HELLO ! I am making this for no particular reason other than loving everyone and feelin’ good. The people mentioned in this post are great and everyone should follow them, because they are good. Thank u.

First I wanna talk abt my longtime mutuals (italicized are the ones I consider myself closest to

@bhazavur @berrystumpytail @staticoyote @lilyheartkin @ufm @sorreltail

@antpelts @joharvellle @eclipse-cat @mistystar @stitchedhearts @willowpelt @mothwingingit @detectivedimple @elizasoulmate @prynna @suwawa

Now here are all other people you should follow and I love them (italicized are, once again, the ones I consider myself closest to)

@bakemeat @foxheart @unflavoredgelatin @wayhaughts @calzonatrash @gordieslachance @scornfvl @pawnees @steve-diana @maxcaulfield @kingsbesideyou @gaskarth @calliopestorres @wlwrobbins @captainsawyers @jeangranger @bisexualmeredith @jesicacapshaw @sararwmirez @lesbianicrbbins @astronati @torres-calliope @cowboycake @osymandias


@snowfur @treepets @lil-perks @josielines 

I love u.

Alrighty thank you!! If I forgot you I am very sorry :(

anonymous asked:

u use alot of AAVE in ur tags, are black by chance? (not that it matters im just always excited when i find stim blogs ran by black ppl. feels good to kno autism is being supported within my community)

I sure am!! I’m allistic though, but I try to be as supportive as I can! ^^ I’m sure there are a lot of other stimblogs run by POC too!! It just might not seem like it at first since most people don’t feel the need to mention their race all the time lol ^^;

I’m overdue for posting a selfie (the last ones I posted were months ago lol), and I would take a new one but I haven’t looked selfie-worthy in a long time, but here’s one from a couple months ago!

anonymous asked:

Do allistic people stim?

Yes. Almost everyone fidgets to some extent, even neurotypicals. However, autistic people, ADHDers, and people with anxiety tend to stim the most. Other neurodivergent people may also stim more than a neurotypical would. 

The reason I use fidget when talking about neurotypicals is because there is a lot of debate about who can use the word stim. The general consensus I’ve seen, and what I agree with, is that only people who have been stigmatized for the behavior should be using the word stim. In other words, neurodivergent people can use the word stim as we’ve been shamed, bullied, and abused for our stims. Meanwhile, neurotypicals fidget and no one thinks anything of it. 


I just explained my issues with executive dysfunction to my dad and holy shit he gets it!

I described it like this: 

Imagine you’re back at AllPro(where he worked) with fifty phones and they’re all ringing. You want to answer them all because they’re all equal priority. That’s an environmental cue– phones are generally a ‘respond immediately’ cue.

Picking up a phone is a simple thing. You know it’s as easy as deciding which phone to answer and reaching out to pick it up, but your brain is saying “I must answer all of them!” The phones are ringing, and you can’t make your body reach out to pick one up because you don’t have fifty arms to reach out, you don’t have fifty ears to listen with, you don’t have a brain that can process and respond to fifty conversations and you don’t have fifty mouths that can all say different things all at the same time. 

Either you do it all simultaneously or nothing will happen. You can want to do it so bad it makes you cry, and you can’t make a decision because no choice seems like the right one. So the task stays unfinished and you get frustrated every time somebody reminds you to “just do it, it’s not that hard!” Because yes, it really IS that hard.

Now, if you had somebody who could point to which phone to answer, you can do it fine. That’s a prompt. Prompting removes the ‘middle man’ thought that says ‘do it all at once’ and gets you to focus on tasks one at a time instead of seeing them as some towering insurmountable mess.

Dad looked at me for a couple of seconds and said something to the effect of, “I didn’t know doing things were that hard for you.”

This is a major, major, major breakthrough between us because dad had it in his head that I left things messy because I didn’t care. While that’s crappy of him to assume, teaching him how that’s not the case and having him really understand it is a huge deal.

Different types of allistics

The Autism Mom™: constantly talks about how hard it is to have an autistic kid, highkey abusive but gets away with it because her child is autistic, is fueled by people telling her how BRAVE she is to deal with an autistic child

The Openly Ableist™: doesn’t try to hide their hatred of autistic people, used the R slur every other sentence, posts videos of autistic people having meltdowns to reddit for the Lolz

The Know It All™: has a friend who’s cousin is autistic nd somehow thinks this makes them an expert on autism/autistic issues

The Autism Savior™: helps out at one “special needs” program and suddenly believes they’re the best person in the world, that they are the most humble and selfless person to exist because they were in a room with an autistic person and weren’t actively abusive

The “Ally"™: says the support autistic people, actually just supports Autism $peaks, uses person first language, uses functioning labels, speaks over actually autistic people, gets angry when an autistic person asks them to make accommodations for them (usually also The Autism Savior™)

An Actual Ally: tries to listen to what autistic people are saying and not speak over them, happily helps autistics with sensory things and gets them what they need, haha lets be real this type doesnt exist lmaooo

(allistics don’t go anywhere near this post)

Autistic Person: “To decide who to hire, the applicants should try out for the job the same way a student in school would try out for a varsity sport. They should be given tests that directly measure their ability to perform the job. Whoever performs best on the tests will get the job.”

Allistic Person: “To decide who to hire, the applicants should be forced to have a conversation with me. The conversation will involve me asking vague questions like ‘tell me about yourself’. The questions I ask will be so hard to answer that people will literally pay someone to give them tips on how to answer them. I’ll also be testing things like body language and eye contact, which tell me jack shit about their ability to actually perform the job. But it’s okay, because I have psychic abilities that tell me who to hire within one minute of meeting them.”

Society: “I think we’ll go with the allistic person’s idea.”

I’m sure other people have said this but I just absolutely hate that “autism” has become the new edgy 4chan memelord insult. I hate that people now use it to essentially mean “cringey”, I hate how “peak autism” and other similar phrases are considered hilarious, I hate how they call autistic people “autists” I hate “sperging”/“sperg”/“sperging out” has become a new internet verb to negatively describe people talking in length about a subject in the same way an autistic person would passionately talk about their special interest. Coming across phrases like “short bus”, “sped”, etc as an insecure special ed middle schooler wrecked me so much and the ableist climate online has only gotten worse it seems so I can’t even imagine how much internalized ableism this is gonna inflict on autistic kids (or kids with any learning disability) who go on the internet and see allistics talking like this. I just hate everything about this all.

Here’s the thing about being a professional who works with people in any kind of health or social care job:

We go through years and years of training. We are constantly urged to update our knowledge and skills. We amass knowledge in the hope it will service our clients well and ultimately we are driven by a strong desire to help people to improve their lives. We are often highly qualified, overworked and underpaid and I don’t believe I’ve ever met anyone who’s in it for the money.

But that does not make us unchallengeable “experts.” And it is dangerous for us to pretend that we have a more valid understanding of our client’s experiences than they have themselves.

If you look at the history of this sector, you can see that we’ve come a long way in a short time. It’s not that long ago that a lot more people were confined to asylums for no real reason. It’s not that long ago that people were put through countless painful operations in order to “improve” their physical disabilities, with no real consideration given to the person’s wishes. It’s still legal in most countries (everywhere except Malta) to operate on an intersex child without parental permission. Even in the early days of medicine, doctors set themselves up as “experts” and a lot of unsafe practice went unchallenged for decades as a result.

This sector has a dark history of abuse and the best professionals work with an awareness of this and a desire to avoid repeating those mistakes. Which means putting the clients’s experiences at the heart of everything, because when things are forced on people without their wishes being considered, that’s when it becomes abusive. You cannot work effectively with a person if you let your view of their situation override their own. My qualifications do not take precedence over first-hand experience.

Like a lot of allistic professionals, I was taught that “person with autism” is a preferable label to “autistic person.” To some extent, I can see there was good intent behind this. However, out of the classroom, most autistic people I’ve encountered disagree. So I have to defer to them, and if it’s uncomfortable to apply the same rule to everyone on the spectrum, I can simply ask people what they prefer. For me to presume that my classroom learning has more validity than the experiences of autistic people would be dangerously arrogant.

I’m not claiming to be the perfect professional or anything, but I am highly shocked when I see professionals on tumblr claiming that their professional knowledge is more legit than knowledge than comes from first-hand experiences. First of all, it’s highly unprofessional for you to be arguing about this in ALL CAPS WRITING on a social network. Secondly, all professionals have to be open to challenge. If an autistic person challenges you on your person-first language, hostility is a completely inappropriate reaction. As a professional, you have obligations that continue after you finish work for the evening. Respecting other people is the most basic one.

im not so much mad at neurotypicals who use spinners and other fidget toys; it makes me feel less self conscious about using mine in public- people will think im getting in on the fad. 

if they cause a disturbance when playing with them, then yeah, thats bad, but that goes for anyone, NT or otherwise.

i am mad at those who respond to this trend by banning them or ridiculung them just bc theyre popular. theyre harmless, and if someone is fucking around with them, thats on them. dont make it harder for ND kids to stim by using the toys in an obnoxious way, or by taking it away from everyone because of some kids using it obnoxiously