These 70 Companies You Use Every Day Are Among Those Taking a Stand for Transgender Rights

We are #GLSENproud of these companies supporting transgender rights and respect for all people! Sign this petition to show you are too and #StandWithTarget!

Last week, Target announced an inclusive policy for its restrooms and changing rooms affirming that customers who are transgender can choose those of the gender with which they identify. The statement kicked off a firestorm of ridiculous controversy, but Target isn’t the only company to support an inclusive policy for patrons who are transgender—as it turns out, the list pretty much includes every big company we interact with or do business with on some level in our day-to-day.

H/T: Glamour

talking about lgbt issues in class just stresses me out cause it’s always like let’s talk about the gays,tell me what you think about them because there is zero possibility that there are gays in this class because we are all straight and so heterosexual no homo bro yeah let’s make the non existent gays in this class feel incredibly uncomfortable by talking about them like they’re not fucking here and show how ignorant we are while praising ourselves for being the perfect allies™

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White Students Form ‘Human Shield’ To Protect Black Student Protesters In South Africa

Riot police fired tear gas and stun guns at hundreds of students protesting university tuition hikes outside of the South African parliament building in Cape Town on Thursday.

“We were pushed back by police with force,” Motheo Lengoasa, a University of Cape Town student told the Guardian amid chants and songs from fellow protesters. “The stun grenade was shot right next to my ear. I still have the buzzing in my ear.”

The irony is that when a trans man says something about gender, people have this “Oh well, he must have personal insight, having been both” (lots of times the dude specifically says this) whereas when trans women say things about gender, the idea is that she isn’t allowed to have opinions on women, men, or gender at all, having failed to belong to either gender.

so where are all the gay orgs and marriage equality organizers now that state after state is making using the toilet in public something that trans people can’t do?

I was told, by LG folk and marriage equality “allies” that y'all would be back for the trans folks, that i was an asshole and holding up the revolution for pointing out that marriage doesn’t do much for my community, called all sorts of names because how dare i suggest that they would forget us but the only people i see posting about this or working on it or caring about it is trans people, and even that is largely trans women because holy shit my fellow afabs, we are not any better.

this is why i reject the politics of incrementalism. this is why i reject the reactionary politics that insist that there are bigger emergencies than the ones that are impacting the daily lives and welfare of vulnerable people, the politics where its okay to leave the vulnerable behind because we’ll come back to them later because ITS LATER AND WHERE THE FUCK ARE YOU.

Tone Policing and Allyship

As allies, your job is to listen.

As allies, your job is to shut up and listen.

As allies, your job (after the first two things) is speak when spoken to, or to call out other privileged/non-oppressed people to listen to the group you are allied to. 

Your job is not to talk over oppressed people.

Your job is not to discuss every single thought about oppressed groups as though you are an expert (cause you watched a single @chescaleigh or @katblaque video.)

Your job is to not make an oppressed groups issues about you. They are not and never will be about you. Thats kind of the point.

Your job is not to make oppressed groups “sound better” or to instruct them to be “less mean.” You get no say in how anger of oppression is dealt with. 

In closing, it’s best to think of your allyship as being a house guest. You do not get invited to someone’s house and then rudely demand that they change the decor around that house to suit your tastes. (Nor do you speak over the family who invited you there and demand that they honor your opinion of them over their own opinion of themselves and their house.)

The most you should do, is kindly remind other guests to not be shitty guests and to listen to the host. (Unless asked directly otherwise.)

*I tried to make this applicable for most groups. I am a white, non-binary neuro-divergent bisexual person who has consistently dealt with bad allies in various forms. Feel free to add to this if you have the energy. I’m sure I have left out many things that could be addressed. 

Edgy Cis Feminist: God all these men and their dicks! it’s their dicks that make these men so terrible! maybe if I had a dick men would listen to me!

Cis allies: Haha what an insight this is wonderful

Trans women: this is actually really transphobic and essentialist, and harms trans women a lot and is also kinda creepy?

Cis allies: oh yeah ok sure yeah fine *mumbling*

*3 months pass*

Edgy Cis Feminist: What is up with men and their dicks right? respect women and their vaginas for a change because these men and their dicks amirite

Cis allies: yesss this is so great what an incisive look at gender

If you’re an ally

Do not feel guilty for supporting us

do not feel guilty if you decide to go to a pride parade to show the rest of the goers you support them

do not feel afraid to stand up to your homophobic friends or family

do not feel guilty or afraid to help an lgbt person in any way you want to

do not feel guilty if you want to help an lgbt friend find their voice

allies are a good thing. Supporting us is a good thing and it’s always welcome. We all need to unite and help eachother in the face of bigotry and prejudice, and ANY help is appreciated

Do not call trans people by our ‘dead names’. Don’t. Do not do it. Don’t do it as a joke, don’t do it when speaking about the past, don’t do it when speaking in third person, don’t do it when talking to other people about us when we’re not there, don’t do it even if you’ve known us by that name for 50 years, don’t do it even if you’re mad at us or trying to make a point. Don’t even do it to celebrities, not even Republican ones. Do not do it. Do not.
You are telling us, “it doesn’t matter to me that this crushes you, I am ok with holding your pain over your head, your identity isn’t real to me, and I am not your ally.”
And when you do it to one of us you say this to all of us.

almost always there is some cis woman talking to a trans woman who says something like “I can’t imagine how someone could misgender you of all people” or “I couldn’t imagine looking at you and calling you anything but she” or whatever and the implicit idea being communicated there is like that if the person were some non-passing tranny or were doing some crazy gender practice like *having short hair* or *wearing pants* that misgendering makes sense.