allie!!

I’m falling for your eyes, but they don’t know me yet
—  Ed Sheeran
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MY SOUL HAS BEEN TAKEN FROM THIS EARTH GOODBYE

NO, YOU ARE NOT AN ALLY

Not how an ally thinks: That black woman is saying something bad about black men. It doesn’t matter if it’s true, she didn’t say “but not all black men” so she should just be quiet. I want to support her, but she keeps saying unflattering things about black men and I’m a black man. So maybe I’ll wear an Angela Davis t-shirt, but I won’t really stand up for black girls and black women, because their words often annoy me and make me feel uncomfortable or personally insulted  

Not how an ally thinks: That black person is saying something bad about white people. It doesn’t matter if it’s true, they didn’t say “but not all white people”  so I wish they would just be quiet. I want to support black people, but they keep saying unflattering things about white people and I’m a white person. So maybe I’ll wear a #blacklivesmatter t-shirt, but I won’t really stand up against white supremacy, because black people’s words often annoy me and make me feel uncomfortable or personally insulted  

Not how an ally thinks: That disabled person is saying something bad about able bodied people. It doesn’t matter if it’s true, they didn’t say “but not all able bodied people” so they should just be quiet. I want to support them, but they keep saying unflattering things about “normal” people and I’m not disabled. So maybe I’ll wear a Helen Keller t-shirt, but I won’t really stand up for them, because their words often annoy me and make me feel uncomfortable or personally insulted 

Not how an ally thinks: That woman is saying something bad about men. It doesn’t matter if it’s true, she didn’t say “but not all men” so I wish she would just be quiet. I want to support women, but they keep saying unflattering things about men and I’m a man. So maybe I’ll wear a feminism t-shirt, but I won’t really stand up for women, because their words often annoy me and make me feel uncomfortable or personally insulted 

Not how an ally thinks: That Lgbtq person is saying something bad about straight people. It doesn’t matter if it’s true, they didn’t say “but not all straight people” so  I wish they would just be quiet. I want to support the Lgbtq movement, but they keep saying unflattering things about cis/het straight people and I’m a straight person. So maybe I’ll wear a Stonewall Riots t-shirt, but I won’t really stand up for transgender people, because their words often annoy me and make me feel uncomfortable or personally insulted 

Not how an ally thinks: That Muslim is saying something bad about Christians. It doesn’t matter if it’s true, they didn’t say “but not all Christians” so  I wish they would just be quiet. I want to support Muslims, but they keep saying unflattering things about Christians and I’m a Christian. So maybe I’ll wear a t-shirt that says I believe in the Constitution and religious freedom, but I won’t really stand up for non-Christians, because their words often annoy me and make me feel uncomfortable or personally insulted

If that’s how you think, then you don’t want to support the oppressed, what you want is for marginalized groups to be silent and to always be your faithful cheerleaders, no matter what 

And your “support” or commitment to social justice should not be as easy to change as an article of clothing

Now try replacing the words “an ally” with the words “a decent human being”