fellow Christians are called to hold us accountable, but the forgiveness of sins as it pertains to eternal life is something only God can absolve.

We are born sinless – The Bible says that we are sinners by nature. Ephesians 2:3 says, “Among whom also we all once conducted ourselves in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, just as the others.”

Mary was sinless – Where does the Bible say Mary was sinless? The Bible says, in Romans 3:23, “For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.” The Catholics claim there are exceptions to this verse, that this is just a generalization, but where does the Bible say that? There is nothing to support that view. There is never an exemption that says “this person didn’t need salvation.” The Bible says that we are all depraved sinners, slaves to the law, and in need of salvation.

Praying to Mary and the saints – The simplest answer I have for this is there is absolutely nothing in the Bible to suggest it is permissible to pray to anyone but God. Mary is a created, sinful being, a human, just like us, just like every saint. There is no power Mary or the saints possess except that which is given to them by God. Neither does the Bible make allowance for praying to angels. Praying to Mary and the saints takes the focus off of God and elevates the creation to a place of reverence reserved for the Creator. “Who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.” (Romans 1:25) The veneration of Mary and the saints is idolatry. More about that can be found here [x]

Purgatory – The Bible is clear that there are only two options for the afterlife. Matthew 25:46, “And these will go away into everlasting punishment, but the righteous into eternal life.” There is no middle ground, no point after death which you can choose Heaven over Hell. Additionally, the idea of sacraments is baseless. You cannot pay off your sin. Not to mention prayers for the dead are useless, as Luke 16 tells us that each person bears the consequences of their decision and one’s eternal destination cannot be altered by others.

The authority of the Pope – “I marvel that you are turning away so soon from Him who called you in the grace of Christ, to a different gospel, which is not another; but there are some who trouble you and want to pervert the gospel of Christ. But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be accursed. As we have said before, so now I say again, if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than what you have received, let him be accursed.” (Galatians 1:6-9) As mentioned before, the different gospel mentioned is specifically a grace plus works doctrine. The Bible is very clear that anyone who touts a message that is contrary to the Bible is not of God. The Pope holds no doctrinal authority over anyone. God’s word, the Bible, is given to everyone the same, and all Christians have the Holy Spirit dwelling inside of them specifically to help, guide, and discern. God’s Word stands, and anyone who preaches contrary to that is preaching a lie, a false doctrine, the road to Hell.

Other “scriptures” – The Catholic church has implemented additional books in their teaching, adding to the Bible what does not belong. They have taken the perfect word of God and added books that contradict and/or detract from the truth of the Bible. The books of the Bible were not something that was chosen lightly, nor was any random text considered scripture. That which is part of the Bible MUST be scripture inspired directly by God Himself. There were guidelines and certain qualifications that had to be met for books to be part of the Bible, and that resulted in 66 books – no more, no less. Psalm 12:6-7 says, “The words of the Lord are pure words, like silver tried in a furnace of earth, purified seven times. You shall keep them, O Lord, You shall preserve them from this generation forever.” Additional information on the inspiration/preservation of scripture can be found here [x][x]


From comparing the Bible with the core Catholic doctrine, it is evident that Catholicism is a false religion, the rejection of God’s Word, and the rejection of God’s Word condemns you to Hell. I meekly, humbly, honestly, implore my catholic friends to read the Bible, search for the answers in the scriptures. Don’t take my word on this, it doesn’t matter at all what I say. God’s Word is Truth.

I HAVE A NEW DADDY! ❤

I know it seems quick, however, my last relationship was only for a month and I had a good two weeks of healing. In the end basically thinking “F**k you @$$hole!”

My Daddy and I were internet friends before we became an item. He was so supportive, comforting and loving after the ending of my last relationship. I don’t know where I would be without him being my rock in it all.

He makes me so happy and I hope he stays longer than the last @$$hole did. I couldn’t believe it when I found out he liked me as well! We are the tale that opposites attracts and I love it! ❤

He was totally cool about taking things slower and we offically became an item on the 6th of July 2017. I am soooooooooo happy! He always knows how to cheer me up and put a smile on my dial.

anonymous asked:

I loved your post about antishipping being the cool new trend for young/college age teens! Pretty much nailed my own opinion of it (and then I blew through your whole blog in like two hours lol I love how you discuss things! You're always so calm and polite which is something I appreciate a lot!). I'd value your input on how we might be able to put a stop to a lot of anti behavior if you have any c:

I’m very glad you’ve enjoyed my blog!

Unfortunately, there’s no way to stop anti behavior. The joke is: we’re allowed to ship and they’re allowed to hate ships; we’re allowed to write dark fanfiction and they’re allowed to loathe it. Until somebody is doing something illegal we can’t actually stop them.

However, we can limit anti influence on fandom spaces. And I don’t think it’s easy, or I wouldn’t have a blog like this.

The primary public goal of anti-shippers and anti-darkfic communities are to obliterate ‘bad’ ships and dark content in fandom spaces.  All public action taken with the intent of having their views communicated to shippers/creators of dark content are aimed to either drive them out of fandom or make them see the light of their evil ways. Their social power mainly comes from generating negative emotions in fandom, and I think there are 3 primary forces:

  • Fear: anti-shippers have proven that they are willing to go to great lengths to force fandom members to bend to their standards, including tag invasion, public shaming, dogpiling, callouts (true or false or a combination thereof), misgendering/erasing orientations, general and targeted online harassment including suicide baiting and wishing for physical harm, verbal harassment, verbal intimidation, reporting falsified TOS violations, and in extreme cases doxxing, false reports to authorities, destruction of property, threats of violence, and actual assault. Understandably this makes potential targets want to avoid notice so that they’re not ‘next’, reducing creative output.
  • Anger: nothing gets people talking about you like anger. People like to complain, and that spreads reports of anti-shipping attacks further (which spreads fear). Shippers increasingly dwell on their anger and frustration over antishippers, taking focus away from creating fanworks.
  • Exhaustion: being afraid and angry all the time will take a lot out of a person.  Self-doubt makes it even worse. Antis keep the pressure on with a constant stream of negativity and double down by questioning the motives, moral integrity, and social awareness of bad shippers and dark content creators.  Exhaustion cuts creative output just as effectively, if not more so, than fear and anger. People will create out of spite with the first two emotions, but exhaustion makes people want to leave and find something less tiring to enjoy.

So I think the best way to cut the power and influence that antis have is by shutting them and their rhetoric out of fandom spaces.  this looks like:

Block antis. Block all antis. block virulent negativity. Block even antis that hate the same ships you hate. Keep yourself away from the nastiness and also protect yourself from their notice (if you block them they can’t see or reblog your posts as easily).

Avoid black and white ‘discourse’. Don’t dwell on social debates about purity and the moral implications of your ships or fictional content. Be selective about the meta you indulge. Remember that nuance exists. Don’t publicly argue with people who refuse to see nuance, spreading their nonsense further.

Don’t fight fire with fire. Don’t borrow anti arguments to prove what hypocrites they are or use anti logic to explain why ships are bad (e.g. ‘antis say that x/y is bad b/c x is older than y and they call that pedophilia.  but antis ship y/z, even though they fight all the time; that’s abuse!’)

Ignore hate messages. If people send you hate for your ships or creations, ignore and delete them. it makes you a boring target if you don’t react and cuts the hate significantly. (This won’t work unless the main goal is getting a rise out of you. In the case of a targeted hate campaign, the goal is usually pleasing the instigator of the hate campaign, and reacting or not reacting won’t make a difference. :( )

Surround yourself with creative content and positivity. Curate your dash and social media circles to be mostly, if not entirely, fandom positivity focused and about creating new content instead of complaining about bad content or bad fandom behavior.

Spread positivity. If you have the energy, try to share the things that make you happy. Recommend fanfics, comment on fanart, talk about your favorite headcanons.

If you’re like me and you can’t entirely ignore shitty things that happen in fandom, create a separate space away from your main fandom space to indulge your salt. that way you can walk away and take breaks. (I tend to find salt begets more salt.)

last thing may not work for everyone: be kind and/or civil when interacting with antis. There’s of course no obligation to be nice to people who antagonize you, but I find that in general being kind in response to people being jerks gives them room to relax, stop being defensive, and talk openly. Most individual antis aren’t that different from shippers; they just have different ideas of what a safe, comfortable fandom space looks like. (And if they refuse to stop being a jerk, ignore/block them.)

that’s my two cents, which, as usual, looks more like 2 dollars. I hope it’s helpful.

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some excerpts from a poem in my upcoming book Have Some Pride 🌈 “49 things to know about the 49” 🖤 i’ve posted this poem on my blog before but have since edited it/improved it for my book.

a year ago today, 49 beautiful brown queer babies lost their lives. not a day goes by where i don’t feel such unexplainable sorrow and anger about this massacre, which is why i wrote this poem. it was so hard to put my thoughts and feelings about this day into words but i knew it had to be done, for them. they lost their voices but i promise to always scream for them.

what?????a follow forever??? where the heck is this coming from?? short answer: my drafts

long answer: i follow a lot of people i want to say ‘thank you’ to, and since i can’t do much in the way of gifts, i figured this was the next best thing. so yeah! here are my fave blogs!

a-e

allthingsgrilledcheese ☆ banana-simsbratsims ☆ blarffyblogsimplesimmer ☆ bonehldabrntwaffles ☆ bustedpixelscabsim ☆ catplntcat-nerd-simsciruelabobcitrontart cupidjuiceearly-grapeddeathflower

f-j

femmesim ☆ flowerchamberglitchysimsgrimcookies ☆ holosprite ☆javabeandreamsjenbajools-simmingjohnnyzest

k-o

keeksim ☆ kismet-simsshook-sims ☆ koffeecake ☆ laenyrie ☆ loraxsims ☆ lumialoversims ☆ madmono ☆ meisiu ☆ mysimblruniverse ☆neopixiesims nolan-simsoatspice ☆ obisimsour-dazed-sims 

p-u

peacemaker-icpeonypyxelspurple-splashpxelfaceratboysims ☆ riicesandy-sims ☆ shysimblr ☆ smubuh soft-almondsomething-wicked-sims ☆  strawberrymark stephanine-sims ☆ synthsims teanmoon ☆ thosefuckingsims 

v-z

qvoix ☆ vodkasimsxldsims ☆ wanderlust-sims wildlyminiaturesandwichwitch-hammerswyattssimszauglom 

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No, the blog isn’t dead!

This is a long-time coming buuutttt I guess I should finally say something. So first off- no, the blog isn’t dead forever! I’ve just been taking a very long, very unplanned hiatus due to personal reasons that I’ll touch on a bit.

Putting it under a readmore because it’s a lot but TLDR version:

EQP is not dead! It’s just on impromptu hiatus until I figure some real life things out.

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people can say whatever they want about larries but in the end of the day it wont change how much they deeply adore louis and harry and you can see it from even the simplest things like the tags they put when they reblog from us and i creep and read them like yeah ive seen some cute ones for louis and harry separately (ive been running this blog for almost 3 years now ive read them all lol) but for some reason reading the tags people post for louis and harry are so damn cute and so so so pure i just i literally want to hug every single one of you lol its always in this like adoring almost motherly tone when i read the tags like very proud like, “yes these two grown men are my babies, they are in love hello yes look at them ima reblog them for you guys can see my beautiful babies” anyways this is really random but idk i was reading some tags and i just i love you guys, im so glad louis and harry have such a amazing, loving, support system nomatter what people may say or think or whatever may be going on around them currently it will never change the fact that you guys love them so damn much and all you want is for them to be happy and feel loved and since you cant tell them you have these blogs, tags, etc. showing everyone else how much you love them and thats beautiful.

Recently I hit 1000 followers and that’s truly amazing. I never thought that I would ever reach this number, let alone 100 followers. The number alone is great, but the best part about all this is that there are people who are actually enjoying the writing that I put on this website. I started this blog in October of 2016, and at that time, I only did it because I’ve always wanted to write my own works. I tried writing on wattpad before, but only now have I found more interest in it. 

To my mutuals: I’m sorry if I don’t talk to you that much. I really do appreciate every single one of you. You inspire me every day to keep writing and whenever I see you guys succeed, I feel happy. A lot of bad things have happened this year, but I will always be here for you. We are a community, a family, and I hope it continues to be that way. 

To my followers: I really do appreciate every single one of you. I know I’ve been really inactive recently, but I’m going to try to change that. I’ve had a tough year thus far, but I’m grateful that you guys still stuck with me. I do read all the comments you post on my fics and I really do wish that more of you would come talk to me so I can get to know you better. Please don’t be afraid to send in a message whether it’s a simple “hi” or if you need someone to talk to. I’m here for you ♡♡ 

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I don’t follow many people, but here they are: 

💕- mutuals 

@art–min@babykooks@bangtan@bangtaninspired | @baxngtan 💕 | @berrykookie 💕 | @boymeetsfiction | @breakingdownphysics | @btskimtaehyung@btssmutgalore | @bts-lab | @bts-trans | @bt-yes-network 💕| @byul-baram 💕 | @bwiyomi | @ceiste | @celestialjoon | @chimchams | @crying-whales 💕 | @day6nerds | @dailydoseofdia@day6network | @dearseok@floralseokjin 💕 | @flowerbov | @fuckyeah-kard | @fyeahkard | @fykangdaniel | @fykimtaehyung@godsavemefrombts 💕 | @gujoonim | @hellosarang | @hobibliophile | @hobuing | @hoseoks-kitten  💕 |  @hraeths | @ice-tae 💕 | @idekwhatsgoingonanymore 💕 | @iminterstellar 💕 | @into-the-new-w0rld 💕 | @jeylovestoblog 💕 | @jiminslolli 💕 | @jinswings | @jiwooi | @jjkfire |  @jmins | @justakpopfan4 💕 | @kainks 💕 | @kangnuest | @kmlyrics |  @kookiemonstershope 💕 | @kookie-bby 💕 | @letmesuga | @luciditae 💕 | @mangaetteok | @miisstok@minsbugi | @mirai-miri 💕 | @mochimim 💕 | @namhobs 💕 | @naplikeyoongi@nochutae 💕 |  @noir0neko | @ohnananotmyjiwoo@ohsuga | @pasteljeonggukk | @peachesjoon@pinkforyoongi | @playboyjungkook 💕 | @plumsoda | @scholarrs 💕 | @sugamonstae 💕 | @summertae 💕 | @sweaterpawsjimin | @taechubs | @taecup 💕 | @taeguk | @thedrawingscometolife 💕 | @tiny-taepot | @writtenyoongi 💕 | @xcookiemilkx 💕 | @yoaveragepotaetoe 💕 | @yoongsigh

I really hope I didn’t miss anyone and once again, thank you so much! I would also like to add a special mentions section for the people who I don’t follow, but have consistently given me so much love and support. 

To @elemenoose @im-that-chesire-jax @neouz @blackandwhiteloner, you guys always give me so much support and I’m so grateful for that. Also to my other followers who give me a lot of support, I thank you guys as well. Every like or reblog means a lot and I really do cherish those things :) 

THANK YOU EVERYONE :)  

i’m a little late posting this since i hit 1k about a week ago, but i still wanna take a moment to love all of the people who make my dash amazing. this is also a thank you to all of my followers who maybe i don’t follow - i see you and you all make me so happy! i follow 500+ blogs, so i’m gonna just tag mutuals (some may be tagged twice) but i still love and appreciate every single person i follow and who follows me! <3

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jack things to appreciate
  • his bright green, poofy, sometimes curly, gravity defying hair
  • his adorable smile
  • his baby blue eyes
  • his HAPPY CLAP !!!
  • HIPS
  • +1 biceps
  • those black ripped skinny jeans ;)))
  • how high pitched his voice gets
  • and when he puts on a low voice for an outro
  • he apparently can purr??!
  • loves puns
  • buys kids toys just for fun or to use in a video
  • points out little details in games
  • can sing pretty dang well
  • supports his friends no matter what
  • an absolute sweetheart
  • always tries to stay in touch with us
  • decicated with what he does
  • loud but in the best way possible
  • he’s so humble and caring <3
  • just… HIM.

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