JAMI’ at-TIRMIDHI: The Book on Fasting: Hadith 330
‘Abu Hurairah narrated that:
the Messenger of Allah said: “Whoever fasts Ramadan and stands (in the night prayer) for it out of faith and seeking a reward (from Allah), he will be forgiven what preceded of his sins. Whoever stands (in the night prayer) on the Night of Al-Qadr out of faith and seeking a reward (from Allah), he will be forgiven what preceded of his sins.”
JAMI’ at-TIRMIDHI: The Book on Fasting: Hadith 2/127
There is no such thing as the ''12 Imams'', the whole Shiism is based on lies
Let’s have a look at what the Messenger of Allah (saw)
said regarding the 12 Imams:
Sahih Bukhari Book 89:329 Narrated Jabir bin Samura: ‘’I heard Muhammad say ‘There
will be twelve Muslim rulers.’ He then said a sentence which I did not
hear. My father said ‘’All of them (those rulers) will be from Quraysh.’’
Sahih Muslim Book 20:4477-4483 Narrated Jabir bin Samura: ‘’I heard Muhammad say ‘The
(Islamic) religion will continue until the Hour (Day of Resurrection), having twelve
Caliphs for you and all of them will be from Quraysh.’’
Sunan al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2223 The Prophet said: ‘’There will be twelve Amir
after me.’ Then he said something that I did not understand. So I asked the one
who was next to me, who said that he had said: ‘All of them are from Quraysh.’’
Sunan Abu Dawood Book 37:4266 The Prophet said: ‘’The religion will continue to be
established till there are twelve Caliphs over you, and the whole community
will agree on each of them.’’
Musnad-e-Ahmad, volume 5, page 87 ‘’Surely this religion will always overcome its opponents
and no enemy or deserter can ever harm it till there are twelve Caliphs
from my nation in it. All of them will be from Quraysh.’’
And there are more than 20 similar narrations. By the
way ‘twelve’ is how we spell out the number 12 using letters in case you weren’t
As you may know,
the followers of the Members of the House of the Prophet (saw) refer to these
12 Caliphs as of their 12 Imams starting with Imam Ali (as) and ending with
Imam Mahdi (as) the Leader of our time. With the passage of time and through
historical events, we know that by the above traditions the Holy Prophet (saw)
meant the twelve Imams from his Ahlulbayt (as) who are the descendants of the Prophet
since we have no other 12 pure candidates in the history of Islam upon whose
righteousness all Muslims agree. It is interesting to know that even the
enemies of Shias have NOT been able to find any fault in the virtues of the
twelve Imams of the Shias.
It is now clear
that the only way to interpret the previously mentioned traditions which are
narrated by al-Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawood, al-Tirmidhi, and Ahmad Ibn
Hanbal is to accept that it refers to the twelve Imams from the Prophet’s
Ahlulbayt, because they were, in their times, the most knowledgeable, the most
illustrious, the most god-fearing, the most pious, the best in personal
virtues, and the most honored before Allah; and their knowledge was derived
from their ancestor (the Prophet) through their fathers. These are the
Ahlulbayt (as) whose sinlessness, flawlessness, and purity is confirmed by the Holy
Quran (the last sentence of verse 33:33).
It’s amazing that
despite the acknowledgment of al-Bukhari and Muslim and other prominent Sunni
scholars about the twelve Imams, the Sunnis always stop at the four Caliphs.
More interestingly, there are Sunni reports in which the Messenger of Allah (saw)
named these twelve members of his Ahlulbayt (as) one by one starting with Imam
Ali (as) and ending with Imam Mahdi (as). (Source: Yanabi al-Mawadda, page
431 by al-Qunduzi al-Hanafi).
Nowehere in Sunnism are there twelve Muslim rulers
who, all of them are from Quraysh. The ‘Four Rightly Guided’ Rashidun
Caliphs were four, there were more than 30 Ummayad Caliphs, nearly
40 Abbasid Caliphs, and many Sunni Caliphs are not even from Quraysh.
Now let’s count the Shia Imams/Caliphs: 1) Imam Ali Ibn Abi Talib (as) 2) Imam Hassan Ibn Ali (as) 3) Imam Hussain Ibn Ali (as) 4) Imam Ali Ibn Hussain (as) 5) Imam Muhammad Ibn Ali (as) 6) Imam Jafar Ibn Muhammad (as) 7) Imam Musa Ibn Jafar (as) 8) Imam Ali Ibn Musa (as) 9) Imam Muhammad Ibn Ali (as) 10) Imam Ali Ibn Muhammad (as) 11) Imam Hassan Ibn Ali Ibn Muhammad (as) 12) Imam Muhammad al-Mahdi (may Allah hasten his
Istikhara is a means of seeking guidance from Allah when faced with making a decision that one may be unsure about. “Should I, or shouldn’t I.. Will I regret making this decision?”. Who better to ask than Allah? You will definitely know that you have made the right decision when the direction has come from Allah Almighty as a result of your supplications.
The description of Salaat al-Istikhaarah was reported by Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah al-Salami (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said:
“The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to teach his companions to make istikhaarah in all things, just as he used to teach them soorahs from the Qur’aan.
He said: ‘If any one of you is concerned about a decision he has to make, then let him pray two rak’ahs of non-obligatory prayer, then say:
Allaahumma inni astakheeruka bi ‘ilmika wa astaqdiruka bi qudratika wa as’aluka min fadlika, fa innaka taqdiru wa laa aqdir, wa ta’lamu wa laa a’lam, wa anta ‘allaam al-ghuyoob. Allaahumma fa in kunta ta’lamu haadha’l-amra (then the matter should be mentioned by name) khayran li fi ‘aajil amri wa aajilihi (or: fi deeni wa ma’aashi wa ‘aaqibati amri) faqdurhu li wa yassirhu li thumma baarik li fihi. Allaahumma wa in kunta ta’lamu annahu sharrun li fi deeni wa ma’aashi wa ‘aaqibati amri (or: fi ‘aajili amri wa aajilihi) fasrifni ‘anhu [wasrafhu ‘anni] waqdur li al-khayr haythu kaana thumma radini bihi
(O Allaah, I seek Your guidance [in making a choice] by virtue of Your knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your great bounty. You have power, I have none. And You know, I know not. You are the Knower of hidden things. O Allaah, if in Your knowledge, this matter (then it should be mentioned by name) is good for me both in this world and in the Hereafter (or: in my religion, my livelihood and my affairs), then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge it is bad for me and for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs (or: for me both in this world and the next), then turn me away from it, [and turn it away from me], and ordain for me the good wherever it may be and make me pleased with it.”
(Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6841; similar reports are also recorded by al-Tirmidhi, al-Nisaa’i, Abu Dawood, Ibn Maajah and Ahmad).
Salam, Idk if you might understand me but I have this little things running throw my mind telling me I should give up in life & just die. I hate feeling like this but I'm always thinking like My Dua will never be accepted, I'm not good enough, what's the point of all this, & I'm always thinking maybe I should go back to my old ways. I feel like since I repented I'm Having so many problems in my life & people think of me as good person who changed so much, but they don't know I struggle so much.
I will try my best to answer your
question by referring to the Qur’an and Hadith
Wanting to give up in life and die
“And never give up hope of Allah’s
Mercy. Certainly, no one despairs of Allah’s Mercy, except the people who
“Do not give up and do not be
downhearted. You shall be uppermost if you are believers” (3:139)
The Prophet ﷺ
said: “No one of you should wish for death or pray for it before it comes, for
when one of you dies, his good deeds come to an end and for the believer a long
life will not increase him in anything but good.” (Muslim)
A version narrated by al-Bukhaari
says: “No one of you should wish for death. Either he is a doer of good and
will do more, or he is a doer of evil but perhaps he may stop.”
Al-Nawawi said: This hadeeth clearly
indicates that it is makrooh to wish for death because of some harm that has
befallen one, such as loss or distress caused by an enemy, or other such
hardships of this world. But if a person fears harm or fitnah with regard to
his religious commitment, it is not makrooh to wish for death, according to
this hadeeth, and several of the salaf did that.
The Prophet ﷺ
said: “The best of people is the one who lives long and does good.” (Ahmad)
Acceptance of Dua
And when My slaves ask you (O Muhammad) concerning Me, then
(answer them), I am indeed near (to them). I respond to the invocations of the
supplicant when he calls on Me. So let them respond to Me (by obedience) and
believe in Me that they may be (rightly) guided. (2:186)
The Prophet ﷺ said: “Nothing can
change the Divine decree except Dua.” (Ahmad)
The Prophet ﷺ said: “Du’aa’ may be
of benefit with regard to what has already happened or what has not yet
happened, so adhere to Du’aa’, O slaves of Allaah.” (Tirmidhi)
The Prophet ﷺ said: “No precaution
can protect against the decree of Allaah. Du’aa’ is beneficial with regard to
what has been decreed and what has not been decreed. The du’aa’ meets the
calamity that has been decreed and wrestles with it, until the Day of
The Prophet ﷺ said: “Ask, and you shall be given it; and you shall be
given it.” (Tirmidhi)
The Prophet ﷺ said: “Let everyone of you ask of His Lord all that He
We were informed by our Prophet ﷺ that Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) fulfills
everybody’s wishes so long as a person does not get impatient and say, ‘I asked
Allah for so and so and I still haven’t received it’. We are told never to
despair of the mercy of Allah (subhan wa ta’ala).
The Prophet ﷺ
informed us that there are several forms for the acceptance of dua. One is that you are given what you ask
for. Another is that you are given better than what
you asked for. A third is that some calamity that was about
to befall you has been averted instead. The fourth is that the dua is saved up for you as
sawaab/reward for the Day of Judgment. In all cases, asking Allah (subhana wa
ta'ala) for things is beneficial.
Feeling like you are not good enough
He created the heavens and earth in
truth and formed you and perfected your forms; and to Him is the (final)
Indeed, We have created the human
being upon the best of forms (95:4)
Allah SWT has created each one of us
unique; you will find no two people in the world with the exact same
personality, physical appearance, strengths, weaknesses, interests, etc. The
way Allah SWT has created you and moulded your personality is for a
reason – he has made you this way because he wants you to achieve your full
potential and use your abilities for a bigger cause – do not lose heart if the
situation looks difficult right now – keep striving and doing your best and,
most importantly, keep asking Allah SWT to see you through this difficult time
and be by your side – if you have His help, there is no difficult you cannot
overcome. Again, remember He has created you the way you are for a reason –
Allah SWT makes no mistakes with His creations – you are good enough –
you are exactly the way He intended you to be – you only have to work hard to
move from strength to strength now.
What’s the point of all this?
(He) who created death and life to
test you (as to) which of you is best in deed (67:2)
And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me (51:56)
Going back to old ways,
Do people think that they will be left
alone because they say: ‘We believe,’ and will not be tested. And We indeed
tested those who were before them. And Allaah will certainly make (it) known
(the truth of) those who are true, and will certainly make (it) known (the
falsehood of) those who are liars, (although Allaah knows all that before putting
them to test)” – (29:2-3)
“And certainly, We shall test you with
something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad
tidings to As-Saabiroon (the patient). Who, when afflicted with calamity, say:
‘Truly, to Allaah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.’ They are those
on whom are the Salawaat (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their
Lord, and (they are those who) receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the
guided ones” (2:155-157)
And We have certainly revealed to you
verses (which are) clear proofs, and no one would deny them except the
defiantly disobedient. (2:99)
The Prophet ﷺ said: “No misfortune or disease befalls a Muslim, no worry or grief or harm or distress – not even a thorn that pricks him – but Allaah will expiate for some of his sins because of that.” (Bukhari)
Facing struggles after having repented
The Prophet ﷺ
said: “If Allah wills good for His slave, He hastens his punishment in this
world, and if He wills bad for His slave, He withholds from him (the punishment
for) his sin, until He requites him for it on the Day of Resurrection.”
The Prophet ﷺ
“If a certain status has previously been decreed by Allaah for a person, and he
does not attain it by his deeds, Allaah afflicts him in his body or wealth or
children.” (Abu Dawood)
The Prophet ﷺ
said: “Great reward comes with great trials. When Allah loves a people, He
tests them, and whoever accepts it attains His pleasure, whereas whoever shows
discontent with it incurs His wrath.” (at-Tirmidhi)
Narrated by Sa‘d ibn Abi Waqqaas (رضي الله عنه)
who said: I said: O Messenger of Allah ﷺ,
who among the people are most sorely tested? He ﷺ
said: “The Prophets, then the next best and the next best. A man will be tested
according to his level of religious commitment. If his religious commitment is
solid, his test will be more severe, but if there is any weakness in his
religious commitment, he will be tested according to his level of religious
commitment. And calamity will continue to befall a person until he walks on the
earth with no sin on him.” (at-Tirmidhi)
Al-Hasan al-Basri (رضي الله عنه) said: “Do not resent
the calamities that come and the disasters that occur, for perhaps in something
that you dislike will be your salvation, and perhaps in something that you
prefer will be your doom.”
Al-Fadl ibn Sahl (رضي الله عنه) said: “There is a blessing
in calamity that the wise man should not ignore, for it erases sins, gives one
the opportunity to attain the reward for patience, dispels negligence, reminds
one of blessings at the time of health, calls one to repent and encourages one
to give charity.
Finally a word of advice from me: it
is very common that, once someone finds their way back to the deen and tries to
practice it earnestly, they are faced with hardship. Do not fear these
hardships as they are from Allah SWT and may be intended to either purify you
from your previous sins, help you learn an important lesson and come out of the
difficult situation a more mature and improved individual or to test whether
you can withstand challenges you face in life and, having gone through them,
still maintain your level of iman in Allah SWT and keep trusting Him to take
the best decision for you.
Take this difficult time in life as a challenge you
will get through and form an intention that, once this difficulty is over, you
would have come out of it a much stronger individual and a much better Muslim
in’Sha’Allah. Remember, every night ends and every difficult situation is eventually taken care of by Allah SWT. You will soon witness good times in’Sha’Allah.
And, behold, with every hardship comes ease (94:5)
Read all the above mentioned Quranic verses and Hadiths
remembering that each of them are intended specifically for you and are a
message to you from Allah SWT to help you through this difficult time. Whenever
you are faced with negative thoughts, try to remember the above and find hope –
I know it is easier said than done but we must strive in Allah’s path and never
doubt his decisions and power even for a second. You are strong enough to face this hardship and you will not go back to your old ways - You are strong enough for this! As Allah SWT has stated in the Quran:
Allah does not burden a soul beyond
that it can bear(…) (2:286)
“ Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Whoever prays Fajr in congregation then sits remembering Allaah until the sun rises, then prays two rak’ahs, will have a reward like that of Hajj and ‘Umrah, complete, complete, complete. - Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (586).”
Even though there is a difference of opinion in regards to the soundness of the hadith, a number of scholars have classes is as hasan li ghayrihi.
Another hadith that is more vividly known and acted upon by the majority of us is the following,
“ It was narrated that Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Whoever reads Soorat al-Kahf on the day of Jumu’ah, a light will shine for him from beneath his feet to the clouds of the sky, which will shine for him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will be forgiven (his sins) between the two Fridays.”
Pondering upon these two, i realized that a great habit could be formed in order to follow these two religiously. I will start to the following from now onIn Sha Allah.
Wake up early and pray Tahajjud (the night prayer), every Friday (And other days too In Sha Allah).
Wait for Fajr and make dua during that time (Allah descends to the lowest heaven during the last third of the night, why miss the opportunity for dua?)
Pray the sunnah of Fajr at home and then head out to the masjed. [Note: Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The two rak'ahs of Fajr are better than this world and everything in it.” (Narrated by Muslim, 725. ) AND the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also said: “Perform some of your prayers in your houses and do not make them graves.”(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 422; Muslim, 777)]
After having prayed Fajr, sit in my place and finish the morning adhkar and then recite Surah Kahf (And read translation in order to understand) - Quran or phone app. ( Note: There is a difference of opinion in regards to whether the hadith implies to stay in the same place or be able to move about in the masjed. I personally would like to stay on the safe side and try to be near a pillar or a wall so i can lean against it and not be tired. And keep a Quran close by before hand or have my phone “on silent” with me.)
Surah Kahf doesn’t take too long, i take roughly 45 minutes to recite and read translation, that is approximately enough time until you can pray the shurooq (sunrise) prayer. So by the you finish reciting Al Kahf and praying 2 rakahs (units) of sunrise prayer, you would have acted upon two hadiths and that too on a Friday. I fully intend to comply by this In Sha Allah, a great way to attain a reward. (Note: Allah loves the acts that we are consistent in and that is why making a habit out of our acts of worship is very important).
May Allah make us of those who earn HIS pleasure and mercy through adhering to good deeds and refraining from the bad deeds and may HE enable us to perform more and more good deeds in accordance with the Quran and Sunnah, Ameen.
Salam...what do you do if you feel your heart being hardened despite praying, dua? And you feel really lonely despite trying to have tawwakul?
Wa Alaykum as-Salaam
Here are two hadiths that might help you insha'Allah
The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “Do not speak much without mentioning Allah, for too much speech without mentioning Allah hardens the heart, and the hard hearted are the furthest of all people from Allah Most High.” [Tirmidhi]
Imam Nawawi explains: “Every legally responsible person should refrain from saying anything except when there is a clear advantage to speaking. Whenever speaking and not speaking are of equal benefit, it is sunnah to remain silent, for permissible speech easily leads to that which is unlawful or offensive, as actually happens much or even most of the time – and there is no substitute for safety. The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, ‘whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him say what is good or remain silent.’ (Bukhari and Muslim)
Abu Huraira (radiallahu anhu) reported: The Messenger of Allah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “Verily, when the servant commits a sin a black spot appears upon his heart. If he abandons the sin, seeks forgiveness, and repents, then his heart will be polished. If he returns to the sin, the blackness will be increased until it overcomes his heart. It is the covering that Allah has mentioned: No, but on their hearts is a covering because of what they have earned.” (83:14) [al-Tirmidhi 3334]
The Messenger of Allah [p.b.u.h] said: ‘Trials will continue to befall the believing man and woman, with regard to themselves, their children and their wealth, until they meet Allah with no sin on them.’
1 - Bathing (Ghusl) on the day of Jumumah (Bukhari 877)
2 - To wear nice clothes (Abu Dawood,)
3 - Use perfume (‘Perfume’ refers to men only, as it’s not permissible for women in public) and use the Miswaak. (Ibn Majah)
4 - Going early to Jumuah Prayer (Bukhari 929 & Muslim 1964 )
5 - Walking to Masjid for Jumuah Paryer (Al-Tirmidi, 496)
6 - If the Saffs (rows) are already filled, one should not jump over the shoulders of the musallies in order to get to the front. (Abu Dawood)
7 - Try to sit as close as possible to the Imam. (Majah, Tirmidhi)
8 - Listening attentively to Khutba (Sermon) (Bukhari 934)
9 - Making a lot of du’aa’. [al-Bukhaari, 893; Muslim, 852]
10 - Seek the Hour: Rasulallah (ﷺ) said:
“There is such an hour on Friday that if any Muslim makes dua (Supplication) in it, his dua will definitely be accepted.” (Bukhari 935, Muslim)
11- Sins Forgiven: The five daily prayers, and from one Jumuah to the next, are an expiation for whatever sins come in between, so long as one does not commit any major sin. (Muslim, 233)
12- Increase your Durood (example: Durood Ibrahim)
“Recite Durood upon me in abundance on the day of Jummah since they are presented to me.” (Ibn Majah)
13- Recite Soorat al-Khaf
“Whoever reads Soorat al-Kahf on the day of Jumu’ah, will have a light that will shine from him from one Friday to the next.”
(Narrated by al-Haakim, 2/399; al-Bayhaqi, 3/249. Al-Albani Saheeh al-Jaami’, 6470)
O you who have believed, when [the adhan] is called for the prayer on the day of Jumu'ah [Friday], then proceed to the remembrance of Allah and leave trade. That is better for you, if you only knew.
(Soorat Al-Jumu'ah, 9)
Don’t Forget Allah:
Allah says: And when the prayer is ended, then disperse in the land and seek of Allah’s bounty, and remember Allah much, that ye may be successful.
(Soorat al-Jumu'ah, 10)
Make sure to share this to others and tell your friends:
'Whoever starts a good thing and is followed by others, will have his own reward and a reward equal to that of those who follow him, without it detracting from their reward in any way. Whoever starts a bad thing and is followed by others, will bear the burden of his own sin and a burden equal to that of those who follow him, without it detracting from their burden in any way.’”
(Reported by al-Tirmidhi, no. 2675. He said, This is a sahih hasan hadith)
[Al-Ghaffar/The Most Forgiving
Out of His tremendous mercy, Allah keeps overlooking and forgiving our sins. As our deliverance in the Afterlife is subject upon His forgiveness, we must keep seeking His forgiveness. We should follow, in respect of the Prophet’s example who invoked Allah’s forgiveness:
اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ رَبِّي لا إِلَهَ إِلا أَنْتَ خَلَقْتَنِي وَأَنَا عَبْدُكَ وَأَنَا عَلَى عَهْدِكَ وَوَعْدِكَمَا اسْتَطَعْتُ أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا صَنَعْتُ أَبُوءُ لَكَ بِنِعْمَتِكَ عَلَيَّ وَأَبُوءُ لَكَ بِذَنْبِي فَاغْفِرْ لِي فَإِنَّهُ لا يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلا أَنْتَ
Allahumma anta Rabbi la ilaha illa anta, Anta Khalaqtani wa ana abduka, wa ana ‘ala ahdika wa wa'dika mastata'tu, A'udhu bika min Sharri ma sana'tu, abu'u Laka bini'matika 'alaiya, wa Abu Laka bidhanbi faghfirli innahu la yaghfiru adhdhunuba illa anta
(O Allah! You are my Lord! None has the right to be worshipped but You. You created me and I am Your slave, and I am faithful to my covenant and my promise as much as I can. I seek refuge with You from all the evil I have done. I acknowledge before You all the blessings You have bestowed upon me, and I confess to You all my sins. So I entreat You to forgive my sins, for nobody can forgive sins except You.)
[Sahih al-Bukhari; 8,75,318, At-Tirmidhi; 3393, An-Nasa'i; 5522, Ahmad; 16662]
Allah forgives the sins, small and big, of His worshippers. “Surely I am the Most-Forgiving for him who repents and believes and acts righteously, then follows the right path.” ﴾20.82﴿
“Lord of the heavens and earth, and of all that lies between them, the Almighty, the All-Forgiving.” ﴾38.66﴿
Allah can punish people and display their shameful doings; but because of their good deeds, He does not betray them.
Our Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said: “Allah, praise be to Him, brings His servant close and hides him and asks him: ‘Do you know such and such sins? The servant says, ‘Yes, my Lord.’ And He [Allah] asks him again until he admits all his sins. Allah then says, ‘I have concealed them in your life and today I forgive them.’ And he is given the book of his good deeds” (related by Al-Bukhari and Muslim).
Whoever asks Allah for Paradise three times, (Allahumma inni as'aluk al-Jannah), Paradise will say, ‘O Allah, admit him to Paradise.’ Whoever seeks protection from the Fire three times, (Allahuma Najjini min an-Nar) Hell will say, ‘O Allah, protect him from the Fire.’
Prophet Muhammed ﷺ narrated by Anas, Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2572; Ibn Majah, 4340. saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jami’, 6275).
Dua’ can change the Divine decree and relieve distress. It is beneficial with regard to what has been decreed and what has not been decreed. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Nothing can change the Divine decree except du’aa’. (Narrated by Ahmad, 5/677; Ibn Maajah, 90; al-Tirmidhi, 139. Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 76687. See also al-Saheehah, 145)
Whatever the case, it is not permissible for you to continue in a relationship with a man who is not your mahram. Rather he should either do a legitimate shar‘i marriage contract with you, with the approval of your guardian, even if consummation is delayed until your gradation or you should cut off all communication between you until the decree of Allah comes to pass.
You should note that correspondence and contact between the sexes is one of the doors that lead to fitnah (temptation). Sharee’ah is filled with evidence which indicates that it is essential to beware of falling into the traps of the shaytaan in this matter. When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saw a young man merely looking at a young woman, he turned his head so as to make him look away, then he said: “I saw a young man and a young woman, and I did not trust the shaytaan not to tempt them.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (885) and classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.
This does not mean that it is haraam for a man or woman to like a specific person whom he or she chooses to be a spouse, and feel love for that person and want to marry them if possible. Love has to do with the heart, and it may appear in a person’s heart for reasons known or unknown. But if it is because of mixing or looking or haraam conversations, then it is also haraam.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
A person may hear that a woman is of good character and virtuous and knowledgeable, so he may want to marry her. Or a woman may hear that a man is of good character and virtuous and knowledgeable and religiously committed, so she may want to marry him. But contact between the two who admire one another in ways that are not Islamically acceptable is the problem, which leads to disastrous consequences. In this case it is not permissible for the man to get in touch with the woman or for the woman to get in touch with the man, and say that he wants to marry her. Rather he should tell her wali (guardian) that he wants to marry her, or she should tell her wali that she wants to marry him, as ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) did when he offered his daughter Hafsah in marriage to Abu Bakr and ‘Uthmaan (may Allaah be pleased with them both). But if the woman contacts the man directly, this is what leads to fitnah (temptation). End quote.
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أي: يا اللَّه، يا ذا الأسماء الحسنى، و الصفات العلى، أَلْقِ في نفسي الهداية، و الصلاح، و الرشاد، و السداد، و أعصمني من شر نفسي؛ لأنها أمارة بالسوء، فشَرٌّ النفس أحد منابع الشَر و أصوله، و طرقه المؤدية إلى الهلاك.
♥ Quick Q&A ♥ about things Islamic Girls need to know ♥
Q: What is the meaning of having ‘faith’?
A: The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said:
“It is to believe in Allah, His angels, His Books, His Messengers and the Last Day, and to believe in the Divine Will and Decree, both good and bad.”
Q: Can I have a secret marriage?
A: No, Shaykh Al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have Mercy on him) said:
“With regard to secret marriage where both parties agree to conceal it and they do not call anyone to witness it, this is invalid according to all the scholars, and it is a kind of immorality.” (Majmoo’ Al-Fataawa, 33/158)
Q: Is wailing in a tantrum form allowed in Islam? (loosing ones temper to such an extent)
A: The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said:
“He is not one of us who strikes his cheeks or tears his clothes or utters the cry of the Jaahiliyyah.” (Narrated by Muslim)
Q: Is makeup allowed in Islam?
A: Yes, on the condition it is not shown to non-mahrams/strangers. Allah says in the Quran:
“And not to show off their adornment.” (24:31)
“And do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance.” (33:33)
Q: Why hasn’t my Duas been answered yet?
A: Maybe it has but you haven’t noticed; you haven’t been doing good deeds; it hasn’t come yet; Allah SWT has something better install for you, In Shaa Allah.
Q: What is the attributes of proper hijab?
A: 1 – The clothes should cover the entire body except that which has been exempted 2 – It should not be an adornment in and of itself 3 – It should not be tight or transparent 4 – It should not be scented 5 – It should not resemble men 6 – It should not resemble non – Muslims 7 – It should be free of crosses 8 – It should be free of prohibited images 9 – It should be Halal (not made with the skin of pigs or unpurified animals) 10 – It should be free of things which are ignorant/prideful 11- It should not be of vanity
Q: Do we have to have abolition (wudu) to pray salah?
A: Yes, The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said:
“No prayer is accepted without purification.” (Narrated by Ahmed, Muslim, Al-Tirmidhi, Ibn Maajah)
Q: What is Madhiy and Wadiy and does it break the wudu?
A: Yes, both break the wudu. Madhiy - a thin fluid which is emitted when sexual desire is provoked, but without feelings of pleasure Wadiy – a thick fluid which may follow the secretion of urine
Q: What are some of the minor impurities which invalidate wudu?
A: Anything which comes out the front and back passages of the private parts; touching the private part with no barrier in between; loss of consciousness; eating camel meat.
Q: What is Istihaadah?
A: Bleeding from the private part outside the normal menstruation time. A woman who is experiencing Istihaadah comes under the same heading as women who are not menstruating, and all prescribed acts of Worship are obligatory on her.
Q: What is Ghusul?
A: Bathing of the whole body and head.
Q: When is Ghusul obligatory?
A: When coming into the religion of Islam, when a wet dream has taken place, when intercourse has taken place, after menstruation.
Q: What are the other cleansing rituals which should take place?
A: Shaving the pubic hairs, clipping the nails, removing armpit hair.