afro kinki love

Rant. *Edited for reinforcement. . .

For other light-skinned people not getting the concept of light-skinned privilege:

****1. No one is denying that we are POC. Once again…No. One. Is. Denying. That. We. Are. Black. Stop saying ‘we are all black’ as if this is groundbreaking news. Congratulations, yes, we *are* black, but we are ALSO light-skinned and have privileges because of it. Not sure why this is so hard to understand… I’ve literally had people talking to others about me on the phone and the *second* they say 'she’s light-skinned’ they go 'oh for real? I bet she fine’. Like, bruh. Have you *seen* this forehead? (Nah, I’m cute. But this forehead is the size of Alaska though…)
–> I’ve seen a lot of posts where light-skinned people retort with some irrelevant comment about how light skin =/= white. That isn’t the point. They know we’re not white, but we DO still benefit from having lighter skin, even if it isn’t white.

2. No one is denying that we have struggles.
–> Pointing out our privilege is not a means of eradicating/negating our struggles. However, this privilege does mean that our struggles are not to scale with those of a darker complexion, and that we still have benefits that darker skinned people do not.

3. Talking about colorism is not ‘dividing’ the black community.
–> If anything, ignoring it is making it worse. Often times we sound** just like whites in trying to justify why we should ignore our privilege, saying things like ‘we are all black’ (they say ‘we are all human’). **Emphasis on the word SOUND, as I’m not saying we ARE like whites, but we do SOUND an awful lot like them when complaining that bringing up our privileges is a divisive thing. It’s not. As a matter of fact, the more we discuss it, the more we encourage solidarity with our darker skinned brothers and sisters and understand their struggles so we can better know how to uplift them and combat the stereotypes/negativity pushed on them.

•Just a personal thing I want to share, I had my first breakthrough when doing my hair one day and thinking about my mom’s. I remember thinking how in the past, I was scared of my curls and always straightened my hair, but that if my hair were healthier (as it is becoming now) I would wear it curly all the time (as I do). My next thought was of my mom, who always wears her hair straightened. I thought ‘man, she should wear hers natural too!’ And ‘if I had her hair I would-’

And then it hit me, what WOULD I do if I had her hair? If I didn’t have looser curls that, with a bit of love, can be bouncy and springy? If instead, I had a more cottony texture and much smaller curls? The realization I came to, being honest with myself, was that I would NOT wear it naturally. I wouldn’t have the confidence to. And in thinking that, I realized to a more real extent the necessity of the natural hair movement - and why those with looser curls are discouraged from taking part in it as anything other than support. And now I’m learning to really see the beauty in it, and as I’ve helped her slowly learn to love her hair, I’m learning to love it as well, and help some of my friends with similar kinky/afro textures love theirs as well. And I feel that this can also be applied to colorism as well. I wonder how many of us with light skin could handle having darker skin and facing racism in a completely different way? Yeah we still face some racism, because (speaking mostly for America), black is black for most racists, but skin tone still matters to them too even minutely, and they’d much rather be around a lighter-skinned person than a darker-skinned person. They see us as 'prettier’, 'more intelligent’, etc., which is part of our privilege in being lighter-skinned. When darker-skinned people bring these things up, it isn’t just to 'oppress us’ (not even possible) or hurt our feelings, but to make us aware of them.

• I think a big reason a lot of us get so offended also is because we’ve become comfortable with our privileges, and don’t want to acknowledge them (as we constantly see white people do). It’s a bit easier for us. Who wouldn’t want to be seen as prettier just for a feature that comes naturally to them? To be seen as more intelligent, to be liked even slightly better? These are our privileges (and likely just a few of many), and we have to be aware of them and remember that we have it easier, and to always be there for those with darker skin who have to fight daily for these things because of the same thing: skin tone.

But yeah. Just some thoughts and transparency.
Hair Growth Factors

Factors affecting hair growth:

  • Genetics
  • Diet
  • Hormones
  • Drugs
  • Hairstyles and hair care practices and other things we do mechanically or chemically 

How long will my hair grow?

Everyone has a different maximum length his or her hair can grow. This is determined by the duration of the anagen phase, which can be 2-7 years. During this time hair will grow ¼ inch - ½ inch a month. After which the hair will pass through the catagen and telogen phase resulting in a shed hair and replacement by another hair. The longer the anagen phase the longer the hair will have time to grow before it ends its life cycle. Each hair strand is at a different stage of the hair cycle hence you should never have patches of hair missing. Review theHair growth cycle. The hair lifespan is measured by time not length

Hair care practices and styling can be gentle or damaging. Most people are into the harmful practice of blow drying, dyeing, heat and/or chemical straightening and/or curling, scrubbing with harsh shampoos, towels drying etc.

Hair is dead and it cannot be healed once physical damage is done. There is no miracle product! Damaged hair splits and breaks easily and will not grow as long as healthy hair.  Split ends can be minimized with gentle care techniques. Use non-snagging or tearing hair accessories

 Haircuts and trims

Cutting ends DOES NOT affect the roots of hair (where hair grows). It DOES NOT make your hair grow faster or prevent hair from growing. What cutting really does is cut off some of the time from its life cycle. Because of haircuts or trims some people reach a false maximum of hair growth length, when really their hair has maxed out its anagen phase.

Nutrient deficiency

  • Hair is a good indication of overall health.
  • Pregnant women have lots of hormones and boosts of prenatal vitamins and healthier diets hence their hair grows faster than usual.
  • Eating disorders, diets deficiency in zinc can cause splitting hair
  • Lack of A and E makes hair become dry and poorly conditioned, contributing to breakage
  • Lack of iron (anemia) can cause dry hair and hair loss
  • Lack of selenium, biotin and folic acid contribute to poor hair growth


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What Does Healthy Hair Look Like?

Is your hair in good condition?

  • Hair in good condition is clean, moisturized, contains minimal split ends and retains length
  • It is not thinning, excessively shedding, or breaking.
  • It has a shine or sheen meaning a smooth cuticle reflecting light
  • Has good elasticity (it will spring back) and flexibility without snapping
  • Not overly porous.
  • A healthy, person will grow healthy hair at an average rate of one HALF inch per month. That’s 6 inches a year. Give or take an inch but should not be far off from 6. 

A Simple Tress Stress Test:

Give your hair strand a gentle pull. If it stretches and springs back the elasticity is in good health. Poor elasticity is usually a result of excessive heat or chemical treatments of any kind.  Poor elasticity and frequent breakage are clear signs that your current styling processes are damaging your hair.

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