Some extremists groups, backed by the Orthodox Church, have marched today against abortion and against women’s freedom of choice. The sign above is held by an infiltrated feminist, aprox. translation: This is how you step on women.
First, understand that the opposite of panic is not blithe acceptance of the situation – it’s clear-minded, positive, day-to-day action. Panic makes you do stupid shit or, even worse, curl up into a ball and do nothing. Don’t tell me you have reason to panic. You never have reason to panic. You have reason to act.
So yeah, be upset for as long as you want. Get drunk. Do whatever you have to do. After that, I want you to sober up, splash water on your face, and consider some facts.
Your country didn’t go anywhere. It’s right here where you left it. America is nothing more than a big ol’ collection of people, and those people are more diverse and progressive than they have ever been. That train won’t be stopped. Donald Trump’s supporters are by and large an aging and shrinking demographic. We didn’t see the backlash coming, but that’s on us – a look at our history would have taught us to expect it.
In light of that, there are a few things to understand going forward.
I don’t get people who ask others to give them money to get an abortion (in the situation where the only reason why they want an abortion is because they don’t want a baby). Like I understand that you don’t have the money to rise a baby but guess what, if you don’t get abortion you can give a baby up for adoption, and you don’t have to beg people to give you money to kill someone.
I think there’s this weird undercurrent with the stigma against abortion involving the idea that society assumes women are naturally meant to be mothers.
No one would ever let someone drop a baby in a man’s lap—let alone expect him to sacrifice his life for a baby—but there’s a presupposition that women “can handle it,” that “it’s natural,” and “no big deal.”
The anti-woman sentiment of being “against abortion” is partially linked to an idea that pregnancy doesn’t harm women, babies and women go together, and a desire for motherhood exists in all people with uteruses.
This is why pro-life arguments bubble out of a festering, internalized mass of sexism that doesn’t correlate to the protection of life, but to the denial of life. When women’s lives are stereotypically linked to motherhood as a source of natural fulfillment, we deny personhood.
I have news notifications on my phone on and it’s so scary every notification seems to be a weird nightmare. Executive signing of DAPL. Cut funding of grants to stop violence against women. Censor the EPA and climate change scientists. Possible Cold War with China. Executive order against abortion surrounded by white men that will kill women in developing countries. Repealing healthcare that will kill millions of people. Executive order that will stop allowing refugees into America. Yeah okay uhm can I please wake up now this is getting far too scary, someone pinch me PLEASE
If Donald Trump gets impeached or assassinated, we will be stuck with Mike Pence as President.
Mike Pence is against women’s reproductive rights, thinks doctors who perform an abortion should be liable for wrongful death, wants to force women who have an abortion or miscarriage to have a funeral for their fetuses with a cremation or burial, and was the first to introduce a bill to defund Planned Parenthood. Pence is against abortion even if the fetus could not survive outside the womb (for example, some fetuses develop without a brain), is against abortion if carrying the pregnancy to term would kill the mother, and is against abortion in cases of rape. Speaking of which, he condones and trivializes sexual assault. He wanted money that was going towards HIV awareness and prevention to go to LGBTQ+ conversion camps, said that gay marriage signals the collapse of society, actively opposes marriage equality, and supports refusal of service and job discrimination. In fact, he was responsible for closing the only HIV testing facility in Scott County, Indiana which resulted in an HIV outbreak two years later. Mike Pence voted against healthcare for poor lower class children who need it most. He denies the existence of police brutality and institutional racism all together. He is against women in the military and thinks that working mothers ruin their children.
Mike Pence’s brand of racism/sexism/homophobia/etc. is much more subdued than Trump’s, but it is also much more insidious and hateful.
FB Status from Jennifer Tiedt (bolding added by me): If you and I are friends, you probably know that last year I had an abortion. The pregnancy was wanted, it was planned, but it was not to be, because the embryo implanted in my cervix. If HB493 had been in place when I needed an abortion, instead of being able to access adequate abortion care PRIOR to by death being imminent, I would have been forced to wait until I was actively in danger of losing my life. Let me be clear: an untreated cervical ectopic means death. If you are against abortion, great, that’s your choice. But women all over the world who don’t agree with abortion still find themselves in situations where it’s literally their life on the line, and make decisions they could never have imagined prior to being in that situation.
I repeat: If HB493 is signed by Governor Kasich and implemented, women will die. Not “maybe,” not “possibly,” but WILL.
The following is the letter I sent to Governor Kasich earlier today. I encourage all of you to reach out to him as well.
Dear Governor Kasich,
I am requesting some guidance from you on an important issue. Last year I experienced a cervical ectopic pregnancy. This happens when the embryo implants in the cervix rather than the uterus. It is very rare, but it still happened to me. It’s almost as though even rare complications still occur, even to people in Ohio.
A cervical pregnancy is extremely dangerous, due to the uterine artery passing through the cervix. When a fertilized egg implants, it works to develop a rich blood flow to sustain itself. Unfortunately, doing so right next to the uterine artery means devastating consequences: if the embryo detaches, one is at risk of hemorrhage, so if a cervical pregnancy is not found quickly, the woman can quickly become at risk for losing her fertility if they have to cauterize the uterine artery, losing her uterus if cauterization doesn’t work, and even death due to immense blood loss.
Thankfully, due to a routine visit, my cervical pregnancy was found at 7 weeks. The embryo had a heartbeat, which was the first thing I noticed. I was so happy to see that heartbeat following some spotting a couple days prior. My husband and I had a one year old son, and we had gotten pregnant our first month trying to give him a sibling. I had a moment of relief and wonder. Then the doctor told me what my untrained eyes couldn’t tell: that embryo with a beating heart was located in a place that made it unviable, and deadly. I had to go immediately to the hospital, where I stayed for seven days while they gave me methotrexate to try to and terminate, which was ultimately unsuccessful, forcing me to have a procedure done under general anesthesia where they used a microscopic needle to inject potassium chloride into the gestational sac, which was successful. This was necessary due to the age and development of the embryo, although less invasive procedures were tried first.
My abortion saved my life. I’d like to believe that if this happened again (which is a risk due to the fact that it happened to me previously) I would qualify for the quick and lifesaving care I received. But I don’t believe I would. My understanding is that HB493 makes no exception for the health of the mother, only the life. What statutes like this have been interpreted to mean in other areas is that until the life of the mother is truly at risk, not just potentially at risk, not just theoretically at risk, treatment is withheld. My life wasn’t “at risk” at the time I had my abortion, but that was the inevitable conclusion. Would I be forced to wait until I was hemorrhaging, bleeding out, before I could be treated? What treatment would I then be able to have? Nothing but a hysterectomy would have saved my life at that point. And I may or may not have survived the procedure at that point.
What advice can you give me to make sure the doctors aren’t afraid to save my life BEFORE I’m at that point? Why is there no exception for the health of the mother? How can I be sure I will not die if this happens again? Is your legislature so callous as to assume they don’t need to legislate for this kind of situation? Are you so callous as to not insist they make sure I am able to receive treatment that will preserve my fertility as well as my life? If you value life, why not mine? Why not all women’s lives? Why are women not allowed to make the decisions about their body that they feel are best? I assure you, I’ve talked to many women who have had abortions in all kinds of circumstances, and none of them came to the decision easily or without regret.
Please think of the women in Ohio who will die if you vote this legislation into law. Please think of the millions that will be wasted trying to defend this unconstitutional and invasive legislation in court. Please think of my son, who would have missed his mother if I had died due to my cervical pregnancy. Please think of the future children I hope to have, and am able to have, because I was able to access lifesaving treatment in time to preserve my fertility. Please think of us. We are depending on you and your judgement. Please don’t let us die to score political points.
A worried woman went to her Gynaecologist and said:
‘Doctor, I have a serious problem and desperately need your help! My baby is not even 1 year old and I’m pregnant again. I don’t want kids so close together.’
So the Doctor said: ‘Ok and what do you want me to do?’
She said: 'I want you to end my pregnancy, and I’m counting on your help with this.’
The Doctor thought for a little, and after some silence he said to the lady: 'I think I have a better solution for your problem. It’s less dangerous for you too.’
She smiled, thinking that the Doctor was going to accept her request.
Then he continued: 'You see, in order for you not to have to take care of 2 babies at the same time, let’s kill the one in your arms. This way, you could rest some before the other one is born. If we’re going to kill one of them, it doesn’t matter which one it is. There would be no risk for your body if you chose the one in your arms.’
The lady was horrified and said: 'No Doctor! How terrible! It’s a crime to kill a child!’
'I agree’, the Doctor replied. 'But you seemed to be OK with it, so I thought maybe that was the best solution.’
The Doctor smiled, realizing that he had made his point.
He convinced the mom that there is no difference in killing a child that’s already been born and one that’s still in the womb.
The crime is the same!
Here’s something fun to try at your next family dinner: bring up politics—but instead of just talking about WHICH political beliefs you hold, you have to talk about WHY you hold those beliefs. So you can’t just say that you’re ‘for abortion’ or ‘against gun control’ or ‘against raising the minimum wage’ or what-have-you, but you actually have to try to explain why you believe what you believe; then once you’ve explored some of your reasons, you have to explore your reasons for those reasons, and so on, eventually digging into some of your most fundamental and foundational beliefs about the world. And here’s where it gets challenging: you’re not allowed to use empty platitudes like ‘it’s just what I believe’ or 'because it’s just right’ or 'because I said so.’ It is your goal to justify your beliefs in a rational and meaningful way. Hopefully this will allow everyone to think critically, challenge their prejudices, and even find common ground. Worst case scenario, you all realize that truth is a myth, life is meaningless, and death is inexorable—and then you can embrace each other and bond in existential despair. Fun!