all-of-above

I began to realize how important it was to be an enthusiast in life. If you are interested in something, no matter what it is, go at it full speed ahead. Embrace it with both arms, hug it, love it and above all become passionate about it. Lukewarm is no good. Hot is no good, either. White hot and passionate is the only thing to be.
—  Roald Dahl
6

Football is changing. I feel it in the water. I feel it in the earth. I smell it in the air. Much than once was it lost, for none now live who remember it. But destiny was fortunate upon the English; immortal, wisest and fairest of all beings. Power was given to the footballers; great and mighty warriors. And eleven, eleven positions were gifted to Arsenal FC who, above all else, desired true football”.

Finish Your Stuff PSA

We’ve gotten a lot of guilty ‘I’m not writing because’ responses, and while many of them are just fighting your own procrastination, a lot of them are about things people have no control over, like sickness, death of a loved one, or financial problems.

I must, absolutely stress this, above all else: You must take care of yourself first.

Your writing is important, but if you are in a position where you have to pour all your energy into something else, you must do that. Don’t beat yourself up over something that isn’t in your control. Don’t feel bad, don’t feel guilty.

I had a lot bigger plans for this month, but I’m also in the middle of leaving my job (augh), finding a new job (augh), and dealing with what I am 99% sure is bronchitis for the last week (augh). So while I’m still going to do my best, I had to scrap some of them, and that’s okay. I’ll be able to add more to Finish Your Stuff later, when I stop trying to cough up half a lung. I can try again later.

Take care of yourself first. You matter, above all else. Your writing will always be there when you have the ability to come back to it.

anonymous asked:

How do I get a girl to like me?

You don’t get a girl to do anything, she will do what she wants, when she wants, and with whom she pleases. It’s entirely up to her who she devotes her attention towards. Please keep in mind she may also want to just be on her own, no relationship, no flings, messing around, just doing her. Also, you can’t just get someone to like you. A lot of what attracts us to each other is physical but they’re certain nuances, the unwritten and intangible exchanges and impressions we get when people do or say certain things. You could look like a million bucks and have a million in your pocket and still be single. 

If you want her attention then approach her but be genuine about it. Don’t put on some facade just to lure her in, too many people, let alone girls, have been burned by that. Just be straight up and try not to force anything and above all respect her decision regardless of the outcome. 

I don’t think anyone has come up with a satisfying answer about how to prevent emotional and social coercion into sex. But that’s the thing– there’s nothing special about BDSM. The feeling of being socially coerced into a flogging you didn’t want is really not a whole lot different from the feeling of being socially coerced into cunnilingus you didn’t want. If you rule out BDSM but allow cunnilingus, you’re not going to solve the problem of social and emotional coercion into sex, any more than you’re going to solve it if you rule out cunnilingus and allow BDSM.

One important step, I think, is to get rid of the bullshit status games around sex. The quality of your sex life is measured in how much enjoyment you and your partners get from it– whether that means celibacy, missionary-position penis-in-vagina intercourse once a week, quadruple penetration while being suspended, or all of the above at different points in your life. Not being into kink doesn’t make you a prude. Not being interested in penis-in-vagina sex doesn’t mean you’re being unreasonable. Not wanting to orgasm doesn’t mean you aren’t liberated. And not wanting sex at all is perfectly fine– for whatever reason you don’t want it.

We should also get rid of the idea that certain sex acts are something we ‘owe’ our partners. Of course, we should strive to find partners we’re sexually compatible with: it’s tremendously convenient to have a partner who isn’t interested in the sex acts we aren’t interested in. And there’s nothing wrong with trying something out if you’re not sure if you’ll be into it, or doing a sex act because you like making your partner happy. But in the event that your sexualities change, or you discover new things about your sexuality, or perhaps you or your partner were not quite as open in communication as one would hope– you don’t have to engage in any sex acts you don’t want to. Period. End of story. If you decide to let your partner finger you, or fuck you bent over the desk, or diaper you, when that’s not your thing, it’s a favor you’re doing for them. There is nothing your partner is entitled to.

I said a bit of this on Twitter, but I guess I just want to talk it out here. 

I guess I’m disappointed about the Zayn thing for a few reasons. Firstly, don’t say you’re leaving to be a normal 22 year old if that’s not the case. Definitely don’t say it’s because you’re exhausted and anxiety-ridden as well. That’s just like a sad person saying they’re depressed. It’s pretty crap for the clinically depressed community, and it’s a lie. And lying sucks.

And if you want to leave to pursue your own music, maybe wait until you’ve fulfilled your obligations to the band. Finish out the contract you committed to of sound mind. If you were in no medical or mental peril, then don’t screw your boys over and put their careers in jeopardy (there was no guaranteeing they’d keep selling tickets and albums without him). Don’t leave your fans when they were still expecting to be able to see you. 

I’m not upset that he didn’t like the music. And I’m entirely sure he’ll make good music on his own. I’m upset because of how he did it. It just seemed like such a bratty, disrespectful move. And now here he is wanting everyone to be excited for him. And I genuinely think I would be. If I just thought he felt any bit of the gravity of what he did leading up to this.

I think that’s the thing, isn’t it? In his mind, I don’t wonder if he’s thinking, “Well the fans still get 1D and they get me, too, which they’ll probably really like. And I’m happy because I’m doing my music. And the boys are happy because they’re doing theirs.” But what he doesn’t understand is we don’t have 1D. Not really, not anymore. Because 1D was so much the five of them together, more than any boyband I’ve ever experienced since The Beatles. I loved NSYNC with all my heart, but anyone could spot from a mile that Justin was the breakout star of the five of them and not one person could honestly say they were in it entirely for Chris. They didn’t have the bond these guys did. You couldn’t take two of them at random - a JC and a Lance - and claim that they had their own special friendship the way you can do with any two randomly selected members of these boys. 

And that was SO IMPORTANT to us as their fans. That was what I loved, more than even the music, was the togetherness that bled from them to their fans and wrote all these stories of all these groups of friends who met because of this band. And when he left - especially in the middle of things, especially out of no where - he broke that. And I honestly don’t think (or hope I suppose) that he really knows that. I could honestly see him sitting there thinking it was the more the merrier when in actuality, for all intents and purposes, 1D broke up back in March and we didn’t even get the opportunity to properly mourn for them because the tour and the album and every other fucking thing just had to roll on.

I really don’t think I’m being unreasonable about that. I don’t want Zayn to be arbitrarily forced to stay a part of something he didn’t want to be a part of anymore. And I don’t think 1D’s music is this generation’s greatest artistic contribution to the musical lexicon. I don’t expect boybands to last forever. I just wanted him to treat his departure with a little reverence and respect. I wanted him to acknowledge - to understand - that in order to get his way he’d be ending something deeply important for millions and millions of people who loved and supported him. And to act fucking accordingly.

“The book I just started is Atonement by Ian McEwan. One moment early on in the book struck a chord with me and has been sticking with me through the last couple days as I warm up and perform each night.  I thought I would pass this moment of the book on to you other actors and artists and lovers of stories and theatre needing some inspiration to keep creating and watching and listening and singing.  Enjoy!” 

‘She need not judge.  There did not have to be a moral.  She need only show separate minds, as alive as her own, struggling with the idea that other minds were equally alive.  It wasn’t only wickedness and scheming that made people unhappy, it was confusion and misunderstanding; above all, it was the failure to grasp the simple truth that other people are as real as you.  And only in a story could  you enter these  different minds and show how they had an equal value.  That was the only moral a story need have.’

Unscripted by Emily Kinney - January 13, 2010.

anonymous asked:

I just don't like stydia. they don't really have that chemistry that tumblr exaggerates. not hating 😅

you’re trying to say

these two

don’t have

amazing

chemistry?

well that’s your opinion. like what you like, don’t like what you don’t like. but above all, try not to send anon messages to blogs that ship something only to tell them you don’t ship it. i find that bizarre and unnecessary. have a nice day.

*my own gifs

blithers asked:

Wow, yeah, Clark and Lois living together (!) is one of the first pieces of news that's made me truly excited for Supes v. Batman, AWESOME. I suggest that the entire movie should focus on that. I suggest that the entire movie be a light, action-based comedy with a touch of romance about Clark and Lois. I suggest that the movie actually be an extended episode of the Lois & Clark: The New Adventures of Superman.

Sign me the f*** up, girl. ♥

Sadly most people see horses as all of the above, I have seen people quote - and not just once I hasten to add that “horses are made to be ridden” - yes people actually say this, utterly frightening to think how ‘abuse’ is considered perfectly normal.

People need to wake up.

okay so draco is smarter than hermione and here’s why i think that:

hermione is incredibly studious and hard working. she spends most of her free time in the library. she is pretty logical but most of her brain power doesn’t come from her ability to easily retain knowledge (which is how i would define smart) but her ability to put the time in, to work hard. 

draco however is not in the library frequently (or not mentioned to be in the librar), yet he makes exceptional marks and turns in his homework. he’s not a studying person. despite this, he’s still second in the year. which means he’s above all of the ravenclaws that value intelligence very much. he’s above all of his other cunning slytherins, the hard working hufflepuffs, and the gryffindors, too.

ultimately what gets hermione ahead is her studiousness (not her natural ability or her being “smart”) while it seems draco relies entirely on natural ability (with maybe some studying right before exams) and still his marks are brilliant. 

okay now all of that being said, hermione’s hard workingness will benefit her so much more than draco’s natural ability. later in life when subjects do get much harder, hermione is going to be able to study and work through it, while draco, not having any practice studying or working hard will end up being overwhelmed and probably not do as well as hermione. 

nicethighsnicereyes asked:

Lord above Jenn your tags on that Larry post are SO MUCH. I think often about how intense their friendship got so fast and how difficult it is to maintain relationships long term at that level of intensity and how easily intense emotions can morph into other intense emotions and I'm just like, can I hug Niall while Liam strokes my hair?

Oooooooh my goodness. Ok. STORY TIME.

So when I was younger, many eons ago, I had a relationship with this person who was just sort of around a lot because he needed a place to stay, and I was cool with it because I was going through an intense time and didn’t want to be alone, and he kind of moved into my apartment without moving in and we lived together and we started sharing a bed and cooking food and doing laundry and saying “i love you” and I moved out of my apartment into a house and he just sort of came with me like a piece of furniture and it was all very vague and intense and undefined and confusing and everyone was like “you guys are fucking, right?” and we were like “no” and they were like “yeah right, liars, we know all about you”. Anyway I think we were both scared to like REALLY look at it and NAME it but it not being named created a lot of weird angst so eventually it blew up in a very spectacular way. 

We didn’t really talk for a year or so, but we saw each other on the street and yelled things a few times (”piss off” “wanker”) and generally hated each other a lot. Then a couple years later I was in Brooklyn, which is across the country from here, and I was walking down Bedford with a friend, and I looked up and saw him walking with a friend of his own, coming straight toward us, looking down at the ground in this very tired and sad kind of way. He looked up and saw me and made this face like “oh thank god”, and when our paths converged we hugged so violently that he slammed me up against a fence and I cut my finger and it bled everywhere. He’s still a mess but we’re cool now. 

Anyway that feels like larry to me. 

2

In addition to that new hairstyle, there are a couple of new features on JP MCC.

Firstly, there’s AI’s Stamp Challenge. You do various things in-game, and you’ll get a small reward (I’ve gotten Moen, CAN, and a Business Lady 5), and obviously once you’ve cleared them all, you’ll get the above outfit.

And secondly, they’ve added a flash animation to the gacha. The outfit pops out of the chest of drawers, and features either one of the girls. It’s kinda fun.

Also, the next event is titled The Challenge from the Detective, and it will start on the 1st at 12am JST, and run until 10.59am on the 11th, if I’m reading it correctly. The tie-up gacha is The Demon Scrolls Continued.