also people sensitive to language should probably not read this or talk to me ever

anonymous asked:

Pls stop spreading misinformation on wolfdogs. Your wolfdog could have never been as docile or easy to keep as you claim, if it was a real wolf dog. Please stop making people think wild animals can be pets, it hurts real wolves and leads to the abuse and creation of real wolfdogs, that always end up in shelters for their extreme aggression, especially for children. packwestwolfdogrescue post 136651561365 explains how hard it actually is to keep a real wolfdog. Your Mazel story is a harmful lie

To be totally clear, I am of the opinion that people SHOULD NOT keep wolfdogs as pets, should NOT breed wolfdogs, or anything simmilar.  That post was a love letter to a good friend I had growing up, but should also be read as “HOLY SHIT THAT COULD HAVE GONE BADLY.”  My family got extremely lucky with Mazel, but if I found a wolfdog at a shelter now?  I’d do my best to make sure it got taken to a rescue.

Absolutely nothing in my post was a fabrication, and I have presented the facts about Mazel to the best of my knowledge.  However, some more context might be helpful in understanding WHY things did not go badly:

  • I call Mazel High-content in the original post because that’s what the vet told us.  Further reading from sources more diplomatic than yourself indicate she was more likely mid-to-low content.
  • Literally nobody in my house yelled.  Ever.  It was a rule.  If you had a disagreement, you took a time out and waited until you’d calmed down enough to talk about it in a civilized manner.  There was also no alcohol or other intoxicants in the house.  It was a very sober, calm and quiet place.
  • Mazel was probably five when my parents got her, and seven when I was born.  Very much a settled adult who had been living with humans her whole life by then, not a younger animal that wasn’t used to people.
  • Mazel was never allowed to play with us as babies/toddlers without at least one adult in the room with us, usually on the blanket right next to her.  More than a few times, mom and dad had to separate us because she wanted to play harder than we could handle, but they were there to make sure nobody got hurt.
  • When I say she went to pick me up from school- I lived immediately across the street from school, so I would come out of my classroom and call her to come… from where my mom was standing 50 feet away in the driveway.  She was also about 12 when we started doing this.
  • Mom and Dad put a HELL of a lot of time and effort into bonding with her, making the house a safe place and making her a part of the family.  She wasn’t like most dogs that are eager to please and easy-going, but they really rose to the occasion of training her, and continued to stay on top of monitoring her behavior throughout her entire life.

Furthermore- Have a little faith in the average reader?  I can read posts about jumping buses on motorcycles or eating cow brains or whatever and go “Wow!  So Cool! I’m never doing that!”.  The tags on the post are full of people who go “Neat!  But not a great idea”.  I can love the dangerous and dumb parts of my childhood without endorsing them, and I think most readers are smart enough to understand that distinction.  

I get that you’re upset- this is a sensitive and emotional issue for a lot of people, but inflammatory language and accusations are not going to do any good.  If you want to talk about the issue, come off anon so we can have an actual discussion, and mind your manners.

Writing psychotic characters

On this blog we mostly talk about the SZ-spectrum experience, but every now and then I think it is important for us to talk about how non-psychotic people interact with us and what we would like, ideally, from those interactions. A lot of people want to write psychotic characters–something I’m all for–but struggle to write us in a way that is realistic, compassionate, and a good representation. Here are some guidelines to follow–whether psychotic or not–about writing us:

1. All psychotic experiences are different.
This may seem obvious, since all human experiences are different, but I often see tropes repeated when it comes to psychotic characters that are not necessarily indicative of psychotic experiences or are shorthand for “this character is psychotic (and I didn’t do my research).
For example, I see a lot of psychotic characters written with delusions of persecution (”they’re coming to get me”!) and delusions of reference. These delusions are common, but they’re not always identical. Additionally, sometimes such delusions can have basis in reality or traumatic origins. For example, I am extremely paranoid about antisemitism. It’s something I think about a lot. Growing up in France, there is very much a real basis for my paranoia. However, the degree to which I fret about this has been described as delusional by some of my mental health professionals. Similarly, if someone had an experience where at school people talked about them behind their back all the time, this might have fomented in them delusions of reference.
Finally, some of the delusions you hear about a lot–”I’m a demon, other people are demons, etc. other supernatural stuff”–do exist for some people but they’re not necessarily indicative of individual psychotic experiences. My advice: Read things written by psychotic people. This can be books, blogposts, TED talks, interviews, poetry, etc. This will give you an idea of the variety of psychotic experiences and some insight into how we experience psychosis.

2. You can write psychotic villains, but write them with compassion.
Honestly, we’d prefer if you not write us as villains, but at this point I’m frankly so used to psychotic (or implicitly psychotic) villains that I pretty much start rooting for the baddies from the word go. 
However, psychosis should not be the cause/source of their villainy
As an example, in series two of Marvel’s Agents of SHIELD there was a character named Sunil Bakshi who was one of the villains and said, in dialogue, to have BPD (borderline personality disorder). This information, however, was not used to explain his villainy, rather, it was used as a background to show how he might have been exploited by other villains. Bakshi’s BPD was never shown to be an inherently bad part of him. Rather, it showed how the other, NT villains might have used it against him. 
It’s important to remember that more psychotic people are the victims or crimes than perpetrators and many, many criminals are NT. My advice: Consider the ways in which psychosis effects people and how that might result in positive traits instead of negative ones. For example, many people with BPD are extremely sensitive to their friends’ feelings and care deeply about them. Many people with Schizophrenia are highly intelligent and skilled in maths and languages.

3. Psychosis has multiple symptoms, not just ones convenient for the plot.
Since being diagnosed as Schizoaffective I’ve come to discover that there are actually a great deal of symptoms of psychosis, not simply the ones we see on television. Hallucinations and delusions are part of it, yes, but they are certainly not all of it.
Psychotic people necessarily perceive and interact with the world differently than NT and non-psychotic people do. We experience language differently than non-psychotic people do. Sometimes this manifests in severely disorganised speech–aka Word Salad–sometimes this manifests in odd phrasing. 
In the Vampire Academy novels by Richelle Mead the character of Adrian Ivashkov will have times when he waxes bizarrely poetic and will discuss nothing but a strange subject and with odd word choice and a kind of odd perspective. This, I find, is very accurate to my experience. Sometimes my phrasing is incomprehensible and I tend to lock down on specific subjects and discuss them thoroughly.
Psychotic symptoms can occur even outside of a psychotic episode. My strange phrasing is pretty constant in my life, as is my different approach. We are programmed differently and that is a necessary part of our experience as humans. My advice: Research the different symptoms of psychosis and choose which symptoms your character experiences. Research these symptoms and know that there are varying levels of severity.

4. Our lives are not tragedy and should not be written as such.
Often I see even the most compassionate authors make this mistake–writing psychosis as if it’s the worst thing that could possibly happen to someone and as death or a death sentence.
Psychosis is not death. Our lives may be difficult and may have different challenges than those in other people’s lives, but they are lives worth living and valuable as much as any person. Psychosis is not a death sentence. It is a different way of experiencing the world. 
Know that this isn’t romanticising psychosis–this is realistic. Romanticising psychosis is writing it in a fetishistic way or as something without problems or as something that is only problems. Like every other life experience, psychosis is nuanced and that nuance includes highs and lows, good and bad. My advice: Consider the nuanced experiences you’ve had in your life, and remember that psychotic lives are equally nuanced. Know about the challenges we face, but don’t imagine that are lives are nowt but tragedy.

5. For many people, psychosis is not a consistent state of being.
Some psychotic people are in a state of psychosis nigh constantly, but this is not true for all psychotic people. For me, psychotic episodes could last from a few hours to a month. For some people psychotic episodes last a couple of months. During these episodes, there are varying levels of lucidity. I had a long psychotic episode last summer (that I think lasted about a month) during which sometimes I was hyper aware of how odd I was being and other times it was as if I did not even exist. Some of my memory of that period of time is spotty, but the memories I do have are odd ones. 
If you’re writing a psychotic character, remember that there are periods of time when that character is not experiencing a psychotic episode. My advice: Consider what psychotic symptoms might be present outside of a psychotic episode and what psychotic symptoms would be present during and episode. Ask the advice of people living with psychosis as to how their experiences differ during and outside of episodes.

6. Medication is a different experience that requires research.
If you are writing a psychotic person who is medicated, this means you will also need to research what kind of medication they are on and what kind of side effects they might be experiencing. This also might involving, if the story takes place in the United States, what medications their insurance would require them to take or try first before getting on something more desirable. 
Writing a psychotic character who is on medication means a different representation of the psychotic experience, but one no less valid. For me, medication has effectively stopped me experiencing psychotic episodes, however, I do still experience some psychotic symptoms. Additionally, if I miss medication, or if I fail a medication, that’s also a specific experience. Missing meds doesn’t necessarily mean immediately falling into a psychotic episode, but for me it did mean some strange behaviour. My advice: Research what kind of meds your character will be on and what that means for them. Read things written by psychotic people on medication. 

7. Therapy is nothing like it’s shown on television/in the cinema.
If you’ve ever been to therapy you probably know this, but if not let me just tell you that some of the stuff I’ve seen on television of it has been frankly bizarre. When I was going to therapy, I rarely heard from my therapist “and how does that make you feel”… sure they would try and suss out my emotions and stuff, but it’s not the cliched image you see on television. It’s usually more of a conversation. Also, my therapist and I would work on specific things–like my conversation skills, communication problems, setting boundaries, self-care, challenging delusions, grounding techniques, trust issues, recovery… etc. It was never just “how was your week”? or something. It was always deeper than that.
Now, meeting with a psychiatrist is different. You usually just tell the psychiatrist what problems you’ve been having, your symptoms, etc. and they help make sure you’re on a good dose of whatever you’re on or if you need any supplemental meds. These meetings are usually shorter. My advice: Research into what therapy is like. Don’t look to media portrayals because they are very unrealistic and frankly somewhat ableist.

8. We’re not “crazy” or “psycho”.
When I talk about romanticising mental illness this is what I’m talking about. Writing a realistic or even positive portrait of mental illness is not romanticising it. It’s just not being unnecessarily negative. Most portrayals I would say of mental illness in the media are fetishistic, unrealistic, and romanticised.
I know many people on the SZ-spectrum look up to her, and I can understand that and there is nothing wrong with that, but personally I find Harley Quinn an infuriating character. I feel like her “crazy” (especially in this new film) is supposed to be sexy. Same with Jared Leto’s interpretation of the Joker as someone whose “crazy” essentially means “countre-culture”. Psychosis is not sexy. Psychosis is not political. 
I also see a lot of people saying that people that vote a certain way or believe certain things must be “crazy” or “psychotic”. This is not true. Psychotic people come with all different sorts of political opinions and beliefs. Being religious is not “psychotic”. Being liberal or conservative is not “crazy”. And psychotic people who are religious, liberal, or conservative are just as valid and their views are just as valid as those of NT people. 
DON’T write a “crazy” character for comic relief. DON’T write a “crazy” character to be sexy. DON’T write a “crazy” character to be some sort of learning experience for your non-psychotic characters. We are people. We are not props to be used by the plot. My advice: If your character falls into any of the above descriptions, carefully evaluate what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. Remember that your readership will not all be NT. We exist.

9. All aspects of our lives are effected by our psychosis, on some level or another.
We’ve discussed this previously on this blog, but psychosis does effect different aspects of life. It effects diet. It effects religious views. It effects physical health. It effects sexuality. –All of these things are valid, but they are not the experienced the same way as they are for people who are NT.
For example, many people who are Schizophrenic avoid drugs and alcohol because for some of us it can exacerbate our symptoms. Many people on the SZ-spectrum have a complicated relationship with their sexuality. Many people on the SZ-spectrum may hold different religious views than what might be considered “normal”. Our experiences are valid ones, and they are different ones. Even walking around in public, my experience walking around is different than that of a NT person. My experience travelling is different. I have to make decisions considering the impact it could have on my mental health. My friendships and familial relationships are effected by my psychosis. It doesn’t mean that I don’t love these people the same if not more than an NT person does. Many psychotic people have to deal with frequent socially-acceptable conversations about eugenics and sectioning, where we have to confront the reality that some people who like to have us forcibly sterilised. Even within the mentally ill community, such as there is one, we have to deal with people of different diagnoses saying things like “I’m depressed I’m not crazy!” My advice: Consider how simply the knowledge that you are different from many people in the world effects you. Consider how it effects us in our interactions with the world. 

10. We are full human beings with multiple aspects to our identity.
Psychosis may be a big part of our lives and our experiences, but we have many other experiences and many other aspects of our identities. For example, my religious background, nationality, ethnicity, skills, gender identity, sexuality, and interests are all huge aspects of what makes up me as a person. If someone asked me to describe myself I would probably say “French, Actor, Jewish” before I would even think of Schizoaffective. I speak multiple languages. I do web design. I write fanfiction. I’m active in social justice circles. I like trying new makeup. I love exercising. I’m starting to read more. I love dogs. I like learning new languages. I love to travel. I love tea… these are all important aspects of what makes me me. SZ may effect them, but it is not my sole defining characteristic. My advice: Make a list of character traits that your character possesses. List SZ or psychosis at the bottom. It’s there. It’s important. But it’s not the only thing that’s important in their life. A black schizophrenic character has a very different life than a white schizophrenic character.

I hope that this helps! If you’ve anything to add to this, feel free to do so. Feel free to also hit me up if you’ve any questions!

Day by Day

A/n: guess whos back,,, back again. also i believe the fic itself is much better than the description bc im bad at summaries soo,,, keep that in mind 

Summary: Dan has struggled with weight issues his entire life, whether it be from elementary school kids on the playground, or his own mind supplying him with bad, destructive thoughts. When he meets Phil, he has someone to share his troubles with. Phil wants to help, and they agree to take things day by day.

Words: 5.6k

Warnings: angst, weight issues, self image, ed characteristics (binge eating, starving etc), swearing, food mentions, light smut. stay safe and dont read if you think it’ll bother/upset you <33


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saphirarose0  asked:

So I'm still in high school and thinking about a career in anthro. I love it more than almost anything! But I just can't convince myself that I should go after it, because of jobs. Most people aren't out on sites digging. Could you give some advice in a few areas? 1. What should i do in high school to see if i should go into it and prepare myself to? 2. In college what should I look for and do to get ahead of the game? 3. And actual areas of common work? I can't find much on this topic.

Awesome!! Let’s see if I can help at all.

Now, I’m American which means anthropology is actually four different areas: cultural, linguistic, physical, and archaeology. I’m personally culture, but some of my best friends are archaeology, since we’re all the same major. With that said, I’m assuming that “sites digging” means you’re either interested in archaeology or paleoanthropology, since the other two disciplines will probably never call for actual physical labor. 

Paleoanthropology is the study of past hominins, like homo erectus or australopithecines. Two of my professors do this. The one is THE go-to paleoanthropologist for neandertals so he’s constantly going to Croatia and helping identify remains in cave sites, but he has plenty of stories about going to Africa (Ethiopia, I think) and helping with some of the earliest hominins with the Leakeys (yeah, he’s a big deal, and yeah he’s old). Anyways, Paleos do digging but would mostly be teaching or identifying remains in labs. They also require a PhD, I believe specifically a medical degree, so you’ll be doing practicals with people who will go off be to surgeons. There are probably universities though that offer specific paleo graduate programs though so you can always look for that. Also, if hominins aren’t your thing, archaeologists often need to seek out paleos or people who look into animal remains found on sites so that’s another area entirely. 

Archaeologists are a whole other thing. They study past humans but in particular they look at material culture, so likes pots and arrowheads and literal garbage heaps. What is most important for archaeologists, from what I understand, is going to field school. This you’ll do either after your junior year of college during the summer or the summer after you graduate. It’s an excursion to a field site for like a month in the middle of the woods and they teach you how to actually work the site. I was offered to go with a scholarship but declined. There’s always money available for this so if you go, have someone else pay lol. This is more important than the actual bachelors degree. Once you have field school, you can apply for any starting position archaeology job. And to say that ‘no ones out there digging’ is untrue. The US govt and universities constantly hire people, even especially right-out-of-college kids, to do ‘recovery’ or ‘protective’ archaeology or whatever its called. Basically the govt wants to destroy some land and they can’t because there’s stuff there and archaeologists need to show up and take care of it. Otherwise I know past arch majors who work in museums now. And, I even know people like me who are even going to graduate school for archaeology so that they can study a specific area or do theory or be professors. So there’s more options than just straight field stuff. 

1. What should i do in high school to see if i should go into it and prepare myself to? 

Paleo is most related to biology and anatomy. So those are classes you’d want to take. Anatomy is so fun anyways so even if you don’t want paleo I’d do it. 

Archaeology is most like history. Though I often don’t give archs too much credit, they do need to understand cultural theory, so if you can find a geography class, typically that will teach you stuff too. 

As for other preparing, visit universities by you with anthro programs, even if you don’t like the university, and talk to the anthro professors. Anthro professors are THE BEST and they are so fun and just really accepting. They’ll definitely be biased about with subfield you go into, of course, but if you give them some idea of what you like they can point you in the right direction. 

2. In college what should I look for and do to get ahead of the game?

What is really important about grad school is knowing 1. who are the professors and 2. what do they like. I’m sure this applies to undergrad school too though when I chose my college I did it based on financials (I’m poor af). You want your interests to align with the professors, but when you’re an undergrad, you’re not gonna know what you want. And, if you’re going to an American university, you’ll likely be forced by the curriculum to take classes from each subfield. So you may go in thinking ‘yeah I’m an archaeologist’ and realize that linguistics is the shit. So the best advice is to take any class you find interesting because you may just fall in love, like I did. And talk to your professors they want to help. Don’t be afraid to reach out to other areas too, like geography or history, because anthro majors almost always have a minor (I had two). I think it’s hard to ‘get ahead’ because really what that requires is a lot of reading but academic articles are going to be beyond you because you haven’t taken even the basic courses yet. Reading any anthropology articles will help. I personally follow the AAA Facebook page, and they always post stuff, and that’ll get you a legit understanding of contemporary anthro. And for the love of god, study abroad.

3. And actual areas of common work? I can’t find much on this topic.

Sorry kid, no such thing. HA. Okay so again depends on the subfield. Archaeology I gave some examples. But the thing about a BA or BS is that no matter what your major is, you can get a job outside of it. I know so many people who say ‘there’s no jobs in that wth are you doing’ and really anthropologists have the one thing that everyone wants: cultural sensitivity. I can get a job with NGOs, internships with the state dept., I know someone who works with refugees, someone who helps at womens shelters, someone who actually works for an agency that stops human traffickers, someone who works for a cruise line and gives tours at the tourist archaeological sites in multiple languages. Some join the peace corps, some work for USAID, some are literally helping relocate people who are already affected by global warming. It’s nuts. No job will ever say ‘anthropologist wanted’ but they will say ‘cultural understanding’ or ‘social sciences’ or ‘writing’ or ‘diversity sensitivity’. And besides, you can get any job as it is. I know anthro people who now work for insurance companies. Your major literally does not matter. 

Anyways, cultural anthropologists as an actual career means being a professor to help fund your research. Same for linguists, and paleos. PhD = professor almost every time. Which isn’t a bad thing but keep that in mind. I personally want to get my masters degree and try being an editor. I do it part time for my professor and realize I really liked it so why the hell not. 

I’m posting this publicly because I know plenty of archaeologists and paleos follow this blog, I want them to offer resources or tips for you since I’m cultural and can’t give as much insight as I want to. Don’t be afraid to inbox me any other questions. Good luck, and welcome to anthropology. @saphirarose0

How to Avenge 101 [Part 15]

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A/N: So here’s Part 15! Thank you to everyone who’s been messaging me, I LOVE talking about your ideas for How to Avenge 101. I’m sorry this took a while to write – I got stuck at a certain point and couldn’t get the right words down for aaages. It’s another long chapter, and not as action based for now, but there’s a lot of tension going on for the Agent!

Word Count: 3,923

Warnings: Mention of previous injuries, language, fluffinessssss.

You woke up somewhere very clean.

You blinked your eyes open, blearily trying to focus on your surroundings. Yep – very clean room, slightly uncomfortable bed, a soft beeping from the heart monitor – You’d made it to a medical room. Your right leg felt strangely numb, but you ignored it in favour of searching for the button or string or whatever device it was that would tell the medical room you’d woken up.

“At ease Agent.”

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