al aqra

إِنَّهُ مَنْ لَا يَرْحَمْ لَا يُرْحَمْ

It was narrated from Abū Hurayrah – Allāh be pleased with him – that Al-Aqra ibn Habis saw the Prophet (ﷺ), kissing his grandson Hasan.

He said: “I have ten children and I do not kiss any of them.”

The Prophet said: “Verily, whoever does not show mercy will not receive mercy.”

— Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī (5651), Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim (2318)

Just a thought

Lets talk about something very important guys.

Manners. Islamic adab (manners)

Sometimes we tend to forget how important adab (manners) is in Islam. But you will see that it is one of the MOST IMPORTANT part of Islam.

There is one ayah I want to get your attention to:

O you who have believed, do not raise your voices above the voice of the Prophet or be loud to him in speech like the loudness of some of you to others, lest your deeds become worthless while you perceive not. (Holy Qur'an, al-Huhurat, 2)

Here is the explanation of this ayah in Ibn Kathir tafsir:

“This contains another kind of favorable behavior. Allah the Exalted is teaching the believers that they should not raise their voices above the voice of the Prophet . It was stated that this Ayah was revealed about Abu Bakr and `Umar. Al-Bukhari recorded that Ibn Abi Mulaykah said, “The two righteous ones, Abu Bakr and `Umar, almost earned destruction when they raised their voices before the Prophet who was receiving the delegation of Bani Tamim. One of them recommended Al-Aqra` bin Habis the member of the Banu Mujashi` while the other recommended another man. Nafi` (a subnarrator) said: “I don’t remember his name.” Abu Bakr said to `Umar, `You only wanted to contradict me,’ while `Umar said, `I did not intend to contradict you.’ Their voices then became loud, thereupon Allah the Exalted sent down this Ayah, Abdullah bin Az-Zubayr said, “After that, `Umar’s voice was so low that the Messenger of Allah had to ask him to repeat what he said so that he could understand what he was saying to him.

Al-Bukhari recorded that Anas bin Malik said, “The Prophet missed Thabit bin Qays and a man said, `O Allah’s Messenger! I will find out about his news.’ That man went to Thabit and found him sitting at home with his head lowered and asked him, `What is the matter’ Thabit said, `An evil matter!’ And he said that he used to raise his voice above the voice of the Prophet . He feared that his good deeds would be useless and he would be among the people of the Fire. The man went back to the Prophet and conveyed Thabit’s statement and returned to Thabit with a wonderfully good news. The Prophet said, (Nay, he is among the dwellers of Paradise.)” Anas commented, “We used to see Thabit walk among us knowing that he was (to be) among the dwellers of Paradise.”

Now lets reflect on this a little. Allah tells the Shahabah that if they do not watch their manners every deed they did will become worthless. Allah tells that to Abu Bakr Siddiq and Umar (ra)? The best of the best? Just because they raised their voice in front of the Prophet (saw)? YES! That is why some scholars say that manners come before deeds and knowledge.

What deed are we talking about? Sufferings in the first years of Islam, Hijrah, battles, spending on Allah’s cause etc!

Here some hadiths about manners:

The best of the Muslims is he from whose hand and tongue the Muslims are safe.“[Muslim]

The best of people are those with the most excellent character.” [Tabarani]

So, are we being careful with our manners? Can we control our anger? Are we polite? Are we nice? Are we compassionate? Are we humble? How is our relationship with our parents? How are we treating our friends? Are we good to the society? Are we treating the animals well? You can go on and on with the list…

“Excellence is being kind to those who are evil to you.” - Prophet Eisa (as) (Jesus)

Imam Malik once said to a young man from Quraysh.“O son of my brother, learn manners before learning knowledge.”

Lets use this Ramadan to improve our manners insha'Allah!

May Allah (swt) grant us the manners of Peophet (saw). Ameen.