I have had moments when I have argued to the point of exhaustion because I was committed to ending an argument with the championship belt and victory title. In growth, I have to check myself on that constantly. Especially after becoming an attorney, where I know that I could go blow for blow, round after round, until I’ve beaten every point I’ve made into the ground.
The issue is that that perspective shows a lack of humility, understanding, and maturity. So as I’ve grown up, how I argue changed. And it’s not about being right, it’s about expressing my hurt, listening for his hurt, and getting to a point of mutual understanding, apologizing sincerely, taking steps to move forward while also giving space for the hurt person to be hurt.