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By Dan Piepenbring

Old Demon Rum, they say you ruined homes,
Bashing the piteous Wife betwixt her eyes.
Stabbing Aunt Tildy with her own hair-combs,
And teaching your young offspring stealth and lies.

Lana Del Rey on alcohol

“I was a big drinker at the time. I would drink every day. I would drink alone. I thought the whole concept was so fucking cool. A great deal of what I wrote on ‘Born To Die’ is about these wilderness years. My parents were worried, I was worried. I knew it was a problem when I liked it more than I liked doing anything else. I was like, 'I’m fucked. I am totally fucked’. Like, at first it’s fine and you think you have a dark side – it’s exciting – and then you realise the dark side wins every time if you decide to indulge in it. It’s also a completely different way of living when you know that…a different species of person. It was the worst thing that ever happened to me.” 

“It’s been nine years since my last drink,” she candidly revealed in a 2012 interview with British GQ. Despite having been so young, Del Rey said that she quickly became a daily drinker, and that she almost exclusively drank alone. “When I write about the thing that I’ve lost I feel like I’m writing about alcohol because that was the first love of my life,” she said. “Sure, there have been people, but it’s really alcohol.” "I knew it was a problem when I liked it more than I liked doing anything else.

“I feel like my work’s important, but I don’t always feel like I get respect for it,” she said. “When I feel like people don’t like this music and that the 10 years I spent making what I made was not for a good reason, that makes me want to drink again.”

'The album (Born To Die) is a tribute to living life on the wild side. I’m sort of kidding because I’m not that wild any more… I used to drink a lot. Too much.  'I haven’t had a drink for seven years now.’

“Homeless outreach, drug and alcohol rehabilitation – that’s been my life for the past five years.”

"I did lose my car, my family’s car. I forgot where I put it” - Lana Del Rey on the catalyst that made her stop drinking.

Sometimes when I write about my feelings, about what sounds like a person, I’m actually writing about the way I felt when I was completely inebriated, which was really good–until it wasn’t working for me anymore,“ she says. Her parents sent her to Kent, a strict boarding school in Connecticut, and by 18, she was sober. "Thinking about not drinking forever was very scary, but once I did it wasn’t hard anymore because I had all of these miracles happen that let me know I was on exactly the right path,” she says.

Never confuse your mistakes with your value as a human being.

Never confuse your mistakes with your value as a human being.

Never confuse your mistakes with your value as a human being.

Here’s what people don’t understand about addiction. It doesn’t stop when you get out of detox. Physical addiction is nowhere near as dangerous as mental addiction. Mental addiction is how I convince myself to use even though I know I don’t want to and it would hurt me and everyone around me. Because I’ve known the high once, I have to know it again. You could have no drugs in your system for a year and it will still be there like a ticking time bomb. It’s a parasite in the brain that will bring even the strongest people to their knees.

The Six Stages of Substance Use

Note: “Negative consequences” is defined as anything that would be considered non-pleasurable. Hangovers, for instance, are a negative consequence of drinking too much. 

Abstinence: Not using at all. All people start off abstinent. People can also return to abstinence after a period of experimentation or using. People who unknowingly ingest substances are also considered “abstinent” if they did not willingly take said substance. 

Experimentation: Becoming curious to use to see what a substance does/feels like. At this stage, substance is usually not sought after but provided either by friends or family. Negative consequences usually do not occur at this stage. 

Recreational or social use: At this stage, one is seeking out a substance to experience a desired effect, however, use is irregular and has no established pattern. Negative consequences usually do not occur at this stage. (Most people would consider themselves “recreational users,” but if there is any type of pattern to your use, you usually do not fall under this category!)

Habitual use: At this stage, a definite pattern of use has evolved (daily, every other day, every weekend, etc.) and a stronger craving for the drug is developed. Negative consequences at this stage may not occur, but is more likely. 

Abuse: Habitual use becomes abuse when negative consequences occur and yet use still continues. For example, if you are drinking alcohol every weekend and experience hangovers each time, you may fall under this category. 

Addiction: Abuse becomes addiction when there is an apparent compulsion to use. At this point, tolerance has developed (needing to take more of the drug in order to experience the same desire effect), withdrawal symptoms are present, attempts to moderate use or stop completely are ineffective, negative consequences are occurring, the drug has become a priority, anxiety is present when the substance is not available, and the substance is often needed to function (whether emotionally, physically, or other). 

“But I’m a functioning addict?” 

Congratulations, you’re in denial. 

shoutout to my alcoholic and addict buds who are in recovery and may not be getting much validation from friends and family. you are enough. you are always enough. you have worth and value and i am so proud of you

SIGNAL BOOST: For the family of Sharon Zois

“ Sharon Zois, 19 years young and left us way too soon. For anyone who knew Sharon they knew her heart, her beautiful smile and her giving soul. Sharon loved and we loved her. Noone ever expected to say goodbye to this wonderful soul so soon. She battled her addiction for many years and she wanted to beat this. She fought hard with the love and support of her family and friends. May 30th will be a day to remember because it was the day her disease won. Our hearts are broken and our Sharon is gone. Sharon deserved the world, because if she could she would give it to the ones she loved. We are hoping to give Sharon the funeral she deserves and are asking for any help. Please help send our rose off the right way. The family appreciates any help and prayers this moment of heart break. We will miss you ‘Sharon dood’ , may you rest in peace. “

Please, if you can, donate to this gofundme in order to help Sharon’s family raise money to provide her with the service that she deserves.  Any amount of money is much appreciated.  $15,000 is a large goal, but with enough effort from the community and with your help, it can easily be achieved.  If you can’t donate, please be sure to reblog this and help spread the word.  It would mean a lot to me and to those who have been affected by this tragedy.

Five Years

Today I am five years sober. Five years of no alcohol and no hangovers. Five years of life continually opening up to me in new ways, all because I make the choice, every day, to not drink.

This year, I will keep it simple and tell you, as I have before, that I am immensely grateful. By choosing sobriety, I have chosen to create a life for myself, and for me and Steve, that is fuller and richer and brighter than I could have possibly imagined.

I am no longer an obese, inactive, chain-smoking drunk. I am fit and strong and engaged in the world around me.

I am no longer paralyzed by sadness, anxiety, anger, and fear. I experience these emotions, of course, but on a clear and manageable level. 

I no longer wake up every day with a voice in my head saying things like “I hate myself, I suck, I’m a failure,” or, in the final few months, “I want to die.” I value my life. I value myself. I look forward to the future. I used to think I wouldn’t care if I died at 50. Now I think there aren’t enough years to spend with the people I love, to do all the things that bring me joy.

I live in optimism and hope, even on bad days.

That first day of sobriety was the beginning of everything wonderful. It was the catalyst to so many other decisions that led to the life I have before me. And I will never forget that. Every day, I make the choice to not drink, and to not forget that.

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