Excerpts from Tony Goldwyn’s GirlonGuy interview
Tony: Yeah, no, I feel the same way. And In many ways it’s been such an interesting thing, playing this part on Scandal, being in a long, complicated marriage myself. Umm, you know, thank God, my marriage is not as extreme as Mellie and Fitzes is. But, you know, Mellie and Fitz are evolving into a very dear and kind of a mutually, supportive relationship, that’s not sexual, at all. But it’s loving. And, you know what it is, the thing that I feel about Mellie is, and there’s aspects of this that I feel about my wife, Jane. Luckily, Jane and I have a more well-rounded relationship, but umm, but ahhh, ahhh, the sense of knowing someone at their core and like knowing someone’s essence and someone’s true potential. I mean I think the thing that Fitz feels about Mellie right now ,with her whole like wanting to be a politician and all of that. Is Fitz sees, appreciate’s Mellie’s gifts in a way that even she doesn’t and he’s taken it upon himself to ahh, help her, to foster that , to umm, to help her realize those things, so that she can come back, be redeemed from all of the pain she that she suffered, often, at his hands, you know, starting with the rape by his father. Which Fitz wasn’t responsible for but Fitz feels responsible for. You know, umm. How did I not see it? How was I so blind? And umm, you know and then that, you know, served to deteriorate their marriage. And that was what really what drove the sexual death of their marriage. And now Fitz knows that. It’s like, and then of course, the death of their son. For years, cos she wouldn’t…imagine? He should have been. You know, ten years of celibacy? What? Who could survive that? Nobody could. You know? Umm, and, ahh, ahh, so they are now at a point where they forgive each other. And I must say in my marriage with Jane, we are at a point in our relationship where we forgive each other, not only do we forgive each other alot, we, it sounds like such a weird thing to say, but we appreciate each other for our frailties. You know what I mean? We like, she laughs at me and I laugh at her for our foibles or our weaknesses. Or she’ll give me shit about some pretty dark stuff. But we can laugh about it, you know? And umm, ahh, so, and we’d gone through, having, raising kids, a substantial period, of sort of dis-communication, you know, where you get so invested in your children, and in your work life and in your professional life, that you literally don’t communicate with each other. About…you. You’re not the priority, we’re not the priority, Ok we’re fine, we’ll get to that, we’ll get to that, we’ll get to that. And it’s a very dangerous thing in relationships. And thankfully, we’ve, you know, found our way to the other side of that and are sort of re-discovering that, now that our kids, our youngest is now in college, and it’s like, Oh wow. But it’s, I’m finding a lot of commonality, ahh, I feel very privileged to explore those things in Scandal. And it’s always honest.