it's like if someone call you straight, you're don't straight so, even if being straight or lesbian or whatever is not a problem, you don't like it, right?
no offense but oh my god
first of all, for a lot of gay people, their livelihood depends on appearing straight. gay people literally benefit from appearing straight because it’s easier to live life as a straight person, and saying it’s the same thing as the reverse is completely baseless, because in what way would a straight person benefit from appearing gay?
secondly, society forces heterosexuality on people to such a degree that gay people feel like they need to act and look straight in every possible way, even people who aren’t gay feel like they need to appear as straight as possible. appearing “gay” (and obviously that’s a completely superficial thing and it’s subjective but let’s pretend like there’s a gay Look) as a gay person often takes years of overcoming internalized homophobia and self-loathing to even achieve. it’s really brave of gay people to dress/act outside of the “straight” look since people literally get beaten and killed for being gay. and a straight person complaining about people thinking they look gay is literally homophobic, there’s no way around that!