all of them on one stage

It’s 2017:

- Louis had a solo interview with Nick. To promote his single that will be on his album. With Nick. And he was the softest, sweetest, cutest and most humble version of himself. With a bit of the cheeky minx on twitter as foreplay. Tomlinshaw rise.

- Louis and Zayn are bonded in brotherly love. According to Louis, Zayn has the voice, he owns his craft, he had a smash breakout album and he is a good, occasionally misunderstood, guy. Zouis is eternally and devotedly real. This surprises no one.

- Louis is proud of Harry. He thinks he has stage presence, comes across as cool, is immensely talented in different areas and references all the amazing Dunkirk reviews with a sense of genuine love. Also, when asked about why the band was so big, he attributes it to the early years and their bond and people latching on to their commeraderie as a band. No coincidence it was a simpler time for both of them. Sniff. Larry rise. My babies. Always. Bonus for the nipple reference.

- Nouis are married. End of. Look I could go into a dissertation about Louis and Niall and what they mean to me together and apart but it would end in tears. Suffice it to say they are beautiful and poignant and real and deep and make me the happiest.

- That leaves me to Liam. I have no idea when it will happen, but please know their next public exchange will send me over the edge. If it involves Freddie and Bear consider me dead. Lilo please. Rise.

okayyy but hear me out

the magicians, America’s Got Talent au

Margo is a quick changer, and she’s incorporated some magic (its a magicless au so like stage magic) into her act 

Eliot’s a master drink mixer, and he’s literally made a show out of concocting drinks, with flips and dancing and all kinds of fun – all linked up to music, with light up glasses and everything

Alice is a singer

Quentin is a magician, as well, and a lot of people question his talent until the live shows when he blows them all away with some elaborate nofuckingway kind of trick

Todd’s the one who does the tricks and shit that endanger his life and everyone thinks hes going to die every time he performs but somehow he lives (much to Eliot’s distaste bc he cant stand him)

Julia is a dancer, who is super intense but also super nice. she’s ultra focused on her act, and doesn’t let anything distract her. 

josh is a comedian

martin chatwin is a singer that tries to sabotage everyone else

penny is like nick canon only hes an asshole to everyone until they prove their talent and the audience loves him and he kind of bonds with people as the show goes on and hes reluctant to be a part of any act but people always incorporate him because hes so grouchy and quentin somehow always finds a place in his act for him

Kady juggles fire and is incoporates martial arts into it, so she’ll throw hit in the air, do some martial arts, and tehn catch the flaming torch and juggle some more

dean fogg, sunderland, and jane chatwin are the judges

SDS update

Part 1: finished
Parts 2 & 3: set
Parts 4-11: not started

Stages:

Set: translate the subtitles and set them out - they need to be over one or two lines depending on the Spanish one or it looks weird overlaying them.

Overlay: set up the title frames in the editing software and paste in the translated subtitles, then add the black banners underneath to block out the original ones

Render: flatten the clip, titles and banners into a movie file; the bit where the computer does all the work so easy but slow - part 1 took four hours last night. I’m doing this bit in chunks because all the elements make the file too complex for my computer to handle the whole film at once.

The last bit is I’ll have to run the 11 translated pieces together and re-render the whole thing, which should be simpler for my laptop to handle since it’s just 11 movie clips rather than a whole bunch of subtitles and banners. It’ll just take a while. Still aiming for completion in time for next weekend though, fam!

okay look. i get a few asks every now and again about age gaps in relationships and i know that there are exceptions to every rule but.

i know three girls my age, twenty four, who are stuck in relationships that they shouldn’t be in because an older guy groomed them when they were young teens.

one was thirteen when a seventeen year old boy started flirting with her. she was flattered. she started lying to her parents and sneaking around with him. she fell in love with him. he says he loves her back, and maybe he thinks he does, but he doesn’t act like it. he quit his job without telling her when she was pregnant with their second child, almost singlehandedly raising their first, because he just felt like it. no regard for the family. and she laughed about it when she told me, like it was the funniest thing, like he hadn’t endangered all of them on a whim. because he’s done so much little shit over the years that she’s accustomed to it. he always gets his way and she cleans up his mess because she loves him.

another girl works a full time job and then comes home to cook and clean because her unemployed boyfriend refuses to. she was fourteen and he was eighteen when they started dating and she is still convinced he’s going to change. he quit smoking when she threatened to leave but literally weeks later, as soon as he’d cowed her back into submission, he took it up again, and then tried to paint her as a villain for ‘trying to take away his joy’.

all three girls become completely different people when their partners are around. quieter, smaller.

when it’s just us they laugh as they tell me about the men losing their tempers over something small, like knocking over chairs is a rational response to her asking if she can go away with her friends for a weekend.

they’ve been with these men since they were so young they cannot imagine their lives without them. their entire identities are forged around these uneven relationships.

and that’s the key - they’re uneven. i don’t doubt that two fifteen year olds can get together and stay together happily, because they both had the opportunity to grow up within the relationship, at the same pace. if it’s a fifteen year old and a nineteen year old, though, one has already done so much more growing than the other. they’re at completely different stages of development, they’re psychologically unable to have an equal balance of power in the relationship.

basically, please don’t be flattered by older people showing an interest in you. instead, consider why they don’t want to date someone their own age, who is far more likely to stand up to them when they get controlling. all relationships should have equal shares, but age gaps between early and late teens, or teens and adults, don’t allow that. please don’t take a chance on you being the exception to the rule.

One of my favorite memories of human kindness was when I was at an all-day concert with my dad that was leading up to Linkin Park at the very end of the night. we had shitty seats, the ones that aren’t even really seats, but more like you just sit on a lawn behind where the seats are. I was about 12 or 13 at the time.

just as Linkin Park was going on, an older couple that was leaving early asked us if we were staying to see them and gave us their tickets, which were like 4th row, way up close to the stage. I was so fucking enthralled and they were just about to play Faint. They were so good live. It was and is, still to this day, the best concert experience I’ve ever had.

Chester was my fuckin dude and I’m really gonna miss him.

Things I Do At Concert Pits:

• Talk to literally everyone. Like if you’re next to me we will become besties. sorry
• Point out cool cosplays and people with awesome outfits
• Scream. Not sing the lyrics loudly. I will scream when the singer seems. Dude trust me it’s hella relaxing you let out all your stress there and leave it behind.
• Dance badly

CRY

• Kinda sit down before the band plays because honey my back fucking hurts
• Shout out “You saved my life” to the people on stage. Don’t you dare get mad at me for doing it because I’m a broke bitch and will never be able to meet them one on one
• When the concert ends imma hug you randomly. idgaf if you’ve never met me before we’re huggin. c’mere :)

•  DID I MENTION CRYING

• I AM SO SORRY THAT I AM OF AVERAGE HEIGHT AND I FEEL PERSONALLY GUILTY FOR MY HEIGHT AND I WILL HELP ALL THE SURROUNDING SMOLS AS BEST AS I CAN
• If you elbow me and you don’t say sorry and you clearly hear me you’re gonna catch these hands
• Steal my spot and I will fucking cut you
• I pull off my long sleeved shirts so I’m not hiding my cuts. This is the only place I feel accepted for all of me so YOU’RE GONNA SEE EM ACCIDENTALLY
• If I end up next to someone who only knows one or two popular songs on the radio I will be mad. sorry. oh wait. im not sorry. u bitch.
• If you just stand and record the whole thing without even smiling at your chance at seeing the people on stage I WILL JUDGE YOU.

• CRYING IS LIKELY

• Shout genuine compliments to the band members like “I love you” “You’re amazing” “Your beanie looks nice”
• I WILL KILL YOU IF YOU ARE “SAVING A SEAT FOR YOUR DAUGHTER” AND THEN NOT LEAVE WHEN SHE GETS THERE
• If you lie about your dad being in the front to be closer imma punch u
• I WILL HUG YOU IF YOU ARE ALSO CRYING BECAUSE I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL

THIS IS MY ONLY CHANCE TO BE MYSELF PLEASE JUST LET ME CRY GODDAMNIT

10 studyblr things that have died out:
  1. stabilo pens: i just never see them any more?? are they gone?? hibernating?? who knows
  2. fancy banners: u know on notes/in bujos as headers– i think ~fake calligraphy~ has just replaced them
  3. normal pencils: like the wooden #2 ones. in 2015 i saw A Lot of fancy pencils but WHERE ARE THEY NOW
  4. lil’ capsule highlighters: i’m pretty sure mildliners & stabilo boss ones just kinda booted them out
  5. weekly layout printables: there were so many this time last year with times & highlighting & dates and now what?? they went pOooOf
  6. sketchnotes: these were a Big Thing & suuuuuuper cool. i don’t even know why they’re gone maybe minimalism killed them
  7. filofaxes: i mean the bujo revolution clearly just staged a coup and booted them from power
  8. fountain pens: again. mysteriously wiped out without any good reason. they looked So Fancy and now what
  9. candles: they used to be in so many studyspo pics!!! and now they just ,,, aren’t?? did they all burn down and no one bought more??
  10. photos of libraries: not just pics of notes and books on tables. the big libraries with lamps & books & fantastical things

i mean it might just be me but we should bring these back i miss them lmk if i’m completely wrong and just blinded by the bujo craze

anonymous asked:

Do you have any advice on how to write a grieving character? Thank you!!

Hi!

Grieving isn’t pretty. It isn’t always dramatic, either – while some people certainly do go home and throw their favorite vase against the wall, some people retreat into themselves and become emotionally unresponsive (that’s what I do). Violence or anger is more likely to occur if the death is sudden – so is retreating into an emotional shell, really, because it’s often a result of shock. But both can occur outside of a sudden death – cancer isn’t always sudden, but many people still become angry when their loved one is diagnosed with or dies because of it. Basically, if the death feels unfair in any way – if it’s sudden, or if it feels like it happened too early, such as in the case of cancer or of some sort of cardiac disaster (a heart attack, a stroke, etc) – it’s more likely to provoke anger or shock, depending on your character’s temperament and attachment to the dying/dead character.

That was just a general disclaimer. Now, onto the meat of grieving!

Firstly, grieving can begin before the person is technically dead – you don’t have to wait for the person to go flatline and physically stop breathing for your other characters to feel a sense of loss. If your character suffered a medical disaster or an accident that rendered them comatose, or if your character is obviously fighting a losing battle (again, terminal cancer comes to mind), your other characters could start grieving them even though they’re still breathing and their heart is still beating. However, the likelihood is that your characters won’t be able to really start working through the five stages of grief until your character actually does physically die, because rarely does death really hit home until it has occurred.

Speaking of the five stages of grief, those are important! They’re as follows:

  • Denial/Isolation: your characters can’t believe your dead character is really dead. This is a defense mechanism of sorts for your mind – a way to delay at least some of the pain, and give yourself time to process what’s happened (although that processing happens subconsciously, because on the surface you’re denying that anything’s happened at all). If the dead character fought a long battle with an illness before death, this stage may be expedited by the fact that your characters had time to process the character’s dying as it was happening. If the death was sudden in any way, this stage may be prolonged, because it will be harder to comprehend something that happened so quickly, and shock will be more likely to occur.
  • Anger: the pain your characters were masking in the denial stage starts to come to the surface, and as a response to the pain, your characters get angry (just as many other vulnerable emotions, such as fear, are expressed as anger – anger is a tough emotion, as opposed to fear and grief, so most people subconsciously opt for anger because it makes them feel less vulnerable). They may feel they’ve been robbed of your dead character’s companionship. Their anger may manifest itself in many different ways: isolation, irritability, or self-destructive behavior, to name a few. Their anger may also direct itself at various places: the medical professionals who failed to save your dead character’s life, God for taking your dead character, even the dead character him/herself, if they could in any way be responsible for their own death (if they were driving intoxicated, if they never ate healthily and suffered a heart attack, etc.).
  • Bargaining: before death, this stage may manifest itself as “please God, just let them live and I’ll tithe my ten percent and go to church every Sunday”, or “please, [Dying character’s name], just hold on and get better and we’ll [do that thing the dying character has always wanted to do]”. (Keep in mind that most people have an astounding impulse to be religious during a time of crisis, whether they’ve been religious in the past or not.) After death, this stage may manifest itself in the “could’ve-should’ve-would’ve” philosophy: “if only we’d taken them to the doctor sooner”, “I should’ve made him stay home”, “I knew there was something wrong with him!”, and so on. This stage is generally an attempt to regain control of the situation – your characters feel like they’re taking some kind of action by offering a proposition, or by placing blame.
  • Depression: there are two types of depression associated with grief. In the first (which is almost more similar to anxiety) your characters worry more about others: what if I haven’t been there for people when they needed me, how are we going to pay for the funeral/burial services, and so on. Basically it deals more with the practical aspects of the character’s death. The second type is more introspective – your characters may retreat into themselves and analyze old memories of your dead character, and their feelings on everything that’s happened. This type is private, and your characters probably won’t share much about their thoughts if they experience it.
  • Acceptance: this stage is marked by withdrawal and calm – it can sometimes be difficult to distinguish from depression. It’s not a stage of joyous frolicking and exclaiming, “It’s okay! I understand everything about [Dead Character’s] death!”. Your characters may still not understand the purpose of your dead character’s death, but understanding and acceptance are not synonyms, nor are they mutually inclusive. The important thing about this stage is that your characters can make peace with the death, and can move on.

Keep in mind that while I’ve listed these stages in what is regarded as their general order, every person (and character) grieves differently – they may experience these emotions in a different order than that above. They may also go through one or several of the stages more than once, or cycle through the first four of them multiple times before reaching the fifth. Some characters may not even reach the fifth at all – depending on the circumstances of the death and the character’s attachment to your dead character, they may never fully accept your dead character’s death. The stages above are just a general framework for grieving.

Also, keep in mind that if your character’s death was tied in any way to traumatic incidents for your other characters, it may complicate the grieving process for those other characters, because the character’s death will be tied to other painful or triggering memories.

I hope this helps! If you need anything else, please feel free to ask. - @authors-haven

Hyper Projection Engeki Haikyuu - Karasuno, Revival!

Backstage
Blooper Reels!  Shown to the actors!!!  Fourth fuck-up goes to… everyone in the background who fell over running backwards lol

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Guys can we talk about this

At some conventions there are artist-related events because literally every nerdy fandom attracts a number of artists in various stages of aspiration. One such event at Indy Pop Con was the Drink ‘n’ Draw- where we all met up at Scotty’s for brews and had a drawing session. 

I didn’t really read the blurb, I just kind of wanted to hang out with other artists and talk about cats. So I did certainly not know that it was a competition- first prize gets a free artist’s table at next year’s show. Runners up get a bag of goodies with a sketch book and some nice pens. Judge faves get a sketch commission.

Now I am not a competitive person. Like… I’ll participate in friendly competition if it’s a thing I like doing, but I’m not in it to win it. So I was just like… pff whatever, I’ll make someone else look good. 

But you have to adhere to a theme. And this year’s theme was ‘The Last Battle.’

And it could be anything you want within that theme. Mostly they were looking at things like storytelling, composition, and technique. 

I wasted about fifteen minutes of the hour and a half that we had, trying to figure out what I wanted to do. I’m awful at open-ended themes all the time and I mentally rattled off a list of subjects that would be good to work with before I finally landed on one that I wanted to do. 

Barney the Purple Dinosaur. 

And I know what you’re thinking:

“What?”

But literally every kid I know grew up twisting the theme song to Barney and turning it into some morbid collection of ways to end the dinosaur’s reign of terror and all of them involved tying him to a tree. 

‘With a knife in his back and a gun to his head-

Woopsie-daisy, Barney’s dead.’

And I figured like… since I’m not really here to win, I’m at least gonna have a good time. So I skipped past the pencil stage and went straight for the sharpies and went to town on this piece of paper. 

And I was not gonna hold back. 

With ten minutes left, the event runner walks by my table and has this ‘what in the fuck is this’ look on his face.

“You know… like in the song?”

“…what song?”

Okay so this is the first person I have met in my life that has not indulged in the honored past-time of recounting the Death of Barney through song. So I start singing the song and he’s still just a wee bit perturbed. 

He walks away, shaking his head, but he’s definitely amused by it. 

Time is up, drawings are in. 

I’m just chillin’ over in my corner with a Pepsi and one of the other artists at my table keeps eyeing the judges because she came to WIN.  She nudges me and she’s like “they keep looking at yours, man.”

“They’re probably trying to dry it off because I spilled Pepsi on it.”

“I dunno… they look intrigued.”

Intrigued is an… intriguing word to describe the faces they were making at my hot mess of a doodle. 

The winners have been decided. 

They get through their personal faves and start listing the runners up. The artist that was checking the judge reactions got one of the judge’s favorites prizes. My girlfriend gets a runner-up for hers. They get to the last one of the runners-up and say:

“Okay, this one came REALLY close.” He holds up a drawing. “Who did this one?”

My hand shot straight up.

“Is that… is that BARNEY?”

“OH GOD WHY?”

“What the fuck?”

I am SHOCKED at this point because what kind of a childhood did y’all have? A fucking nurturing one? “Come on guys, it’s like that song. You know… tie barney to a tree…”

No?

Nothing?

Come on!

So that’s how I won a free sketchbook and came to be known as the chick that ruined everyone’s childhood at Drink’ n’ Draw. 

And I suspect I might have actually won the table if I’d made it clearer that the shadowy figure walking off into the sunset is Baby Bop. 

YOu know what makes me proud? 

Yongguk fighting through his panic disorder and depression to be a strong leader for his boys, working his booty off being an incredibly leader and father figure to his boys through their darkest hours and stepping up when they needed him the most. 

Himchan stepping up and taking care of B.A.P while Bbang was out, despite getting lack of lines and respect from some fans still hold his beautiful head up and never is down on himself and stays strong 

Daehyun writing and composing his own songs and being able to perform them on stage and getting the chance to act after talking about wanting to get into acting for years. 

Youngjae writing and composing his own songs and getting able to perform them on stage, Being an energetic fluff ball and just aboslutly the most beautiful and greatest man always.

Jongup writing and composing his own songs and being able to perform them on stage, growing into the group as one of the shyer members but still getting all the support in the world by fans, how he’s talked about not being confident in writing music but ended up being the first member to have a solo on one of B.A.Ps albums 

Junhong writing and composing his own songs and performing them on stage, making the choreography for B.A.P along side with Jongup, going into B.A.P at such a young age but still being mature and thoughtful to his hyungs, going through so much with B.A.P at such a young age and being strong through it all 

B.A.P being an incredibly hard working humble group that have gone through a slave contract and year and a half haitus and coming back stronger than ever, dropping songs that fit in every spectrum of genres, B.A.P working their asses off to getting where they are now through dedication and love for their fans and getting 100% support from all of us while returning it all to us with all the amazing one of a kind content they give us. 

We’re a p spoiled fandom  having stanning the strongest idols in kpop and I’m just so fucking proud of them ;;

Things that make Bobby Beautiful

He took part in SMTM3, and went through the roughest stage of his life, for the money to bring his family back to Korea and build a house for them

He calls iKONICs ‘best friends’ & ‘adorable’ on a daily basis and treats them exactly like that

He’s bad at telling lies and would rather tell his girlfriend the truth if he didn’t like her outfit than to lie to her

He draws cute figures and hearts on his hands and arms

He recorded his members voices and laughters to add them to the ending part of his solo song ‘HOLUP’

He respects women and treats them like QUEENS. He even called a fan queen once and other fans ‘flowers’

He got out of a car just to let an old lady pass the street and bowed to her. When a cameraman called him a hero for it on broadcast, instead of agreeing, he said he isn’t a hero just a normal human being

He prefers to see his members slogans at concerts or konbats instead of his own slogans

His three biggest priorities in life are music, family & Jesus Christ.

He asked fans to sing along to iKON songs, and when they did, he kissed their hands.

He wears and accepts fan presents as often as he can and even treasures some in his room

At the age of 14 he came to Korea all by himself to start a career only to be able to take care of his family which still lived in the us back then

In 2015 he had enough money to bring his parents back to Korea and build a house for them and he still takes care of them

When he saw a pregnant fan at a concert, he went down the stage and gave her his jacket so she wouldn’t feel cold and be safe

He wanted a tattoo and asked his dad and brother to do a family tattoo with the lyrics of his born hater rap ‘fear only god hate only sins’

He grew up in church and thanked god on almost every award show in which iKON won

He and his mother have golden couple bracelets

He can play the guitar, piano and drums but he never shows off. Many people don’t even know that he is a pretty decent singer too

Anytime a fan or a random person falls down near Bobby, you see him being the first person to help them get up even when the place is crowded or they’re in a hurry

when fans asked him at the airport if he was tired (during one of the most stressful times for iKON members) he said ‘I’m fine, don’t worry’ in a soft voice and repeated it over and over again until the fans stopped asking

He sleeptalks and keeps telling Donghyuk to go to church

He is the most hyped and happy when he is on stage and hears iKONICs singing along to iKON songs

All his members repeatedly said that the private bobby they know, is exactly what we get to see on tv and that he is very natural and honest

He is everybody’s hype man. No matter who is on stage or performing, he hypes them up and dances and sings along and jams to the song

He picked up a fan from work and had a date with her for the program dingo. He bought her food, helped her clean up at work, flirted with her but kept his distance, gave her his jacket and presents at the end and a long hug and took her home

His goal in life isn’t to live a luxury life, but a happy one.

He asks younger members what they’d like to eat and lets them pick what they want first

He is actually an introvert and shy around strangers but still gives as much fanservice as possible

He watches animes and reads manga and loves to wear clothes with anime print or cartoon prints on them

He wears colorful friendship bracelets that fans gave him

His biggest treasure is a Winnie the Pooh plushy that his older brother gave him when he was born. He panicks whenever he can’t find it and sleeps with it until this day even said it makes him sleep better.

Even when many people call him ugly, he never wanted to do plastic surgery and repeats that he loves himself the way he is.

He disliked dressing up as girls the most, but still did it so fans would be happy

He is really respectful. Especially towards seniors and fans. He always bows 90 degrees.

He doesn’t like skinship but let’s other members be touchy with him

He told fans to care more about themselves than about iKON and do their best in their area (school or work etc.)

this post will be constantly updated

anonymous asked:

What do you think is what to this day attracts them to each other?

Comfort, compatibility, chemistry, shared experiences. 

A bone deep confidence both of them feel that this is their person, that this is the person who will always listen to what they have to say, who will challenge them, who will help them push their boundaries and hold them accountable, but also understand when they’re at their breaking point. 

The fact that they recharge each other. That their definition of being alone is being together, alone. The world is exhausting, their world especially with all of it’s mixed praise and critique, expectation, obligation. But their retreat is sitting on a sofa binge watching a television show and eating pizza. 

That they have the same ideology, essentially, but enough differences to still make for heated discussion. That they are the same, but also not

That they can reach each other so well; that they know each other so thoroughly, and yet somehow still seem fascinated when the other talks. Their endless capacity for wanting to hear what the other says. 

That they share each other’s interests even when the interests aren’t mutual. That Dan will let Phil goad him into the silliest of challenges, will sit through every movie that was formative to Phil as a child and be fully invested. That Phil will sit in the room while Dan watches racing, or go to an exhibit with him despite not caring the least bit about those things. 

That it’s been going on eight years and even visible to an audience of outside observers, they flirt. Cute and coy, little pokes and prods, grins meant only for each other, a finger twisting through a curl of hair, a shriek of delight at something the other suggests. The side of them that is kisses and touches and mornings in bed and nights under the covers isn’t a side we’re supposed to see, but enough of the suggestion is there. 

That they support each other. They voluntarily built this career together, and it’s almost a shame that we don’t see more of their individual pursuits because Dan and Phil being each other’s number one fan is a vital part of that confidence building between them. Phil gushing about Dan’s documentary, bringing Dan on stage for the BONCAS. But we see it most often lately on a smaller scale - minor victories celebrate in a way that is proud and pleased and radiating something intangible but beautiful.

That their goals in life have shifted seamlessly together. Once upon a time, Dan talked so excitedly about Phil getting his own place and Dan being able to dump all of his stuff there. That was the first stepping stone down a cobbled pathway that’s led to this: their goals set high, a forever house and a dog and whatever other plans they have that haven’t leaked through the cracks in the wall they place between us and them. 

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Hyper Projection Engeki Haikyuu - Karasuno, Revival!

Backstage
Nekoma practicing their various acrobatics and tricks.  As the most visually acrobatic team, they had it pretty rough with their choreography.

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20 things I learned at 20

1. You can have only one best friend and that best friend can only be you. Because you may come across a dozen lovely people but the only one who can keep the ‘forever’ promise is you.

2. Family is the most important. This is the only love that is truly unconditional and absolutely pure. They love you when you’re 5 and when you’re 18. They love you in your failure and your success. Their love doesn’t increase because it’s already at its maximum right from the beginning, it’s already infinite.

3. Cocktails and aerated drinks may soothe your taste buds but tea soothes your entire body. It’s warm and calming and well, healthy.

4. Your first kiss means nothing if it’s not with the right person. And the right person doesn’t mean your soulmate or someone who will never break your heart but someone who in that moment loves you as much as you love them.

5. You’ve written over 350 exams and you’ve got a perfect score in some and scored miserably in others but do you remember your 9th grade math score? Do you even remember 9th grade math? Education is so important but not the stress and competitive grading that comes along with it. If you get a low score or even fail, not much will happen – you will get a retest. But if you get ill – mentally or physically, it will have undesired long term effects.

6. In 8th grade your school psychologist told you that you’re one of the few people who walk in life with open arms loving and helping everyone, not because you haven’t bled but because you know you will heal and have the strength to do so. At that point you laughed at her but now, years later you’re loving, accepting and helping in spite of having both, actual and metaphorical scars.
You’re kind and admitting that doesn’t make you conceited.

7. Goodbyes don’t always have to be dramatic. Writing an 800 words message won’t make it hurt any less than an 8 words one. Closure usually has not much to do with the ones who wronged you but with taking your time in dealing with all the stages of grief. Some stage like anger may take only a month but acceptance may take years and that’s okay.

8. Jealousy is a basic human trait. They can be the closest to you and yet envy your happiness and life. Envy is something you too experience and you can be happy for them and be sad for yourself at the same time because so bitter it is to view happiness from someone else’s eyes. You aren’t a horrible human being if you feel like there are better shades of green your grass could be.

9. Read at your own desire and pace.
You don’t have to read particular books to qualify as a bibliophile or read a specific number of books to be a bookworm either. Read what truly interests you and take your time because reading was never a task, don’t make it one now.

10. Money is important. Money can’t buy love but it can buy happiness. But not blood money. Money honestly earned through hard work. That kind of money is good, that kind of money is required. You have a certain standard of living and if you want to maintain that after your parents stop financing you, you must make sure to earn the same. It doesn’t make you a snob or a spoiled brat, it only makes you a human aware of your wants, many of which have turned into needs by now.

11. There are somethings you just never grow out of like bubbles and glitter and your mother’s hot chocolate and hugs. Those are the kind of things that make life bearable when adulting gets too hard. Those are the little things that matter the most.

12. You cry. A lot.
But you don’t cry in front of people for their pity. You don’t cry to manipulate situations. You cry because you accept the pain. You cry because you don’t reject or lock away your emotions. You cry because your mental, emotional and physical self are in sync and that’s healthy. That’s so lovely.

13. Bake cakes. They don’t have to look pretty as long as they taste delicious. Paint canvases. They don’t have to be a master piece as long as all the paint in your hands and face and jeans makes you feel complete. Write more. It doesn’t have to a novel or even be posted online as long as it lets you breathe a little lighter and smile wider.

14. Go for walks alone, sit on the beach without your headphones, look up at the sky without a lover, buy flowers for yourself. Nature is legit free (for the most part). And it’s the richest thing that the world has. Le it bring you peace, let it help you survive.

15. Make home feel home. Sometimes you won’t have your family to make it home. Sometimes you will have to make it home by putting a part of yourself and that means investing the time, energy and money in making it feel yours, in making it feel right. It may not be your ‘dream house’, it may just be a tiny room but it’s yours. Your surroundings play a major role in affecting your mood and vibe.

16. Energy is real.
You may not know much about Science beyond 10th grade but you do know this, e=mc ²  which means everything is energy, you are energy and there is positive and negative energy and you can feel it and you experience it in every person you meet, every place you visit, every room you step inside. You can and you must choose to surround yourself with positive energy. What you attract, you do get; what you attract you become.

17. Spend time with yourself. It’s some of the best time you will have. You need to unwind, you need it to re-energize, you need it to focus and you need it for peace. You can go to a cafe by yourself, write, read, meditate, talk to yourself out loud, dance in your underwear, cook and just be.


18.  Take care of yourself- no one else can, no one else will. Drink loads of water, there’s a reason why more than half your body is made up of water. Sleep well because staying up all night isn’t something to be proud of, it’s stupid. Don’t skip breakfast because skipping breakfast makes you crave fatty foods for the rest of the day. Stay healthy not because you want to look a certain way but because you want to feel strong and energetic and have an active mind, body and heart. Staying healthy emotionally and mentally is just as important. So let those who want to go, go and never say yes to something your gut wants to scream ‘NO’ to.

19. Love yourself. If you don’t love yourself you will look for other people to love you. If you don’t accept yourself, you will keep seeking other people’s validation and the moment they withdraw it or walk away, you will crumble. And you don’t want to crumble. You want to enjoy the one person’s company you have to live with forever – yourself. Work on being a person you’d love to spend your life with because let’s face it, you don’t have a choice. It’s a long term investment and the only one that will never fail you.

20. In Shakespeare’s words, “To thine own self be true”. In order to love yourself, knowing yourself is very important.  And knowing yourself doesn’t mean the adjectives that people use for you or what your zodiac sign says about you. It means what you know in your heart to be your truth.

One more for good luck?

21. You laughed and thought it was very witty when you came across the quote, ‘Don’t take life too seriously. Nobody gets out alive anyway.’
but god. Can it be any truer? Most things you’re stressing over now won’t even matter 3 years from now. But good days will turn into heart-warming memories that will stay with you even 2 decades later.
Happiness and success are two different things but remember, they aren’t mutually exclusive. At least they don’t have to be.

Great Comet Things

So here’s a list of great comet tidbits from the last two times i saw it. I made another post about the first time i saw it a while ago that has my some other moments of interest. Honestly I’ve now seen this show three times and I still feel like I missed a million things

-I know a lot of people talk about this but Marya wears a black leather jumpsuit and holds a riding crop during the duel and also is having the time of her life on the platform by the door playing a big drum during balata

-i think it was during pierre but there’s just a neat moment where four different men are lined up playing guitar

-Andrey gives Natasha a necklace right at the beginning of the show, and then later during charming Helene actually takes it off of her, gives her one of her necklaces, and keeps the andrey necklace for herself

-oh also during the first half of charming natasha is in her underwear

-right at the beginning of no one else the entire lighting of the theatre changes to blue

-right after the duel anatole and helene mime this little “boxing” moment its just really cute

-When Anatole and Natasha first kiss during the ball, that sound is actually the entire ensemble doing rings around the rim of the their glasses. They each stop one by one and the last person to let go is Helene who lingers a little bit longer than everyone else, and there’s a dim spotlight on her as she stops

-during dust and ashes the ensemble is all over the theatre doing those backup vocals, but they come out in the mezzanine almost in like a procession, and line up all the way across the mezzanine, and also all the way down the aisles in the orchestra. It had a very like voyeuristic quality? Like Pierre is being looked over by all these people it’s really beautiful

-in a call to pierre, when marya sends the letter, paul pinto carries it over to pierre and those hanging lights like light up to follow the letter? its on that big ascending run in the music and you can really only tell when you sit in the mezzanine but its a cool effect

-during the opera if you sit in the mezzanine, after the initial opera part when it gets to “in the second act there were tombstones,” gelsey bell and paul pinto come up to the mezzanine and continue to mime the opera

-during one of the newer parts in the abduction when music gets all big and grand, there’s a man on the stage by the door at the top doing like that russian dance where you’re on your heels and then bounce up, but really slowly, BUT there’s also a man up the mezzanine doing the exact same thing and they’re facing each other almost like they’re having a dance off from across the theatre and they both have huge spotlights on them

-there’s about five million things that are happening during the abduction actually so i won’t go into all of them, but i also love the “accordion-off” that sort of happens between the two women who play it

-if you watch the tony performance you can catch a lot of the other little moments like natasha smashing a painting over balagas head, of course the making out, and everyone throwing what i think are pages of war and peace everywhere 

- so when they do the fur cloak part an ensemble member comes to the front and acts out the whole thing while playing violin, her name is pearl rhein and when i talked to her at stage door i was like “i love your feature!” and she just goes “ME TOO!” and then goes “yeah people always ask me what my favorite part is and i just go well my part!” it was so cute

-there’s one or two times in the show when sonya and anatole cross paths on stage and she just glares at him

-when natasha poisons herself marya and sonya are both sitting onstage in the audience, and i’m pretty sure sonya immediately stands up, but i know marya does, an the she just watches her before they run after her offstage

-dolokhov plays the guitar during natasha very ill which i found neat

-its so funny when pierre sings “unable to find the sleeves” at the end of pierre and natasha, i’m pretty sure that at every show i was at the audience thought he had messed up and ad-libbed that

-when i talked to grace clean at stage door i told her i loved her music and she said there should be an album very soon if anyone was curios

-when i met paul pinto at stage door i told him that he has insane energy and he just goes “yeah it must be all that cocaine” before laughing and going “WAIT don’t do drugs”

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Jeffrey Dean Morgan almost brought puppies and kittens to ‘Talking Dead’ to calm fans after violence

“Plan was and this was all set up days in advanced. I was coming out with an arm full of puppies and kittens and bunnies and was going to hand them to the cast…the ones that were having an especially hard time. Lauren, you know was I know in tears and I was gonna hand her a little puppy and also it would have kind of softened the blow I thought to the boos that I would have gotten on stage. Uhm, it’s hard to boo a puppy. You can’t boo a handful of puppies, but it started raining so hard and I think people were afraid for the puppies’ safety. Not because of me, but because of what was going on out there. Everybody had umbrellas so it didn’t pan out sadly enough.”