The fact that so many of my fellow white women copy black hair styles when there are literally HUNDREDS of different ways in which you can style non-afro textured hair to create a unique look without heat, gel, or a perm.
You want to look different? Great! Why not explore the PLETHORA of ways in which European women have styled their hair over millennia?
YOU DON’T HAVE TO STEAL FROM BLACK CULTURE TO DO SOMETHING UNIQUE WITH YOUR HAIR, FELLOW WHITE PEOPLE.
ALL YOU NEED IS TO A LITTLE PATIENCE AND CREATIVITY.
White people wearing dreads, cornrows, or other black hairstyles does not show creativity and uniqueness, it shows A TOTAL LACK THEREOF.
There are COUNTLESS braiding tutorials for hairstyles designed for non-afro textured hair available on the Internet.
A little research even shows how the VIKINGS and the ANCIENT CELTS did their hair.
You wanna stand out? You want to make a personal statement? Make it really personal by putting real time, effort, and creativity into it.
I am not a natural hair expert nor into tutorials but I do want to give advice to black girls with 4B/4C hair. The idea that Afro-textured hair, especially 4C hair, doesn’t grow fast is a myth. If anything, the thicker your hair is, the more apt to growing it is. If black boys can cut their hair off and within a week or two, they get to chia pet length, your hair can grow fast. It depends on what you do to it. Some of us may have hair that grows very slow, but it’s not impossible or unlikely for type 4 hair to grow rather rapidly. If you don’t do much to it, your hair will actually grow faster versus when you manipulate it. Which is why black men and boys tend to grow their hair out faster because they don’t do as much to their hair as black girls and women tend to do. It’s not all the time, but it’s more often than you think.
The thing is, many of us worry too much about length, not growth. We don’t have straight or very loose wavy/curly hair. Therefore, our hair grows upwards and outwards, not downwards. So when your hair does grow, you may not notice anything because it’s not going straight down your back. It’s going to the crown of your hair, which is why our crowns tend to be thicker than the rest of our hair. Many of us look forward to hair down our backs, which is why some of us may go, “Oh! My hair isn’t growing! Why isn’t it growing?” I was the same way until I noticed a significant difference between last summer to this fall. My hair was shorter than it is now.
This was only a year ago; and with a before and after picture, I realized my hair has grown a lot in that time span. It didn’t actually look like something until I started taking better care of it and moisturizing it. So I don’t believe 4C hair naturally grows slower than other hair types. If anything, I think it often grows faster because a lot of times, we don’t do a lot to it. Now if you just don’t do anything to do it, it’s not going to grow nor be healthy. A lot of us wear protective hairstyles, so that also quickens the pace of hair growth. It is recommended to do a protective style every two weeks. It doesn’t have to be 10 hours worth of box braids, but something durable and a style you’re comfortable with.
Again, I am not a natural hair expert, but this is just from my experiences and I would like to share because I used to be disenchanted by my hair until I stopped caring about a curl pattern and actually did more to my hair than just hoping it looked like somebody else’s. And remember all my black femmes, nappy/undefined hair is just as feminine as long, straight or loose hair.
Black queen, keep your head up. I know it doesn’t seem like it sometimes - okay, a lot of the time - but there are people that see you. There are black men that see you. I see you. You with your sun-kissed skin. You with your coconut oil and cocoa butter. You with your backbone hardened by living in this world with more melanin than it has ever been historically ready for and a mother always threatening to give you somethin’ to cry about if you didn’t stop crying. You with your refusal to back down seen as toxic attitude. You with your beautiful Afro-textured hair that on some days makes you feel mistaken for a zoo animal due to the amount of people that want to touch it. You with a voice like honey and a tongue always ready to drag someone if necessary. You with your hopes and dreams and accomplishments that far surpass what has been expected of you. I see you.
A non-black friend of mine posted as their Instagram caption, “Excuse the nappy hair” indicating that their hair was messy.
Except that “nappy” isn’t an adjective meant to mean “messy”, it’s an adjective used to describe a texture of hair, particularly tightly coiled Afro-textured hair.
I’m not trying to call anyone out, I just want to inform you that saying your hair is nappy, when it’s messy, is associating a negative image with those of us who have naturally nappy textured hair. The same goes when your hair is poofy or untamed and you say you have an “afro”. Phrasing like that lends a negative connotation to those of us who grow that kind of hair naturally, and can negatively alter the perception of black people by society.
I’VE JUST BOUGHT THE SIMS 4 AND THERE IS NOT ENOUGH AFRO TEXTURED HAIR. I MEAN …. THERE IS ONE MEDIUM KINKY FRO, SHORT BOX BRAIDS, AND A SHORT KINKY FRO…. WTF IS THAT ? THIS IS SO LAME. I’M MAD. DO YOU REALLY WANT ME TO DO MY ALTER-EGO-SIM WITH STRAIGHT HAIR ? WHAT ABOUT THE CURLYFROS, LOCKS, SENEGALESE TWISTS, EXTRA SUPER LONG BOX BRAIDS, LOOSE FROS, FROS WITH DIFFERENT SHAPES (HEART-SHAPED, MIDDLE PART, ETC.) WITH DIFFERENT TYPES OF CURLS. AFRO HAIR IS NOT LIMITED TO ONE MEDIUM KINKY FRO OR BRAIDS. WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT SHIT. OUR HAIR IS MAGIC WE CAN TRANSFORM IT LIKE BRRRAAH, AS SOON AS WE WANT.
I’M REALLY REALLY REALLY MAD. I CAN’T FIND ANY CC OF THE HAIR THAT I WANT. I DON’T WANT TO WHITEWASH MYSELF. I WON’T MAKE MY SIM WEAR FUCKING FLAT STRAIGHT HAIR. I’M SO FUCKING MAD. I WANT MY MONEY BACK NOW.