also you know a lot more about it than me ♥

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i mean if you romanticise abuse.. yikes

*extremely rolls eyes*

Alright, so first… I don’t know which side of the “abuse” you’re talking about, but whenever anyone tries to claim that poor, innocent Lydia was abused by her awful boyfriend in season one it honestly makes me laugh. Lydia was a nightmare in season one, her attitude and behavior emotionally abusive and triggering many of Jackson’s insecurities and counter-actions. Ex: he needed to be team captain, he needed to keep up with Scott, he needed to be a werewolf because she was all he had to hold onto and her consistent refrain was “if you’re not good enough, I’ll drop you for someone better in a heartbeat.”

That’s not to say Jackson was better. But Lydia was objectively a terrible person at the start of the show: cold and self-absorbed, completely disregarding everyone else’s feelings –– even those of the people she supposedly cared about –– for her own goals. And if you agree that Lydia has been able to grow from that and become a likable character you want to root for, as I do, then why not Jackson? Why not Jydia?

Now let’s jump back a little. I didn’t say I supported Jydia in season one. (And there’s a whole other argument about why it is alright to ship toxic ‘ships, which is true, that I’m not going to even get into at the moment because that’s not what this is.) There were enjoyable elements there, layered between a lot of fucked up behaviors on both ends, but season one Jydia was not a good relationship. Jydia in season two, though, was all about the growth of their relationship, the hidden depths that we only catch glimpses of, and the potential of their relationship along with the powerful, world-altering love that existed on both ends. They held each other together in their darkest moments. Lydia loved Jackson enough to risk being torn apart by him as a kanima, and Jackson loved her back enough that it solidified his identity. And that, to me, is incredibly beautiful.

I’m not in any way saying to forgive your abusers, or to stay in a toxic relationship. I’m saying that characters can grow and relationships can evolve, and the show canonically showed both of these characters growing, highlighting issues that caused them to act the way they did in season one and working through them –– Lydia more than Jackson, since she stayed in the show longer, but I also think it’s also notable that I didn’t actually like Lydia, as a person, until 3A. There were moments that I felt for her, yeah, or enjoyed scenes with her, but I didn’t actually like her in any significant way until that moment when she refused to cover up the marks on her throat. That was the first time that I actually found myself thinking “you know, alright. I like her now.” and she became one of the show’s most enjoyable characters to me throughout 3 & 4. Jackson didn’t have that same opportunity because of Colton leaving, but I saw the potential for it, and such potential in this relationship of two damaged people finding strength in themselves and each other, learning to recognize the value of themselves and each other. “Master Plan” was such a turning point for both them as characters and their relationship as a whole, and to see them take the foundation laid down in that episode and use it to grow into a truly supportive, honest, healthy relationship could have been truly extraordinary.

And if you don’t see that happening like I do, or just don’t like the ship, then that’s fine. But don’t say that I’m romanticizing abuse because that’s got fucking nothing to do with why I love this pairing.