What “chivalry” should be: “I want to do this good thing for someone else because altruism is awesome.”

What “chivalry” should not be: “I’m gonna do this ‘nice thing’ for a woman because she is a woman, but if she doesn’t respond in a manner which I deem appropriate I’m gonna call her an ‘ungrateful b****’ because I’m a petulant child who doesn’t understand historical gender dynamics.”

I think an important philosophical point that we all have to consider, is that altruism as a concept is pretty rubbish. Altruism is the idea that you should do things that help other people and not feel good about it. Like you should just do it “because”, and like you should just do it “because” but the idea that you shouldn’t feel good about being nice is rubbish and you know, it’s one of things that puts too much pressure on people’s metal health. If you do nice things for your friends, if you do nice things for your family, if you’re a friendly person out and about in the public, if you do something to help out charities, then you should feel happy and proud of that. ‘Cause people generally in society, we are way to harsh on ourselves, people are really hostile to each other, people are always trying to bring each other down and find anything to be whatever. So if you, even if it’s holding a door open for somebody, you should just take a moment to think “and you know what? I like that I was nice to another person.” So don’t let anybody say “don’t feel good about that bake sale that you did for whatever reason”.

@danielhowell​ during his live show on the 6th of June 2017

Quotes from Dan (54/?)

Sometimes Dan manages to voice the thoughts inside of my head much more eloquently that I’d be able to do if speaking out loud.


I want to know what everyone does for a living and how you incorporate your magic into that.
I’ll go first.
I work as a caregiver for the elderly.
I use my magic for health and sleep work in secret. For example, I draw a sleep sigil on one couple’s suede-type blanket every day i make their bed because they mentioned they haven’t been sleeping well lately.

I want to meet a beautician who brushes beauty spells into clients hair!

I want to meet a construction worker who enchants the foundation of a new house!

Lets see some good people!

“Psychology has falsified love as surrender and altruism, while it is an appropriation or a bestowal following from a super-abundance of personality. Only the most complete persons can love. The depersonalized and objective are the worst lovers. This also applies to love of God or the fatherland. One must be rooted in oneself.”

—F. Nietzsche, The Will to Power, §296 (edited excerpt).

I believe Jehovah Jireh
I believe there’s heaven, I believe in war
I believe a woman’s temple
Gives her the right to choose but baby don’t abort
I believe that marriage isn’t
Between a man and woman but between love and love
And I believe you when you say that you’ve lost all faith
But you must believe in something
You gotta believe in something

I still believe in man
A wise one asked me why
Cause I just don’t believe we’re wicked
I know that we sin but I do believe we try
We all try

I don’t believe in time travel
I don’t believe our nation’s flag is on the moon
I don’t believe our lives are simple
And I don’t believe they’re short, this is interlude
I don’t believe my hands are cleanly
Can’t believe that you would let me touch your heart
She didn’t believe me when I said that I lost my faith
You must believe in something
You gotta believe in something

—  Frank Ocean, We All Try
By breaking down our sense of self-importance, all we lose is a parasite that has long infected our minds. What we gain in return is freedom, openness of mind, spontaneity, simplicity and altruism: all qualities inherent in happiness.
—  Matthieu Ricard
Universal Altruism

‘Whether people are beautiful and friendly or unattractive and disruptive, ultimately they are human beings, just like oneself. Like oneself, they want happiness and do not want suffering. Furthermore, their right to overcome suffering and be happy is equal to one’s own. Now, when you recognize that all beings are equal in both their desire for happiness and their right to obtain it, you automatically feel empathy and closeness for them. Through accustoming your mind to this sense of universal altruism, you develop a feeling of responsibility for others: the wish to help them actively overcome their problems. Nor is this wish selective; it applies equally to all.’

- Dalai Lama, Compassion and the Individual.

Altruism doesn’t exist. Philanthropists do not help others out of charity, the feeling of gratitude is reversed thus making them feel better about themselves. We are friends with people who we like to be around with and those who support us. Good parents nurture their children well because they are their source of happiness. Lovers do not just stay together out of pure love for each other. It is a ‘give-and-take’ relationship, isn’t it? It’s sad to think that at the end of the day, we all just want something from one another.

They Way of Love

Some say love is but a game for losers
praised by poets and practiced by fools
a temporary insanity afflicting the heart 
her cardio conflagration inevitably cools 

While many worship at her sacred altar
through kind altruistic deeds performed 
in love’s name are miracles proclaimed   
and even the coldest of hearts warmed

So will you walk the way of love or logic 
the entire universe awaits your decision  
do then choose wisely much is at stake
as one leads to peace the other division

The first right on earth is the right of the ego. Man’s first duty is to himself. His moral law is never to place his prime goal within the persons of others. His moral obligation is to do what he wishes, provided his wish does not depend primarily upon other men. This includes the whole sphere of his creative faculty, his thinking, his work. But it does not include the sphere of the gangster, the altruist and the dictator.

A man thinks and works alone. A man cannot rob, exploit or rule—alone. Robbery, exploitation and ruling presuppose victims. They imply dependence. They are the province of the second-hander.

Rulers of men are not egoists. They create nothing. They exist entirely through the persons of others. Their goal is in their subjects, in the activity of enslaving. They are as dependent as the beggar, the social worker and the bandit. The form of dependence does not matter.

—  Ayn Rand
Altruist aspiration (vow of release)

May my hand be freely offered if & when there is need
May my time & overflow be given in ready generosity
Rather than ever seek just what maybe gained for me,
May I first love myself well enough to amply care for others’ wellbeing
Rather than ask or grasp to clasp closer anyone or anything
May my hands & efforts be devoted to help set you free
May my powers be an influence only for good & healing
May my life & presence ever further others in their journey
May pursuit of peace, understanding, & unity be my legacy
Let my soul be attuned to what benefits humanity
Let my comradeship honor seasons of coming & growth’s necessity to leave
Let my welcome be genuine, extended fearlessly
Let my strength be a willing gift given to aid the weak
Let my life be neither burden nor bond but a means of their ease
Let my love be known & manifest in Divine blessed release!