kira81  asked:

Hi i never use the term allosexual, i honestly dont know what it really means...but can you tell me why its bad?

its a term that a lot of people in the ace/aro community use to classify people who ~experience attraction~ (think of it like how the term allistic represents ppl w out a developmental disorder except Shitty) but the way allo/allosexual its used is usually Really Homophobic and its Really Bothers Me when people use it

anonymous asked:

So... Evil Allister? those annons called it... knew it was coming >w0

uh…you’re welcome???

(I don’t know how to respond to this XP)

hi hey hello this post has been made before but please try not to make fun of people for their autistic traits such as

• telling the same joke/ wanting to have the same conversation over and over again

• not having much coordination and having a tough time doing “easy” things like tying shoelaces

• having trouble understanding what you mean and needing lots of clarification

• needing things to be broken down into little steps

• having extremely high or extremely low empathy

• getting very attached to things like inanimate objects

there are a lot more but these are just ones i haven’t seen mentioned before!! feel free to add on if u think of anything else

I shouldn’t have to say this, but if an “educational method” is not okay to use on neurotypical children, then it’s not okay to use on autistic children. You wouldn’t spray water (or hot sauce) on a neurotypical child for making mistakes in math, so why is it okay to do to autistic children in ABA? You wouldn’t take away a neurotypical’s child favorite toy for misspelling words, so why is it okay to do to autistic children? You wouldn’t hit neurotypical’s child hand for having bad handwriting, so why is it okay to do to autistic children?

Even if you are trying to teach autistic children useful skills like tying their shoelaces or interacting with other people (and not trying to make them less autistic by suppressing their perfectly natural autistic behaviors, like most ABA “therapists”), you still shouldn’t use abusive and traumatic methods! Using ABA methods to teach neurotypical children school material is abuse, and you know it. So is using ABA on autistic children. For any reason. Please remember about that.


if an autistic person is doing something thats bothering you, dont try to avoid telling them. dont be subtle and give hints or try to ignore us in hopes that we’ll realize what we’re doing is bothering you and stop. we won’t. most of us do not pick up on hints like that and will not make a connection between you suddenly ignoring us or being upset with us and the thing we were doing that upset you. 

and do not suddenly get fed up and snap at us out of nowhere because your hints aren’t working. we are not purposely trying to hurt you or intentionally ignoring your feelings, we literally are not realizing that what we are doing is upsetting you. snapping at us just makes us feel bad and embarrassed

if an autistic person is doing something that bothers you, tell them directly. you don’t have to be mean or harsh, just let us know that it’s upsetting you and that youd like us to stop. it’s 1000x easier than trying to be subtle and drop hints that we will never pick up on

ok i can’t believe i have to say this but… *takes a deep breath*

please please Please don’t reblog something that is specifically for a certain group of people (eg those with a certain disability or mental illness) unless you Are a member of that group (eg actuallybpd, actuallyautistic, Genderoftheday posts)

not even tagging it with “i’m not such-and-such but i can relate to this/i do this” like no. just stop. please.

April 2nd is ‘Autism Awareness Day’ so let’s give the neurotypicals what they want and make them as aware of our awesome autistic selves as possible. Post selfies, videos, or anything you want and tag it with #AreYouAwareOfMeNow. 

Writing reference: things to keep in mind when writing autistic characters

Hi there writers, this is a handy list of things to keep in mind if you’re thinking about writing a character with autism. It’s important for all kinds of autistic people to be represented, not just certain common stereotypes. 

Things to avoid

1. Calling it a ‘disease’ is problematic; autism is a kind of neuro-atypicality but it is not a disease or an illness.

2. Having the character’s autism be there simply to evoke sympathy from the reader or to be a point of conflict is also not a good idea; you can have an autistic character and not have their autism be a major conflict in the story. It would really help dismantle the negative stigma around autism if there were autistic characters in a story but the story wasn’t about 'how to solve their autism’ because an autistic person isn’t a problem you need to fix.

3. Please don’t have the end goal of the story be the character becoming 'cured’ or 'well socialized’, being neurotypical is not the end goal of life. Autistic people can lead healthy and good lives. They don’t need a magical cure just because their neurotype is different.

4. Don’t use functioning labels to describe your character. 'High functioning’ and 'Low functioning’. These labels hold autistic people to a standard of neurotypicality and are generally ableist and unfair. Autism is a spectrum, not a binary with a 'good’ and 'bad’ side. Each autistic person is different and falls somewhere different on the spectrum.

5. Don’t use puzzle piece metaphors. We’re not missing pieces. Just stop that already. 

Things that are good to do

1. Write them with diversity besides just the fact that they are autistic. Autistic people can be any race, gender, sexuality, etcetera, that you want them to be. 

2. Keep in mind that autism is different depending on the person. Do your research on the spectrum. Don’t just write nonverbal characters that fit the stereotype of autism presented by the media. Nonverbal autistic people are important and need representation, but so do verbal autistic people. So do all autistic people. Writing only one type of autistic character reinforces the stereotype that all autistic people are the same, which is hugely false. 

3. If you aren’t autistic, it’s good to have an autistic person (as long as they are willing/comfortable with it) to review your writing and make sure there isn’t anything problematic or glaringly inaccurate about it. 

List of some possible traits of autistic characters (These are things that often appear on the autism spectrum, but every autistic person is different. Not every autistic person has the same traits.)

1. Sensory sensitivities: these can include light sensitivity or sensitivity to bright colors, sensitivity to certain smells, tastes, textures, sounds, etcetera.

2. Dyslexia

3. Hyperlexia

4. Echolalia, or the habit of repeating things

5. Frequent headaches

6. Struggles to understand sarcasm

7. Strength at math and numbers or art 

8. Synesthesia 

9. Stimming (A repetitive behavior that soothes a state of mind or distracts and calms someone from sensory overload or an uncomfortable situation. It can also be used to express happiness or discomfort. Hand flapping, feeling certain textures, humming or vocalizing, fidgeting, repeating things, etc, are forms of stimming and there are all sorts. Each autistic person stims differently.)

10. Gluten allergies

11. Asexuality

12. Social anxiety 

13. Alexithemia 

14. Fixations on patterns of numbers or numbers or specific words

15. Strong interests in specific things, often called 'special interests' 

16. ADHD

17. Exhaustion after long periods of social interaction or stress, often leading to autistic burnout

Again to clarify, not everyone experiences the same things. There are many more characteristics I could have included. There are some autistic people who have no problems in social situations but have extreme sensory sensitivities, often stim, and are asexual. There are some autistic people who have a lot of trouble with social situations, but have virtually no sensory sensitivities. Etcetera etcetera. It’s a spectrum, so there are all sorts of ways autism can affect people. 

And the above things could be present and have nothing to do with the person’s autism as well; especially the asexuality one. It’s a common correlation but not at all a generality or 'norm’, but some autistic people are not asexual and some autistic people are asexual for completely unrelated reasons.

If you want to learn more, Amethyst Schaber makes really good videos on her YouTube channel, a series called Ask an Autistic. Link here.

Anyone feel free to reblog and add information or links to reputable sources, especially links to places where people can learn more about the characteristics I listed above, like hyperlexia and synesthesia, etc. I’m not an expert on those things so I’d appreciate if anyone who knows reputable sources for learning about them reblogged and left links/more info. 

seriously tho how many “autism fundraisers” do u think are just neurotypicals giving money to other neurotypicals to talk to more neurotypicals about how much they don’t like us? im talking abt shit like

“my kid came out autistic and that gave me a sad, if that’s you too here are 42 ways to terrorise your child into acting more like you and less like them!”*

or “just bc the UN defines it as torture doesn’t mean it’s not the PERFECT solution to stop YOUR child from finding comfort in self-regulating behaviours you find ‘weird’!“**

or even “murdering your autistic kid: we’ve all contemplated it! it’s hard living w autism bc your child isn’t really real! they’re missing pieces and can never love you. you should TRY to resist the temptation tho - because who knows, someday maybe we’ll learn how to change ur child completely, into someone who deserves to live!”***

like if u wanna do an “autism fundraiser” give your money to individual autistic people or autistic-run programmes and accommodations autistic people are actually asking for. dont give it to neurotypicals so they can write books abt how we shouldnt exist lmao

*ABA etc.  -   **JRC etc.  -  ***Autism $peaks etc.

Autism isn’t something a person has, or a “shell” that a person is trapped inside. There’s no normal child hidden behind the autism. Autism is a way of being. It is pervasive; it colors every experience, every sensation, perception, thought, emotion, and encounter, every aspect of existence. It is not possible to separate the autism from the person–and if it were possible, the person you’d have left would not be the same person you started with.
—  Jim Sinclair, Don’t Mourn For Us

ok but imagine amethyst casually throwing around self deprecating humor like “haha yeah I know I’m kind of a mess B)”
but peridot doesn’t pick up on the tone and she’s like NOO INCORRECT and reminds her how cool and funny she is and amethyst is like..I was just kidding but…thanks

autistic jack zimmermann whose special interest (aside from hockey) is world history (especially world war ii) and is used to people not caring when he starts talking about it for a long time but now has a boyfriend who’ll let him get enthusiastic as he wants about it and will always listen to him go on about it

In an article about a woman who tried to MURDER her autistic daughter Issy they ended the story with this:

“Another guest on the show who has a violent, autistic son agreed with Stapleton’s assessment that being locked up in jail is better than “jail of autism.”“

The journalist essentially agreed that she was justified in the attempted murder of her own child because her child is autistic, adding to the long line of people who perpetuate the abuse of autistic people by attempting to dehumanise them and portray them as evil and violent and uncaring to justify violence committed against them.

These horrible fucks don’t deserve to have children and I hope their children are taken away from them and placed in loving, supportive environments where they are treated with the care that they deserve.


When you say allistic to mean nonautistic

What you’re actually saying, is that autistic means self-oriented and that its opposite means other-oriented.  So you’re saying that autistic people are essentially self-centered, and that nonautistic people are other-centered.

You may not actually know that, because you may not know that aut means self and all means other.  But that’s precisely how they came up with the word.  I was there.  As in, I was actually there, arguing against it, from the beginning of the time that the word was first thought up and propagated.

I understand, more than most people who talk about language on tumblr, that language moves on and that most people who use language aren’t thinking about its origins, or even aware of its origins.

But before you ever use the word allistic, remember how it was created.  Remember that if the person had wanted to coin a word with less offensive connotations, then they could have.  Then make your own decisions.

I will never, ever use it.  Ever.  Because I am extremely offended by the idea that autistic people are more self-oriented, self-centered, or selfish than nonautistic people, and that nonautistic people are therefore more other-oriented, other-centered, or aware of others.  These are not generalizations that stand up to anything.

I’ll use autistic because it’s the only word we’ve got, and because practically nobody who uses it these days thinks too hard about where the word came from.  But allistic is a neologism, it was coined for a purpose, and its connotations are entirely deliberate.  You won't ever catch me using that word, because I couldn’t agree less with what it means.

Fortunately nonautistic has been around longer than allistic has, means the same thing, and isn’t offensive, not to mention more people can tell what you’re actually trying to say.  

Understand I’m not telling you what words you have to use.  If you’re going to continue using allistic, that’s fine with me.  I’m just explaining, in detail, why I not just don't use the word allistic, but find the entire premise behind the word offensive.