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Symmetra being autistic is honestly very important to me???

Like, we rarely get an autistic character in media outside of the rather offensive (in my opinion, at least; we all have different thoughts on this and I don’t speak for every autistic person) stereotypical portrayals, like Big Bang Theory’s Sheldon (ugh).

Not to mention she’s a female autistic character; those are even rarer because people frequently see autism as a thing exclusive to cis men.

And anger over turret cheese notwithstanding, she’s generally well-liked by the fandom.

AND her autism isn’t the only thing that defines her.

I could put this in a lot more words but I’m too tired right now.

i know no one cares but i’ve just recently started stimming wholeheartedly after years of repressing it, even while alone, and it feels so good i could cry

To the disgusting autism moms who claim they will never be proud of their child’s autism: 

You are teaching them internalized ableism.
You are teaching them lateral ableism.
You are teaching them to hate who they really are.
You are teaching them that they’re not allowed to be their real self.
You are teaching them that they have to be fake to please you.
You are teaching them that your love for them is conditional.

And any angry responses to this post will prove that I’m right.

I’m so tired of autism moms lamenting their child may never get married, say “I love you” or hold down a job. Funny how all these are things the moms want to do with the child. They act like an autism diagnosis is robbing them of experiences they see other moms have.

Yeah, and while you’re crying about all these things you want you’re missing out on the child right in front of you and you’re missing out on what they want.

It’s not all about YOU, autism moms.

Yes, it’s stressful. Yes, it’s frustrating. Yes, it’s hard. 

But you want to know what’s harder? Being autistic and surrounded by people who say “Be yourself…” and as soon as I flap my hands, somebody pulls me aside to say, “…but not like that.”

I stopped listening to those people. Do you want to be one of those people to your child?

We all agree how terrible Autism Moms™/Autism Parents™ are  but theres also the seldom talked about Autism Siblings™ that act like they know all about autism, better than actual autistic people because they have a sibling thats autistic. Often invalidating us because we’re not “as autistic” as their sibling(s).

anonymous asked:

This is kinda a wonky question, but I don't really understand all the controversy about Autism Speaks? Could you help me out if you know? If not that's totally cool thanks for acknowledging me. You're so cool omg

Pfft thank you xD 

Too sum it up quickly here’s a video they made, with the narrator supposedly being autism itself (If you get upset easily don’t watch it (I can’t watch the full thing)

Former Autism Speaks board member Harry Slatkin, whose wife, Laura, continues to serve on the Board of Directors, stated in an interview with Town and Country while still a board member that sometimes he hoped their autistic son David would drown in the backyard pond rather than “suffer like this all his life.” Evidencing a pattern of similarly violent rhetoric, Autism Speaks is also responsible for the 2006 PSA “Autism Every Day“ in which their then Vice President states on camera that she considered putting her autistic daughter in the car and driving off a bridge, and that the only reason she refrained from doing so was because her other, non-autistic daughter would have been waiting for her at home—her autistic daughter was in the room as she made these statements. Furthermore, the producer of this PSA explicitly admitted that the film was intentionally staged to portray negative images of autistic people and their families.

Only four days following the release of “Autism Every Day,” pathologist Karen McCarron smothered her autistic daughter with a garbage bag. McCarron stated that she murdered Katie because her “autism had not been improving,” had thought about killing Katie, that made an earlier brief attempt at suffocation, wanted to cure Katie, thought killing Katie would make her “complete” in heaven, and wanted to live without autism and thus had to kill Katie. Investigators found that McCarron was obsessed with different treatments for Katie. (See People v. FRANK-McCARRON, 934 NE 2d 76 - Ill: Appellate Court, 3rd Dist. 2010.) Though it is not presently possible to draw a direct connection between Autism Speaks’ PSA and Katie’s murder, this crime and dozens like it only underscore how the kind of rhetoric that Autism Speaks favors only serves to recklessly endanger the lives of autistic people.

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Autism Speaks also publicly supports the Judge Rotenberg Center, a group home for autistic and neurodivergent students that uses “treatments” like food and sleep deprivation and electric shock to try and train the residents into acting neurotypical. The center has changed states three times in an attempt to bypass regulation against abusive treatment, and their practices have resulted in the deaths of more than one student.

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  • Autism Speaks does not have a single autistic member on their board.
  • Autism Speaks only spends 4% of their budget on “family services”.
  • Much of Autism Speaks’ money goes toward research, and much of that research centers on finding a way to eliminate autism, and thus, autistics (which will likely be done through a prenatal test, in the same way that the Down’s Syndrome test is conducted).
  • Autism Speaks produces advertisments, small films, etc. about what a burden autistic people are to society.
  • Autism Speaks was responsible for “Autism Every Day”, which featured a member of their board talking about contemplating murder-suicide of her daughter in front of her daughter. This has now be removed from Autism Speaks’ Youtube channel.
  • Autism Speaks is responsible for the atrocity known as “I am Autism”, a short film produced by the same person who directed the 3rd Harry Potter movie (yes, really) and features an ominous voice saying things like “I am autism…I know where you live…I work faster than pediatric AIDS, cancer, and diabetes combined…I will make sure your marriage fails.”

For further reading, here are a few resources about Autism Speaks:

Here are a few other terrible things that Autism Speaks has done recently.

  • This woman’s job offer was rescinded after she asked Autism Speaks for accommodations in caring for her autistic son.  They refused, and she made necessary accommodations for childcare, but they withdrew her offer anyways.
  • Autism Speaks shared the news of Google removing hate speech regarding autistics from Google’s autofill feature, completely erasing any mention of autistic people’s flashblogs having anything to do with the change.  It was only after a member of the autism community (and not a parent, but an autistic person themselves) spoke with a reporter about the flashblog and a statement was released to the media that Google decided to make this change.
  • Autism Speaks highlighted AAC use, while erasing those those who actually use AAC devices to communicate.  The focus was on the caretakers, not on the autistic people themselves. (The attached link has a link to a rebuttal by a nonspeaking autistic person, Amy Sequenzia).

In short: Its a hate group disguised as a charity and my god I want it to end

mml autistic headcanons

am i projecting? absolutely. will i stop? no.

these arent really in any particular order lol

  • milo doesnt really show a wide range of emotion. in desperate times, even, hes usually either cheery or completely straightfaced. (like when his backpack got crushed and he just said “hmm, well maybe you can worry a little bit) if he has a meltdown, usually what triggers it is something small because he bottles up his emotions without realizing it.
  • he also doesnt really get why people would want to know if hes feeling okay or not because like why would they care about his emotions he doesnt even care about his own emotions
  • brigette has a lot of varied special interests and shes very lucky bc theyre all usually something she can make a job out of
  • both milo and sara have a special interest in dr zone and they get irritated sometimes bc infodumping to each other is USELESS they already KNOW all of this stuff
  • milo doesnt really… “get” personal space like hes good with staying away from someone who hes not close with but whenever hes able to move someone from “friend” to “close friend” he starts hanging all over them
  • amanda hates it when her routines are interrupted in any way and changing her routine can easily lead to a meltdown
  • on one hand bradley is like “im autistic and that can mean that im better than others at doing stuff” but on the other hes like “im a burden to the people around me bc im autistic”. he has really black and white thinking when it comes to anything and has a hard time viewing himself as equal to other ppl
  • amanda has a lot of special interests in musicals and operas and likes to rewatch things much more than she likes watching them for the first time
  • amanda and bradley both dont like being touched without giving permission first
  • milo likes to fidget and rock to stim, bradley likes pressure stimming, sara likes to snap repeatedly and sing random songs, amanda scratches herself, rubs her hands against walls when shes walking, and chews on stuff (usually her hair), and brigette flaps
  • when martin and brigette first met, he tried to hint to her that she should stay away from him but she didnt catch on and then he didnt want her to leave him alone anymore

feel free to reblog and add more!!

To all the people spreading the lie that a-spec means autistic spectrum disorder and that you actually care about autistics and you’re not an acephobe:

Where are your posts about how autistic women are 28 times more likely to have suicidal ideation?

Where are your posts about all the autistic children killed by their own families?

Where are your posts about how autistic women are far more likely to be sexually assaulted than neurotypical women?

Where are all your posts about how Autism Speaks supports eugenics?

Don’t claim to care about autistics when you just want to use us for your acephobia. We have enough to deal with as it is.

anonymous asked:

asexual jason scott, aromantic zack taylor, and trans girl tommy oliver!!!!!!!! yay or nay?

yes to all thank you anon :DDD

i was actually thinking basically exactly this yesterday ???? 

also tho. trans girl Kim because ??? yes ????

i’m gonna go ahead and tag @lordbaeder here because lbr he’ll have some things to say about it 

Coming out again and again (and again) but always for the first time

Today I faced up to the email that’s been sitting in my inbox for over a week, from one of my oldest and dearest friends, my first ever internet friend, my found family brother. I’d mentioned in a previous email that I was in autistic burnout, and in reply, in the nicest possible way, he asked, ‘so, this autism thing, what’s that all about? whenever if ever you’re ready to talk about it, ilu whatever, you know that’.

And I come out to people all the time, about my autism, about my queerness, about the abuse when I was a kid, whatever. But this was hard, because I wanted to write it right, and sequencing my thoughts is really difficult for me when I’m trying to lay out something as complex as my neurotype and its effect on my life.

He’s asking because he wants to understand, and that’s wonderful, but at the same time, terrifying because unlike some random whose opinion doesn’t matter, his opinion does.

As with my queerness, it’s never a case of you come out once, and that’s it. Every day you come out again to someone you’ve just met, to a friend, to a health worker, to a family member. And every time, you’re coming out for the first time. It never gets easy. It gets familiar, but never easy, because each time you do, it’s a risk.

Will this person be receptive? Will they reject what I’m saying? Will they try to cure me with suggestions of diet, yoga or meditation? Will they tell me I’m not as disabled as a 'real’ autistic person they know? Will they ask me if I’ve found god? Will they ask if I’ve tried sex with men? Will they ask about my functioning label, my meltdowns, my stimming or my verbal fluency, or what those things were like when I was a child? Will they think it’s all a bid for attention?

While some questions are specific to my neurotype or my sexuality or the abuse, there’s a striking similarity to many of them, particularly when they come from near strangers. It’s curiosity, yes, but there’s a need to categorise, to feel out my edges and lines and push me into a box they recognise. It’s a hard thing to be on the receiving end of, but it’s also very human. As a person being questioned, you’re torn between being polite and enstating hard boundaries. As a person questioning, you’re often just trying to understand. That doesn’t mean questioning is benign. It can be intrusive, toxic and hostile. It can involve damning snap judgements that can leave the victim reeling for days, 'helpful’ suggestions that can crush fragile self esteem. People don’t always have the best intentions, and even those who do, often don’t understand that their 'help’ is unwelcome or harmful.

The point I’m trying to make is that coming out is HARD. Whether you’re talking to people (as I do) about neurodiversity or sexuality or abuse, or talking about race, religion, political activism, gender… whatever you’re taking the big step to talk about with another human, either in brickspace or on the internet or the phone, it’s one of the hardest things you’ll do over and over for the rest of your life. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. That doesn’t mean you’ll get it right every time, or that it’ll be received well, or that you won’t regret opening your mouth sometimes. That’s how life is. But the fact that you take that step with someone… that’s huge. And you should be proud of yourself for that.

(Reblogs are fine. Go for it.)

Autism Acceptance Month - Day 28

28. How do you support others? Do you have high or low empathy? Do you tend to listen to people’s problems or offer them solutions?

I’m a problem-solver so my first instinct is to come up with possible solutions when someone tells me about a problem they’re having. But in the last few years I’ve learned that people don’t actually like that (it seems most of the time they just want to complain, which is fine too, to a certain extent), so now I try to just listen and go “aw that sucks” instead c:

If by empathy one means “I feel how you feel”, then I’m pretty low-empathy. I’ve been known to laugh at inappropriate times, for example :/ But I guess I’ve got a decent amount of sympathy (”I know how you feel” - if I can relate it to my personal experience somehow) and some compassion (”how can I help”) tho. So it’s more of the practical kind, not the “I’ll cry with you” kind (except for movies, when there is a sad soundtrack I will be bawling - I’m sort of glad life doesn’t have a soundtrack or it would be entirely too emotional :P)

When you first start to wonder if you’re autistic, it can be very confusing, but also exciting and eye-opening. 

I had never considered that I might be autistic until a few years ago, mainly because all I knew about autism was that my best friend’s brothers had it, and it made them “weird.” I never heard about the positive aspects of being autistic, and if I had, I might have discovered that I am autistic sooner.

I used to wonder what was “wrong” with me, things like “why do I get so obsessed with things?” which now I know is my special interests, and “why do I always have to do something with my hands when I’m nervous?” which now I know is stimming. Now I know that there’s nothing wrong with me, I’m just autistic, and that’s ok!

If you’re just starting to think you might be autistic, or if you’ve known for a while, just know that no matter what, you are strong, wondrous, and valid!

Autistic sisters Maud and Pinkie Pie

Autistic sisters Maud and Pinkie Pie

Pinkie who is very understimulated and looks for ways to be more stimulated and Maud who is very overstimulated and looks for ways to be less stimulated

Pinkie who will gorge on any type of sugary treat she can get her hooves on and Maud who hates any sweet because she can taste every little individual sugar grain and it makes her feel sick but she still helps Pinkie bake her treats whenever asked

Pinkie who could talk for hours on end with minimal breaks and Maud who could stay silent for weeks

Pinkie who thrives in the company of others and Maud who likes to be alone

Pinkie who likes loud music because it keeps her mind clear and Maud who brings earplugs around everywhere she goes because she hates loud noises

Pinkie who could potentially talk about parties for hours and Maud who could potentially talk about rocks for days

Pinkie who has a hard time explaining her feelings because she expects her friends to know how she feels and is hurt when they don’t and Maud who had a hard time explaining her feelings because she has a hard time showing them and doesn’t know how to explain them out loud

Pinkie who loves whacky outfits of all kinds because they make her feel silly and fun and Maud who can only wear simple clothes made of certain fabrics because any other clothing would feel unbearably uncomfortable

Pinkie who will immediately panic when faced with a problem that she doesn’t know how to handle and Maud who is very calculating in solving problems and enjoys a challenge every now and then

Pinkie who goes around teaching ponies all around Ponyville about autism and becoming something of a role model to autistic fillies and colts and Maud who only teaches ponies who ask her directly about autism

Pinkie who stims by jumping around or baking or talking about any topic and Maud who stims by digging at the dirt or petting a rock

Pinkie who lives with the Cakes because she has trouble taking care of herself sometimes and Maud who is very self sufficient and can take care of herself just fine

Pinkie who deals with depression and ADHD and Maud who deals with OCD

Pinkie and Maud who have learned the best methods in taking care of each other

Pinkie and Maud who are a pair of very successful, happy autistic ponies

Autistic sisters Maud and Pinkie Pie

Day 24, stereotypes and misconceptions.
There’s a lot of (very bad) stereotypes about autism. All autistics are all nonverbal, they’re either intellectually disabled or high IQ savants, they have no empathy, lack creativity, etc. Oh, and don’t forget the whole vaccines nonsense (my parents are anti-vaxxers and I’m still autistic, go figure). Just like stereotypes for any other group of people, they’re only true for very small number of people, if at all.

Things you shouldn’t say to an autistic:
- you don’t look autistic (what am I supposed to look like???)
- I wouldn’t have guessed! you seem so normal (I’m good at pretending because people will be rude/mean/tease me otherwise)
- you need to try harder; you’re just being lazy; you did x yesterday, why can’t you do it today; you’d remember if you cared, so you obviously don’t (I have a disability so I cannot do the same things as everyone else and I cannot do them consistently. I’m not trying to purposely inconvenience you somehow)

I could go on and on, but I think the one thing I wish more allistics would remember is that autistic people are just as diverse and different from each other as people that aren’t autistic are from each other.

From one of the mods of SmashingStigma

promised ages ago to send your old page about information about my experience with diagnosis of a 17 year old in England (me) in case I can help anyone else going through a similar situation.

There appears to be 5 stages:
1. Parent answers a questionnaire about you, general what you find difficult etc.
2. If you are still at school your main teacher or tutor gets the same questionnaire type thing.
3. Initial appointment. At 17 it will be with a paediatrician (child doctor) who it takes a few months (can’t remember how many for me) to get an appointment (blame the conservatives) This will be the doctor asking you and your parent/career about social difficulties, communication etc. It’s really easy and know All about autism so for example the doctor with me checked if I did handshakes and told me exactly where to sit etc. You and parent/career will walk through a tiny bit of childhood and the recent years etc. At the end they might say what they think, this is when the doctor will decide if they will refer you to speech and language.
4Speech and language assessment:
This sounds really scary but they aren’t going to test if you speak English or can speak. (Obviously if you are semi/non verbal it will come into it.) it took about 5 months to get me an appointment it should not take this long, as I am 17 they actually forgot about me! My mum had to ring up and on the same day I got an appointment for next week!

The actual assessment is weird. There is likely to be a waiting room full of children and children toys, be prepared to bring ear defenders or headphones if that’s what you struggle with. Depending on waiting times I waited for 15 minutes before the speech and language therapist came and collected me, this is when you have to go on your own. They lead you to a room where they will most likely tell you wear to sit.

The assessment is 45 minutes to an hour long. There will be a mixture of activities and questions. First thing they asked me to do was complete a puzzle, but they didn’t give me all the pieces. You are supposed to ask for more pieces until th epuzzle is complete. They will then ask you about what you made. Next, they had a empty story book where you tell the story with the therapist. (Funny thing is when I had my assessment it was about flying frogs and my friend had their assessment about flying frogs and they were 5 years apart at different places.) Another activities include telling a story from objects (Jenga block, elastic band, plastic diamond etc). They also made me reenact brushing my teeth. The second part of the assessment apparently is the most important: you answer questions. For example about friends, about social difficulties, about if you have a bf/gf, living alone, what your plans are etc.

Finally they bring back your parent/career in after they have scored it up. Here’s the thing, they don’t really tell you what it is out of but they tell you the guidelines. In the old method it used to be 7 for aspergers and 12 for autism. However this has changed because its all scored under autism now. Now it’s just 7 for read online that it is out of 22 but I am not sure how true this is. They usually accompany your number with a brief explanation. For example moderate etc, this is usually just nonsense. The therapist will then explain what is available. THIS IS NOT THE FINAL DIAGNOSIS.

Note if you are seventeen, it is likely they will be concerned about having to discharge you when u turn eighteen. The best way to get round this after the speech and language assessment is to keep ringing up the doctor, they won’t want to discharge you but because of funding etc . Blame conservatives. Just keep ringing and say you will accept a cancellation.

Five.you get referred back to your original child doctor paediatrician person. That is where the official diagnosis will take place. The doctor will take all your information from the stages and then diagnose you.

Hope this helps.


Thank you for sharing your experience! 

-Sabrina

anonymous asked:

So i was wondering, did you self-diagnose for autism, or did you go to a doctor? and if you did self diagnose, what symptoms did you see? I don't ask this to knock self-diagnosis, but because I think I may have autism, and I want to know what your experience was like, because I respect you a ton, and i would love to hear your advice

I self diagnosed in 2014 but it was kind of a messy experience so I am still not comfortable sharing my own symptoms right yet, I hope you understand. i’m happy you asked though because i would love to help pass on what helped me. It’s the tail-end of Autism Acceptance Month too, so I have a heck-ton of resources that may help you with self-diagnosis.

There is a LOT of information, these resources lead to other resources- please don’t try to sponge it all at once, take your time going through the motions. after going through these, its important to comb through your history, your childhood, interactions with people, the way you process things, what upsets you and why, etc.. the resources helped make sense of a lot of my life, down to the very way i think and interact with the world. i stopped emotionally abusing myself by a staggering amount.

the most important part about self-dx is that it can help you find ways to work with yourself, help yourself and become more understanding of your needs especially when you are unable to acquire medical support or professional help for any reason. 

take it slowly, it’s a long process. a very long, gentle, patient process.

[Image description: A screenshot of a comment on my What’s Wrong With Autism Speaks? video. The username of the commenter is blurred out. Most of the comment is highlighted in yellow, with a few phrases or words being highlighted in blue. The comment reads:

“Autism is treatable & can have full recovery. Its not a developmental disorder, if it is you woudnt be putting this up on Youtube or say what you said! You are very developed ,intelligent . So where’s your developmental disorder?..autism is a social relational disorder . The part of the brain that controls this function is not ” wired up"or firing at a frequency to sync wz other neuron transmitters. There are treatments fr that now. Brain plasticity.lookintothat. However, if this social-relational issue is not address, then it can lead to developmental & physio issues. I embrace pple with autism & am volunteer & advocate for them. No one is autistic, they just have autism that can be overcomed with relentless love & understanding & new breakthrough treatment so that they can live independent meaningful lives. We wouldn’t call someone that has cancer “ cancerous”, would we? God Bless!]

I highlighted everything just outright wrong with this comment in yellow, and the wrong assumptions or misunderstandings on the commenter’s part are highlighted with blue. As you can see, friends, pretty much everything is highlighted. I deleted the original comment off of my video, but I wanted to immortalize it too, because it’s a special kind of awful.

This is particularly frustrating because this person claims to know all about autism and autistic people, and they apparently even volunteer to work with autistic people. Which is baffling. Because, like, how can you be so wrong?? I’m autistic. They’re trying to tell an autistic person all about autism, but everything they’re saying is wrong and super harmful.

I left the “I embrace pple with autism & am volunteer & advocate for them” part unhighlighted because, well, that’s just really sad and ridiculous and what I feel for this individual borders on pity. I mean, how clueless can you get?

Them commenting all that on my video is like if someone came up to me in my chair and started trying to push me out of it while shouting things like “YOU DON’T REALLY NEED THIS, ALSO DON’T CALL YOURSELF DISABLED YOU’RE A PERSON WITH HANDICAPABILITIES, I EMBRACE AND ADVOCATE FOR HANDICAPABLE WHEELCHAIR PEOPLE, YOU CAN OVERCOME YOUR WHEELCHAIR WITH RELENTLESS LOVE” over my protests.

Please do feel free to discuss this train wreck of a comment.

My oc Angel canonically has this book called ‘Angel’s book of autism and variable discussions of differences’ or smth similar. Its a catch all generally, talking about what autism is and notes on specific body language, sign language for nonverbal moments etc. And that’s something I’d like to at some point accomplish. Smth that leeches off of experience to build a comprehensive guide for those with autism in understanding themselves and others