also i know this isn't really a quote but i can do what i want so

  • Me: having a structured life is exhausting!
  • Therapist: I understand. Let's say just get up in the morning, get some breakfast, go for a walk...and that's it for a start.
  • Me: *internally: sounds reasonable, but that means first fighting against my will to just stay in bed and act as if I'm not existing. Getting up either way and facing my face and body in the mirror. There's an 80% chance that it's one of those days and I hate myself just so fucking much I could scream. But there's also a chance I look in the mirror and find a person that does not seem to be familiar to me looking back at me. Still, now you want me to shower and wash this body I find really disgusting. I have to see every single scar I have and maybe feel the burn of fresh cuts. Then I have to put on cloth, brush my teeth and my hair and do my makeup, as I can't go outside without hiding my ugly face under layers of primers and foundations and powders and highlighters and fake lashes and a perfect contour and a big nude fake smile. I spend money I don't have to make myself look good enough for myself to endure my own appearance. I remember to take my meds. Now I'm dressed (in clothes that hopefully say 'i don't care' when really I care a lot) and can go to the kitchen to prepare food that I know I won't be able to eat in 50% of the cases. There's also a good chance that I eat it and then find myself throwing up and ruining my makeup feeling every single disgusting cell of fat on my body vibrate while trying to breathe. Well either way let's say I might redo my make-up, brush my teeth again and step outside. I maybe take my horse with me and walk through the neighbourhood. I have to see people. I feel anxious. I would love to just turn around and go back home. But I keep on walking, trying to seem selfconfident so my horse and neighbours can't see or feel my insecurity. I'll try to be friendly and act normal even though I'm sure they hate me and laugh about me. Still if the communication between my horse and me isn't perfect today I'll probably cry and if a neighbour just looks at me in a way that i interpret to be unfriendly or cold or annoyed I'll probably cry too. Let's say I'm back home. Now it's like 11 in the morning. What do I do? By now I'm an emotional wreck, tired as hell, probably planing on how to harm myself with one half of my brain while the other half bundles it's last energy to prevent exactly this from happening. How do I survive the rest?*
  • Me: I'll try.

lurkeymclurker  asked:

Can you tell us about the Empires propaganda machine?

Later, after, in all the holonews segments and all the long ‘net articles furnishing further analysis, they—and here ‘they’ is vaguely defined, reporting is is too scattershot in a galaxy marked by lightyears and hyperlanes—will not be able to pinpoint the place where they went wrong. Where it was all tipped from earnest republican v. separatist reporting to laying the groundwork for imperial v. everyone else. When they stopped, or when their blades met with armor they couldn’t pierce, or—

But by then it’s too late. It’s too late, the Empire is already wound itself through every word spoken and every reference made; it’s in everything, a dark undercurrent of emotion and justification—don’t you love the Republic? don’t you care about other galactic citizens? don’t you want to follow the laws and reward those who have justified their existence as you have justified yours? you have worked so hard, the day is long and the rewards few, why would you give those to others? why would you share?

(’Sharing’ is a dirty word, under the Empire. To each according to his strength, that is the Imperial motto. But ‘strength’ is a narrow gate, and it cuts many off at the knees, the ankles, those unguarded places—)

There is no question that human beings are afraid of difference they have been afraid of that since whatever primordial swamp they crawled out of but—they have always put it aside, they have always at least pretended to the idea of recognizing other species, the claim of xenos to homeworlds. the equal right of existence. Et cetera. Never mistake how hard human beings will try, when confronted with tentacles, if there is profit or benefit in ignoring any difference.

But humans also reproduce like orburs in spring, and they colonize, multiply out into the galaxy like a plague. Like a—spore. Like something biological and not, because nothing in nature moves without regard to the animus they generate. And they are a tetchy species, measuring everything in relative value. It doesn’t matter if—

Luke does not stop to question the holoradio adverts he hears, the faded propos papering the Toshe public hall, saying ‘JOIN THE EMPIRE TODAY! FLY FOR THE EMPIRE! BE BRAVE BE TRUE BE STALWART!’ Anywhere is better than here, right? Get closer to that bright center and anything is better—

(It is still hard to find that bright line between the Republic under the tyranny of the Clone Wars and the perpetual state the Empire embodies. That is just how these things go.)

Leia is on the first line of defense for the Rebellion, she watches propos and listens to senators argue, quoting lines from holodramas—ironically, but also as illustrations. (She learns very young that a well-told story, even fictional, has quicker legs than one badly told and true. She disapproves, but that is the way of things.) It is amazing how many late Republicans would have supported he Empire despite explicitly stating they did not support the Empire, its agents, or any move toward a less democratic structure of government. It is amazing how weak it makes them seem, given what she knows about the inner workings of the capitol. It is—

Han is good at finding cantinas where, if the Imperial propos cut into he grav-ball match, everyone groans aloud. He smiles a little against the curve of the mug as everyone curses out the poor bastard who has to—

(Han always feels a little bad for him. Her. Whoever—he knows what it’s like to have your neck under someone’s boot, to know you don’t really have choice in this. At least he’s busy smuggling, can’t be much a spokesperson that way.)

The Resistance does not have the access the Empire does, but the Rebellion has feed hackers, holonet ‘ware corrupters. The Alliance blasts every inbox with public reveals of complaints, salaries, donations. Saw Guerra’s people de-encrypt transmissions, and release them to the ‘net in vicious anarchic fashion. (Make of it what you will, that Tarkin sent a transmission to Krennic saying ‘stop being so gentle on your workforce,’ after Krennic’s 12-hour days resulted in its first overworked, dehydrated, malnourished death.)

Regional reporters dump their findings onto the holonet, saying, look at what the governor is doing, we buried the jedi but we found, we—

look, they say in unison. look at this. you are not alone. you are not crazy. something has shifted, something significant has changed and you are not alone in thinking this. We are here, together, and this is dangerous, this is—

you are not alone. you are right, your perception of the world is—there is an objective reality, and they depart from it. you are right. you are sane. it is the galaxy that has gone insane in the interim.

“Senator?” the holonet reporter asks, when Mon Mothma falls silent, and she is smiling down at the podium. “Senator, if you could—”

“According to the study conducted by the Galactic Agency for—” she begins, and the briefing room falls so quiet she is afraid she has lost them. But there is a holonet reporter in the first row who has pressed her hand to her mouth, even as her eyes are wide, fixed on Mon’s face; and out of the corner of her eye, Mon can see Leia Organa (so much Bail and Breha’s daughter, even now) pressing her lips together, her eyes shut. And this is good. They are good, they are better. Here is the study. Here is the definition. Here is the closest she knows how to get to objective reality.

She justifies. From the root word, meaning justice. Meaning to make right. Meaning, more than what is what is available on the surface, more than what is unquestioned. More. 

So much more.

The Original Plot of Epic Mickey 2

I found out today that the person who posted the original story line of Epic Mickey 2, before it was rewritten because of time constraints, deleted their blog without a warning. Though I don’t know them personally, I hope they are ok and things are going well for them.

That being said, I decided to repost the orginal over here since the post is no longer available. I do not take any credit for finding this. all that credit should go to McBasilRocks, who unfortunately I can not link due to being deactivated. I had to seriously dig to recover this, and I decided to repost it here before something happened and it was lost completely.

When I say that this was the original plot, I mean that it was the VERY original plot. And this wasn’t fan made either- as explained in the post, this was found while digging through the Wikipedia page for Epic Mickey, and was taken down by DISNEY for leaking prior to the game’s release.

Anyways; here’s the post, word-for-word, about the very very original plot of Epic Mickey 2:

Keep reading

A little love for the signs (From a Libra sun, Leo moon)
  • Dear Aries: It doesn't matter how dark times are, you are there for me. And I know you will always support me. You can make me happy like no one else can. You can say something that isn't even funny and I have to laugh with you. I could talk all night with you. About anything. You are full of light, full of life. You deserve everything bright.
  • Dear Taurus: Even though I've never really been so close to you to say that, I want you to know that you're worth it. You are beautiful, your smile helps people not to give up. So don't give up on yourself. You're strong and I know you smile through the pain, but it's okay. We all go through that and I wanted to tell you that you're not alone.
  • Dear Gemini: You are funny, you are witty, you always know how to make me laugh. I am inspired by you. You are so sociable, yet you know how to be alone and overthink things. You can do decisions by yourself, you don't hesistate to make the right choice. I admire you for that. Also, your art is beautiful. You are art.
  • Dear Cancer: I know we haven't been best friends. I know we had fights and that you broke my trust too often. But I realized, you are only a human being, just as me. Everyone keeps making mistakes, but no one wants to admit that. I hope for you that you'll be happy in the future. I want you to concentrate more on yourself, not on others because you are you, and no one can be that for you.
  • Dear Leo: Whenever I talk to you, it feels like we understand each other without saying a word. You are passionate and you are optimistic. You are the person I look up to, you brighten everyone's day, yet no one knows if you're dying inside. You are beautiful and you know it. You taught me it's completely fine to love yourself. So do it.
  • Dear Virgo: You're so selfless. You always try to help me, doesn't matter if you understand me or not. I know that sometimes it's hard for you to show that you care about me, but I notice in this little things you do for me that you do care. And that's fine. You're human. It's okay to break down. It's okay to talk to someone. You will get through this all. I'm right here by your side.
  • Dear Libra: I feel like everyone of you is my sister or my brother. You can make me feel special without knowing it. When we're talking about god and the world, it's like I've known you all my life, even if it's just hours. I want you to look at the mirror and say "I'm proud". Be confident. Believe in youself. Only if you try that, no one will stop you from loving yourself and the world.
  • Dear Scorpio: I don't even know where to start. You changed my life. You taught me things in an emotional way I never thought I'd experience. With every wise word you said you took my breath away. It doesn't matter how much time will fly, I will always remember you. You are my first love and you make everything feel so real. Everytime you look at me, I feel special. You taught me how to love someone and I taught you how to love yourself. Be happy. No matter how we're gonna end, I want you to remember us. You deserve the entire universe.
  • Dear Sagittarius: You doubt yourself more than anyone else. You wear that beautiful smile everyday, but inside you don't even know who you are. I have so much fun with you everytime we do something together. Don't let that happiness die. People look up on you. And you have to do your own thing. Don't give a shit what others think. Find out what you need, what you want and what you love. Everything else will come by time.
  • Dear Capricorn: You are one of the stongest yet most broken person I know. Or should I say, pretend to know? You hide your emotions, afraid of being hurt or replaced. I tell you something: There are people who love you and care about you. There is hope. You can have whatever you want in life, if you're just willing to accept your feelings and yourself.
  • Dear Aquarius: Being around you is like jumping from one cloud to another. Everything feels easier. Even maths. Life is easier with you. The weight of all the bad things in life are gone. I don't know how you're able to make me feel like this, but I'm sure it makes you very special and I hope you never stop making people feel like this because it's one of the best feelings ever.
  • Dear Pisces: If I'm sad, I know I can always talk to you. You always have a solution to my problem. Even if it's just a sentence like "It's okay, we will find a way.", it works. It makes me feel better. You're the most selfless person I've ever met and you're always there for your loved ones. Just take care of yourself, too, because your life is as important as the lives of everyone else.

anonymous asked:

What's the likelihood of 4 hout of 5 band mates engaging in gay relationships? Larry looks inarguable. Anyone with eyes to see knows they are/were in love. But even Ziam? Isn't that....unlikely? Improbable? A horrible experience to the fifth band member?

I can’t believe that you’re seriously asking me this question halfway through 2016. 

Let me help educate you as I don’t let trolls use MY BLOG to push THEIR (transparent) bullshit.

Firstly, don’t project your bullshit on Nialler. He’s been nothing but supportive of his boys.

On to your trolling ask. Quoting myself in previous asks about this topic:

Simply put, they are different couples. You can’t compare one couple you know to another. Different people, different dynamics, different stages of their relationship, different ways to interact from different personalities.

Aside from that, a TON of people can see LouisandHarry but deny anything non-platonic between ZaynandLiam, or if they see something with ZaynandLiam, assume it isn’t a relationship (which is BAFFLING to me).

LouisandHarry sparked as soon as they met, and were as obvious as fireworks. From XF/video diaries it was OBVIOUS something was there, and anyone who looks at 2010 videos can see something’s there. Since everyone was seeing it, they were forced to reel it in/put into the closet and what we see now is restricted interactions, but they still exist (just scroll through any Larry blog, there are still moments, just SLIGHTLY more subtle). Also, I think LouisandHarry have been together longer and have learned other ways of interacting that aren’t obvious touchings or verbal praise.

As for ZaynandLiam, they were a slow flame, and it took Liam a while to figure out what was going on, (cause I think Payzer 1.0 was legit). So LouisandHarry had a couple years on ZaynandLiam and are therefore at different stages in their relationship. Also, Zaynie and Liam got to learn from Harry and Louis and saw the restrictions on them. I think M!M would also have been happy for Ziam interactions because it could be used to normalize Larry interactions, and M!M didn’t realize that the Ziam interactions weren’t just ‘fan service’. Also, let’s be honest, the majority of Zaynie’s interactions in the band come from interacting with Liam or Louis, so M!M have been forcing Zouis together (they are the ones who don’t go out, despite the weed video [which if they really wanted to do damage control, they could make Zouis split up and hang out with different boys rather than each other, but that wouldn’t work with the ‘happily taken with girlfriends narrative], cause God-forbid they have fun without their girlfriends in tow).

Why is this a competition?! These are peoples lives!

One of my good friends met her husband at 16 and dated him for 10 years before they got married. However, she got married after our other friend who ended up dating another friend of ours we went to school with AFTER we finished school. Does this make either relationship less real?!

These are different relationships. I don’t understand this mentality. One is not better than the other.

The funniest part is LOUIS is the CAPTAIN of Ziam, and Harry and Nialler are clearly supportive. THEY don’t have any issue with it. It’s the ‘fans’ that do.

Louis and Harry were like a match, they just sparked and burned hot and heavy, and have settled into who they are as a couple.

Zaynie knew, from that McD’s meal - is my headcanon, and just loved Liam and became his best friend, patiently waiting for Liam to figure it out. And then, Vegas 2012 shows us he did.

Both couples have bee put through the fire, but I’m happy they have each other and the best captain in the form of Niall.

A good response from Sasha on the topic: Heteronormative Bias

Some good posts on the topic: X / X X /  X / X / X / X / X / X

A quote from someone else:

“The “It’s unlikely” argument: At least 4 queer guys out of 5

Well, it’s gonna be simple.

Let’s take a look to the Season 6 of XF (the season before 1D’s) : out of 8 male contestants (live shows), 2 are out gay men (Danyl Johnson and Joe McElderry), 4 are in a glass/light closet (Rikki Loney, Lloyd Daniels, the twins John and Edward), 1 is in a harsh closet (Olly Murs) and 1 I-can’t-know (Jamie Archer). You can check, it’s accurate.

Basically, it means at least 7 men out of 8 are not straight. Well, where are your statistics now ? Let’s face it : could it be simply because the show appeals more to queer guys than straight guys ?”

Now you can go through Ziam posts:

Ziam 

Ziam Masterposts

Declarations of Love

From the Beginning

XF Ziam

UAN Ziam

TMH Ziam

WWA Ziam

OTRA Ziam

Tattoos

Dates

anonymous asked:

I'm from Egypt where it's normal for men to hold hands. It's a sign of friendship and brotherhood and it doesn't mean that they’re gay. When you see the same in western counties, they will most likely think you're gay, which is why a bond as close as Naruto and Sasuke's will be precieved the same way, while their bond is nothing out of the ordinary here. Nobody I know thinks they’re gay. I don't know why it's so hard for some people to understand that the western culture and values is not the no

→ Naruto and Sasuke are not just friends. 
Like I explained in my post [link], Naruto and Sasuke scrapped the notion through unreliable narration. In the beginning, Naruto says that their bond is similar to a brotherhood. Later on, he corrects this and says that their bond is similar to a friendship. Especially Sasuke wants to know why Naruto is so determined to help him when they finally find the time to talk after all these years. Towards the end, Sasuke asks him the same question and wants to know what Naruto meant when he said they are friends. Suddenly, Naruto isn’t sure anymore how to answer his question because the feelings he has for Sasuke are too great and deep. We, as the readers, can notice subtle changes. Are they brothers? Friends? Lovers? They aren’t brothers, Naruto denied this. And it can’t be a normal friendship, Sasuke questioned this, i.e. there is nothing wrong with assuming that their bond is romantic.

Furthermore, I would like to point out that I wrote an essay [link] about this. I suspect you’ve read it already. This is the first argument I counter in my post. Detailed while I provide evidence and several sources. Now, let me ask you a question. What is there not to understand?


→ Kishimoto is Japanese—he is not Egyptian.
Why is that important? Well, the manga/anime is based on Japanese culture. That means you can’t compare it to your country because the sociocultural background is different. I will give you a few examples to back up my claims:

  1. When Sasuke is about to leave Konoha, Sakura confesses her love to him. Sasuke appears behind her, thanks her, and knocks her out. That was an implication for a rejection. It’s especially important to observe this cultural subtext since the series itself is heavily based on Japanese culture and tradition. It’s rude in Japan to refuse something directly. While non-Japanese people might not get it, Japanese people would clearly observe this subtext.
  2. Karin keeps the umbilical cord. You could interpret this as cultural subtext. A non-Japanese person wouldn’t get this, but Japanese people know that this is a traditional rite done by mothers. They clean the umbilical cord for you and put it in a special box to secure a healthy filial-maternal bond for the future. The box is called “Kotobuki Bako.” “Kotobuki” meaning the celebration of marriage, new birth, and longevity, while “Bako” means box. It is said that the custom was invented by a woman who desired a special object for preserving memories.
  3. Just about everything an Uchiha does is based on some sort of Japanese deity. Izanami no Mikoto is the wife and sister of Izanagi no Mikoto. She gave birth to the Japanese islands. Izanagi begat three children. Amaterasu, the sun goddess, from her left eye. Tsukuyomi, the moon god, from her right eye. And Susano’o, the god of storms, from her nose.


Western Countries are shaped by a heteronormative view.
It doesn’t make sense to say all of us assume instantly a person is gay because he/she acts in an intimate way with another person. Exactly the opposite is accurate. To quote [source] myself: “(…) People tend to describe them as ‘friends’ for the very reason that homosexual subtext is often ignored and dismissed—precisely because people assume knowingly or unknowingly heteronormativity is the norm. Moments, some fans would observe as romantic if one of them was a girl, are completely rejected—or simply derided. (…)”

I would like to point out—again—that I wrote an essay [link] about this. The explanation is right there. Besides, it’s suspicious that you resort to sophistical tactics to undermine my authority. You indirectly accuse me of being influenced by my environment; therefore, nobody should take me seriously because I’m not able to draw an objective conclusion. Are such statements really necessary? Or do they only serve the purpose to put me in a bad light? :-)


→ They never held hands. 
Naruto and Sasuke didn’t touch each other in suggestive ways, and they never held hands. I rely on the fact that they acted in a way that has a romantic connotation. Quoting [source] @blue-analytic, “(…) The moment when Naruto said to Sasuke ‘If you attack the Hidden Leaf, I’ll have no choice; I will fight you, don’t doubt that… Until that day, save your hatred. Then you can throw all of it right at me. I’m the only one who can handle all that hate! Do you understand? I’m the only one who can fulfill that duty, so I’ll bear the burden of your hatred, and I’ll die with you! Because you’re my friend!’, strengthened again how important Sasuke was to Naruto. The moment stressed their bond. Thus fulfilling the definition above. So we have clearly homosexual subtext. Now, let me quote this:

‘Also, when Naruto said he wanted to die with Sasuke, people tend to forget that what he meant by that was that if he couldn’t convince and come to an understanding with Sasuke while alive, he would still try in death, where no label and no heritage would be in the way. No more Uchiha or Jinchuuriki. Just Naruto and Sasuke.

Now… Do you know what Juliet said to Romeo? She told him to forsake his name. In this case, their family/blood was coming in the way of their love. Naruto pulled something straight out of one of the greatest love story of all time.’

And if these examples are not enough, then let me show you the following link that lists all homosexual subtext between Naruto and Sasuke in the manga and in the anime: http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/HoYay/Naruto (…)”

Quoting myself, “(…) I would like to point out—again—that I wrote an essay [link] about this. The explanation is right there in the beginning. (…)”


→ I live in a country where various cultures meet. 
Two adults would most likely shake their hands in a friendly way; however, the younger generation tends to greet each other in a different way. A quick kiss on the right and left cheek is the norm, and it doesn’t matter if you’re male or female. Nobody calls you gay for it, mind yourself with your accusations.


→ The fallacy of composition. 
And lastly, stop using logical fallacies to manipulate our conversation. The fallacy of composition arises when a conclusion is drawn about a whole based on the features of its constituents. For instance: “Atoms are colourless. This rose is made of atoms. That concludes the rose is colourless.” Even if the premise of the statement refers to the whole element of an entirety, the conclusion is often false.

Well, you tried.

The Signs From A Libra's Perspective
  • Aries: You guys are hilarious for starters. Always find a way to cheer me up, and even though we clash sometimes you always understand me at the end of the day. Love to explore, and I am so down to follow you anywhere. Killer sense of style, surprisingly amazing/ecclectic music taste. HARD WORKERS. When you guys zero in on something BOY DO YOU ZERO IN.
  • Taurus: My partners in crime. You guys are so deep, and I am so honored I've seen that side of you. You're two steps ahead of everyone at all times, but nobody knows except for me. Total boss ass bitches--unstoppable. When you care about someone you really care about them, but when you don't its hilarious and I live for all the shade you throw! Also the biggest underdogs who I champion 24/7.
  • Gemini: My roof in the pouring rain. Complex individuals who are so misunderstood it breaks my heart. They build up walls but boy when they tear them down for you they are AMAZING. Great listeners, always there for me, HILARIOUS. Always someone I can have fun with, so special to me. I can 1000% let my hair down with them and they can do the same with me. Has no issue telling the truth, so analytical. They have huge hearts but are so lowkey about it. Great sense of style, the greatest taste in music. They are their own worst enemies though, nobody can criticize a Gemini more than they do themselves. LOVEABLE ASSHOLES.
  • Cancer: Though they are stereotyped to be very sensitive, nurturing and that weird "uwu" type of person--I beg to differ. Every Cancer I know is a badass and very practical. Ultra snarky and sarcastic little shits AND I LIVE FOR IT. They always have something rad going on with their hair too, very rebellious. They do have a sensitive though, and they try hard to conceal it by rebelling--but I see you guys it's okay to feel that way!!
  • Leo: IS THERE ANYTHING A LEO CAN'T DO?? When I think of you guys, the quote "Anything you can do I can do better" reverberates in my mind. Leo's are the closest thing I get to a physical version of a reality check. They are the ones who bring me down when my head is in the clouds and I get too idealisitc. Confident in various aspect of life but lack that same confidence in others. Bright minds, extremely intelligent. Sometimes can be very unsympathetic, often overlook emotions. Funloving, they are the center of attention and rightfully so. Charming, know how to get what they want out of anyone. Great taste in cinema, my favorite person to debate with. ALWAYS check in on me even when I don't have the time for them, always make time for me no matter how busy and I appreciate them for it so much. Cunning, excellent orators--such cadence in their speech it blows me away.
  • Virgo: I either love you guys or I....don't. To those that I love dearly you are everywhere at once, you are more than what you fear at night in bed. Brave souls with creative minds--always thinking outside the box! Such Casanovas though like how do you guys get all the bitches??? Teach me your ways! Always listen to my advice. SO.FREAKING.ORGANIZED. Great with money, channel their emotions into their creative outlets. One with nature, really at peace when they are content with their surroundings. Very logical and objective..but not the best with understanding why they may feel a certain way.
  • Libra: Oh hey...you're me?? Awkward. What's up? Every Libra I know is a huge people pleaser. Has a hard time saying no..like a really hard time saying no. Lowkey assholes. (especially Libra guys) We're kind of on another planet sometimes, the worst texters I know but yet we're always on our phones?? Hands down THE STYLISH OF THE ZODIAC OK?? Such nerds though..take their academic careers so seriously. Either super shy--that type of kid who doesn't talk and then says something really real/ funny and everyone is like ?!!!?!?!?!? or THE LIFE OF THE FREAKING PARTY. Passive aggressive little fucks and I live for it when it isn't directed towards me. Great listeners, give you the best advice. Hate when we feel taken advanatage of...usually know when we are being taken advantage of. Fiercely loyal, flirty (WE THINK WERE BEING FRIENDLY OK) Lowkey really sad we can't save the world with our idealistic visions.
  • Scorpio: Like virgos..I love you or I...don't. Your quiet nature reassures me, but I know your emotions are like a volcano. Very hands on, dark, hilarious. Some of you come for advice and listen to me...others not so much. Introverted Scorpios are my favorites, and I live for your insight. Your passion astounds me! As for extroverted types: BE YOURSELF. I PROMISE YOU PEOPLE LIKE YOU MORE IF YOU STOP FAKING IT. Either extemely selfless or extremely selfish--a lot of extremes with you guys. Very vocal, have an issue with being wrong though. (it's ok I do too)
  • Sagittarius: SO.FREAKING.FUNNY. I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH. You know how to party and how to throw one even better. Amazing at whatever profession they choose to go into. Have an eye for colors, more so than anyone else. Excellent cooks, killer makeup artists. Like Geminis, they too have big hearts it just is under alot of snarkiness. Would go to the end of the earth for someone they care about. SO.FIERCE. IN EVERY SENSE OF THE WORD. However, do NOT wrong them--you will either be dead to them or they will make your life a living hell. They are my driving force, they ask me to jump and I say "How high?"
  • Capricorn: Yes, they are hard workers, yes, they are everything the astrology stereotypes say about them. Capricorns are sweethearts but you have to go on a journey to discover this. They will only show you this side if they deem you good enough, and that is because they don't want you to hurt them. Loyal, oddly incredibly athletic??? SUCH DORKS. Deep down, they need you though, so be there for your Capricorn. When they are certain about who they are they are a delight, when they are uncertain of who they are it is a living nightmare.
  • Aquarius: Oh Aquarius....what can I say about Aquarius. Some of you are my detached weirdo alien bffs...others well damn. The only one of the zodiac who is fully capable of making me the happiest person alive or the most miserable person alive. Your attention shifts a lot, you're never forward, one minute you chase me the next I'm chasing you. We are like cat and mouse. There is a side to you only few have seen, some days I am grateful I have seen it and other days I wish you never showed me it because it makes judging every thing you do even harder. The smartest people I know, walking Wikipedias--super cool, so goofy. Someone who I would sadly go to the ends of the earth for no matter what. You bring out the best in me and the very worst in me. I wish we loved each other in the same way, I wish you loved me like I love you but I'm okay with that at this point.
  • Pisces: Misunderstood souls. Old souls who deserve the world. You inspire me to strive to help everyone all the time and to love everyone all the time. It breaks my heart to see you mistreated because you deserve to be SO HAPPY. Never lose sight of your humanity because one day you will be in a better place and you will need it. Deeply sensitive but not in the critical whiny baby way--they are extremely intuitive and are often overlooked. Brilliant writers, their pieces will move you and bring tears to your eyes. Simultaneously a cutie pie and a freaking BOMBSHELL VIXEN. LOVES SPACE SO MUCH. Empowering. I wish you loved yourself as much as I love you.

tense-gayety  asked:

Can you give some tips on how to feel happy for others? Especially with regards to relationships, I find myself feeling jealous more than joyful when I see other people are happy. When I see someone I know (especially if it's a gay man like myself, ESPECIALLY if they're a former boyfriend/lover of mine) in a happy relationship, I could just about die. I know logically that coupling isn't the secret to happiness, and really, I'm very content on my own. I just get overwhelmed with jealousy. Help?

In this respect, there is no one better to learn from than the Dalai Lama: “If I am only happy for myself, many fewer chances for happiness. If I am happy when good things happen to other people, billions more chances to be happy!”

The Buddhist philosophy as expounded by the Dalai Lama is a very practical approach to happiness. It doesn’t look for reasons to be happy so much as it exercises happiness. The more you practice happiness, the happier you feel. 

These are good techniques for living in the world sanely. While they are not necessary for inner peace, they certainly make use of our experiences in daily life. I could also use more practice in this area. 

I think there are a few things to consider for this approach:

  • Being happy for others calls us to relate to others without using ourselves as a reference point. 
    • When we see good things happening to other people, our first thought may be “I want that.” And if we aren’t getting “that” then why should we feel happy?
    • Your example with relationships is a good one. Many of us want a happy relationship. If we don’t have one, what’s the use in celebrating someone else’s happiness?
      • Of course, if you can’t celebrate someone else’s happiness then what do you have to offer a romantic partner?
      • Being able to be happy for someone else even when it has nothing to do with you is an important aspect in healthy relationships, be they romantic or friendly. 
    • To be happy for others without making reference to yourself is a practice of egolessness and humility. 
  • The obstacles we find in celebrating the good fortune of others can reveal a lot about ourselves.
    • Jealousy tells us something. 
      • It says that we have fallen prey to the illusion of lacking something. 
      • Jealousy can intoxicate us such that we feel we need something in order to feel satisfied or whole. 
    • Indifference tells us something. 
      • It says we cannot understand other living things. We are unwilling to relate.
      • Indifference numbs us to the joys and suffering in the world around us. It is often a self-defense mechanism but is not healthy. 
  • There is no law of conservation of happiness.
    • In science there is the law of conservation of energy. Energy can only be transformed but never created nor destroyed.
    • However, no such law applies to happiness. Someone else’s happiness doesn’t mean that happiness is less available to you as a result. In fact, as that Dalai Lama quote reveals, the more happiness you find in others’ happiness, the happier you will become. 
    • “Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” ~ Buddha
  • This is all nice but what to do now?
    • Compassion, egoless happiness, these are easy things to talk about but not so easy to practice. 
    • It comes from a fundamental awareness of our own mortality, that we are all dead and dying, and that we are in this together. 
    • A great book to start with is Becoming Enlightened by the Dalai Lama. 
      • The book offers a series of contemplations and exercises to help facilitate a larger understanding of self and world. 
    • Practicing Tonglen also helps. As well as daily meditation. 

Namaste my friend. 

anonymous asked:

This isn't so much an ask as it is an appreciation for all the ways dragons have influenced the background artwork and the clothing of people of Berk. We obviously see Hiccup incorporate a dragon scale pattern into his leather armor, and in RTTE, Snotlout's top also as that pattern. It reminds me of Game of Thrones. Daenerys Targaryen is the Mother of Dragons, and much of her attire has similar dragon-inspire details. :) I just think that's cool.

It’s really cool, and it’s so EXTENSIVE.

Berk’s artwork and aesthetic - from housing to skirts to the official tribe crest - sings “dragons dragons dragons.”

Architecture

The book “The Art of How to Train Your Dragon” discusses how the Vikings intentionally model their exterior architecture according to a certain reptilian theme. As quoted on p. 116, “They carved dragon heads on their houses and placed screaming Viking stone statues throughout the village as monuments to their struggles and victories.” Elsewhere on the same page, we read, “The dragon motif on a house reflects what type of dragon the homeowner defeated in the past, and these are emblems of what they have conquered.”

And indeed we see that downright everywhere.

The Haddock household boasts hoards of dragon heads. I believe the top head is a Monstrous Nightmare, incredibly fitting since Hiccup in the first movie declares that only the strongest Vikings go after this dragon. It is the dragon of the chief, and in the book series, it is unofficial Viking law that only the chief and his heir can own this beast.

The Hofferson household ironically sports the head of a Deadly Nadder. Astrid’s parents must have fought and conquered Nadders recently… but at least that architecture can now serve as a memorial to the dragons they now house as pets. And it just goes on and on and on and on…

If you have the art book, just sink into the beauty of the glory of all the house designs. The pages of dragon-centered architecture is a feast for the eyes.

But it’s not just the outer architecture of the housing where we see dragons. It’s also on the doors of Meade Hall… 

…and inside Meade Hall in a beautiful explosion of objects.

The “chandelier” (for lack of a better word) is a dragon being stabbed.

There are carvings on every post and pole and wall and surface depicting Vikings fighting dragons.

And the tapestries! Oh the tapestries are incredible! I totally see the symbolism of this moment, too. Stoick is talking about how he grew up knowing what type of a Viking he was, and he’s standing right smack dab in front of a tapestry depicting a beheaded beast.

As described in the art book on p. 123,“The sense of grandeur and intimidation [of the Meade Hall] continues once the doors open, wherein huge statues of Viking ancestors line the halls, and tapestries depicting historical battles and achievements adorn the walls.”

The architecture only gets more amazing and dramatic in the second movie. The second art book comments that the Vikings obviously don’t have to rebuild their houses as often, allowing them to build structures with even brighter colors and expression. And along with these colors are… more dragons.

Dragons everywhere.

I’m such a broken record right now. Dragons!

But hey! Look how the big entrance to the dragon stables is painted with wing motifs.

And let’s not get started on the designs in Dragon’s Edge.

Clothing

Stoick’s garb in the first movie is really awesome in its symbolism. The circular plates on his shoulders depict two grimacing Viking men and his belt buckle is - you got it! - a dragon. The two glaring Viking men on his shoulders are higher, demonstrating the Vikings conquering over the glaring dragon head on his waist. This is so cool.

Astrid and Snotlout wear skulls in the first movie. But not just any skulls. The skulls Astrid wears are dragons. Snotlout’s skull entertainingly looks more like a human’s. I guess the dragon skulls go to the girl who’s likely to kill dragons, while the human skull goes to the beloved blockhead who’s more likely to screw up in battle (totally just making a joke here).

And while it’s really hard to get a good screencap of this, Ruffnut’s belt buckle is a dragon head, too.

For that matter, the twin teeth the Thorstons wear as necklaces… could those be dragon teeth? I’d smile so broadly if they turned out to be some smaller Zippleback teeth.

I love all your comments about clothing in the second movie. Hiccup is bedecked in dragon symbolism everywhere and Snotlout’s got a bit of the theme going, too. And Fishlegs totally has Gronckle wings on his helm by the second movie!

And do we even need to mention Valka’s armor looking intentionally exactly like a dragon or Drago wearing a dragon skin cape on his arm? That just says everything about them right there.

The television series continues this theme on even more. Dagur’s belt buckle in Riders and Defenders of Berk is that of a skrill. The skrill is the crest of the Berserkers and found in their own art.

But Wait! There’s More!

The Berk crest is a Monstrous Nightmare. Again, the most intimidating dragon to be fought is the one used to represent the Hairy Hooligan Tribe under the rule of the Haddock Clan.

Outdoor banners in the first movie show Vikings fighting dragons.

I love how Stoick stands in front of dragon-killing banners right before the Kill Ring scene! It shows the exactly psychology going on in his mind when he sees his son approach the ceremony. This is all of what he wants and expects right there in the background with the Vikings’ art. Stoick wants his son to do what’s seen in the tapestries: stab a blade right in the Nightmare’s gut.

We see such beautiful decorations - with more dragon-friendly themes - in the second movie scenery, too. Let’s not cry about how that’s Stoick on Skullcrusher in the background. No, we’re not going to cry at all.

Then beyond the banners and tapestries, a large number of the shields the Vikings carry with them are painted with various types of dragons.

And the whole first movie art theme of humans fighting dragons lends itself to inflamed human skulls on one shield. It looks like these poor skulls are supposed to be inflamed instead of the poor fellow holding the shield.

Then check out the sails and bow of the ships…

…not just on Stoick’s ship, but also for the Berserkers’ sails and the sails of Drago’s fleet in the second movie!

Dude, we even have dragons on Hiccup’s Odindarned bedposts!

Let’s not forget Inferno the Dragon Blade either!

Dear Thor, what isn’t a dragon in this movie?

I am with you. I think this artistic detail in the background of the movies and television series is glorious. It sings so much to the culture of the Viking tribe. Simply by seeing these images flash by us, we internalize what it means to be a Hairy Hooligan. It means a world full of flying scaly reptiles. Dragons are one hundred percent integrated into the land of Berk: from belt buckles to sword hilts to bed posts to door frames to necklaces to carvings in the Great Hall! It’s all there, and it’s all magnificent.

America coming to the palace (delected scene never heard of)
  • America: *gets out of the limousine and looks to the palace* WOW THIS PALACE LOOKS HUGE!
  • Maxon: *poletly giving america his hand* Nice to meet you, *love at first sight* where you been?
  • The maids: *to america* We could show you incredible things!!
  • Kriss: *really excited* Magic!
  • Elise: *frowning* Madness!
  • Marlee: *looking at carter* Heaven!
  • Celeste: *sexy smirking towards maxon* Sin!
  • Maxon: *loving eyes to america* Saw you there and i thought...
  • America: *shocked face cause aspen is there* OH MY GOD!
  • Celeste: *whispering to the others and pointing to america* just Look at that face!
  • Maxon: *looking at his dad but thinking of america* You look like my next mistake...
  • King Clarkson: *to the girls* Love's a game!
  • Gravil: *very excited* WANNA PLAY?
  • Aspen: *in becoming guard* new money?!
  • Queen Amberly: *adjusting clarkson's suit* suit and tie!
  • America: *thinking in maxon and whispering* i can read you like a magazine...
  • Gravil: *to the girls* AIN'T IT FUNNY, RUMORS FLY!!!
  • Maxon: *shrugs* And I know you heard about me....
  • America: *noding her head* maybe i should lea-
  • Maxon: *trying to stop her* So hey, let's be friends!
  • America: *whispering* I'm dying to see how this one ends
  • Silvia: *yealling* GRAB YOUR PASSPORTS!
  • Maxon: *smilling* and my hand
  • America: *with sarcasm* I can make the bad guys good for a weekend
  • The selected: SOO IT'S GONNA BE FOREVER
  • America: OOOOOoooOr it's gonna go down in flames....
  • Maxon: *to america* You can tell me when it's over!
  • Celeste: *laughing* If the high was worth the pain!
  • Natalie: *pointing at maxon* Got a long list of ex-lovers...
  • Daphne: *whispering* They'll tell you he's insane!
  • America: *looking at maxon* 'Cause i know you love the players!
  • Everyone: AND WE LOVE THIS GAME!!!
  • America: *shrugs* 'Cause we're young and we're reckless!!
  • Maxon: *shaking his head* We'll take this way too far....
  • Lucy: *looking at aspen* It'll leave you breathless....
  • America: *also looking at aspen* Or with a nasty scar......
  • Elise: *pointing to maxon* Got a long list of ex-lovers?
  • Daphne: *explaining* Yes, They'll tell you he's insane!
  • Maxon: *to america* But I've got a blank space my deeaaar
  • America: *snapes his face* I'M NOT YOUR DEAR!
  • Maxon: And I'll write your name ;D
  • Celeste: *looking at herself in the mirror* mhhh Cherry lips!
  • Maxon: *looking at america's eyes* Crystal skies!
  • The maids: ahhh...We could show you incredible things?
  • Marlee: *thinking in Carter* Stolen kisses...
  • Aspen: *talks throw his theeth* Or Pretty lies!
  • Queen Amberly: *to clarkson* You're the king baby I'm your Queen!
  • Maxon: I'll Find out what you want!
  • America: Be that girl for ....a month?
  • Gravin: WAIT THE WORST IS YET TO COME....
  • Everyone: OH NO!!!!
  • America: *to maxon* SCREAMING!!!!
  • Maxon: *to america* CRYING!!!!!
  • Both Maxon and America at the same time: PERFECT STORM!!!!!
  • America: I CAN MAKE ALL THE FREAKING STRAWBEERRY TARTS TURN!!
  • Adele(amberly sister): It's a Rose gardens filled with thorns!
  • Celest: *colapses in her fucking shoes*
  • Maxon: *runs to help her*
  • Aspen: *also runs to help her*
  • Marlee: Keep you second guessing like:
  • Kriss & Daphne: *looking at celeste* OH MY GOD WHO IS SHE?
  • America: *puting both ands on her waist* I get drunk on jealousy!!!
  • Maxon: *coming back and staying right in front of america* But you'll come back each time you leave!
  • America: *laughs and then gives mortal look* Cause darling I'm a nightmare dressed like a daydream! *walks to the garden*
  • The selected: UGH..SO IT'S GONNA BE FOREVER????
  • America: *with a match* Or it's gonna go down in flames!
  • Maxon: *startled* AMMMEEEeeRICA???
  • America: *evil smile* You can tell me when it's over!
  • Everyone: *laughing* IF THE HIGH WAS WORTH THE PAIN!
  • Kriss: *arguing with daphne* MAXON CALIX SCHREAVE DOSEN'T HAVE ANY EX-LOVERS!
  • Marlee: *still loking at carter but noding her head anyway* And Maxon isn't insane..*whispers* i think...
  • Celeste: Oh but i love the players! *looks at aspen*
  • Lucy: *while being held by Mary and Anne* HE DOES NOT LOVE THE GAME YOU HO-
  • Back to america: *to maxon* YOU'TE YOUNG AMD IM RECKLESS!
  • Maxon: You're taking this way too far..
  • America: *irritated* This is leaving me breathless...
  • Maxon: I won't let you with a nasty scar!
  • Daphne: *admits* Okay,maxon dosen't have any ex lovers...
  • Elise: AAAAAAnd i guess he's not insane...
  • Maxon: But I've got a blank space m-
  • America: *Ultimate dead look*
  • Maxon: *shrugs* I'l just write you name...
  • Celeste: *to america* Boys only want love if it's torture!
  • The maids: DON'T SAY WE DIDN'T SAY WE DIDN'T WARN YA
  • Everyone: BOOOOOOYSSS ONLY WANT LOVE IF ITS TOTURE
  • Maxon: NOT ME!
  • America: I don't need any of you to warn me ya
  • Everyone: This is not going to last forever...
  • America: And im not burning this down to flames
  • Maxon: I hope this will never be over...
  • Celeste: *confused* I guess the high is worth the pain?!
  • Kriss: *trying to understand* So there is no list of ex lovers?
  • The selected: *sighs* MAXON ISN'T INSANE!
  • America: OMG IM SUCH A PLAYER....
  • Aspen: *to america* Ugh...we are going to end this "game"!
  • Maxon: *holding america hands* we're young and reckless!
  • America: *shrugs* AAAAAaaand we will probably take this way too far...
  • Maxon: *tugging america ear* It'll leave you breathless!
  • America: *tracing a hand in maxon's face* Or with a nasty scar!
  • King Clarkson: *whispering to Queen Amberly* our son does not have ex lovers,right?
  • Queen amberly: *whispering back* and i hope he isn't insane!
  • America: This is too complicated baaaaby
  • Maxon: And This is kind of insane...
  • Everyone:
  • Everyone: *Cricket noises in the background*
  • America: *rubbing her hand over her brow*
  • Maxon: ugh..america...*making air quote marks* "my dear"..what are you doing?
  • America: *shaking her head* i need to forget this crazy shit...
  • Everyone: *waits*
  • America: *rubs harder*
  • Aspen: ... America?
  • America: *lets her hand fall* Yup..this isn't working...I'M OUT *picks up her bags and goes to the limousine* CALL ME WHEN THIS..."THING" IS OVER!
  • Everyone: *looks at her while she lives*
  • Maxon: *takes a deep breath and says* I knew you were trouble when you walked in...

gridde  asked:

Just a quick note on your (fantastic) outline of the Stark line of succession, isn't 'Robb's Will' currently in the hands of Mormont and her daughters, on its way to Greywater specifically? I always found it suspicious that we hear absolutely nothing about it after Maege departs, given how almost every other plot in the series gets uncovered fairly quickly by other characters.

You know, the funny thing is that when I originally started posting about Robb’s will, that’s what I assumed. I’m not sure where I got that idea… fanfic? other people’s meta? But then I reread the pre-RW chapters more carefully and I realized that was wrong. Here, let me quote for you:

“I want two ships to double the chances of my message reaching Howland Reed. Lady Maege shall go on one, Galbart on the second.” He turned to the two he’d named. “You’ll carry letters for those lords of mine who remain in the north, but all the commands within will be false, in case you have the misfortune to be taken.”

Note this message was not his will, but a command to Howland Reed to help guide Robb’s army through the Neck. Note also the letters Maege and Galbart are carrying are not Robb’s will either, but rather false marching orders.

He picked up a sheet of parchment. “One more matter. Lord Balon has left chaos in his wake, we hope. I would not do the same. Yet I have no son as yet, my brothers Bran and Rickon are dead, and my sister is wed to a Lannister. I’ve thought long and hard about who might follow me. I command you now as my true and loyal lords to fix your seals to this document as witnesses to my decision.”

This document is never mentioned again — literally nothing is ever said of it in any chapter in any book after this one. (And I can’t find mention of it in any “So Spake Martin” either.) But from the text, it was not given to Maege Mormont and Galbart Glover on their trip to Greywater Watch. Robb may still have had the parchment with him when he was killed… in which case either the Freys have it, or it was buried/burned/left to rot on his body. (I don’t recall if it’s ever said what they did with Robb’s body after they desecrated it.)

But the fate of the parchment is not really as relevant as it’s cracked up to be. The important thing is the lords who witnessed what Robb wrote in the document, and they were:

  • Edmure Tully (alive, captive at Casterly Rock)
  • Jason Mallister (alive, captive of the Freys within his own castle at Seaguard)
  • Greatjon Umber (alive, captive at the Twins)
  • Galbart Glover (alive, free, probably somewhere in the Neck)
  • Maege Mormont (alive, free, also probably somewhere in the Neck)
  • Catelyn Stark (technically alive, but probably in no condition to talk about the legitimization, which she opposed anyway)

So whether or not Robb’s will still exists as a document, there are still people who know who Robb had chosen as his heir. However, we need to keep this in mind:

“As to what is and is not moot… the key point is, only a =king= can legitimize a bastard……” —GRRM (see also this followup)

And Robb is dead. Therefore even if the document he had his lords seal legitimized Jon and made him his heir… it would be a post-mortem command, by someone who, whether or not his kingship was truly legitimate, definitely stopped being a king the moment he died. Is that still legally valid? Many might argue otherwise. And if they’re presented with a living and entirely legitimate heir to Winterfell in the form of Rickon, say, then the argument would most likely indeed be moot.

abandonedrollercoaster-deactiva  asked:

Hi Ms. Stiefvater. I really love your Raven Cycle series first of all. Secondly I have two questions: Do you think the current marketing around YA books is beneficial or no? (Like before we had stuff written with teen protagonists YA wasn't a "thing" like it is now.) And also how do you feel about the Raven Cycle being called paranormal romance/ put in the teen romance section even though it really... isn't that? (I mean there's barely any kissing)

Hello Ms/Mr Rollercoaster.

First of all, thank you. Secondly, your questions.

1) Do you think the current marketing around YA books is beneficial or no?

No. Well. Sort of. Well, I’m certain it’s a no, but I’m also certain that it’s not a YA-specific problem. YA got popular and it got commercial, and so the genre inherited the problem inherent in commercial fiction of any sort.

Which is this: Our culture is a flow chart that has girls reading different things than boys, women reading different things from girls, and of course it goes to follow that men certainly do not read those girl things that boys also do not read. So in commercial fiction, fiction that is meant to appeal to The Everyone, one of the first decisions is whether or not the book is going into the boy box or the girl box.

Boy box? Okay, good. Emphasize the action! The chase scenes! The cars! DON’T MENTION THE GIRL CHARACTER WHATEVER YOU DO NO NO ANYTHING BUT THAT. Is there maybe some kind of aggressive design we can put on the front? Like, a dramatic logo, or perhaps the sleek edge of a fender, or maybe the subtle crest of someone’s hardened member? Too far, Stiefvater. Too far.

Girl box? Okay, better. Because statistically most readers are going to be Teh Ladies, so bring on the Bucks McBucks. The cover copy should emphasize the romance. Is there kissing? Can there be kissing? Look, is there just a way to frame this that lets readers know that at some point she and the guy look into each other’s eyes? Come on. It doesn’t matter that she’s in a Siberian prison camp. She’s enslaved, not dead inside! Now, let’s add a pretty cover. A face, maybe? A pretty girl? Some luminous baubles? At least some cursive font then, sheesh.  

Then there is the literary box. Literary is a nebulous, unspecified creature that doesn’t have to follow the rules as often. It often sits outside the commercial room drinking dark coffee and blowing smoke rings at its cousins. When young adult fiction first got its feet beneath it, it behaved like literary fiction. It was full of experimental prose, weird covers, and genre-bending stories that were strange in the unselfconscious way that comes from suspecting not many people are watching and being right about it.

And then it got popular, and while those strange books are still in the section, they are outnumbered by commercial YA. We’re making money, baby!

But I don’t think it’s helpful. I think specific marketing and sectioning of the bookstore is helpful as long as it is helping readers to find other books they want to read. When it expands a reader’s selection. It becomes counter productive when it encourages tunnel vision and limits a reader’s selection. And on a broader scale, when it does nothing but broaden the gulf between men’s entertainment and women’s entertainment. History has shown us that when the two things are held apart, the woman side is always considered less important and worthy.

UPSHOT: NOT GOOD NOT GOOD AT ALL

2) How do you feel about the Raven Cycle being called paranormal romance/ put in the teen romance section even though it really… isn’t that?

The cover copy of The Raven Boys promises a love story and little else, but the problem is that if you’re reading only for that, you’re going to have to skim over a lot of other characters and mythological shindigs. This series is simply not a paranormal romance series. There’s nothing wrong with that genre — I wrote this one series, you know, the Shiver trilogy, and it’s basically romance and eye-snogging wall to pining-forever-love wall far as we can see — but that’s just not what the Raven Cycle is. But it’s in the girl box, so that’s how it was always going to be framed.

Moreover, it’s in the commercial teen box, which is a new-ish box that I don’t like the looks of. This one, across all media, buys in to the idea that teens are hormonal, senseless, foolish, inarticulate, easily distracted, and self-obsessed. This teen box says they won’t get complicated characters, they won’t want complicated story-lines, they won’t read complicated prose. So boil it down, kids. Boil it down.

Here’s a quote from the LA Times review of The Raven Boys, back in 2012, on my use of third-person in a genre dominated by first: “But in a literary marketplace that trades on identification and plot-driven readability, the third person voice is sometimes a risk. And it’s especially risky because The Raven Boys’s narrator indulges in plot digressions, emphatic repetition, lush description, long lists.” The NY Times review also calls out how “Stiefvater … doesn’t talk down to her readers” and notes “Stiefvater’s respect for her readers’ intelligence.”

Damn straight. Do authors of adult paranormal fiction get praised for such things, though?

I trust teen readers. But I’m not sure anyone else does.

So, the marketing. I’ll say it: it’s maddening. The problem is bigger than just me, though, and from this side of the table, I can best attack it with my stories. I’m getting out my pen.

anonymous asked:

Isn't it weird that Hiddleswift's stunts are being called out just like Zigi and Chiam? How is that a coincidence? The press don't usually undermine celebs because they want access to them, right? Why are they risking pissing off Taylor? Why are they going so hard against all these fauxmances when they used to play along? There's something more going on but I can't put it all together? What do you think Sasha?

I agree with you that this is a relatively new trend–at least among this particular group of celebs. And it’s even more curious considering they’re all repping pretty much the same stunt circle. Like Zigi and Hendall and Chiam, the callout was immediate. 

A few gems:

OK, there’s a consensus of opinion that it’s a stunt and not a very smart one. So what the eff is going on?? Team Taylor is a notorious control freak collective. How did they allow this to happen? And on the heels of two of her besties getting called out for going back to the fauxmance well one too many times? 

And while Taylor may have missed this, she pays people not to miss these media trends. So Chiam should have been on somebody’s radar, too.  

And yet, she went there in a very awkwardly staged fashion. Just like her pals. The story is developing. So I can only guess any of these reasons may apply:

  • Any publicity is good publicity. None of these stunts queens, including Tay Tay, cares what you say. Just publish the pix/tweets/Insta posts/snapchats/quotes from mysterious “insiders” and spell her name right. Her legion of fans remain largely enraptured and love the drama anyway. Just like 1D’s fandom. 
  • Media gamble. The media is calling out younger stars because it may be “safer” than calling out A list stars who’ve been around a long time. They may think a majority of the players won’t still be relevant in a few years, so they can shore up their journalistic integrity by calling out these stunts. Meanwhile, longtime A listers like Jennifer Aniston have fauxmanced (John Mayer, Vince Vaughn) and staged photos (her recent beach pix seem to be both staged and photoshopped) and most of the media continues to play along.
  • Hetero exit strategy. Could be a narrative is being put in place with the goal of slowly walking out of the closet in mind. So badly staged fauxmances take place, the media is instructed to call them out, and a conversation begins about why. Of course, the possibility of being queer is one of the whys. So fans are introduced to all these things now as they will play a part in a later coming out narrative. This could also apply to 1D.
  • Distraction Tactics. In the 1D fandom, we have many examples of one member’s shenanigans being used to distract from another member’s shenanigans. The most explosive example being timing the Elounor break-up to be followed shortly thereafter with Zayn leaving 1D. There is a rumor that Tay Tay was very concerned about Kim Kardashian’s GQ article, where she airs out Taylor’s shady stunty ways. Hiddleswift could be a temporary headline stealing distraction from bad press. And that definitely fits Taylor’s above mentioned shady stunty ways. LOL
  • Promoooo. This could also be a PR relationship meant to generate publicity for a future thing, like the possibility of Hiddleston as James Bond and Taylor as a Bond girl. *throws up in mouth*
  • Bearding. It could also be bearding, possibly mutual. If Hiddleston is still campaigning for Bond (rumor has it he’s campaigning HARD bts) then he may wanna raise his profile and market himself as a ladies man while crushing gay rumors. Who knows, he may dump Taylor for a hot hot actress in a couple of weeks? One who also has things to promote. Trade in girl next door Taylor for vixen Margot Robbie or something like that. That’s hot. I wouldn’t believe it, but that’s hot. LOL  And we all know about Taylor’s gay rumors and the gay rumors within her squad at this point. 

So really, I’m casually observing and waiting to see what’s next. I dunno exactly what’s motivating Taylor. But I’m sure Hiddleswift is a stunt.

A wild thought had occurred to me in the middle of the night...

and that thought was, Who of the original Crystal Gems is Steven going to fuse with next?

Now before you No Fun Nancies decide to rain on my parade and scream at me that, “THE SPOILERS SAY IT’S GONNA BE PEARL SO IT’S PEARL AND YOU’RE WRONG AND DUMB.” I’d like to point out that suleaks themselves even said that the leaks are at best just theories and aren’t totally reliable or they might have some truth in them but possibly also strung with some lies. Now that we’re done with that I’m going to begin.

I’m gonna start by talking about Stevens relationships with the ones he’s fused with in the past. Those fusions being Stevonnie and Smoky Quartz. 

Originally posted by antiboyz-040

Let’s talk about the amazing talented, brave, and intelligent Connie. Connie was the first one that Steven had ever fused with, automatically making her special and putting her under the list of people that Steven trust. So it was no surprise (even though it in fact was a huge surprise) that she was the first one he was to fuse with. At this point in their relationship we see that Steven is already comfortable with talking to Connie about his worries and concerns about not being able to measure up to what the gems are expecting of him as shown in ‘Alone Together’ right before they fused and ‘An Indirect Kiss’. What also makes Stevonnie a no brainer to have formed first is their constant communication with each other being shown in ‘Fusion Cuisine’ (keep in mind I’m only referencing episodes before and when their fusion formed) so that constant communication builds a trust between them making Stevonnie extremely strong because they’re formed with love, respect, and trust.

Now for the life of the party, super chill, and unbelievably strong Amethyst. Early on we see that Amethyst has a sort of big sister relationship with Steven. That dynamic is still consistent in ‘Tiger Millionaire’ but then we begin to see some of Amethysts insecurities shine through and then all at once everything changed (when the Fire Nation attacked) in ‘On the Run’ where we get to see the extent to Amethysts self-loathing and insecurities that had lasted for hundreds of years without any of the Crystal Gems noticing. In the beginning of ‘Reformed’ we still see no improvement of Amethysts attitude towards herself until the end of the episode where she chooses a form because it felt right for her and intently having to think about herself was hard but she did it anyway because she wanted to do it the right way.

But then I was thinking well Pearl or Garnet?

I’m gonna quote these two on things they’ve said about fusion,

“Fusion is the ultimate connection between gems.”

“First you need a gem at the core of your being, then you need a body that can turn into light, then you need a partner that you can trust with that light… Get open get honest, invent yourselves together! That’s fusion.”

Now, Garnet quotes trust and open honesty which is something that Steven has not been too familiar with, as they’ve kept major secrets from him and most definitely are still doing, there’s almost no trust between him Garnet and Pearl because they continue to keep things from him so it would be a while till they fused until they actually all start opening up to each other. Amethyst is an exception considering she wasn’t around at the time and didn’t really experience it first hand so it’s not really her stories to tell and also since she and Steven actually honest about how they feel. 

We barely know anything about Garnet accept how she came to be, well Garnet. We don’t really know how she feels about anything and we don’t really know Ruby or sapphires feeling about anything either (except that they’re super gay for each other) so Garnet’s obviously not one to open up much. 

And then there’s Pearl. Poor little Pearl who we’ve come to know significantly more than Garnet and it would make sense that it would be her since she is really open about how she felt about Rose BUT we’re forgetting that Pearl loved Rose not just loved but fell IN love. Steven and Rose have their similarities yes, but they also have their differences. So that begs the question, would Pearl really be ready to feel a different fusion with Steven? I happen to not think so her reason being that she doesn’t want to be a different Rainbow Quartz with Steven, she wants Roses Rainbow quartz. Let me quote a little song she most recently sung, “It’s over, isn’t it? Why can’t I move on?”

 That’s my reason that Pearl will most likely be the last of the Crystal Gems to fuse with Steven, because fusing with him would mean moving on a little bit more from Rose and I don’t think that’s something she’s ready to do.

flyingcrowbar  asked:

okay okay now YOU tell the people why Percy isn't in Slytherin

it’s funny because this discussion we had is basically YOU telling ME why Percy is hands down a Hufflepuff and me playing Devil’s advocate and arguing for the Slytherin points.

i guess i should throw my own opinion in now.

the thing is, percy certainly has shown some slytherin qualities. according to pottermore, slytherin is hugely associated with the element water, which is a nice tie to Percy, but i don’t feel likes it’s really a strong enough argument for him to be in the house.

Here’s a section taken from the Slytherin qualities on Pottermore

The river in Pottermore represents unity, and Slytherin is a group-oriented House. Like Gryffindor, Slytherins are seeking individual greatness - but Slytherins look out for their own group and see themselves as much more unified than Ravenclaws or Gryffindors. 

Now Percy is LOYAL to the ends of the earth, but he’s not all that group orientated if you ask me. he’s more a lone wolf. Riordan basically describes him as a loner, i think because there’s such a focus on Nico and his loner-ness that we sometimes forget this. he’s the only person in his cabin. in the mark of athena we saw a lot of unwillingness from him on the prospect of working as a team. of course, he came around to this and made great friends with the group. but his resistance is significant, he was so used to doing things on his own or in small groups that he didn’t really like the idea of being group-oriented.

Another point raised here is seeking individual greatness, which is possibly the least Percy quality i’ve seen. Percy is an underachiever, he knows he’s the underdog and he expects to lose every time.This is an Annabeth quality if I ever saw one, confirming further for me that she belongs in this house.

Slytherins are brothers; they’re focused on their own in-group, although that group tends to be much more cliqueish and exclusive than Hufflepuff’s group.

Again, Percy is not a clique person, he is anti status quo in every sense of the phrase. When we first met him, he was best friends with the disabled kid with acne who has sandwiches thrown at him by the school bully. He purposefully avoided the cliques and the popular kids, preferring to keep to himself or make friends with the unpopular kids at school.

Slytherins are more interventionist and more risk-oriented than Hufflepuffs or Ravenclaws…they want their wand out, ready to fight.

Slytherins are cunning and confrontational - and lack a sense of fair play. They’ll cheat in a fight if they can get away with it, but woe betide anyone stupid enough to get caught; they’ll threaten a Muggle if they think they can.

These two are possibly argument for Slytherin because Percy usually charges into a fight without thinking, and he has been known to use cunning in a fight with a monster.god and he usually “cheats” or tricks his way out a situation. I think it would be fair to say, however, that Annabeth plays a bigger role as a trickster. And Percy would certainly never harm a mortal to win a fight.

Looking at the Hufflepuff qualities, the very first line jumped out at me:

Hufflepuffs are defined by their love of family, comfort, and living things first and foremost.

Pretty sure this explains itself. Percy is the mama’s boy of all mama’s boys, he seems to be incredibly family-oriented considering that he was thinking about his and Annabeth’s babies in both the House of Hades and the Crown of Ptolemy.He also has shown a genuine care for animals; his relationship with Blackjack being one case example, and his rescuing of the Ophiotaurus he saved and then begged the gods not to kill because she was just an innocent creature.

They’re creatures of comfort, and go for something that’s familiar and home-y rather than something strange or mysterious. 

Hufflepuff is best defined as the House of general human decency and kindness: Puffs are thoughtful, kind, and caring.

Now the first one might be controversial, but I do believe that Percy values home and family over seeking adventure. Sure, he’s an adrenaline junkie which doesn’t fall in which the Puff qualities, but his quests have been to save his mother, or Annabeth or Grover, or simply to do the right thing. Ultimately, his goal is to live as normal a life as possible; hence the desire to move to New Rome and live a quiet, happy life with Annabeth where they can start a family.

The last quote I think defines Percy to the core. Despite how much some people like to demonise him, Percy has a good soul (yes, we saw a dark side of him in HoH which Riordan left painfully unaddressed, but he’s ultimately a good person). He’s rather dense at times, but he has never hurt anyone intentionally, and he is thoughtful. For example, when he spoke to Leo about Calypso, explaining that he should have done more to make sure the gods had followed through on their promise, despite losing his memory and being thrown headfirst into another quest. And he is caring. Try and tell me that Percy Jackson is not caring and you’ve completely lost me, body and soul. this boy cares too much, it’s what usually gets him into so much trouble.

(if you want to take a look at the Pottermore House qualities i referred to and quoted, it’s here)

Signs Your Book Isn't Ready for Submission

It’s really difficult to know whether or not your book is ready for submission. Even after you’ve revised it a dozen times and had beta readers pore over it, there’s still that lingering doubt that your book isn’t ready.

Some authors spend years trying to get one book that is submission ready, because, more often than not, their first books aren’t going to be the books that receive contracts. However, there are a few things you can look at in your book after all is said and done to make certain it is submission ready.

  1. Long prose. I remember in middle school we had to write a descriptive essay about something we thought was important. I wrote about my visit to Savannah, and the teacher wanted long, prose-y description. I wanted this story to be entered so badly in a writing contest, but the girl whose story ended up being chosen was chosen because she had the best, flowy prose. I failed this assignment because my descriptions weren’t flowery enough. I also remember in the eighth grade working on our descriptions for some writing test we all had to take and pass. I was describing ice cream, using ridiculously long words to do so. My teachers all praised me then, but that kind of prose isn’t acceptable in a novel. That kind of prose never should have been acceptable in school to begin with, especially for aspiring authors.
  2. Vague references. Some writers love to show off their literary knowledge by plugging in vague quotes of stellar literary writers your average reader may not have even heard of. They often do this at the beginning of chapters. Sometimes this can be meaningful, especially if your readers can connect the quotes to that particular chapter. But if there is no connection, they’re often annoying. Some writers will even use famous literary characters as a contrast to their own, but it can become so overbearing, especially if this character is constantly mentioning this literary character.
  3. Episodic storytelling. You need to at least have a basic idea of what the plot of your book is going to be, or else you’re going to fall into the trap of making each chapter seem like the episode of a television series instead of each chapter flowing smoothly into the next–even when you’re switching POVs. Did I tell you beta readers aren’t perfect? Sometimes they don’t catch this, especially if these episodic arcs are entertaining. But publishers and agents and the like want you to have a cohesive plot. So your chapter does not need to read like a single episode. It needs to read like it’s part of a much bigger plot–and it should be.
  4. Trite openings. Again, beta readers are imperfect and probably won’t always catch trite openings, especially if they’re not familiar with what trite openings may be. Publishing professionals, on the other hand, are familiar with trite openings because they’ve pored through hundreds of thousands of manuscripts, trying to find the perfect, publishable one. Some trite openings I can recall are ones that open with the weather or a character waking up from a dream. Those are probably the most common ones publishing professionals come across. Sometimes they can be effective, but they’re often not.
  5. ‘You’ plug-ins. Sometimes it’s obvious when you’ve put your opinion about a certain issue in a book. This takes away from the story itself, and the reader may even grow to dislike you, especially if it’s obvious the entire book is about you and your opinions on certain matters. For example, if you’re a gay writer and you’re writing about the gay experience, readers don’t want to read a character ranting about straight people, because then it becomes obvious that you’re the one ranting about straight people and not your character.
  6. Dialogue info dumps. Info dumps are too much information that is being delivered upfront. Newer writers can be guilty of this in exposition, and are especially guilty of this in dialogue. For example, if your character is talking to another character about how the world runs, you don’t want your character spending paragraphs upon paragraphs developing the world through dialogue instead of you developing the world through the characters’ experiences.
  7. Tom Swifties. You know that thing going around the internet that says 'said is dead?’ Well, it’s really not dead at all. I don’t care what other writers tell you. It’s fine to use words other than 'said’ once in a while, but as an editor of a lit mag, I can promise you that if you use a bunch of other tags other than 'said,’ it becomes incredibly annoying and is something I would reject right away. So don’t listen to the naysayers who claim said is dead. Said is your best word, and I rarely use any word other than 'said’ in my own stories. Sometimes I don’t even use dialogue tags at all, especially if the action is enough to convey the tone of the dialogue.
  8. Mary Sues. Mary Sues are perfect characters with no flaws. Nothing bad ever happens to them. Every character in the book loves them. And they always save the day. These characters are downright boring and are to be avoided at all costs.
  9. Word usage. If you’re unsure of a particular word’s meaning, or if you’re using a word correctly, you need to look it up. Just because Word gives you a bunch of synonyms for a particular word doesn’t mean those synonyms mean the same thing as the word you’re looking to replace.
  10. Spelling and grammar. Poor spelling and grammar is a guaranteed rejection. In fact, when I used to choose fiction pieces for my lit mag, if the pieces required more editing than a short story should need, I rejected them. If there are too many commas being used incorrectly, I’m not going to bother with that piece. I want a short story that doesn’t need too much editing. Of course, with novels, they’re still going to need a lot more editing by publishing professionals than short stories will, but a book littered with spelling and grammar mistakes–blatant ones–is going to be rejected from the first page.

You know my Ask Box is always open!

anonymous asked:

Hey haven, not sure if you saw but a pap asked tom about the reaction to his speech. Hadn't heard about the negative reaction but when asked what he would say, he responded something like "I would say we should all try our best to be kind". I really respected that and hope he isn't disheartened by the negativity.

Hi, Little Gray Face!  Thanks for telling me!  That is hilarious!  Here it is, as identified by @quoting-shakespeare-to-ducks:

Him: “Dude, I loved your speech.  It was beautiful.”

Tom: “Thank you.”

Him: *stuttering* “You know, people gave you like a weird, Twitter…”

Tom: “Did they?”

Him: “Yeah! And they kind of hated on you and I thought what you said was actually very beautiful.”

Tom: “Thank you.”

Him: “Do you think that people on Twitter like go to hard on {?} sometimes.”

Tom: “I don’t know what they’ve said.”

Him: “Well they said - okay, I’m just saying - they said it was self-indulgent.”

Tom: “Okay…”

Him: “But what you were saying is that people in South Sudan enjoyed it and that was a blessing.  What would you say to the people…*mumbling*…”

Tom: “I would say we all just have to do the best we can to help each other out is what I would say.”

Him: “Keep doing what you’re doing out there, man!”

Tom: “Thanks, man.  Okay.”

Him: “Dude, this is beautiful.  Where are you gonna hide that thing?”

Tom: “I’ve no idea!”

Also it should be noted that someone tells him repeatedly “Tom, we have to go!” when he is talking to the guy.

It just proves what type of person he really is.  People generally react in two ways when confronted with criticism.  They get defensive out of pride or they respond rationally with class and kindness.  The latter is called maturity.  Of course it helps when the criticism is ridiculous to the point of absurdity.  But it must be frustrating to be so misinterpreted and so hypocritically criticized.  And while he, like all of us, wants approval, I don’t see him being permanently scarred by this.  He’s a big boy.  If he can survive 2016, he can probably survive anything.  He more than proved that the opinion of strangers on the internet isn’t of lasting importance and he isn’t going to let it dictate his personal life choices.  

Yes, that is something to respect.  There are more than enough legitimate problems and injustices and causes in this world that deserve your time, money, brain cells, and righteous indignation.  A rambling two minute speech by a surprised, nervous, and emotional Tom Hiddleston WHO JUST WON A BLOODY GOLDEN GLOBE shouldn’t be high on that list. 

anonymous asked:

I think the Doctor is no longer The Doctor. He doesn't care anymore. Someone dies nevermind get over it He kills someone because he 'was already dead' Like c'mon this isn't The Doctor I knew, or love. What happened to 'always the optimistic' or 'i've never met anyone who wasn't important before'? Now it's just comparing human brains to pudding? It is just so disappointing you know He is not dark, he's just arrogant. It makes me wanna stop watching, I really don't want to but I just can't anymore

I’m sorry you feel that way, but I have to say I mostly disagree. Because I don’t think what we’ve seen of the series supports the idea that the Doctor doesn’t care anymore. A man who doesn’t care wouldn’t have given this speech:

“It’s just far away. Everything looks too small. I prefer it down there. Everything is huge. Everything is so important. Every detail, every moment, every life clung to.”

A man who doesn’t care wouldn’t have promised the dinosaur to bring her home, a man who doesn’t care wouldn’t have saved Journey’s life, a man who doesn’t care wouldn’t have started a revolt against the knight robots and consequently saved their prisoners, a man who doesn’t care would not have taught Rupert about fear, a man who doesn’t care wouldn’t have looked at Saibra like both of his hearts were breaking. Even leaving Clara behind in Kill The Moon wasn’t an act of indifference - he genuinely thought that it was right to leave this choice to her, that she would know what was right.

You’re correct about a couple of things. He is arrogant. But that’s really a reoccuring theme with the Doctor, hardly limited to this one (“Funny little human brains. How do you get around in those things?”, “I’d call you a genius, except I’m in the room”). He can also be callous towards people, but again, there are plenty of quotes to go around for the Doctor (“Mickey the idiot”, “What are you, a journalist?… make it up!”). He’s never been perfect, humble, and universally kind. To compare one Doctor’s best moments with another Doctor’s worst moments will result in an unfair assessment that ultimately brushes aside many of the inherent complexities of the character.

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anonymous asked:

Hey Jen, you may have been asked this question several times, but I really am wondering about it to fully understand your latest Twitter discussion about Bomer's casting. If you're stating that CIS men should never play trans roles, then how come you've praised Jeffery Tambor in Transparent? In the Daily Dot, you quoted "Given that the character of Maura hasn't started hormones and is mostly living as male, it made sense to cast a cis male". Isn't that what Bomer would be doing? Thanks.

Unfortunately, nuance is often lost on online discussions, and this is a particularly complicated issue.

-It’s not so much as I believe cis men should never play trans roles, but rather that given the violence against trans women right now, there are serious consequences when they do, and it’s important that people in media understand that. I’m not one for hard, fast, unchanging rules of behavior, and I’m a big believer in the importance of artistic freedom, but it’s irresponsible not to be mindful of the impact of representation, particularly when lives are at stake.

-I do think Jeffrey did a good job, considering the part. I would never say that cis men are incapable of playing trans women. But I believe a skilled, experienced trans actress would have brought more to the role.

-There is a big difference between the roles of Maura/Lili in Transparent/The Danish Girl, and Rayon/Freda in Dallas Buyers Club/Anything. The former focuses on transition, and most of the story takes place before medical intervention; the latter of trans women well into their journey, and acting as sex workers.

-To be clear, I do still think the right trans women could have played Maura and Lili, and the argument that it’d be “traumatizing” to ask a trans actress to play themselves pre-transition is patronizing horseshit. Actors aren’t forced to take any role, so any trans actor who would want the part would obviously be willing to also present as male for part of it. I would have jumped at the chance to play the part of Lili (well, in a  different production with a different script), even if it meant also playing Einar.

-Lili and Maura are both involved with women. Rayon and Freda have sex with men. Since my larger issue is the violence against trans women by men, not women, the roles of Rayon and Freda are more loaded for me. I’m less concerned with the danger to trans women from the wives they have, and much, much, much more concerned with the men who sleep with trans women but are told by our culture that we’re “really” men, which I believe is the root of the violence.

-Rayon and Freda are sex workers. As someone very familiar with that world, I can that “passability” (a term I’ve come to loathe, but it’s what clients use, and many of used to) is of paramount importance. Yes, there are some cases of gay men who crossdress for sex work, but in my experience, most trans sex workers are transgender, living their lives as women, and their income largely depends upon them being “passable” (while still “functional”, another complication). Of course there are exceptions, but if you look at the most visible trans porn stars, you’ll see the same dynamic at play. Producers don’t cast men in these roles because they’ve actually met trans sex workers, they do it because it’s what they imagine them to be like, because that’s how producers have done it before them. Point being, it’s the real life Rayon’s and Freda’s of the world who are most at danger (well, except in real life those girls tend to be black, Latina, and API, another issue of whitewashing by Hollywood), specifically for men thinking they’re “really” men, and that danger is thereby exacerbated by having them portrayed by cis men.

I know this is long, and like I said, it’s complicated.

Again: my primary concern is the safety of at risk trans women. That’s what this is all really about.

shaquille-o-real  asked:

Hi, I'm a black QWOC and I'm writing a story about a girl being the ONLY black girl in the suburbs. It's supposed to be a parody of the Token Black Friend that all white YA protagonists have. I have a question about writing the other POCs, especially the other black characters. One character is an Ankh-ish black man and I'm really nervous to do this because I might make it seem like all black men are bad but I also want to show that sometimes there isn't black solidarity. Should I change it?

(2/2) also I have a question about one of her love interests, who’s a Latino male. He’s a real asshole and is only dating her because “he’s never dated/ been with a black girl” and one of the other only POC in the area but I don’t want it to make it seem like he’s a hypersexualized Latino male but just a really bad person. I know that I have to show positive representation of the Latinx community to counter it but I think that people might take him the wrong way. Any tips?

Anti-Black Latino: Should I Add A Good Guy In?

If you choose to write about Anti-Blackness from Latinos then nobody can give or deny you permission or the ability.  Were you to go and somehow demonstrate in your narrative that the Latino Asshole is doing this SPECIFICALLY BECAUSE HE’S LATINO rather than because he’s a racist, or support demonization or ill will against Latinos – then your work would be racist and/or prejudiced. However, simply having an asshole Latino who is a racist is not the same as teaching your readers that all Latinos are one way or another. It would be absurd for someone to try to make you, a Black writer, apologize for and soften a topic that Black people may experience.

What difference would it truly make if you add a positively represented character? In Fresh Off The Boat, young Eddie’s racist behavior invited and caused controversy among audiences despite Eddie not being the only Asian character.  These issues were numerous and nuanced and applied to a different context of racism against Black people, but the point is, having positive representation alongside the negative to ‘offset’ a racist character does not necessarily absolve the work of any and all controversy.

Back to you: you are not personally obligated to show positive representation of the Latino community to offset an immoral Latino character because your character does not represent the entirety of Latinos – and, because I do not represent the entirety of Latinos, you are not personally obligated to listen to me either (but you asked).

I want to put something back into its proper context and speak to not just you but other people who may be feeling like they ‘have to’ offset somebody with positive representation: we have said that if you are going to negatively represent a character of one ethnicity, then it is an encouraged, good idea to counterbalance this with a redeeming character of the same because doing so can defy whatever stereotypes may be found in the 'bad’ character, and/or serve as a message to the reader that you don’t mean to come off like 'all X do that’.  However, if you are not concerned that you will perpetuate a stereotype or that you will alienate a reader, then this advice is not relevant.

Diversity in fiction asks that you give more content for People of Color to identify with, and that you give more examples of People of Color for non-members of that ethnicity to learn about their experiences, and empathize with what they do not live through. There is nothing about making sure everyone is comfortable with it.  Hell, part of its essence is a call to action to take you, as a writer, out of your comfort zone.  That Black communities face racism and one place it comes from is parts of the Latino community is an unfortunate reality that hits exactly all of these points. What is wrong with a writer saying, 'You should learn about and face that anti-Blackness is a thing and it does come from several, but not all, Latin Americans’?  

This is not directed specifically at you and when I put something in quotes I am not quoting you or anyone in specific particular, rather, summarizing the attitudes of what I have heard in the past:

“Well, you’re perpetuating this as a Latino stereotype by not adding a counterpoint character.”  Are you telling me that poor behavior on behalf of individuals represents the entirety of an ethnicity until proven otherwise? My fiction must validate this mentality of guilty until proven innocent by writing a 'credit to his race’?

“Well, yes, because there is so much negative representation of Latinos that they need positive representation to undo the damage of how they are viewed in society.”  There’s a difference between 'It would be great if you did this, given the context’ and 'THESE PEOPLE NEED YOU!’ Latinos do not lack their own agency to speak for their own selves and represent their own selves, just like how Black readers do not need to be walked through the concept that not all Latinos are racists.

So, no, man, you do not “have to” counter it.

- Rodríguez