The air signs typically have very little energy for emotional labor. Comforting others, showing affection, and communicating their feelings can drain them rather quickly, and it isn’t that they don’t want to do those things, it is more that they often lack the courage and vitality of heart to make the effort. This can manifest in many small ways – for example, Libra may prefer small talk and chit-chat over more personal conversation when spending time with friends because they don’t have the will or the strength to face issues that lie under the surface. Gemini may joke & try to “laugh off” sincere moments. Aquarius may rationalize personal problems, deeming them insignificant in the grand scheme of things.
A big part of the reason they are too tired inside to deal with other people’s problems is because they repress their own. They spend so much of themselves on holding back their own tears that they can become indifferent to others’. In detaching from themselves, they detach from other people. This is actually very damaging to their relationships, and they may not know it. They may think they have smoothed things over by distracting a friend from an issue, but in reality they have burned a bridge, made their friend uncomfortable and made them wonder just how valuable they are. You simply cannot band-aid deep wounds and expect time to heal everything – but sometimes, that’s all air signs know how to do. This often comes from childhood complexes, things they were taught as kids (especially air moons) which become stubborn habits.
While air signs are good debaters, they are very rarely good arguers. The moment a discussion becomes personal, the anxious, awkward side of them erupts in nervous laughter, diversion, and all manner of evasive maneuvers.
Developed air signs gracefully handle emotion along with intellect as a natural component of human nature and a healthy social climate. They learn how to clearly express not only what is in their head, but what is in their heart and soul as well, and they also learn how to react to such expressions from other people. But underdeveloped air signs can be ironically socially inept in the area of emotion. They become like children again, faced with a judgmental parent who scolds them for crying or for seeking affection, uncomfortable and unable to process warmth or coldness alike. For signs that value connection, they can be so bad at forging valuable ones, and it is all due to fear – not having the backbone to face or facilitate interpersonal depth.