also trying different things with text

paansyparkinson  asked:

I like, lowkey hate how jk Rowling just straight up reduces the slytherins to simply evil ppl like why??? You can't just dehumanize ppl like that ALSO HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANDREA I LOVE YOU SO SO MUCH AND I WISH ALL THE BEST FOR YOU OKAY

a) i go back and forth on the slytherin thing just because i Get what she was trying to do but

b) it’s mostly just very irksome how clear the double standards are in the text

c) romilda vane, for example, legit tries to slip harry a love potion (WHICH!!!! LOVE POTIONS HOLY SHIT THAT’S A WHOLE DIFFERENT CONVERSATION EVERYONE NEEDS TO HAVE) but isn’t really explicitly vilified for that, ever, like in the films i’m pretty sure it’s played off as a flattering joke? 

d) whereas if any slytherin girl was so much as SEEN holding an ingredient that might sometimes be used to brew a love potion if the moon is both new and it’s the third friday of the fourth october of the nineteenth decade since merlin died, like i can guarantee it would not have been Fun Times, dumbledore would’ve had her expelled and arrested and then somehow gryffindor would’ve gotten 2.4 million house points,,,,,

e) similarly the only gryffindor (minus pettigrew, the Token Bad Friend, which…also….another conversation lmao) who’s ever hinted at being anything but Good TM is cormac mclaggen, but even that’s. for comic relief. like his worst qualities are that he’s Arrogant and Handsome????????????????

f) THANK YOU SO MUCH I LOVE YOU A LOT OKAY <3

Allistics always say things like “NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION IS IMPORTANT!” when talking about eye contact, body language, etc and they’ll get mad at Autistics for struggling with that kind of thing. But when a nonverbal Autistic communicates through sign language, texting, or writing, suddenly that’s inappropriate and they have to learn to talk. Or when an Autistic (verbal or nonverbal) communicates nonverbally through stimming or something similar, then suddenly that’s also inappropriate and needs to be stopped.

Don’t tell us to learn nonverbal communication when, in fact, most of the time we already know it - it’s just a different brand than yours. Learn our ways of communication. Don’t try to make us communicate in YOUR inaccessible way and don’t treat us like we’re broken or subhuman for not understanding.

(Anyone can reblog regardless of neurotype.)

The Venus signs’; Positives and Negatives

Aries Venus Positives: You put yourself out there and most of the time you are not afraid to fall flat on your face because what strangers think of you is really unimportant to your life. You love love, in fact you cherish love and any romantic connection that you have you hold near and dear. 

Aries Venus Negatives: When it comes to feelings you can become rash and impulsive. You may find yourself jumping in love relationships without full consideration and you do not consider your own feelings enough nor do you value yourself over the other person.

Taurus Venus Positives: Your true self really comes out best when you are in love. You have a commitment level which every one else aspires to have, You are loyal and reliable and you don’t run away when things get tough. Others also find you very comforting and collected. 

Taurus Venus Negatives:  Your mouth can work quicker than you brain and paired with your inborn sense of curiosity you can often attract unwanted drama. You deal negatively for confrontations and will often freeze up when it is time to redeem your behaviour. 

Gemini Venus Positives: Your charm and wit are above the rest and others will often end up in stitches from laughter after spending time with you. you are also undeniably a lot of fun and you spread excitement and energy out to everyone around you. 

Gemini Venus Negatives: It is arguable to say that change comes fair too easily to you. Commitment is not natural or easy for you and you constantly struggle to stay in one place in your life. You aren’t very sentimental and that is something you should aim to be 

Cancer Venus Positives: You do have high standards when it comes to love, which is a good thing because its not like you to rush into anything without consideration and confirmation is is the right thing to do. You are also very good at reading people and know what that want out of a relationship. 

Cancer Venus Negatives: You know that your emotions can often get the best of you. You expect things from people and sometimes instead of letting them know what you want you get down and upset that they don’t naturally want to do that for you. 

Leo Venus Positives: You are not afraid to fall in love. You are not afraid to to be affectionate and adoring in public. You are very well spoken and talented with your words and the way you word things, You are sensitive to others’ feelings and you are very accepting ad understanding. 

Leo Venus Negatives: You are not exactly a friend to change and development, Once you are happy any differences make you feel uncomfortable and out of place. you are not good when you are alone for too long. Usually you try to be in a love relationship at all times because that’s where you are comfortable. 

Virgo Venus Positives: You are definitely a person of little things, In love and friendships you are the one who will leave little notes and text “good morning” and will stay up until midnight just to be the first to wish you happy birthday. You are also very practical when it comes to love and you don’t rush. 

Virgo Venus Negatives: You are far too careful when it does to relationships, love and friendship. You don’t want to get hurt so you lack the ability to put yourself out their. This often results in quite anti social behaviour and sometimes a development of insecurity about yourself. 

Libra Venus Positives: Being sociable is you key and best trait which others will often envy about you. You have a way with people and making friends comes so naturally to you. Simply you are a true romantic, flowers, chocolates and walks on the beach are often your go to. 

Libra Venus Negatives: When it comes to love your head can often be stuck in a fairy tale idea of love and you are often very idealistic and it takes time for you to actual confront relationship problems that you are experiencing due to fear of losing all the positive stuff. 

Scorpio Venus Positives: As a friend and as a partner you are undoubtedly loyal. You are very understanding to the feelings of the other person involved. You are incredibly attentive with strong commitment, when you are with someone they have all of you. 

Scorpio Venus negatives: You often lack trust. Not everyone is out to get you, not every talks behind your back, not everyone is the same. You like to jump to conclusions, its not even that you just do jump to conclusions but you actually choose to because you want an answer quickly and someone to blame. 

Sagittarius Venus positives: Open describes you perfectly. you are open to anything, including anyone’s view and any new idea you haven’t know before. You are very optimistic and joyful. You are outgoing and adventurous with yourself and with love and relationships too.

Sagittarius Venus negatives: You find yourself getting overwhelmed to quickly and easily when it comes to people and especially when it comes to commitment, Clingy is something that repels you like bug spray because you live in fear that you can’t keep up pleasing people all the time. 

Capricorn Venus positives: You are charming and good at making people feel good about them selves. You are sensible and responsible when it comes to your feelings and the feelings of others. You are calm, cool and collected which is a very attractive feature to many.

Capricorn Venus Negatives: you crave control over your life, anything that seems a little too spontaneous is unwelcome in your path. You struggle to let people in and you enjoy alone time a little too much sometimes. You are afraid of change and you do not welcome the unknown. 

Aquarius Venus positives: You are open minded and you are not afraid of what is coming, in fact you often welcome the future with open arms. You are very social because you often put yourself out their to meet new people and spend time with your friends. 

Aquarius Venus negatives: You often get thrown off by the smallest of limitation of problem that arises in your life. You are known to let emotions and the opinions of other get to and overwhelm you quite a bit. You often find yourself falling in love a little too easily. 

Pisces Venus Positives: You are a timeless romantic. you want to ensure the people that you love loves you equally and that they know that they means o much to you. You treat people well and go by the motto “treat others as you want to be treated”

Pisces Venus negatives: You often let people walk over you because you values their feelings miles above yours, You often find yourself changing for people to please them and going against who you actually are. Sometimes you are also too quick to forgive. 

[TRANS] NONNO MAGAZINE

1. ways that you spend your days off

JIMIN: hobbies that I do are billiards, bowling and playing computer games all together at a house with friends. when we play, it’s different who wins, but it’s certain that I do the worst no matter what

SUGA: when it’s vacation time, I try to do things that people say are ordinary (to do). It’s important to me to go to a cafe alone or meet up with friends or just a casual every day routine. because it’s a vacation, I think it’s important to spend it relaxing, rather than planning to do something special

V: I listen to several types of music, regardless of genre… classic, jazz, opera, R&B, hip hop, EDM. right now my favourite is especially Hisaishi Joe’s ‘Summer’. dadadadan~(starts to sing) I want to listen to piano performance live one day

JIN: because Jungkook said that he’s going to learn the drums in his free time on the world tour, I started to play guitar too. but since he can’t carry the drum set around with him on tour, in the end it was just me who kept practicing from bringing the guitar (laughs) I play our songs like spring day and butterfly. one day I want to show it on stage

JHOPE: recently, my hobby is collecting figurines. nowadays, things that i’ve been collecting is called “deck of skate boards”. since there are a lot of colourful designs, it’s nice just looking that them. sadly there’s no way to ride them outside

RM: the thing that I’m consumes with right now is learning Japanese. I’m watching the drama “late night restaurants” as it’s easy to understand the dialogue. getting in touch with nature is one thing that is a way of changing the mood. I go for  a walk in a park that’s close by or if i have time I go far until I reach the sea.

JK: recently, I enjoy playing FPS games. I spend about 3~4 hours every day playing so time flies in that moment (laughs) and I always listen to music. I listen to exciting music like future bass but more than that I like melodies that make my mind become calm and the and the quietness of the quite sad atmosphere.

2. favourite fashion and things in fashion you always uphold

JIMIN: once I find a fashion that I think is good, I’ll buy clothes similar to that for several months. right now I like simple fashion, such as shirts with slacks and white shirts and denim (jeans?). since I haven’t decided what fashion to do this summer…. I think I should shop and and think carefully because once I start to buy things, I tend to buy a lot of it (laughs)

SUGA: rather than having a lot of different types of clothing, I rather have an attachment to things I like and use them for a long time. I think that after debut, I’ve worn thousands of clothing that are expensive that are my preference. since I want to be a person hat looks special even just wearing ordinary things, I choose to wear simple clothes. other than that, because I don’t like to show my skin, I wear long sleeves in the summer too

V: the item I wear most often is shirts. I have several shirts that go from simple to unusual print designs. I like the Boston bag too that I bought from New York in spring. I will use it carefully!

JIN: I like neat and simple fashion. when I go to places where a lot of people see me, I try to wear as many things that I received as gifts as possible. because I think if i were them, i’d feel really happy to see precious person wearing something that I gave to them

JHOPE: I try to do styles that express me well, that are not too easy going, and not too loud either. I plan to deliver a fashion that looks cool this summer. but I haven’t been shopping since I purchased a street brand fur jacket last winter…

RM: I pick clothes that are a good style whilst having a comfortable feeling. I didn’t have confidence in my style since I didnt dress well skinny but after debuting everyone told me that my legs are pretty and long, so I challenged it. the person out of the members that dresses well, if it’s not me (laughs), is JHOPE. he’s good at matching items.

JK: I like big shapes (silhouette) like parkas, and I like the colour black. I wear similar clothes in the summer too. the genre is different but I think that RM and JHOPE dress cool

3. favourite scents?

JIMIN: the scent of flowers and meat is cooking. because I like the smell of nature more, I don’t really wear perfumes well. I currently use the scent of a diffuser that’s refreshing. but J-HOPE who is my roommate, prefers scents like this more than me

SUGA: I like perfumes that have a sweet smell but I don’t use just one kind of perfume since I only wear it occasionally, depending on the mood of that day. I like to drink coffee, when I smell the scent of it my mind becomes relaxed. coffee is like a substitute for water to me.

V: in many cases I select a refreshing scent or a scent that I relax to. I use several types to match the mood or fashion

JIN: I use sweet perfumes that linger softly. if I were to give an example, the soft feeling is like the texture of candy floss. but the smell isn’t candy floss itself (laughs)

JHOPE: since i’m very sensitive to smells, it’s only natural that I spray perfume. before I got to bed, I use a diffuser all the time that’s in our room with the sweet smell of body lotion. from our vacation in hawaii in april, i bought kona coffee powder but i tried using it as quadrant substitute

RM: smell of natural fabric softener. and I spoke with jungkook, and the smell of Japan buildings (laughs) especially the airport. when we got here we all said together “we’ve arrived in Japan!”

JK: the smell of green or the wind when spring arrives. one day in spring, I listened to music and rode a bike down the river together with RM and V, so when the distinctive air of spring arrives I feel happy and excited because of that day

4. Japanese movies, dramas, manga etc that have stuck in your memory?

JIMIN: I have seen almost all well-known manga and anime. recently I bought the novel “between calmness and passion” at the bookstore. I look forward to reading it!

SUGA: The best manga throughout my life is slam dunk! I must’ve read it over a hundred times since I read my favourite ones repeatedly. when I was young, most of the things that I watched were Japanese anime

V: recently I’ve watched all of 'we married as a job’! I like the scene where the protagonist gives a hug to the other guy who she has a marriage contract with, on every Tuesday. I remember seeing the male actor in somewhere else, I was surprised to find out that he was Hoshino Gen, an artist that I listen to often on a average day. I love the song 'every day life’ the most. I’m also practicing the love dance from the ending of the drama

JIN: I like Japanese anime’s a lot so when I was a trainee I watched one piece or bleach every week. recently I’ve been obsessed with the manga about high school volleyball called haikyuu, so I read that often

JHOPE: I really like Otsaku Ai’s 'Sakuranbo’. I listen to YUI’s song often too.

RM: I listen yo AK-69 or KOHH, Sakamoto Ryuichi, Yuhki Kuramoto’s music. I like movies that are directed by Hirokazu Koreeda. I became captivated by his calm outlook on the world that he films. If his movies screen in korea, I will certainly go.

JK: I like Japanese anime’s, I’m currently watching the same one as Jin too, haikyuu. and it’s helping me learn Japanese too!

jpn - krn; @row_baba | krn - eng; @hobuing

samwiseofficial  asked:

Hey Alan! I just saw a post about different types of allistics on my dash... one of them was "The 'Ally'™". I'm allistic and I want to know how I can be a good ally, so I thought I'd ask about certain things mentioned in the post so i can avoid doing them! What are person first language and functioning labels and what can I do as an allistic to be an actual ally (not an “Ally"™)? Thanks so much!

okay, first of all, I’m going to assume that you meant [this post]. If not, sorry. Second, I’m not going to get this perfect. I’m viewing this as a bit of a first draft, which (note to self) I will edit at some point.

definitions: person-first language is “person with autism” as opposed to “autistic person”. Please use “autistic person”. I dealt with functioning labels later in this disorganized hell-post. 

So here’s my stab at allistic ally 101

1) You follow the same rules as if you were an ally for any other group: [Here’s a pretty good ally 101 article], but it’s not the end-all-be-all. Keep listening to autistic voices, and if we contradict the rules hold our voices higher. 

Also, above all, rule #1 of allyship is don’t be a shithead–come to conversations with the intention to listen and learn first and treat us like human beings (this is particularly critical with disability rights)

2) Our voices are the important ones: this is important with being an ally to any group, but autistic people often struggle to communicate or express ourselves. Be patient. Ask people how they’d like to communicate and be prepared to be a bit flexible.

Some autistic people use AAC (Alternative or Assistive Communication), and their voices matter just as much as verbal people’s. You don’t have to learn ASL or anything, but don’t assume that because someone’s not communicating verbally they’re less intelligent or competent. And, even if someone can’t communicate using language (or communicate at all) don’t assume that they don’t have thoughts, feelings, and needs.

3) Nothing about us without us: knowing an autistic person doesn’t make you an expert on autism. BEING an autistic person makes you an expert on autism. If you see anything claiming to help autistic people that doesn’t prominently feature Actual Autistic People, don’t support it (unless Actual Autistic People are telling you to support it, see #2)

This goes double for any charitable organization focused on autism which leads me into point number 4 (also from here on out things are a bit smaller-scope, that doesn’t make them less important):

4) Autism Speaks is trash: [and] [here] [are] [some] [sources

If you want to support charities try ASAN and The Autism Women’s Network

5) Please don’t try to “cure” us: I’m dealing with some internalized ableism with this one, so let me turn you over to  Anya Ustaszewski who in [this article] writes:

My autism is part of who I am. It is not something “extra” that can be taken away from me to suit the agenda of an intolerant society. My abilities, challenges and perception of the world all go hand in hand. If I were to be “cured” of my autism, the person that I am would cease to exist.

so yeah cure = bad, acceptance and accommodation = good

6) Celebrate the things that make autistics unique: lately, tumblr has gotten a lot more stim-positive, but stimming isn’t solely a pretty, paint-mixing or slime video (in fact, stimboards are rarely tagged and can overstimulate the SHIT out of me). 

A lot of time, stimming is viewed as ugly, distracting, loud, disgusting, or socially unacceptable. Support your local autistics, don’t expect people to stop stimming and try not to stare or comment (many autistic people have to work very hard to reclaim stimming after childhoods of expecting to suppress it entirely).

Also, try your best to support different cognitive styles and processing issues. Try to keep your websites accessible, provide image transcripts, try not to make posts that are entirely text in images (like screenshots of twitter posts), and help to subtitle videos if you can. <- these things also help d/Deaf people and anyone who accesses the internet via a screenreader

7) steer clear of stereotypes: I’m not rain man or that dude on the big bang theory or your cousin’s dentist’s sister’s younger brother’s son. The ‘idiot savant’ stereotype is almost never true and puts unreasonable expectations on autistic people. Also, not all of us are good at math or science, have incredible memories, etc. Fitting or not fitting stereotypes don’t change the fact that every autistic person is human and deserves rights and respect.

8) functioning labels are fake: never listen to anyone who describes autism as “high” or “low functioning”. Every autistic person has struggles, and putting labels on functioning basically sorts people into “can be ignored” and “subhuman”. [here’s about a million posts about why they suck because if I put it all here this post would be five times as long]

9) ABA is trash: this is trigger territory for a huge number of autistic people, so [here] and I’m not going to say anything else just take my word on this one

10) If it has puzzle pieces on it, run: if you’re looking to see if a group is okay, look for the rainbow infinity sign. The puzzle piece is a huge red flag. Please don’t support anything with puzzle pieces on it. Please. I’m begging you.


Okay that was WAAY longer than I meant it to get, sorry. Also, I’ve missed a bunch of things, but I’ve been working on this for an hour and I don’t have the energy to add more. I’ll throw this in #actuallyautistic and hopefully someone else can add anything important I missed.

I ate lasagna for a trip to Fairyland

So I’ve just realised that I never told you about the time my parents conned me into being the perfect daughter by pretending that a group of fairies lived behind my bookcase for an entire year, and they kept up this devious ploy by dedicating themselves to a world-building scheme so intricate that it would rival Tolkien, and writing letters purporting to be from the ‘rose fairies’ and leaving them behind the bookcase

and loads of the notes were basically just fairy-speak for ‘tidy your damn room’

(Text says: Dear Anwen, thank you for your lovely note. We couldn’t write back earlier because Bimbo has been in your room all day and we’re scared of him. We are rose fairies so we love living in such a beautiful pink bedroom - even if it is a little untidy sometimes! Love the fairies xx)

(Text says: Dear Anwen, thank you for the beautiful gold tinsel. We have used it to decorate our dresses. You will be able to see them when we all go to the Daisy Fairies tomorrow night. We will come and pick you up at midnight. Lots of love, the Rose Fairies. PS your room is very untidy at the moment. We will have trouble coming to get you if you don’t tidy it!)

And sometimes they basically said ‘eat your damn greens’, or ‘why did you like lasagna last week and now would rather eat soil?’:

(Text says: Dear Anwen, I love sweet things too. I also like cucumber and lettuce do you? Be good and write soon. Love Isaria)

(Text says: ‘Dear Anwen, I do like spag bog. I also like lasagna and chicken pie do you? I always try to eat my dinner all up. Love Tiffy)

And they constructed this entire world in which there were hundreds of different kinds of fairies, all named after flowers, including the Daisy fairies and the Foxglove fairies, and presumably the Japanese Knotweed fairies. The Rose fairies would come at midnight, when I was asleep, and whisk me away to Fairyland with all of my favourite toys, who would come to life, like some kind of diet Toy Story. Fairyland was ruled by a queen named Aromia, who honestly should lend her name to a brand of air freshener, and all the fairies behind my bookshelf had names, including my ‘personal fairy’, who was a bit like a fairy godmother except totally useless.

Some examples of my parents’ incredible world building dedication:

(Text says: Dear Anwen, we’ve left you the key to the Fairyland palace. Keep it very safe and don’t lose it! Use it when you come to see us next time in Fairyland. You left us two little baby fairies. Be a good girl and tidy your room! Lots of love, the Rose Fairies)

(Text says: Dear Anwen, what nice new furniture you’ve got now. Your bedroom looks very smart. You are a very lucky girl to have such a beautiful room. Our names are: Isaria, your fairy; Maura, Tallia, Aria, Staria, Dixie, Millie, Razia, Maris, Jay, Essa, Meera, Tima, Pico, Saron, Vetie, Tiffy, Miron, Lattie, Lutim. See you soon, love the Rose Fairies)

(Text says: Dear Anwen, we’re about 6-7 of your years old. Fairy years are different. We’re about 160-170 fairy years old. Love the Rose fairies)

But also, they would give me advice on problems that I was having at school, being an 8 year old with such terrible issues as ‘I have two best friends’:

(Text says: Dear Anwen, why can’t you have two best friends? It’s not fair to expect you to choose between them. Perhaps if you tell them that they’ll understand. You should tell them that they’re both your best friends. Love the Rose Fairies)

And this went on until I realised that it was MY MUM’S HANDWRITING, which coincidentally was also the same as Father Christmas’ handwriting and the Tooth Fairy’s handwriting, but that was honestly a step too far for my 8 year old mind, because I couldn’t lose that damn much. Not the Tooth Fairy too. God, the Rose fairies were enough of a sacrifice. I couldn’t bleed myself dry.

My room was never tidier than it was that year and I have never been more embarrassed than when I found all these letters last month and realised what a fucking gullible nerd I was when I was 8. Aromia would be so disappointed.

it would be great if people didnt use harry’s solo career to bring down 1d’s music and his time in 1d and if people stopped acting like he is only worthy of their attention now that he is doing solo stuff and when he was in 1d he was something less because boybands are musically something less when that’s not true at all and it would be nice if they stopped acting like he suddenly completely changed now that he is solo when it fact that’s just people looking at his image from previous years that didn’t portray him as a person at all and just showed what they wanted to show (because images of celebrities are alwas crafted somehow) and they thought that once he does solo projects he’s gonna talk poorly about 1d and be completely different. that doesn’t mean he wasn’t trying to be himself as much as he possibly could before and ppl paid attention to him before instead of trashy media and smear campaigns against members of one direction that are very visible until now, it would be obvious. it’s also obvious they’ve been held back terribly much in 1d and it’s amazing they get to try things they want as individuals, but that’s completely different story, the boys are all incredibly talented people, it’s exciting to see their new stuff, but that doesn’t make their success and music as a group any less valuable. 

angelfairy24  asked:

I would love to know what was going on in that room before V came. I also believe that V interrupted whatever Jikook had going on. I think it took Jungkook so long to get dressed because he had to do the "quick clean". The quick clean means make sure nothing is in sight that would make people suspicious and start asking questions. Do you think V knew Jimin was in there right? Or did V maybe find after being im the room for awhile? Your thoughts?

I don’t want to speculate too much purely because there is a difference between what I imagine and what could’ve really gone down; however, since you’re asking……….

Tbh, Jungkook was most likely trying to hide the most obvious things and trying to tidy up his hotel room before V entered. I think he was also making sure Jimin was out of sight and that nothing was too out of the ordinary. I mean, did you see Jungkook’s nervousness??? the boy kept looking around the room and turning on lights and walking around. he was obviously hiding SOMETHING.
And the tae thing, I honestly don’t know whether he knew or not. he had texted Jungkook before, almost like a warning like, “bro, im gonna knock on ur door, better hide jimin rn or else” type thing, plus V wasn’t phased AT ALL when jimin said “you scared me” or when the door closed. So i feel he knew Jimin was in there. I just think he wasn’t expecting the situation to be like it was. I assume tae was expecting them to be chilling, watching a movie, or playing on their phones. but instead jungkook answers the door in a robe, lights out, music on and jimin is hiding in the bathroom. like……. taehyung mustve felt so awkward lmao…

Molly Hooper Unplugged.

Series 4 Sherlock is not what I expected. Over all, I liked it. A lot. It’s not without it’s problems though. From a viewer’s perspective that is. I’m not going to trash the writers because, in fact, I have tremendous appreciate for their creative process, intelligence and brilliance.

As with the books, the writers set out to tell us stories in similar fashion to the canon literature. John Watson is considered the narrator but, in fact, is the peripheral story-teller. Sherlock, himself, is the primary narrator. Not only that, Sherlock tells us his stories retrospectively. Meaning that from beginning to end the story has already happened. It’s done and over, with Sherlock telling us: ‘Okay, this is what went down.”

Mark Gatiss made an interesting comment once that he and Moffat write the stories from end to beginning. It’s the only way they can detail the cases, the story-line and Sherlock’s elaborate deductions. Truly, it’s a clever approach. But, and this is important, it’s also why the audience rarely receives the resolution they want, or feel they deserve. Sherlock – as the narrator – won’t say. He gives the viewer what he chooses and then leaves us to figure out the rest.

As I looked back upon every episode from the very beginning, this particular format is consistent. It also explains why there’s an abhorrent lack of Molly this season. Sherlock is her avenue and narrator, and he’s not talking. Throughout the series, there have only been two exceptions to this: The Sign of Three and His Last Vow.

The writers love Louise Brealey. They adore her and they adore Molly. Molly is introduced to the audience in ASiP with Sherlock. It’s their “meet cute” – which tells us she’s important – even though she was initially considered a one-off character. Sherlock, however, had other plans and wanted her to stick around. He’s the one who’s chosen her fate in the stories, not the writers.

I know, I know – it’s a weird and unusual way to look at this. The writers are, after all, penning this series and in charge, right? Yes, of course. At the end of the day, however, they are two of the biggest Sherlock Holmes fan boys and they have deferred many decisions to this fictional character.

So, strange as it might sound, anyone who writes stories knows there’s more than a kernel of truth in this. We might think we’re in charge of the characters we create, but really – we’re in guardianship. Sherlock is no exception to this because he’s a long established character in literary fiction.

Many years ago, the ground-breaking television series, The X-Files, elucidated this fact (in an extreme way) with an episode called, Milagro. The writer, Phillip Padgett, experiences his character come to life, who creates all sorts of murderous mayhem.

When you eliminate the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be truth.”

Fox Mulder used that exact quote from Sherlock Holmes in the Milagro episode to convince his FBI partner, Dana Scully, that this is exactly what was happening.

So, if anyone, besides myself, is wondering why we’re not seeing Molly all that much – it’s because of Sherlock. At the same time, he also gives us wonderful clues (because that’s what he does) as to why this is and what happened. All we have to do is observe and don his methods of deductions.

This, by the way, will have little to do with sub-text. That’s a very different animal. Instead, we have to infer and make some logical leaps based upon the evidence given. To be honest, this has been part of the fun of watching Sherlock. But, it can also be frustrating, exhaustive, and even disheartening, when viewers aren’t given any kudos for figuring things out, or for even trying. That does, in my opinion, lie within the hands of the writers. After all, they do have creative latitude.

There are two things that left me saying ‘Huh?’ regarding Molly in series 4.

Her diminished presence.

Her strong resistance to say, ‘I Love You.’

For me to understand, I did a cursory review of Molly’s history, which isn’t hard. Especially as there’s this infuriating, ongoing belief with journalists, casual and not-so-casual viewers, that Molly’s emotional hesitancy in saying ‘I Love You’ to Sherlock is somehow the result of a bizarre form of post-trauma from season one.

Nothing could be further from the truth. Molly / Sherlock ‘shippers’ (and I’m one) know this because we’re not simply watching a television show, we’re observing all the nuances of what’s presented / not presented, that others either don’t see, choose not to see, or believe unimportant.

First, I want to lay the basis that Molly’s “unrequited” love for Sherlock has not remained an issue since A Scandal In Belgravia (s2e1). Nor has she been mocked or ridiculed by Sherlock over her affection for him. The opposite of this is true and also shown.  

Beginning with The Reichenbach Fall, Sherlock and Molly have grown closer and share an intimacy that none of the other characters are made privy. It’s not romantic intimacy, that we know of, but a deeply valued and trusted friendship.

Sherlock turns to Molly in one of his greatest moments of need. She becomes his confidant at a time when things are, quite frankly, frightening for him. Molly, along with a host of others, help Sherlock plan his demise. Her role, as Sherlock later reveals, was not only invaluable, but that she is the one person who mattered the most. Whether his comment is based on the Moriarty deal, or a commentary about how he now views her, it doesn’t really matter. What this scene from The Empty Hearse showed viewers is that Molly and Sherlock have grown. Their relationship dynamics have shifted to a new dance. There’s more than a hint of attraction from both, and whether or not you want to ‘friend-zone’ them, the sentiment still stands: they hold a palpable love for one another.  

Viewers are also made aware in this episode that Molly has “moved on” and engaged to a guy who is a distorted facsimile of Sherlock’s physical characteristics. We think that scene is about Molly and it is – but it’s also about Sherlock. The look on his face when he meets Tom is priceless.

Sherlock has never dealt very well when confronted with Molly’s involvement with other men. It’s not sub-text or speculation…it’s shown. Given the fact this man lives in a state of emotional infancy, especially during The Great Game, he might not really understand why he viciously cock-blocked Jim-from-IT-Moriarty, angering / embarrassing Molly in the process.

He does learn, however. Otherwise, he’s not a very good genius.

I’m not sure why it’s hard to understand that series 3 Molly is not harboring unrequited love. Sherlock is. Yes, it’s a strange sort of love because he represses his emotions and impulses, I’ll grant you. He doesn’t show it overtly, but it’s there.

The tables have been flipped on Sherlock, because although his seeping emotions are masked behind logic and rationalism, or ridiculous excuses – he’s actually the one seeking out Molly.

Molly keeps him on his toes by her openness and authenticity. She even shared that she’s having quite a bit of sex, which really does blow the gasket in his Vulcan mind. He has no idea how to process this info. Ironically, her words are sort of a call back to his from The Great Game, when he’s having a hissy fit and tells John he’s not interested in the solar system, or who’s having sex with who. Molly’s having sex, Sherlock. Does it need mentioning that their romantic involvements have always mirrored one another, too?

Sherlock does find a way to get in another deliberate, but very subtle cock-block regarding Molly’s fiancé during John and Mary’s reception. Of course it bothered her, somewhat. She wasn’t devastated or traumatized over the fact that Sherlock just showed her, again, that her choice in men will always be woefully inadequate compared to him. She’s really rather proud of him in this episode, and swooning a bit.

Truthfully, both Molly and Sherlock have some version of brainiac jealousy / possessiveness going on, but still, Molly adores him, OPENLY, by the way. She’s not hiding it.

All of this gels to demonstrate that Molly’s emotional 180 in The Final Problem over saying ‘I love you’ is NOT because she’s been sitting around for seven years, crying in margaritas over this guy.

It’s about something else entirely. The timeline between TSoT and His Last Vow hold the answer. Something happened between them that came very close to destroying their relationship. Sherlock gives us a few clues in HLV. First, there’s this:

“How dare you throw away the beautiful gifts you were born with. And how dare you betray the love of your friends. Say you’re sorry!”

“Sorry you’re engagement’s over, although fairly grateful for the lack of a ring.”

Great dialogue! Especially if we’re looking through Sherlock’s eyes and know he’s been staying at her beautiful home, which we find out later on. This bit of info comes from Molly, when she breaks the fourth wall of television by interacting with viewers directly.

We can take Molly’s scolding of Sherlock at face value. He’s using (drugs) and by doing so letting down his friends and himself. Bad Sherlock.

I believe, however, this is more than chastising Sherlock for reckless behavior. The following, by the way, is about subtext, because that’s where we have to look and infer. Subtext, while a valid form of information, can be a dangerous little guy, because we project based upon our individual filters and desires. It’s important to keep this in mind when inferring possibilities.

I’m also not being dismissive of drug use, at all, but attempting to fill the blanks that currently hold cognitive dissonance based upon everything we’ve been show up until now. We went from HappyMolly and HappySherlock to ‘what-the-hell-is-going-on’?

Clearly, whatever it is, it’s origin lies in love and betrayal. And, other than in Sherlock’s mind palace after being shot – we only see Molly one more time, when she tells us about her bedroom as Sherlock’s bolt hole.

His Last Vow ends without any resolution between the two. Or so we believe.

But, I’ll get back to this.

There’s head canons and fanfic to fill in the missing gaps of HLV, but The Abdominal Bride does a great job at summing things up in a nutshell.

This episode, in which Sherlock sets about solving 121 year old murder case from the Victorian era, is about the long-lasting consequences of using, objectifying, misleading, abusing, disparaging and basically the all around diminished and misogynistic treatment of women.  

There’s also quite a bit of symbology wrapped up in Sherlock’s psychedelic trip. He’s solving a crime from another century, but he’s still got his Scooby gang by his side. They’re all consistent with their modern, present day counterparts, filling the same functions and roles when Sherlock isn’t following Alice down the rabbit hole.

With the exception of Molly.

The role of a pathologist / medical examiner was not typically filled by a woman in this era. As a result, Molly has to be concealed as a man. Perfectly reasonable. What’s different, however, is the relationship between she and Sherlock. It’s cold, if not a bit derisory and bitter.

John’s role is interesting regarding Molly because it’s not John, but instead Sherlock’s projection. Victorian John tells ‘Dr Hooper’ that he’s not Sherlock’s puppy, that he can see through her disguise and sympathizes with what one has to do to be recognized in the world.

We can take that conversation at face value. It is what it is. But, maybe it’s worth considering that this might also be Sherlock’s conscience seeping through, imprinting itself on the state of affairs between he and Molly. In Sherlock’s words, John is a “romantic” - he sees things Sherlock can’t - so there is some validity with the idea that he might need John’s ‘eyes’ to see his way through this. To see Molly past the façade of anger and self-protection. I’m sure there are other great interpretations.

From a symbolic perspective, TAB was Sherlock reconciling, or at least beginning to make amends to Molly (as well as other women he’s used: Janine).

Now is where speculation comes in regarding the timeline between TSoT, HLV and TAB.

Let’s say Sherlock was using Molly’s home as a bolt hole. Maybe not the first time, so he likes it, and it gives him the space and privacy to work on the Magnussen case. If this is true, it’s probably because it’s too complicated for him to work at Baker St, especially as he’s fake wooing Janine to get to her boss.

The other thing that’s taking place is that he’s using. How often and how much is unsure, but he did look pretty strung out at the hospital. And, when Sherlock uses, he’s a very different person.

Molly and Janine mirror one another, although Sherlock’s feelings, thoughts and opinions toward each are drastically different.

Dependent upon when Sherlock began using Molly’s home, if he’s using her home (he does have other bolt holes) – she might still be engaged to Tom. It’s conjecture, but she probably is. Sherlock tells John that he’s been fake dating Janine for a month, which means this started almost immediately after the wedding.

Realistically, I don’t think anyone expected the engagement between M/T to last, but it doesn’t mean Molly wasn’t sincere or didn’t love him. So, Sherlock’s presence and the use of her home – especially her bedroom, a space that implies intimacy - is bound to inflict some legitimate strain on a relationship that’s already falling apart.

Any number of scenarios could have played out. Tom might have given Molly an ultimatum? M/T might have decided to take a time-out? Guess away.  

Sherlock might be influencing Molly through subtle means to end her engagement. He might turn up the charm and possibly – in one way or another – woo her as well. Maybe lead her to believe something was possible between them? Which he might consider true, at some point. He doesn’t want her with other men, but won’t allow a proper resolution to their attraction. His use of drugs could make it easier for him to make those personality / conscience shifts necessary to do what he’s doing.

If this happened, and there’s nothing to say it did – just using TAB as a blueprint since Molly was included with the ‘brides’ – it really is unconscionable on his part. Although, and this is NOT in any way an excuse of his behavior – his superiority and arrogance did slap him hard - because he actually cares and loves Molly, so his potential motivations with her are very different than with Janine. Knowing this does not make it better or right. He’s taking drugs - he’s in ‘the Game Is On’ mode and not making good decisions.

Perhaps Molly found out about Janine and they had a chat? Yeah, it’s a bit soap opera-ish – but how else would Janine know Sherlock used her? John? Magnussen? She was very quick with her ‘for profit’ revenge plan. More than likely Magnussen told her…he enjoys the suffering of others.

However she found out, Molly would have confronted Sherlock. Sherlock might not have shown any remorse for using someone as a ‘means to an end’ (Janine), while attempting to deduce Molly by saying her LOVE for Tom was equally specious. He did say, during his best man speech, that All emotions, and in particular love, stand opposed to the pure, cold reason I hold above all things.” We know this isn’t entirely true, and he knows it as well. But, if he attempted to make a point to Molly about her actions, as a parallel to his, all while HIGH, wow – it crashed and burned.

I’m not saying this is what happened. Just tossing out the idea. But, it does make the M/S hospital scene even more poignant. It’s their break-up fight.

If Sherlock did any of this, it would be hard to forgive. Molly would have to dig really deep inside her to make a journey back as his friend. Their relationship is fractured and rests on a precariously balanced fulcrum. Betrayal by love is a huge theme in His Last Vow.

There are two external events, which help pull them back into each other’s orbit.

Sherlock is shot. Sherlock murders Magnussen.

I’m sure this would help soften Molly, in as much as tragedy can put things into perspective very quickly. Being deeply wounded by someone you love doesn’t mean you stop loving them – although it’s possible. Maybe the time between being shot and killing Magnussen Sherlock made a sincere effort to make amends with her? I imagine he would, but their relationship has been severely strained and Molly keeps clear distance.

I’m really, really, really speculating on this one – but, maybe Mary reached out to Molly as someone to lean on? We never see these two interact (other than the christening) which is a shame. There is, however, an ever-so-slight seed that might suggest Mary’s involvement, which we got in TAB. Mary is the one who discovers the brides. And, Mary is put on the case by Mycroft. So, maybe Mycroft knows there’s been a fall-out. Again, sounds like a twisted sort of soap opera – but there’s some precedence for this, too.

Mycroft knows Molly. She was a the most significant person in TRF plan. We’ve also seen him request her assistance at the morgue prior to this (ASiB). Who knows. What we do know, is that when Sherlock uses and comes off drugs – Mycroft calls in as many resources as possible. If there is a fracture between Molly and Sherlock, it will be seen as a risk, which requires a fix. Mary could help with this. Furthermore, in TAB, Mycroft tells Sherlock this is a war (women) he (they) must lose. Meaning, Sherlock fucked up. Big time. He’s got to set it right.

Some headway is made, because the bride scene in TAB shows Sherlock acknowledging his mistakes and remorse. We then see where the relationship is left between M/S with two words: “Hooper / Holmes.”  

They can face each other, be in the same room, but it’s chilly.

Series 4 reflects this in Molly’s absence as well as her presence. But, she and Sherlock will continue to be pulled together through more external events.

They are Rosamund Watson’s godparents and on speaking terms.

They are also hit with a devastating, irretrievable blow: Mary’s death. This, along with profound grief, is enough to set aside any personal differences to come together and focus on the needs of others. Even though Sherlock takes himself to ‘hell and back.’

Molly speaks with Sherlock in TLD, and even acquiesces to his request for an ambulance. Molly does this on faith - she really doesn’t know what’s going on. There’s still an edge between them. He’s using, she’s stressed, he’s dying. She’s agreed to do her part in watching Sherlock through his withdrawal days, and meets he and John for birthday cake.

Concessions are being made.

Now we come to The Final Problem, where Molly is Sherlock’s third task. He has to get her to say I Love You, but their relationship remains somewhat perfunctory and cool. A lot of water has passed under their bridge and blind trust has not been established.

If anything remotely took place between them such as the above – whoa – it’s no surprise why this scene went down the way it did.

It also makes sense of Molly’s words: “Leave me alone.” “Why are you making fun of me?” “You know why.” “Of course you do.”

There’s two different events taking place that cause an intense emotional build-up and break-down between these two characters.

Molly is unable to push down her stress and sorrow any longer. It’s risen to the surface. There’s been too much, in a short amount of time, and something’s gotta give. We see her ignore Sherlock, which is an eye-opener for him, and even when she does answer her phone she’s direct and not interested in idle chit-chat.

Sherlock’s stress is mounting too. By virtue of Eurus’s game and the previous month’s events. He needs to ask something of Molly that he knows won’t be received well. Even if he tries to convince himself otherwise and feign ignorance.

It was a life or death moment from Sherlock’s perspective, but a ‘push come to shove’ for Molly. Both of them went through an emotional vivisection. Still, they said I love you and it was sincere and authentic.

At the end of that scene, however, neither one knows the consequences of this event. It’s not a happy moment, but instead filled with uncertainty and possibly more loss. Sherlock killed a coffin. Molly looks absolutely forlorn.

The ending montage is disappointingly neglectful of resolution. This is where the writers could have used a more creative latitude – more than .3 seconds of Molly’s happy smile. At least it was nice to get that, but gees, really?

If we’re looking at this from Sherlock’s point of view – Molly is happy. More than happy – she’s vibrant. Personally speaking, I can’t see any reason Molly would be presented this way had she and Sherlock not achieved some satisfactory relationship understanding regarding romantic love.

My heels aren’t dug in the sand regarding the above. I am truly open to other interpretations. For now, though, this was my exercise in explaining what wasn’t explained. She might be an insane murdering psychopath and brilliant beyond Newton, but Eurus was right when she said - context is everything.

Ready Steady Part 8

Summary: Rob returns to L.A. while the reader stays in Nashville for the remainder of her trip. Reader finds herself in a terrifying situation and believes that she only has one person to turn to.

Word Count: 3397

Warnings: a little bit of fluff, hints of past abuse, seriously guys… for some reason this turned out pretty dark. I’m sorry.

Note: For the sake of the remainder of the fic, I’m using some old Louden Swain songs and making them new ones. Also, as you can tell, my reader is a singer/songwriter and a country girl at heart… so for her, instead of trying to write my own lyrics, I’m using songs by Miranda Lambert and claiming them as the reader’s own. Hey, this way, you can listen to the actual songs after you read!

Catch up: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5, Part 6, Part 7

Originally posted by readtheeyes

When Monday morning came around, you found yourself in a poor mood. You had woken up to Rob draped over you again, which made you smile. He made you feel happy and safe. But your happiness washed away quickly when you remembered that it was Monday, which meant he was leaving today. You nestled up against him again while he continued to sleep, not wanting this moment to end. Your moment was cut short however; when Rob’s alarm went off, waking him.

“I’ve got to go pack,” he stated, rubbing his eyes. “I’ve been here so much that I’m not even ready to catch my flight yet.” With that, he got up and began dressing quickly.

You watched him from the bed, “I could get used to watching you scramble around my room looking for your clothes.”

“I could get used to it too,” he said as he winked at you.

“You sure you don’t wanna come back to bed, just for a little while?” You placed your hand on his spot next to you, rubbing circles in the sheets indicating that you wanted him back in bed.

“You know I do,” he sighed as he began to put his phone and wallet back into his pockets. “Meet me downstairs in 20? So I can say goodbye before I head to the airport?” He gave you a half-smile.

“Sure, I’ll meet you at the same place we met for the first time.” You grinned.

Rob let out a chuckle as he remembered your first meeting, “Ah, you’re so romantic.” He walked over to you and gave you a quick kiss before leaving again.

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anonymous asked:

Hi there, how about everyone reacting to a foreign MC who was only in South Korea for business or for studying the language and would have to return to her home country sometime soon? Maybe she is considering moving there permanently at some point, but it's too early to make such a huge decision ...

(•̀o•́)ง This one is a little difficult, so please tell me if I messed up some important things! I’m mainly going to focus on reactions instead of a story…

Yoosung

-The poor boy would feel heartbroken, honestly. He’d finally met such a wonderful person! But they have to leave soon?

-I guess it was understandable, once he heard your reasoning on the subject. It also made sense as to why you didn’t talk much on the phone, or dodged phone calls.

-No matter what your decision would be, he’d support you fully.

-Would really want to maintain the relationship, friendship wise or not, through long distance. A lot of his LOLOL buddies were from different places of the world as well!

-Once you left he’d cry at home, but would send you texts every day supporting you!

Jaehee

- She’d feel a little upset inside knowing her first friend would be leaving soon, but she’d offer to help you with learning the language when able.

-Would propose that you guys stay in contact. If texting was too much, then maybe being penpals. (It would help you study Korean!)

-The day that you leave she would pack a little care package for you for the flight- Things she was used to packing when she had to be on trips with Jumin- and give you a tight hug.

-Would love every message and letter she received from you- Especially if it came with little gifts from your home country.

-Would also support you no matter what your decision was when it came to moving. Moving is scary, and she couldn’t imagine what it would be like to move so suddenly to a foreign country. 

Jumin

- Would also be very reasonable with his support towards your willingness to move or not. Though, if needed, he’d offer to help pay for anything related to you moving.

-Since he was fluent in different languages due to C&R business, he’d talk to you in a language you both were able to converse in. Would also offer you tips and tricks on how to learn Korean! (And also try to pay for a tutor if you needed one)

-He’s not quite sure how he feels when you have to leave. It hurts a little, almost like V leaving on a trip but just. Possibly not coming back.

-He gives you a tight and slightly awkward hug, and sends you texts the moment your flight should land asking if things went okay.

-Would also offer to pay for you to come and visit- Whether its just him, the RFA, or others.

Zen

-He thought when you didn’t speak much on the phone, you were just stunned at how amazing his voice was (Zen….>>)

-(Would ask Seven for help if any language barriers happened)

-Probably the most emotional when you have to leave. He’d just hug you and Not let go for a while. He wouldn’t cry in front of you, but he damn would a bit when he got home.

-You were just so sweet and such a perfect match for him- Friendship wise or more! He wanted to spend so much more time with you.

-Would constantly text you when you both had the time, and once your Korean got better he’d call you more frequently.

-If you considered moving, he’d push aside his feelings and try his best to help reach a safe and supportive conclusion with you. He didn’t want to shove you into moving here, but if you did, he’d be very willing to help you settle in. 

-(If not, please let him come visit you once in your home country. He’d love that!)

Seven

-He’d think it’s so cool you were from somewhere else!

-Since he knows a lot of languages, he should be able to at least converse some in your first language.

-He’d know about it the second he had to do some background checks on you, but would keep it a secret from the others because..Honestly, he wanted to see how they’d react. (Seven >>)

-Honestly, he’d want you to stay, and probably be the only one to outright tell you that, but he’d still respect your decision.

-Would send you memes the whole flight home (just a sudden barrage of meme texts the moment you’d cut your phone back on) , and every day you were gone

-(Would also keep an eye on security cameras to make sure you would make it back safe)

-He’d also make you a care package as well, but full of PHD Pepper and Honey Buddha Chips.

-Before you left he’d give you such a tight hug and wobble you around back and forth a bit. (”Can’t I just hide in your suitcase? I’ve done it before for a mission!” “Seven, no.”)


(´Д`υ) I hope this was alright!

INFJ stereotypes: calm, idealistic, kind, loyal

Me: *emotionally distant from most friendships*

Me: *ignores texts*

Me: *is realistic about something to the point where I have to be asked to stop being realistic about it*

Me: *is also a kind person that talks to people yet somehow doesn’t talk to anyone at the same time*

Me: *calmly handles things and freaks out at the same time*

Me: sounds fake??? But ok…

(I suppose this is just me being unique ^w^ *eye roll* but I got bored and I was trying to figure out how I was different from the stereotype lol)

anonymous asked:

Hi I'm a sophomore in high school and I like this Freshman in college. We've talked since he beginning of my Freshman year and his Senior year. We both flirt and have this connection. He does not want me for sex because he's not like that (also his friends and people who know him have told me this) We text 24/7 and he comes to almost everything I have and me vice versa. The only thing is that my parents believe that he is "too old" for me. Should we remain just friends or should we go for it?

I really encourage you to stick with friendship. You guys may have a great friendship but you are in really different parts of your life.

Honestly, even if he’s not trying to be “like that”, if he was interested in dating a high school sophomore, that’s kind of a red flag that he doesn’t want an equal relationship.

Maybe it’s not intentional on his part - unequal relationships are normalized - but that won’t stop it from getting weird and uncomfortable in ways you won’t be prepared to deal with, or probably won’t even fully understand until later on when you realized how much it messed you up. I’m speaking from my own experience on this & the experiences of many many people I know.

Like, would you be into an 8th grader? Even if they were fun to be around and you really appreciated them as a person? It would be weird, right? You have more freedom and experience than a kid that age, you’re WAY more grown up than you were when you were in 8th grade. You’d probably feel creepy if you tried to date a 13 year old - that feeling is a warning to stop you from taking advantage.

But it’s hard to see age gaps when you’re the younger one, because you’re more mature than you’ve ever been and it feels like you’re ready to do almost anything. But as the older person looking back - that difference is very noticeable.

Like even if you’re really mature and responsible and even if you’re ready to date in general, dating someone that much older starts off with a weird dynamic, it has to, because he’s seen and experienced things you haven’t, he knows things you don’t, he has freedom you don’t, and he has more practice interacting with people than you do.

And you know he knows things you don’t, so it becomes like this weird situation where he has the power to influence you more than you can influence him, and even if he doesn’t try to use it - it starts out unbalanced.

Honestly, your teen years through about 22 is this period of massive super fast growth. You’re becoming savvier and wiser and better at social stuff at a really fast pace during this period, so age gaps are extra big here. I really think an age gap of more than about a year and a half during this time period makes a giant difference - like just think about how much you’ve changed in that time.

You’re gonna keep that kind of really fast change up for a few more years, and during this time, older kids have big advantages over younger ones that make anything other than a sort of sibling-like friendship with people 3 years older or younger start to turn kind of weird. 

So that’s my advice. It’s ultimately your choice, and if you do decide to date this adult man and you wind up hurt by it – it still won’t be your fault, any more than it would be an 8th grader’s fault if you convinced one to date you and it messed them up. But I hope you choose not to go ahead with dating him, because you deserve to explore relationships with someone your own age without a weird power imbalance.

iamnotoneofthem  asked:

I don't know if that's a question for you guys but... In an original world, how far should you go language-wise? Can you talk about a French braid without France? A sari without the Indian continent and its languages? Carnivore without Latin? What about Achilles' heel? I worry about breaking the immersion by using words like that but also if I don't, for some words, then there's no way the concept comes across. A sari is easy to describe without naming, but other words...

Hi there! I’m working on a book that has several languages and I’d love to use them, but don’t know how. I’m unsure whether to write sentences in that language *in* that language, and, since my character wouldn’t speak that language, add translations, or whether to write “he said in XY”, or if I should use words only, or another method. What tends to work best, in your opinion?

Since we got two asks from this writer about a similar topic, we’re sticking them together.

Synth has some links for you:

http://fantasy-faction.com/2014/the-fantasy-language-problem

http://but-the-library-of-alexandria.tumblr.com/post/141026344727/the-thing-about-writing-fantasy-stories-is-that

Constablewrites:

First ask, you’ve got two separate categories there. The first is words derived from a different language (sari, carnivore) that are probably fine and can be chalked up to the fantasy equivalent of Translation Convention (i.e. none of it is actually English but it’s being localized for the reader’s convenience). The second is terms that refer to a specific concrete thing that comes from our world (France, Achilles); those you should probably try to avoid including those when you can, instead writing around them or coming up with equivalents that appropriately reference your world.

Second ask, I’ve seen it done many different ways. Primarily it’s about what you want the reader to understand. If the reader needs to understand the meaning, “’[translated text],’ she said in [language]” is probably your best bet. For short sentences or phrases you can also do something like “’[Untranslated phrase],’ she said. [Translation in italics as part of the narration.]” (More than a sentence or so and that’s gonna get clunky.)If the reader isn’t supposed to understand what they’re saying because the POV character doesn’t, either the untranslated text in the original language or something like “She muttered something in [language]” would be fine. I’m of the opinion that long sections of untranslated text are really hard to pull off, both because readers tend to just skim them anyway since they can’t understand them, and because building a functional language is a huge undertaking and you really need to commit.

Mirintala: Definitely walls of untranslated text get very annoying and get skipped over a lot. Especially if you do end up translating them further down the page.

10

52/?

march update and announcement

- I couldn’t wait until the holidays, so talksprites are happening now!! I decided to redraw that Arnika from scratch (that sprite was so old), and it was such a good idea. Despite being smaller, these sprites are much more expressive, and there’s more space for body language.
The only problem is Arthur, as the dude is McFreakin’ Tall. He’s supposed to be a head or so taller than Arnika, but that cuts half of his head off… so he’s drawn as if he’s standing a little further away.

Arnika and Lina are mostly done (just need to draw a bunch of expressions), Arthur’s up next. Boy, his expressions are gonna be fun (painful) to make.

Feels like I’m improving in pixel art by the hour <3

- As an extension of the nice talksprites, the overall look of the game might be getting an upgrade with custom transparent text boxes! Or maybe not. They’ll require some common-eventing, I’ll try it and see if it works/is worth the trouble. There will also be more colour variations for different areas.

- Otherwise, some small programming things were done - rest points, dialogue, etc. Music was received (thanks! :>). And… this brings me to the announcement:

I decided to make a shroom soup demo!

The final product will be quite a long game, and I’m not really sure when it will be done. Buuuut, I am dying to share at least a little bit of it with the world, get some feedback, have something sort-of-released. So, it’s gonna happen! Probably in the next month or 2, and unlike the last time I tried to set a release date, that’s actually not impossible.

I’ll work hard during my break to get it ready, so stay tuned 💖

I met a really great guy at a birthday party 4 years ago. We talked, we danced and we drunk kissed that night. Unlike most drunk kisses, this one did not get awkward. We continued talking, made long walks at a lake nearby and became really close friends. 

He then told me that he loved me. But I was too confused with myself and my life to get into a relationship. I was depressed at the time. I did not know what to do, as much as I enjoyed his company, I felt like I could not be good to him in a relationship. I gave him a confused couple of days after he confessed his love and he got mad because he did not understand. 

We did not talk for a few months but all of a sudden I got a text from him. He said his ipod fell and the screen was broken in so many pieces that they started to fell out. He said it made him think of me. Mine was also broken and we used to laugh about it. I was so happy to hear from him.

We started our friendship again and it felt so save and happy but he also seemed different. I recognized little things from myself and my depression in him but didn’t really thought about it. We started talking less after a few months. Not because something happened but because he was to busy trying to pretend to be someone he is not. All kind of stories came to me about him stealing and talking drugs.

One night I got a text from him asking if I wanted to go out with him the next day. He said he missed me. I had to play a performance so I couldn’t. I told him I would love to see him soon.

He killed himself the day after.

Hi, lovelies! ^^

So, today, I decided to make a masterpost for studying with your notes - how to take notes, how to make your notes more colorful, brighter and how to learn something from them <3 This is my first masterpost, so I am sorry, if it won’t be as great, as are other’s… ^^ 

 ~ People who inspired me and I love their blogs <3 : @academla , @elkstudies @theorganisedstudent , @scribblednotesincoats , @hayley-studies … thank you!

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Taking notes in class, so you can study with them at home:

  • The most important thing is to listen to your teacher, when she/he is talking about subject matter/theme of class. Either your teacher does or doesn’t give you notes - write everything important, everything you found interesting and everything you think you should use in life, in studying for exams or other subjects.
  • Give up on colors & aesthetic. Try to get as much informations as possible. 
  • Don’t be afraid or shy - I know it is hard - but, ask about anything you don’t understand, maybe several times if you need. Don’t forget to write down explanation!
  • If your teacher give you notes - make sure you wrote down everything that is written on the board.
  • Don’t just “I will memorize this, I don’t need to write it down.” Write. It. Down. Even things you knew or learned years ago.

Studying with notes at home (or anywhere, where you feel comfortable):

  • You will need much more than notes you wrote in the class.
  • Take a textbook, student’s book or anything where you learn from at school and what matches the subject matter. (If you don’t have one from school, look down ^^)
  • Either you have or don’t have a text/student’s book do a research on the web (try also different sites than wikipedia, use from several choices of key words and the Ctrl+F might be helpful) or in the library/internet book store/kindle/iBooks (find your own textbook ^^).
  • Write down everything important you found - take notes like you are in class again.
  • Read the whole text about subject matter, if you have your textbook. Or read what you have found on the web.
  • Read it again.
  • And once again.
  • Complete the notes you took when you first saw your researched text with thing that are new for you.
  • Take the notes from class. Take the notes from research. Take a blank page. They are a mess, aren’t they?
  • Rewrite your notes to a blank paper/to your notebook both together, the ones from class and the ones from research, so they will give you a real subject matter. Like it is a story line. Only with one color for now.
  • Now, take your highlighters, color pens, gel pens, sparkles, glitters, sticky notes, anything colorful. Make it aesthetic.
  • Read your notes again, while you are making them beautiful.
  • Use a color coding, if you need.
  • Now, look at your notes. You like them, don’t you? ^^ I know you do.
  • Read the research and text book again.
  • Read the notes.

Congratulations! You did it! You are ready for your exam!

And if you feel like you still don’t know it, try to make another research, or read your notes and texts again. It will help <3

So, that’s it! I hope you like it!


Love to y'all, Simme <3

Why I don’t think Gabriel Agreste is Hawkmoth/Papillion

There are many arguments on this subject, including comparisons with Gabriel and Papillion’s physical appearances, but I wanted to point out something that really makes me doubt that Adrien’s dad is the one who Ladybug and Chat Noir are constantly fighting.

First of all, I want to state my theory. My theory is that Papillion is either a family member, perhaps a brother or cousin of Gabriel’s, or an old rival of Gabriel’s who wanted to marry catmom. When catmom disappeared, this rival of Gabriel’s took it as an opportunity to use a miraculous to find her, and maybe even wanted to show catmom that he was the better man for her because he went to extraordinary lengths to find her. 


Also, take a look at the picture above. Do you really think that Thomas and the writers of Miraculous would just give it to us that easily? Come on. There’s got to be some element of surprise, I really don’t think they’d give away the big secret with a simple picture of Adrien’s mom. Besides that, here is the first reason why I don’t think Gabriel is Papillion: I think he is/was the holder of the peacock miraculous. How in the world could catmom just disappear, perhaps been abducted, with a miraculous in her possesion? Can you imagine someone trying to kidnap Marinette or Adrien? Their kwamis probably would have sensed the threat, just like they can tell when someone is about to come in a room. And no good mother (we’ve all seen how Adrien looked at her picture, she was a good mother) would willingly leave her family behind without a trace. No kwami protected catmom from disappearing=she never had miraculous. I know this is an unpopular theory, but it is the only theory that makes sense to me. But enough backstory, lets point out the obvious differences between Gabriel and Hawkmoth.


Papillion, even though he’s evil, is talkative and expressive. Even though he’s talking to himself, he’s constantly smiling, making puns, and willingly expresses his reactions to failure. Gabriel almost never shows very much emotion. When he does, it is usually a negative emotion, and is very controlled, except that one time when he was talking to Ladybug about how perfect his son is (that scene melted my heart). Does Gabriel act like a jerk because he is a jerk? No. My theory is that he keeps in all of his emotions to avoid getting akumatized. Gabriel knows that if Papillion got a hold of him, he could find the peacock miraculous and get a lead on where catmom is. I think that is also the reason that he shelters Adrien so much. Not because he’s uptight and unreasonable, but because he’s terrified that Papillion will use his son to get to Gabriel.

You’ve had enough emotions for today. Gabriel is desperately trying to prevent his son from getting akumatized. He doesn’t want Adrien to go to public school, make real friends, be exposed to the world, because that would also be exposing him to things that could stir his emotions enough for an akuma to come. Gabriel only let Adrien go to school when he saw how much being sheltered was killing him, and Gabriel did it as a last resort, knowing his son could get akumatized if being locked up made him so sad and angry.

I mean come on. Look at this. Gabriel loves his son. He’s kept himself closed away from Adrien to protect the both of them. However, when someone Papillion possessed, someone who was after Gabriel, who was in their house, came near his son, it was probably Gabriel’s undoing. He couldn’t help but show emotion. And then there’s the matter of the ring:

Excuse the quality of the image, but he knows. He knows. This is not the face of an evil Papillion plotting to get a ring, but the face of a father who is terrified for his son. Can you imagine what he was thinking in that moment? How horribly ironic, that the one person he loves and is trying to protect most is the one who is risking his life every day to battle Gabriel’s sworn enemy. Gabriel allowed himself to internally freak out for a moment, before he pulled back and simply said, “I never noticed you wore a ring before.” Maybe Gabriel is plotting to get the ring, but for entirely different reasons. And even if Gabriel was Papillion, he would stop sending out akumas the second he found out that Adrien was Chat Noir. He is not evil, he loves his son, and is having a terrible time trying to find a safe way to do the right thing. 

Also, one last thing: I love the idea of there coming a day that Ladybug and Chat Noir have lost a difficult battle, have lost all hope, and are cornered by Papillion himself, when BAM: Peacock Gabriel flies in and saves the day. No one touches his son.

seriously though, every game people have been like “But Is It A Game” about is clearly identifiable as theatre

interactive fiction, where people are like “it’s too gamey to be literature but it’s not gamey enough to be a game”? theatre

video games are as reliant on the player audience to interpret and provide context and tell stories as theatre is. your experience of a game can be entirely different depending on what you’ve heard who say about it

cinema and comics can teach you things about presentation but the interactivity of video games really lends itself to rediscovering and repurposing theatrical principles

one of the things i love about good theatre is one of the things i love about my favorite video games: there’s so much going on that there’s no way for you to see or understand it all on one experience

and no iteration, performance, or playthrough of a game is ever the same, making theatre and video games the only two art forms i can think of where the “text” (from a media analysis perspective) is different every time, because though every production or playthrough will share elements (lines, design, crucial scenes), an actor could get sick or the player could break the game’s sequence, creating an entirely new variation of the experience

but also, as ever, i wish people would stop trying to use new mediums to replicate the possibilities of other mediums. cinema can do things literature can’t, tv can do things film can’t, video games can do things cinema can’t, comics can do things video games can’t, etc etc

like it’s been a century and i think we’ve only really started to get into things movies can do that other mediums can’t in the last fifty or so, and video games are so much newer than that, i’m so pumped to see what else they can do that we haven’t even seen yet, and i wish people would stop pushing for more filmic games or more tabletoppy games when like, figure out the shit video games can do and do that (but also like….do the thing your story needs. just because you can include cinematics doesn’t mean you need to, if that’s not the kind of game you’re making)