So in Dorne, alone among the Seven Kingdoms, it is the eldest child—man or woman—who will inherit, and not just the eldest son. Great ladies and famous princesses abound, and are the subject of songs and tales as much as the great knights and princes.
The World of Ice and Fire. Dorne. Queer Customs of the South.
Note: In the books, Delonne Allyrion is probably more than 50 years old, because she has a grown up grandson (Daemon Sand, of the same age of Arianne Martell). In this picset, I chose to portray her in her youth.
…I think I have a new favourite sim. I had to create him for a scene and I immediately fell in love.
In the A Song of Ice and Fire books, Daemon is merely a background character with a few lines. In the TV show Game of Thrones, he only appears as an extra once. So I was free to go with the books’ description.
Daemon is a bastard of noble House Allyrion. He squired for the famous Oberyn Martell and received knighthood from him. He is rumoured to be Oberyn’s lover. No proof has been given, yet. For sure, he took the maidenhead of Oberyn’s niece Arianne but was refused her hand in marriage.
I’ll use him in an upcoming recreation of these events.
Ser Daemon known as the Bastard of Godsgrace, is the bastard son of Ser Ryon Allyrion, the heir of House Allyrion. He is one of Dorne’s finest swords. Daemon took Arianne Martell’s maidenhead when she was fourteen, he had not been much older so their couplings had been as clumsy as they were ardent. Still, Arianne recollects that it had been sweet. Although Arianne’s father, Prince Doran Martell eventually learned this he did not do anything. Daemon asked Doran for Arianne’s hand and was refused. He later squired for Prince Oberyn Martell and received his knighthood from the Red Viper himself. There are rumours that he also became Oberyn’s lover, though this is seldom said to his face. Things have never been the same between Arianne and Daemon after her father refused his offer for her hand.
Request from @intxthing : The reader is half Dornish and half Westerosi (her mother was Dornish and her father was Westerosi). She can be a servant girl or royalty, doesn’t matter. She comes to Kings Landing to work/live in the Red Keep during a celebration or something when Oberyn is visiting. And Jaime and Oberyn both notice her because of her unique Dornish/Westerosi look. The rest is up to you!
Jaime Lannister X Reader X Oberyn Martell
A/N: I hope you like it! With love, Kat
People always asked you where you hailed from, because of your unique features. Your mother was Lady Allyrion of Dorne, and your father was Lord Buckler of the Stormlands. You weren’t sure how exactly your family came to be, all you knew is that you were technically royalty. Since you lived in Dorne your whole life, you kept your mother’s surname. You were Lady Y/N Allyrion of Godsgrace, Dorne. You had the dark hair and olive skin of the Dornish, but the light eyes and the petite build of those from the Stormlands. You also had a streak of silver hair that began towards the front of your head near your part and was visible no matter how your hair was done.
You were en route to Kings Landing to attend the royal wedding with your septa and your guards in tow. This would be your first time to Kings Landing, and you were sure you would get countless questions about your heritage because you didn’t look Dornish or Westerosi, you looked like an incredible mixture of the two. On occasion people even thought you were from Essos or Meereen or even Braavos, simply because they couldn’t place your distinct combination of features.
“Lady Y/N” your septa snapped you from your deep thoughts to tell you that you were coming up on the gates of Kings Landing. It was a beautiful place, with it’s long, slender streets and alleyways and the castle was something that could only be described as immense. It was easily three times the size of your castle in Godsgrace and the spires looked like they touched the sky.
Walking up to the large, wooden doors of the castle, your guards introduced you to the two men of the Kingsguard who were in front of the door. Upon hearing your name, they opened the doors and stepped aside so you could walk in. You would never get tired of the sound of your shoes clicking across the stone floor in the large, empty hallway of the castle. The way the ceiling was arched and the size of the windows made every footstep sound like a symphony. More men of the Kingsguard led you through the Red Keep to a large hall where the royalty and many of their guests were sitting and talking. It was a large meeting to introduce the King and future Queen as well as inform everyone of the events of the next week that will be occurring. Weddings were a big deal in the Faith of the Seven, highly ritualized and generally made a large affair. Especially the royal wedding.
The hand of the King, a man named Jaime Lannister, came to greet you at the door. “Lady Y/N” he bent slightly to pull your hand into his and kiss your knuckles. Apparently this was custom in the Crownlands because he was the third man to treat you this way. Greetings were much more physical in Dorne, with hugs and kisses on both cheeks being normal. “Ser Jaime” you curtsied, smiling at him. He was a handsome man, tall in stature with the signature blonde Lannister hair and a jawline that could cut stone. You had heard much about his skills as a fighter and could tell by his build that he was muscular, but lean, and very active.
Jaime brought you over to his family to meet everyone. “Lady Y/N, this is my sister Cersei, who is Queen regent” he gestured to a beautiful woman who would be even more so if she didn’t have a perpetual scowl on her face. “This is my nephew, King Joffrey” he gestured to a boy who could nearly be twins with his mother, matching scowl and all. “Your grace” you curtsied, smiling at him. “You did not tell me Lady Allyrion was so beautiful, uncle” Joffrey said while waving a hand around, talking to Jaime but his eyes never leaving you. You blushed and immediately curtsied again, the King had just called you beautiful, “Thank you, your grace” you smiled and he smiled back. The boy wasn’t so bad when he didn’t look angry, but you’d heard from many people that he had quite the temper and was a bit of brat. But honestly what more can you expect from a boy who grew up as rich as the Lannisters, was spoiled to death by his mother, and King at such a young age.
You were excused from the King and Jaime led you towards a table that was currently occupied by other people of Dorne, with one seat left for yourself. “The introductions and information will begin in a few moments, Lady Y/N. For now, feel free to talk to the other guests” Jaime smiled at you, letting his hand rest on the small of your back as he led you to the table. The gesture seemed a bit too physical for a Westerosi custom, but you brushed it off as Ser Jaime being kind.
Before you could sit, a pair of large arms were wrapped around your waist from behind and kisses were being placed on both of your cheeks. “Lady Y/N Allyrion, my it has been far too long” you heard a husky voice say next to your ear. You knew who it was from the voice, so before you turned around you said, “Prince Oberyn, it has indeed been too long” and you spun around to wrap your arms around his neck. While you were hugging him, you made eye contact with Jaime Lannister, who seemed to have his jaw clenched tight and the hand that was not holding on to his sword was fisted in a ball at his side. Anger flashed in his eyes before he realized you were looking at him with an eyebrow raised in confusion and he simply cleared his throat and looked away, trying not to notice you and Oberyn in your embrace. When you pulled back, Oberyn was smiling at you. The two of you knew one another well, since Godsgrace and Sunspear were both on the peninsula of Dorne and were not too far from one another, you dealt with the Martells regularly.
After the introductions, there was much talk about the wedding and how there would be feasts and jousting and plenty of festivities leading up to the wedding at the end of the week. For now, there was going to be a big feast and lots of wine. “Prince Oberyn I’ve missed your company in Godsgrace!” you said, gesturing at him with your wine, “It gets quite lonely in that big, old castle sometimes” you laughed. “I’ll have to come visit more often then” he smirked, “you sure have grown since the last time I saw you.” He moved to pour more wine in both of your glasses. “I suppose that’s a compliment” you laughed. “Trust me, my dear, it is. I almost wouldn’t have recognized you if it weren’t for your silver streak” he smiled as your hand when to the wide streak of silver hair that was hanging next to your face. You were about to compliment Oberyn back when a warm hand settled on your shoulder. You turned your head to see who it was. “Ser Jaime” you smiled, a little too enthusiastically. “Lady Y/N, how is everything?” he smiled at you, glancing over at Oberyn. “Great! The food and wine are excellent!” you beamed, it was the truth, the food in the Red Keep was amazing and so was the wine. “Excellent” Jaime smiled, “Would you like to go on my rounds with me? I can give you a tour of the castle” he extended his hand to you. “I’d love that!” you said, taking his hand and allowing him to help you up and lead you to the door. You’d catch up with Oberyn later, after all, you had the whole week.
After Jaime led you into the hall, he spoke. “So, Lady Y/N. You know Prince Oberyn well?” he asked, walking down the hall with one hand on his sword. “Yes” you smiled up at him while walking next to him down the hall, “Oberyn and I both grew up in Dorne. He’s a very good friend of my family, he used to visit Godsgrace often. Not so much anymore, but hopefully that will change.” “So you’re not together, then?” he asked, looking at you out of the corner of his eye. “Oh my, no!” you giggled, putting a hand to your chest. “Well then,” he stopped abruptly and turned so he was now in front of you, facing you, “might I ask if you’re seeing anyone?” “As a matter of fact, I’m not” you said, biting your lip.
Was Jaime Lannister flirting with you? No, there’s no way. He’s the Jaime Lannister, he wouldn’t be interested in a girl like you. “Your hair is very unique, it’s no wonder they call you the Silver Viper of Dorne” he said, a small smile playing across his face. He lifted a hand and ran his fingers over the silver streak in your hair. “Thank you” you said, blushing and glancing at the floor, “it definitely gets attention” you laughed. “You deserve the attention” he smiled wider now, lifting your face with his hand. He leaned in and placed a sweet kiss on your cheek that lasted a bit longer than it should have. Your blush was darker now, and a smile was spreading across your features, lighting up your face. As his lips were still resting on your cheek, someone yelling broke you two apart. “Jaime!” you hear being called from down the hall. As you jump back from him, you see his sister Cersei round the corner. “Oh, Jaime! I was looking for you everywhere” she said, putting a hand on his shoulder. “Come Y/N” Jaime said gesturing for you to walk with him, “let’s get back to the feast now.”
Once you returned to the hall, Prince Oberyn met eyes with you when you walked in the door and smiled. “Hanging out with the Kingslayer, aye?” he laughed, clapping a hand on your shoulder and leading you back to your shared table. “He was just showing me round the castle, Viper” you shot back, narrowing your eyes for a moment and then laughing. “Is that why you only got down the second hall, Viper?” he smirked, emphasizing your shared nickname, raising his eyebrows, taunting you. “Quit your teasing, Martell” you laughed, “He was just showing me round.” “Oh, no no no, my dear” he chuckled, pulling you close to his chest and leaning down, putting his lips to your ear he said, “I do believe the Kingslayer’s got it bad for you.” Oberyn smirked as he looked over your shoulder, winking at Jaime as he did. That caused Jaime to clench his fists and tighten up his expression, but he couldn’t go up to you, he was sitting with Cersei and Joffrey. “You jealous, Oberyn?” you leaned back to look at him, laughing. “Maybe I am” he said proudly, puffing out his chest a little. “Don’t worry my sweet, sweet Prince, Kingslayer’s got nothing on you. The Dornish charmer” you laughed, wrapping an arm around his waist. In response, he wrapped an arm around your shoulders.
The two of you walked out of the hall still holding onto one another, Jaime’s jealousy was going to have to wait. For now, you had some major catching up to do.
Do you have any headcanons for aegon vi and rhaenys?
Well, since they were both killed when they were infants, I don’t really have much for their canon selves, except that I like to believe Rhaenys was Elia’s daughter by Arthur. But in an AU where they’re able to grow up, below the cut are some headcanons.
Shoutout to the salt squad for contributing to the list.
Hi! I'm reading about Jeyne Arryn (and ladies regents overall) and since it doesn't say, I wondered if you have any thoughts on who she might have married? Is there any difference in women marrying lords and men marrying ladies, i.e. a daughter of a vassal house is often gladly given to the ruling lord bc of status and the honor, but since any children of a ruling lady would be her surname instead of the husband's, do you think ppl might rather marry another and keep their own name?
I don’t think Jeyne Arryn married anyone. You don’t get a title like Maiden of the Vale (cf Elizabeth I, the Virgin Queen) if you’re married with kids. After she died, the rulership of the Vale probably passed to a sibling or cousin. The general history of House Arryn makes me suspect this has happened several times. (Besides the situation with Sweetrobin and Harry Hardyng, there’s also the time when Lord Ronnel and his family were murdered by his younger brother Jonos who was then executed by Maegor, and the rulership passed to their cousin Hubert.)
Regarding a man marrying a ruling lady and not having the default right to give his name to his children (as long as I’m cf’ing British royals, see Prince Philip’s complaint)… well, it’s a tradeoff. He may not have that visible legacy, but he typically is his lady wife’s chief adviser (and often administrator of her lands and leader of her soldiers), and that kind of influence and power is not a benefit to be overlooked.
For example, Drazenko Rogare
was married to the Dornish ruling Princess Aliandra Martell, and the Rogare banking family had great influence in Westeros at the time. (Also because his niece, Larra, was married to Prince Viserys Targaryen, the future King Viserys II.) Plus,
a father’s influence on his children is usually very strong, so the opportunity to raise the future heir
is another benefit – men who marry their daughters to a ruling lord can only hope he will give favor to his father-in-law, but it’s pretty much a given that a ruling lord (or lady) will honor and favor his father, even if they don’t share the same surname. Furthermore, if by some accident the lady should die while her children are underage, it’s an almost certainty that her husband-consort would be appointed regent for the new young lord (or lady).
Marrying an heiress or ruling lady is also an opportunity for rogues, the kind of man who’d look at the above benefits as the real reason for and true profit of the marriage. (Which is why such a woman needs to be very careful who she selects as her husband, if she can.) Prince Daemon Targaryen, even though he deeply disliked his wife Lady Rhea Royce (who he called “my bronze bitch”) and spent as little time in the Vale as possible, still tried to claim her lands and incomes after her death. (He failed, Runestone passed to Rhea’s nephew, and Lady Jeyne Arryn told Daemon to get the hell out of the Vale.) Bronn married Lollys Stokeworth, who was not even her mother’s heir, with the intent of displacing her childless elder sister; and after his and Cersei’s (inept) machinations, both Lady Tanda and Falyse were dead, and while Lollys is now technically Lady Stokeworth, as she is mentally disabled Bronn is calling himself Lord Stokeworth. (His hired army in Stokeworth castle also helps there.) Also since Bronn was lowborn, the opportunity for his future children to be named Stokeworth is actually something he’d prefer to his own lack of a surname. And then there’s Hyle Hunt, who boldfacedly tells Brienne that Tarth is what he wants, in exchange for giving her the sex and children he thinks she wants. Not to mention Tywin’s plans for Tyrion and Sansa, or Tyrek and little Lady Ermesande Hayford, although that’s less of a “rogue” and more of a “malicious bastard manipulating tyrant” kind of thing. (Tywin would probably insist that the children be named Lannister, anyway.)
At any rate, the (hopefully) better sort of man who marries a ruling lady is probably not any kind of heir. He’s a second son, or a third, with little or no chance at his parent’s seat. What does it matter if your children have your name, when they’ll never have an opportunity to inherit your family’s lands or live in your family’s castle? Oftentimes he’s marrying up, too, to greater status and honor than his own – like when a ruling Princess of Dorne marries one of her bannermen; or like when the landed knight Ser Eustace Osgrey married Lady Rohanne Webber, whose lands included much of what House Osgrey had lost over the years (including her castle). (Though we don’t know if Eustace and Rohanne had any kids before she was widowed (again) and married Gerold Lannister, or if they did, what they were named. There are no known Osgreys in current-times Westeros, mind you, and only one Webber, who’s with a mercenary group of exiles.) Also, a ruling lady may sometimes marry a cousin, who shares her name but is not in the direct line of succession, as a way of binding together branches of the family and preventing challenges to her inheritance. Though in that case her husband may rule straight up, without her (the situation of Serena and Sansa Stark, most likely), or with her until his death (the probable situation of Lady Shella Whent, whose father and grandfather were Lords of Harrenhal, and yet her husband Walter Whent was the named lord during the great tourney there).
Nevertheless. It is interesting that of almost all the ruling ladies we know, when they have husbands they’re barely mentioned if at all. Oberyn Martell speaks of his trip to Casterly Rock with his mother the Princess of Dorne and “her consort”, not his father. Arys Oakheart thinks of his mother Lady Arwyn in re “the women are the strong ones”, but never once thinks of his father. We know nothing about the (deceased) husbands of the elderly ruling ladies Tanda Stokeworth, Mary Mertyns, and Anya Waynwood. The Dornish ruling ladies Delonne Allyrion, Larra Blackmont, and Nymella Toland have children, but no named or appearing consorts. And of course Maege Mormont “beds with a bear”, as does her heir Alysane. It’s an intriguing reversal of the usual situation of unnamed wives in the rest of Westeros… although I think it would be more interesting to meet one of these consorts and see what he thinks about his life, and his wife.
Well, maybe we’ll get a chance to find out in the next two books or so. (Though at this rate, I doubt it, alas.) Anyway, hope that helps!
What do you think about the theory that the Starks are going to die off in the end? The show is making it seem like there isn't going to be anyone to carry on the Stark name. Bran doesn't want to be Lord. Arya and Sansa will take the names of their husbands if they marry and have children. Jon has made it clear he isn't a Stark. Rickon is dead. I hate the idea that the Stark aren't going to exist in the end. I know that the story is based on War of the Roses and the Yorks died off.
First of all, just because the War of the Roses is one of GRRM’s inspiration for asoiaf does not mean it’s a one-to-one parallel. Martin drew inspiration from several sources, historical and literary, while constructing his world, among them the Hundred Years Wars, the Crusades, the Arthurian legends, the legends of Charlemagne and many others. He has stated time and again that the series is more informed by the War of the Roses than based on it, but he mixed things up and let the characters and the story grow organically, meaning that he deviated from the actual historical events because, like, duh. So the outcome of the War of the Roses has no bearing on where asoiaf is going. It might be fun to parallel the two and figure out points of divergence or which character parallels which historical figure, but it’s utterly pointless to expect an outcome in the story simply because that’s how things went in the War of the Roses. The story did not precisely correspond to that historical conflict from the very start, and it’s definitely very removed from it now as Martin’s characters and story grew and his gardener approach to writing steered the story into different areas than originally planned.
I do not, for one second, believe that House Stark is doing to die off by the end of the series.
They are going to be a part of the rebuilding of Westeros past the War for the Dawn, and they will continue to be the rulers of the North. But to answer the question of inheritance (and I’m gonna stick to show canon since that’s what you’re talking about, though things are different in the books), Rickon is dead, Bran has
bequeathed his inheritance and Jon is being presented to us as the Last
Targaryen Heir (eye-roll) Um, Sansa and Arya are still there to continue
the Stark line? Sansa is currently Lady of Winterfell; upon her
marriage, she will not be taking her husband’s name but keeping hers and
passing it to her children. Ruling ladies in Westeros do continue their
family’s lines, anon, and we have several ruling ladies who passed on their names to their children and continued their House: Anya Waynwood, Arywn Oakheart, Tanda Stokeworth, Nymella Tolland, Larra Blackmont, Delonne Allyrion, and the several Dornish ruling princesses who continued House Nymeros Martell, from Nymeria’s eldest daughter with Mors Martell, to Princess Meria Martell, to the Unnamed Princess of Dorne, mother to Doran, Elia and Oberyn. So I do not really see a problem for the continuance of House Stark, even if none of the male heirs take the lordship or even survive (though again, I highly doubt the latter.)
If Doran had never been born or died, how do you think that changes Elia & Oberyn? Elia would make a great princess but do you think Oberyn would have settled down and gotten serious earlier?
Well, Elia of course would not marry Rhaegar as she’s her mother’s heir, which brings with it an already wildly different ballgame. Aerys would either have to suck it up and pick a non-Valyrian bride for Rhaegar (Lysa Tully perhaps?) or search out distant cousins from his great-aunt Daella or Rhae’s lines.
Doran didn’t get married in canon until around 275 when he was late-20s but I doubt the POD would be content to wait that long with Elia given the need for children (though I don’t know that she’d have her marry at 16 either, for health reasons) so for simplicity’s sake let’s say she married the same year Doran did, when she’d have been 18.
There’s a relatively limited number of appropriately highborn men Elia could have as her consort, however, most of the prominent sons being either too young or unavailable (heirs, betrothed, etc.). Though in this scenario, I don’t think that the POD would look outside Dorne. She allowed Mellario, but Mellario wasn’t Westerosi, there was no preference being given to one region or another, plus she had two other children.
Some candidates that were likely about Elia’s age are Ryon Allyrion, Dagos/Myles Manwoody, Franklyn Fowler, Anders Yronwood(’s brother?), and–conveniently–Arthur Dayne. Now, the first few are heirs, but given that marrying Elia would essentially be like marrying the crown, I’m sure some of them would be just fine giving up their holding in exchange for consortship (Yronwood possibly excepted).
My own shipping reasons aside, I do think Arthur is a perfectly decent choice. He’s Dorne’s best warrior, the Sword of the Morning, he’s handsome, he’s honorable, and his ancestor married Princess Nymeria so there’s definitely precedent. Plus he (may have) squired under the POD’s brother. That’s a damn good resume that she wouldn’t really be able to find anywhere else, and if Elia was already enamored with him, all the better.
In which case, Oberyn is the one she would probably/might marry to someone outside Dorne. I don’t quite know who, especially if she wanted in on the SA alliance, but I’m sure she’d come up with someone. I don’t think Oberyn’s the kind of person to change attitudes, though, nor keep his bastards away from his household like most men do. We see what that does to Cat, and that was only one bastard; Oberyn had three by that point. That said, the difference of course would be that Oberyn would have legitimate children this time around who would be in the line of succession, and in that respect he would be settling down. But I don’t think he’d ever lose his impetuousness nor his violently protective streak, no.
I’ve already written a detailed post about ladies-in-waiting in Westeros but @amazingeugenie asked me today about Elia’s ladies-in-waiting. Unfortunately we know almost nothing about them … but when has that ever stopped me when it comes to pre-series ladies?
We know that Ashara was one of her ladies, and we know that Elia had more ladies than just Ashara alone:
Nor Elia of Dorne, though she was good and gentle; had she been chosen, much war and woe might have been avoided. His choice would have been a young maiden not long at court, one of Elia’s companions … though compared to Ashara Dayne, the Dornish princess was a kitchen drab.
There may be more to follow at some point, but while I’m stuck on a train, here have some thoughts:
Only Princess Nymeria of Ny Sar spoke against him [Garin of Chroyane]. “This is a war we cannot hope to win,” she warned, but the other princes shouted her down and pledged their swords to Garin. Even the warriors of her own Ny Sar were eager to fight, and Nymeria had no choice but to join the great alliance. (Ten Thousand Ships, TWOIAF)
I’m looking here at forethought. Nymeria is someone who clearly has a handle on what the damage of war may hold for her people. In this case, she’s right as fuck, given the destruction that the Valyrians bring to the Rhoyne. But there are a few things that I feel like bringing up.
To be honest, I'm not really sure who to ask this question and I haven't been able to make much sense of what I've found online. Anyway, in medieval/feudal societies, if a Queen (from a great house) marries a nobleman (from a lesser house) and he is given the title of Prince or King Consort and not named King. Do the children of said marriage inherit the mother's family name or the father's? Or would they figure that out amongst themselves? Any help would be appreciated! :)
Well…. it’s a little complicated in Westeros since we don’t have that many examples, and many of the ones we have are not that clear. (BTW, I am assuming you’re asking me about ASOIAF and not real world medieval societies, since I am pretty good at the first but not particularly so with the latter.)
First off, in Dorne things are very straightforward. The eldest inherits, male or female. This leads to more ruling ladies than elsewhere in Westeros, and a lady’s children will inherit the family name no matter who her consort is. For example, Doran and Oberyn’s mother was Princess [something] Nymeros Martell, and her children were all Prince/ss [their name] Nymeros Martell. Lady Nymella Toland’s daughters are Tolands. There’s Lady Blackmont (and her Blackmont children), Lady Allyrion and her son Ryon Allyrion, and so on.
Outside of Dorne, things are more confusing, since we do have some ruling ladies (inheriting because they have no (living) brothers), but unfortunately GRRM has not often given us their husbands’ names… and since sometimes people do marry cousins or other relatives with the same surname, it’s hard to say for certain. However, it is a fact that Lady Tanda Stokeworth’s daughters are Stokeworths, Lady Anya Waynwood’s sons are Waynwoods (even the ones greatly separated in age which could suggest they have different fathers), and Lady Maege Mormont’s daughters are Mormonts. (Maege’s daughters were Mormonts even before she became Lady of Bear Island, but the Mormont women situation is especially confusing, though also cool.) But unless they all married men from their own house, presumably then their children keep their name, as in Dorne. Keeping the house name as the family name is likely considered more important than anything else.
Now, for ruling queens it might be different, but we have very few examples. King Gerold III Lannister only had a daughter, but she didn’t inherit as queen in her own name – instead her husband changed his name to Lannister in order to rule as king. Rhaenyra Targaryen is very complicated (especially regarding her status as queen), but note her first husband was a Velaryon, and her children in that marriage were Velaryons… though she was just a princess at the time, and it is possible if any of those sons had lived to inherit, they might have changed their name to Targaryen to do so. Her second husband was her uncle, also a Targaryen, so the name inheritance there was simple… but useless for this question, unfortunately. And that’s… about it I think, ruling queens have been few and far between in Westeros, alas.
Note this question of children’s names is distinct from whether a woman
takes her husband’s name (she doesn’t have to, especially if he’s from a lower house than hers).
And it’s also separate from the question of what if a noblewoman marries a bastard. (In that case her children would certainly take her name.) But I hope GRRM will clarify the names of the husbands of at least a few of the ruling ladies above (especially in the case of Lady Waynwood, whose family looks to be strongly involved in Sansa’s storyline), just so we can get some more information on this issue. Hope that helps!