Happy TDOV! I’m here, look at me! Ok but seriously, I’m really proud to keep coming into my shifting identities and all the ways they intersect. I am so lucky to be able to be out and visible everyday, and I’m very thankful for that. So yeah, this is me In all my trans, latinx, black, white, mixed, neurodivergent, queer, fat, glory. they/them or ce/cir/cirs <3
Abuelita grew up in a world and time period where anti-blackness was not only a norm, but a standard. A society that owed most of its cultural traditions to our African ancestors, and yet through globalized and institutionalized forms of antiblackness, people like her, people who looked like her, were never to be valued. These beliefs were reminded to her daily as she was the oldest, and darkest daughter to a white-passing mother (who more likely than not also has African ancestry) and a Dark-Skinned father.
Her mother reminded her every day that a little black girl was never beautiful, but the lighter skinned sisters were indeed more beautiful.
Mi abuelita is a true example of what they were talking about with the phrase, “Women Warriors of the Afro-Latina diaspora” a woman who escaped political oppression, overcame racialized sexism, immigration and migration to and from several different countries, deportations, all to sacrifice herself for her children. Heck, she even chose to sneak onto a boat to Puerto Rico while she was pregnant with my mom with the hopes of giving my mother more opportunities.
Today, Abuelita is the matriarch of a line of people she continues to love and cherish, who constantly enforces good ol’ Dominican values and Afro-Dominican cultural traditions, while also challenging the anti-black leanings of her mother, who my grandmother takes full care of today as her mother suffers from late stages of Alzheimer’s.