so I'm just wondering if what I'm experiencing is considered passive influence, I'm really trying to understand this concept. sometimes something will trigger some part to get upset, I know this is happening because I know that this alter dislikes certain things, and I get a very strong urge to punch something or start yelling even though that's not like me at all. is that passive influence? sorry for asking so many questions!
Yes, that sounds like passive influence. Any thought, urge or emotion that is uncharacteristic of one alter but is characteristic of another, and the trigger is known to cause that alter to feel or think certain things, could be argued to be passive influence. It can be hard to tell sometimes, but figuring out the triggers can be helpful in reducing passive influence or working with the affected alter to help them work through those urges when faced with those triggers. If you’re getting these urges frequently, it may be something to work through with your therapist to see if they can help the affected alter in finding a more appropriate response to triggers.
I hope this helps.
-J (of SN)
I agree that what you’re describing is passive influence. I just want to offer another definition of passive influence since I find J’s kind of difficult to parse. (Sorry J!)
This is how I defined it on my website.
Passive influence can be described as intrusions from alters that are not currently prominent in the mind or using the body. This may manifest as ego-alien thoughts, feelings, emotions, opinions, preferences, urges, or actions. These intrusions may vary in strength and influence and may result in the fronting alter taking actions or voicing opinions that they can’t explain or account for. These intrusions may also cause the fronting alter to gain skills and abilities that they do not usually have … or losing skills and abilities that they would expect to always be there … Memories that are transmitted through passive influence may not remain once the influence is over, leaving the fronting alter unable to recall what the memory contained. On the other hand, passive influence may also lead to certain memories, emotions, sensations, or views becoming inaccessible to the fronting alter until the influence ends.
What you’re describing is you sometimes feeling ego-alien feelings and urges that you know are coming from another alter who has been triggered. That’s passive influence, yes.
I hope that this helps!
-Katherine of Those Interrupted