So, you've got yourself a Gordo.
When I was about six, I was a MASSIVE Hilary Duff fan. Almost ten years down the line, I still am. I love Lizzie McGuire, and like most other people, I just wanted Lizzie and Gordo to GET TOGETHER ALREADY.
To be honest, who EVER saw the appeal in Ethan Craft?
Gordo, for YEARS put up with Lizzie and every crush she had, especially that paper boy in “First Kiss”. Remember him?
Gordo was a great guy and he was totally in love with Lizzie, but she never noticed (at least not until the end of the movie). This happens in real life (in a much less Disney way) all the time. It’s called getting “friendzoned”. So I thought I’d write a letter to all you Lizzies and Gordos.
You might not know you’re a Lizzie, because it kind of comes with the territory. A “Lizzie” is someone who is completely unaware that one of their best friends is really obviously in love with them.
This doesn’t just apply to girls, it happens to guys too. Take a look around and observe how your close friends act around you, especially if they happen to be of the opposite gender. If you’ve got a Gordo, it’s glaringly obvious if you just observe a little closer.
Being a Lizzie is an awkward situation because, whilst you don’t want to distance yourself from one of your best friends , you also don’t want to hurt their feelings. Yes, it is probably a good idea to show some degree of sensitivity toward them, but if you’re not sure if your friend has feelings for you, then it might be an idea not to treat them any differently. They might wonder if they’ve done something wrong and it could get really awkward if they confront you.
Reconsider Gordo. He was lovely, loyal, caring and a really good friend. It might be that you’ve never considered them in a romantic way. It couldn’t do any harm to consider it for a moment. There is always the “don’t want to ruin a friendship” thing, and that is completely understandable. If you just want to stay friends, then that is fine.
The most important thing is to try and not feel guilty if you don’t have feelings for them. It’s not your fault and if they start to get all gloomy around you they should come around eventually. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t be sensitive towards their feelings and flat out reject them and tell them to move on. Be considerate.
Friend-zoned? I’m sorry, that really does suck, and I’m not being sarcastic. It does. You’re probably really nice and totally deserve someone nice.
The thing is, you can’t expect your Lizzie to just know you like them, you have to scream it in her face, otherwise she’ll remain totally oblivious. If you don’t want to do that then you’re not allowed to sulk when Lizzie shows interest in other people. You’re allowed to feel a wee bit sorry for yourself for a bit.
The best thing you can do is be there for Lizzie when things go wrong and give her a shoulder to cry on, and maybe one day she’ll realise that she should’ve picked you in the first place.
Don’t give up! After all, Gordo got Lizzie in the end.
Good Luck, ya sneaky little brown-noser with a hidden agenda!