alpha xi delta!

Please don’t pass judgement on something you don’t understand.

I just read an article about a sorority recruitment video that “is worse for women than Donald Trump”–I read the entire article and watched the video, expecting some horrendous taboo recruitment video. I didn’t get what I expected. It was a complete run of the mill plain Jane recruitment video. The article states"It’s all so racially and aesthetically homogeneous and forced, so hyper-feminine, so reductive and objectifying, so Stepford Wives: College Edition. It’s all so … unempowering,”. When in reality it shows a group of girls goofing around, having fun and bonding with each other to form a sisterhood. Sisterhood is ultimately the reason a girl joins a sorority in the first place, so showcasing that is an extremely important part of the recruitment process. Speaking from experience, the making these types of videos is sometimes choreographed and sometimes someone just pulls out a camera and starts filming friends joking around, sitting and talking. 

Do the girls all have on nice outfits, their hair done and makeup on? Yes! Of course! Why would somebody post a video of their sorority looking like crap? That’s not going to attract PNMs. In many sororities, including my own, sisters pride themselves on appreciating beauty, both of themselves and their surroundings. This isn’t in vain or for shallow reasons, but simply because when we look our best, we feel our best. We are confident and ready to conquer anything. When we wear our letters or represent our houses, we are encouraged to spend a little extra time grooming in the morning to look put together. Similarly when I went on field trips in high school, we were instructed to wear nicer clothes and be nicely groomed because we were representing our school. There’s nothing wrong with taking pride in yourself. 

Thirdly, the author tells us that the video is lacking : any mention of core ideals or service and philanthropy efforts”. Recruitment videos are meant to be supplemental. They are shown to PNMs DURING the recruitment process. These PNMs are also talking to the sisters about their values and philanthropies. In fact, when I went through recruitment, the video was shown during our philanthropy round. We met with the girl who was recruiting us, talked about the philanthropy that house was involved in, watched the video, and did a small craft for the philanthropy (i.e. making sugar free iced tea lemonade for the JDRF walk when the philanthropy is Diabetes Research and Education). We don’t see it in the 5 minute video, but we talk about the values of the houses for 4 days, each time we visit. 

The author concludes saying “It’s the kind of thing I never want my young daughters to see or emulate.” That’s very sad, I want my daughter to emulate sorority women. Women who share a bond that lasts a lifetime. Women who seek wisdom, who aspire to keep their bodies and minds healthy, speak kindly with those who they meet and cherish the friendships they make along the way. I want her to be a woman who looks for ways to contribute to her community and show respect for herself, her home, and her beliefs. I want my daughter to be honest, kind and sincere. I want her to have high ambitions and find a way to reach them. That is the kind of woman I want to be, I want to raise and that is the kind of woman that is in a sorority. 


RANT OVER. Please, just do research and find the appropriate information on a subject before you pass judgment. Not everything about a system can be shown in a 5 minute video that’s meant to be an advertisement. 

🎓 how to create a sorority graduation shadow box! 🎓

Spring is an ideal time to make a commemorative shadow box of your sorority graduation paraphernalia! Collect your grad keepsakes and spotlight them in a framed box for safe keeping. Post-initiation is another prime time for crafting a shadow box of your bid day, new member and sisterhood memorabilia. Treasure your sorority memories, turn them into wall art and preserve them for years to come with these sorority sugar ‘How To’ instructions for making your own greek girl display box! 

🎓   MAKE A SORORITY SHADOW BOX! 🎓

STEP 1 Gather Your Materials: 

Determine the theme of your shadow box and collect all the things you want to put inside. These are some ideas for what you may want to include.

  • GRAD BOX: Grad cap, sorority stole, commencement invitation, photos, tassel, tickets, dried flowers, program, certificate, chapter papers, medals, awards, buttons, etc…
  • MEMBERSHIP BOX: Membership certificate, bid card, pledge ribbon, photos, big/little keepsakes, dried flowers, name tag, button, decal, ribbons, awards, koozie, greek letters, notes, awards, door signs, greek stitch letters, pearls, etc…

 Supplies You Will Need:

  • Wood shadow box from a craft store. 11″x14″ or 20″x20″ are popular sizes. Make sure your box is wide enough and deep enough for your items.
  • Scissors
  • Background fabric or scrapbook paper. Use acid-free and archival-quality materials.
  • Aleene’s Original Tacky Glue
  • Foam brush for applying glue
  • Clear glue dots
  • Clear headed straight pins and/or color matching straight pins. Use stainless, dressmaker quality pins only.
  • Quake Hold Museum Wax
  • Permanent Sticky Mounting Tabs
  • Double stick tape
  • Hot glue gun 
  • Sheet of foam backing if you’re using pins to attach your items

STEP 2 Cover the Background Board:

  • Remove the board from the back of the box.
  • Cut your acid free background fabric or paper to fit. (For a grad box, your stole can serve as the background fabric.)
  • If you are attaching your items with pins, glue a sheet of foam backing to the board prior to attaching the paper or fabric.
  • Using Aleene’s craft glue and a foam brush, glue your background paper or fabric onto the board.

STEP 3 Attach Your Keepsakes:

  • Layout your design before attaching any memorabilia. 
  • Sketch your design on a separate piece of paper, so you can remember where everything goes.
  • Work from the background forward. Place larger pieces in the back, smaller accents in the foreground.
  • Glue-mount-pin-tape your sorority keepsakes layer by layer onto the board. Select the mounting method based on the weight and style of the piece.
  • Not everything can be glued, so secure some items with clear headed straight pins, color matching pins, sticky mounting tabs, hot glue, glue dots, double stick tape, or Museum Wax instead. A combination of mounting techniques is highly recommended.
  • Add 3-D accents to the front of your design. 

STEP 4 Re-Assemble Your Box:

  • Once the items are securely in place, carefully reunite the decorated back with the frame and glass. 
  • Hang your sorority shadow box where you can enjoy it! 

{shadow box photos from Pinterest}

🎓  RELATED POST: How to Decorate a Sorority Grad Cap!

Paddles are a tradition in sororities. While many sororities have tried to stay away from paddles due to their historical uses, I believe that paddles are an essential part of Greek life. Whether you’re in PanHellenic, IFC, for MGC paddles are common place. I have complied a list of my five favorite paddles that I have come across on Pinterest.

1. Alpha Sigma Tau Anchor Paddle

2. Kappa Alpha Theta Tangled Paddle

3. Lilly Pulitzer Paddle

4. Gamma Phi Beta Floral Paddle

5. Gamma Phi Beta Quote Paddle

Bonus: Kappa Alpha Theta UP Paddle (this is my personal paddle that I gave to my big. Not on the top five, but I wanted to share it on my blog)

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❀ Sweet AΞ∆ on Sayings: ❀  

  • To XI or not to XI ~ It Was Never a Question 
  • Prepare to be AmaΞe∆
  • Welcome to XI Good Life 
  • Just Livin’ XI Dream
  • XI First, XI Finest, XI Best 
  • Life is Better AΞ∆
  • LAugh Often, LΞve Life, L∆ve Forever 
  • She’s Not For Me if She Aint Alpha Xi
  • All You NΞed Is L∆ve 
  • Leave a Little SpArkle WhΞrever Y∆u Go
  • Always ClassXI, But Oh So SassXI
  • An AΞ∆ is a Golden Thread to the Meaning of Life
  • HAppily Ξver ∆fter
  • We’ve Got no Troubles, Life is the Bubbles, Under the XI
  • You Know You Love Me XOXI

❀ from:  Sayings By Chapter for the 26 NPC Sororities