Istikhara is a means of seeking guidance from Allah when faced with making a decision that one may be unsure about. “Should I, or shouldn’t I.. Will I regret making this decision?”. Who better to ask than Allah? You will definitely know that you have made the right decision when the direction has come from Allah Almighty as a result of your supplications.
The description of Salaat al-Istikhaarah was reported by Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah al-Salami (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said:
“The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to teach his companions to make istikhaarah in all things, just as he used to teach them soorahs from the Qur’aan.
He said: ‘If any one of you is concerned about a decision he has to make, then let him pray two rak’ahs of non-obligatory prayer, then say:
Allaahumma inni astakheeruka bi ‘ilmika wa astaqdiruka bi qudratika wa as’aluka min fadlika, fa innaka taqdiru wa laa aqdir, wa ta’lamu wa laa a’lam, wa anta ‘allaam al-ghuyoob. Allaahumma fa in kunta ta’lamu haadha’l-amra (then the matter should be mentioned by name) khayran li fi ‘aajil amri wa aajilihi (or: fi deeni wa ma’aashi wa ‘aaqibati amri) faqdurhu li wa yassirhu li thumma baarik li fihi. Allaahumma wa in kunta ta’lamu annahu sharrun li fi deeni wa ma’aashi wa ‘aaqibati amri (or: fi ‘aajili amri wa aajilihi) fasrifni ‘anhu [wasrafhu ‘anni] waqdur li al-khayr haythu kaana thumma radini bihi
(O Allaah, I seek Your guidance [in making a choice] by virtue of Your knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your great bounty. You have power, I have none. And You know, I know not. You are the Knower of hidden things. O Allaah, if in Your knowledge, this matter (then it should be mentioned by name) is good for me both in this world and in the Hereafter (or: in my religion, my livelihood and my affairs), then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge it is bad for me and for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs (or: for me both in this world and the next), then turn me away from it, [and turn it away from me], and ordain for me the good wherever it may be and make me pleased with it.”
(Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6841; similar reports are also recorded by al-Tirmidhi, al-Nisaa’i, Abu Dawood, Ibn Maajah and Ahmad).
“No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself for the outcome of all affairs is determined by Allah’s Decree. If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come on your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from you it cannot flee.” (Umar ibn al-Khattab r.a)
Your own sins should distract you enough from focusing on the faults of others.
Stay conscious of your flaws.. the greatest men who lived done more for Islam than you and I could imagine, yet they still saw their sins higher than mountains and always felt like they could do more in terms of their good deeds. So take lesson and remember it’s healthy to realise what you do not know, and what you still can and need to do.
“If you see that one of you has slipped, correct him, pray for him and do not help shaytaan against him (by insulting him)” - Umar ibn Al Khattab
Know that the path to Allah is not a flat one. Your iman (faith) will go up and down. Your ability to worship will go up and down. But, know that for every dip, there is also a rise. Just stay patient, stay consistent, don’t lose hope and seek help in Allah. The path is hard. The path will have bumps and drops. But, like all things in this life, this path will come to an end. And that end will make it all worth it!
“Allaah’s command is a determined decree.” (Soorah al-Ahzaab, 33: 38)
“No calamity befalls but by the decision of Allaah. And Allaah will guide the heart of whoever believes in Him.” (Soorah at-Taghaabun, 64: 11) - This verse means that whoever suffered an affliction and knew that it occurred by Allaah’s judgment and decree, and he patiently abides, awaiting Allaah’s reward, then Allaah will guide his heart, and will compensate him for his loss in this life by granting guidance to his heart and certainty in faith. Allaah will replace whatever he lost with something similar or something better. (Tafsir Ibn Kathir, vol. 10, pp. 24-5)
Without even realising, in our attempt to correct somebody’s mistakes or show them the correct way of doing something - we get carried away and come across a little harsh which can do more damage than we realise. Keep in mind to always be sensitive to the person you want to help, for the level they are at may have taken them an internal war to get to.. and to you it may seem like nothing.
Allah - there is no deity except Him, the Ever-Living, the Sustainer of [all] existence. Neither drowsiness overtakes Him nor sleep. To Him belongs whatever is in the heavens and whatever is on the earth. Who is it that can intercede with Him except by His permission? He knows what is [presently] before them and what will be after them, and they encompass not a thing of His knowledge except for what He wills. His Kursi extends over the heavens and the earth, and their preservation tires Him not. And He is the Most High, the Most Great. (Quran 2:255)