I think people need to calm down about Sansa Stark and what happened to her in “Unbowed, unbent, unbroken”.
I’ll try to explain it better, but first let me just point out I haven’t read all the books so I know some things of what happens at this point in the original only ‘cause I’ve read spoilers around:
1. I read people are disgusted about Sansa replacing Jeyne so that the rape can motivate Theon’s future actions (which are? I don’t know so far and I don’t want to know but it seems this event will bring some more character development for him). The disgust comes from taking an important, central character like Sansa so that the audience is more invested in what happens to her rather than a character we’ve never come to know (Jeyne). I mean, seriously? May I remind you that in season 4, episode 2, Ramsay Snow and Myranda were HUNTING an innocent girl with hounds, shooting arrows at her, wounding her and feeding her to the dogs while enjoying it? Should I remind you Reek was there, more or less in the same position, crying and suffering like hell but unable to move for fear of what might’ve happened to him next? Shall I remind you I never read one single piece of ANYTHING about that scene (wchich I personally found revolting and horrifyin?). But now Sansa’s in Ramsay’s clutches and …ooh, surprise: everyone’s talking about it, everybody’s upset and everybody’s hating on D&D. That’s to prove a point: it is really difficult, watching a show like this, with this much violence and this many characters, to truly care about a minor character (never shown before) thrust in there simply to show Ramsay’s evil and more. If the thing is, “did they only did that so we were more invested?”, I think the answer’s yes and they were right ‘cause now we all are.
2. Some were shocked, others were outraged, most were both things. By the rape, of course. Now, I hated every second of it. I felt dizzy and short of breath in fear of what could happen to Sansa BUT… what were we expecting? Honestly, would you have wanted her to be the one who seduced him, or somehow held the reins of their first night together? Sansa, whom has never had any sexual experience in her life vs Ramsay Bolton, the most twisted psycho in Westeros (and that’s quite a thing!)? Obviously you wouldn’t have wanted that. And of course, we all never wanted her to face what she had to face but it was clear it was going to happen ever since the wedding was announced. You can easily choose to hate the change in the storyline but don’t come up now with “THEY DID ALL THIS SO HE COULD RAPE HER!”. Technically speaking, that’s what happened historically 9/10 times with arranged marriage and probably you couldn’t even call it rape since she agreed to marry him (remember, Littlefinger gave her a choice after all). Personally speaking I was more disturbed by the psychological abuse than the fisical violence. Deciding to keep the guy who allegedly killed her younger brothers and betrayed Robb in the same room with them as she loses her virginity is like the worst Ramsay could to, to both of them, Sansa and Theon. That’s what we should be concentrating on, I think, ‘cause you can heal from physical wounds but the ones that really scar you are those of the mind/soul. I was outraged for Sansa’s mental position more than I was about a consummated wedding night which of course, it was obvious, wasnt going to be romantic or whatever.
3. Lastly, some people wrote that Sansa’s a broken character now. That all of her character development so far has been useless and that the rape is going to seriously jeopardize any future one. I couldn’t be less convinced of this. Sansa’s not a little girl anymore. She’s been married to Tyrion and she knows what happens (most of the times) during a wedding night. SHE HAS PROBABLY BEEN THINKING ABOUT IT SINCE LITTLEFINGER SUGGESTED THE PLAN. SHE KNEW what was coming and she decided to go along with this. It does not mean she deserves it. It does not justify Ramsay. It doesn’t make things easier. BUT IT DOES GIVE HER CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT, MATURITY. It’s evident she can’t be playing the game of thrones with Ramsay ‘cause she knows he’s a deranged man but she’s not taking any shit from Myranda… the old times Sansa wouldn’t have done that. She’s at home now, she takes strength from Winterfell. The rape doesn’t mean she’s not badass anymore. The rape doesn’t make her arc stupid and her character development insubstantial. RAPE DOESN’T MEAN YOU’RE WEAK OR BROKEN. RAPE VICTIMS ARE NOT WEAK OR BROKEN. They’ve endured something horrible but that doesn’t mean they’re not people anymore, it doesn’t make them useless or wasted. It’s too soon to say where this experience will take Sansa but to think she’s a destroyed character because of this is stupid. Remember, she endured her family’s butchering, her home’s destruction and her dreams shattering. She endured and came out stronger. I have no idea what’s coming next for her (I hope something good, for sure) but I’m sure Sansa Stark hasn’t “died” here. The North lives with her. And the North remembers.