It Is Never Too Late...
  • to find love
  • to start your career
  • to pursue a passion
  • to begin your recovery
  • to start being true to yourself
  • to love yourself

You have a right to come out of trauma uglier and meaner and angrier and less forgiving. And being a “bad survivor” does not impinge upon your validity as a survivor or how deserving you are of care, healing and recovery. Grow claws and fangs, hate the people who hurt you, hold on to your grudges ‘til your grave, never forgive and never forget if that’s what you need. And don’t let anyone judge or shame you for what gives you that scrap of safety, or security, or healing, that the cruelty of others had denied you.

6 Reminders For Bad Times
  1. You are allowed to take up space
  2. You are allowed to have a voice
  3. You are allowed to leave whenever you feel unsafe or uncomfortable 
  4. You deserve more than someone who doesn’t respect you
  5. You are allowed to put your own needs first
  6. You are allowed to love yourself
In case nobody’s told you today, you’re worthy. You’re valid. I’m glad you exist

It’s okay if you can’t deal with everything immediately.

It’s okay if you experience trauma and you need to take a while to sort through it. You are allowed to choose to unpack something when you have the energy and emotional stability to actually wade through it. You don’t have to process everything as soon as it happens, you can put it away until you have the spoons for it and it doesn’t mean you’re repressing it. You’re allowed to acknowledge something has happened and you’re not in a good place to sort it out in your head.

You can take a breather and take your time and process at your own pace.



Thanks for the inspiration @healingsuggestions :)