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So, you've got yourself a Gordo.

When I was about six, I was a MASSIVE Hilary Duff fan. Almost ten years down the line, I still am. I love Lizzie McGuire, and like most other people, I just wanted Lizzie and Gordo to GET TOGETHER ALREADY. 

To be honest, who EVER saw the appeal in Ethan Craft? 

Gordo, for YEARS put up with Lizzie and every crush she had, especially that paper boy in “First Kiss”. Remember him? 

Gordo was a great guy and he was totally in love with Lizzie, but she never noticed (at least not until the end of the movie). This happens in real life (in a much less Disney way) all the time. It’s called getting “friendzoned”. So I thought I’d write a letter to all you Lizzies and Gordos. 

Dear Lizzie, 

You might not know you’re a Lizzie, because it kind of comes with the territory. A “Lizzie” is someone who is completely unaware that one of their best friends is really obviously in love with them.

This doesn’t just apply to girls, it happens to guys too. Take a look around and observe how your close friends act around you, especially if they happen to  be of the opposite gender. If you’ve got a Gordo, it’s glaringly obvious if you just observe a little closer.

Being a Lizzie is an awkward situation because, whilst you don’t want to distance yourself from one of your best friends , you also don’t want to hurt their feelings. Yes, it is probably a good idea to show some degree of sensitivity toward them, but if you’re not sure if your friend has feelings for you, then it might  be an idea not to treat them any differently. They might wonder if they’ve done something wrong and it could get really awkward if they confront you.

Reconsider Gordo. He was lovely, loyal, caring and a really good friend. It might be that you’ve never considered them in a romantic way. It couldn’t do any harm to consider it for a moment. There is always the “don’t want to ruin a friendship” thing, and that is completely understandable. If you just want to stay friends, then that is fine. 

The most important thing is to try and not feel guilty if you don’t have feelings for them. It’s not your fault and if they start to get all gloomy around you they should come around eventually. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t be sensitive  towards their feelings and flat out reject them and tell them to move on. Be considerate.

Dear Gordo, 


Friend-zoned? I’m sorry, that really does suck, and I’m not being sarcastic. It does. You’re probably really nice and totally deserve someone nice. 

The thing is, you can’t expect your Lizzie to just know you like them, you have to scream it in her face, otherwise she’ll remain totally oblivious. If you don’t want to do that then you’re not allowed to sulk when Lizzie shows interest in other people. You’re allowed to feel a wee bit sorry for yourself for a bit. 

The best thing you can do is be there for Lizzie when things go wrong and give her a shoulder to cry on, and maybe one day she’ll realise that she should’ve picked you in the first place. 

Don’t give up! After all, Gordo got Lizzie in the end. 

Good Luck, ya sneaky little brown-noser with a hidden agenda! 

How to feel better about yourself

If you can look in the mirror and honestly say that you’re completely happy with what you see then, let’s face it, you’re one of the lucky minority.

Most people have something about themselves that they don’t like, whether it be the size of their nose, their height or their laugh. We’re always told just to love ourselves as we are, but that’s easier said than done. 

There are always going to be days where you feel rubbish about your appearance, so here’s a few ideas about how you can make yourself feel better.

1. Acceptance

This is a tough one, but you know what? You have to live with this body for the rest of your life. There’s no replacing it. You might as well learn to love it. Search for the things you like about it rather than highlighting the negatives. 

2. Change your diet


I am a terrible comfort eater. Just the other week I ate a huge slab of chocolate cake because my English exam had demanded it. I find the easiest way to improve your diet is fruit. Fruit always seems like less of a punishment to me than salads or veg. You can also combine fruit with yoghurt and ice cream and chocolate if you want, as long as you’re not being too, uh ,generous with it. Eating better just naturally makes you feel less sluggish.

3. Find a celebrity/tv-movie character with the same issue


Contrary to what you may think, celebrities aren’t perfect. I find what helps me is to find celebrities who have similar quirks of appearance as me, but rather than feeling rubbish about it, it becomes part of their image. 

For example, I’ve always had thick eyebrows. You know who else has thick eyebrows? 

Actress Lily Collins (Fun fact- Father, Phil Collins, wrote the Tarzan song “You’ll be in my heart” for her). She was picked by Spain's Glamour  magazine in 2008 as their “International model of the year”. Yeah, she’s TOTALLY unattractive. 

I’m not the most photogenic person and I’m known amongst my social circle for “pulling the best faces”. Now, I never much liked this title until Queen of Derp herself, Jennifer Lawrence started to display a similar talent. 

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You just need to find someone who shares your  quirks.  You’re a small girl? Ellen Page.  Small Guy? Daniel Radcliffe and Josh Hutcherson. They embrace these things about themselves. Why can’t you?