I spent sixteen coping with the loss of the number one person in my life and I spent seventeen trying really hard to figure out who I was without her. I spent eighteen thinking I wanted one thing when I didn’t realize I wanted something entirely different. I spent all of nineteen being completely open to all personalities, being accepted, rejected, and learning that you find yourself where you find your people. And I’ve learned not to throw my morals out the window, especially if I’m the only one in the room with morals to being with.
Every year I continue to learn a lot about who I am, what I like, and why I’m here, but the most important thing I’ve learned is that the only person you can really count on is yourself. And the second most important thing is that no matter what, through it all, the best thing you can do is love.
In honor of my twentieth birthday, a few of my already 20+ friends gave me some advice to take with me as I go…
- Be selfish. When dedicating your entire life and career to being there for other people, we tend to forget that the most important people in our lives are ourselves.
- The older you get, the less excuses you’re allowed to make for yourself.
- Don’t let other people influence your decisions. What you do and how you live is not up to vote.
- Be present in where you are. Don’t look ahead too far and don’t dwell on things that could’ve or should’ve or would’ve.
- Welcome to your 20s: the showdown between you and what you think you know. And you pretty much know nothing.
- Never take relationships for granted. Always tells the ones you love how much you love them at the end of every conversation.
- You’ve got endless possibilities and plenty of time to explore them. Take the time to do things you’ve always wanted to do.
- There’s going to be times of uncertainty and insecurity, when you feel like you suck, but you’ll find yourself 10 times stronger coming through it if you don’t give up.
-You can’t make every single person happy so stop trying while you’re ahead.
- Be bold and believe in yourself. Fake it ‘til you make it if you have to.