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anonymous asked:

Hey! So, there's this new boy in my class and he's really cute and handsome. I think that I'm actually slowly developing a crush on him. The problem is that we haven't even had a proper conversation and I want to get to know him at least. I'm definitely shy. How do I approach him? Have a wonderful day. ❤

Hi darling!

Can I just say I am in the same boat as you, as for having a crush on someone an you feel you are falling for them but yet talking in person is a little tough? Because I understand where you’re coming from! & I’ve got some amazing advice for you today.

For starters, getting to know your crush is actually pretty simple, but when you’re stuck in the moment about how cute they are, sometimes it can slip your mind.

How to talk to your crush:

Pay Attention to their Body Language
When you are around your crush, do they shuffle their feet or avoid eye contact for a long period of time? This might be a sign they are nervous around you — which is either because they have a hard time talking to people or they like you! If they do like you, they might show some other body language signs like standing close to you, giving you side hugs and being playful with you. On the other hand, if their body language appears closed off, like they are folding their arms and turned slightly away from you when you talk, this might be a sign that they need some time to warm up to you.

Listen to What They Talk About
When talking to your crush, keep a mental note about what you two talk about. If they show genuine interest in you by asking you questions to get to know you better — like asking about your family or what you do in your free time — this is a pretty good sign that they might have feelings for you. And of course, if they compliment you, that’s a big plus. Another sign: They stumble on their words. That’s a clue that they might be nervous around you — in a good way!

See What They’re Up to When You are Around
If your crush also has a crush on you, there a few signs that might give them away just by what they do when you are in the same room with them. They might try to show off on the basketball court to get your attention. You also just might catch them looking at you from afar in the halls or during lunch.

Is your crush jumping at the chance to be your partner in science class? Or is walking with you in-between classes or finding silly excuses to talk to you? These are all good indicators that they like you — especially if they text you for no reason!

You could also ask your crush some interesting questions, something like the following are always options. Be creative and the words will come flowing, give it some time.

Ice breaker questions:

  • If you had just won a million dollars, what would you do with it?
  • If you knew that you only had a year left to live, what would you do?
  • What is something you have never done but would like to do?
  • If you had three wishes, what would they be?
  • If you had the chance to start any business, what would it be?
  • Would you rather go a week without your phone or a week without your toothbrush?
  • If you could send a message to the whole world, what would it be?
  • If you had to pick a new name for yourself, what name would you pick?

Those are a few that I thought of off the top of my head. There is endless questions in this world. Its mostly a matter of what you’re wanting to learn about the person and actually putting an effort into asking and answering questions  :)

Now, I have some advice on how you can talk to your crush when you’re shy, below are some links on how you can cope with being shy.

Helpful Links on Shyness:

Tips for talking to your crush (things to try/remember.)

  • Be yourself and embrace your qualities and talents.
  • Use your inner voice- speak from your heart :)
  • Give examples of your feelings for your crush
  • Talk about things that you both have in common
  • Offer some help- maybe he needs a study buddy or someone to vent to
  • Have a desire to get to know him more (ask questions and stay in tune)
  • Use coping skills when you feel strong urges or emotions such as (anger, sadness or even when you’re nervous

I hope that my advice helps and I hope everything works out for you :) I’m always here & only an ask away. Take care & don’t forget to smile. :) xx

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distractions etc

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Calming songs, playlists and instrumentals:

Calming/distracting Websites

Crafts and activities, easy and fun DYI projects

What to do when:

Meditation and breathing

Simple things

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Calming/Relaxing Music:

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Staying Positive:

Helpful tips to remember:

  • Surround yourself with positive and uplifting people. Try and stay away from negative things/people.
  • Smile. Even when things get hard, keep a smile on your face. It shows that you’re strong and you can get though things.
  • When in doubt, talk it out. Speak to people about things that are going on in your life. People are here to help you and support you <3
  • Have a positive attitude. It helps because when you’re in a mindset that you’re positive it makes it easier to keep being positive.
  • Look for the positive things in life. In life, there are many things that are positive. When you’re thinking and pointing out the things that are positive, it shows that you’re really wanting to be more positive and it makes a difference in your life :)
  • Stop negative thinking and embrace a positive mind as well as positive thoughts/actions
  • Being more positive in life has been proven in many studies, when a person is thinking in a more positive way, the more likely that they will have a positive outcome in life.
  • Surround yourself with positive & uplifting people.
  • When there are positive people are you, that helps you become more positive and happy yourself.
  • Enjoy the little things in life.

When you are having fun and enjoying life, most likely you’re thinking about how much fun you are having and not dwelling on the negative things in life. The little things in life mend together all the positive things. That being said, having a positive mind is helpful.

Cute links to brighten your mood.

Adopting a positive belief system:

Your times is precious. Make sure you’re spending it on the right people.

School master-post:

get started:

  • prepare your self
  • block sites that could distract you here or here
  • background music

Essay help:

  • free microsoft word
  • PRETEND to type an essay uhum that’s right
  • forgot an essay? buy yourself more time
  • how to write an essay you’re wondering? this could also help
  • written? kitten!
  • word on the tip of your tongue

Study Help:

  • how to organize yourself and study
  • learn how to study
  • and now study skills
  • also how to memorize
  • need help with a subject? don’t worry, they’ve got your back
  • learn some shit outside school
  • help beat world hunger while studying

Homework help:

  • solve any math problems
  • conversion perversion (get it?)
  • if your physics teacher sucks
  • learn geography
  • free books? more free books?

Research help:

  • is it a research? aw shit:
  • how to read and research
  • how to google
  • find books for your research
  • free bibliography
  • understand how stuff works (great for work reference too)

Finals Week?

  • how to pull an all nighter (only use in extreme cases! don’t make it a habit)
  • finals survival guide
  • when should i sleep?
  • productive study break
  • for when you get really tired and overwhelmed

Helpful tips:

  • the best school masterpost EVER
  • another school masterpost hell yeah
  • educational websites
  • how to survive in college

Studying:

  • science translated to english
  • a site that explains literally everything
  • study skills
  • learn geography
  • finals guide
  • get motivated to study
  • tips for a productive study break
  • when should I go to bed?
  • microsoft word equivalent
  • can’t do your homework?
  • “no homework” excuses
  • make flash cards
  • math problem solver (2)
  • online ruler
  • pull an all nighter but do well on your exam
  • a whole blog dedicated to study motivation, tips, and advice!
  • techniques for studying and learning
  • time management
  • help on reading and research
  • help with memorizing and testing
  • ultimate educational website
  • Thinking & Memorizing Tips
  • Research & Reading Tips
  • Finals Help Guide
  • Homework Help
  • Math Help

Writing:

  • Writing Masterpost
  • A website for big words
  • alternatives to “said”
  • alternatives to “whispered”
  • ultimate writers resources masterpost
  • tip of my tongue
  • writing fantasy stories
  • Masterpost of writing software
  • character flaws
  • writing a death scene
  • bio help
  • degrees of emotions
  • writing ref
  • Fictional Character Name Generator
  • Fictional Character Name AND Personality Generator
  • you’re a writer? here’s a whole bunch of writing-related blogs
  • read/post fanfiction
  • read/post stories

Learning languages:

  • Learn terms and glossary in Quizlet.
  • Learn a language for free on Duolingo.
  • Learn a language for free on Busuu.
  • Oxford Dictionaries.
  • Games and fun activities for English learners.
  • Irregular English verbs.

Do your research:

  • Google scholar.
  • Scholarpedia.
  • You can learn anything (KhanAcademy).
  • Didn´t listen in class? (Crash Course).
  • Simple Wikipedia.
  • Learn littérature without having to read it(SparkNotes).
  • Wolfram Alpha.
  • TED.
  • Open 2 study. (Online studying)
  • Free college courses.

Amazing tips on writing:

  • 10 practical tips for writing better exam essays.
  • Writing an essay.
  • Harvard writing resources.
  • Writing application essays.
  • Writing a personal statement.
  • Genre characteristics.
  • Writing a literary analysis essay.
  • Answering essay questions.
  • Get feedback.
  • Bibliography maker.
  • What is the word you´re looking for?

Reading <3

  • 8 tips to remember what you read.
  • How to read Shakespeare.
  • Effective reading and note-taking.
  • How to take notes while reading.
  • Note taking tips.
  • 170 free textbooks.
  • 1000 free textbooks.

Studying & organization

  • Time Management
  • Get your school life in order with organization.
  • Reach your goals.
  • Goals worksheet.
  • Finding information on the internet.
  • Using sources.
  • Get a hold on mind mapping.
  • How do you learn best?
  • Sound without music (Such as cafes).
  • Make flashcards.

 Stress and anxiety management

  • Coping strategies.
  • Stress reduction tips.
  • Stress relief for students.
  • Managing test anxiety.
  • Dealing with test anxiety.
  • Self help: Keeping calm.
  • Introverts in college.
  • Coping and calming down. N.1
  • Coping and calming down. N.2
  • Do nothing for two minutes.

Test help:


  • Study skills for test taking.
  • Study tips for finals.
  • Multiple choice exams guide.
  • The seven days study plan.
  • 15 steps to success.
  • How to prepare for a test.
  • Checklist for essay tests.

 Classroom participation

  • Active listening.
  • Classroom discussions.
  • Presenting projects in the classroom.
  • Preparation before class.
  • Participating tips.

Software and pages:

  • Openoffice and Libreoffice.
  • Dropnote.
  • Google docs.
  • EverNote.
  • Prezi (For presentations.)
  • Calculator.
  • Grade calculator.
  • Grammar check.
  • Staying focused for Mac, Chrome and Firefox.
  • Plagiarism check.
  • Best apps for students masterpost.
  • Homework help.

Self care tips:

  • 100 000 stars.
  • Workout masterpost.
  • Movie masterpost of masterposts.
  • Self-help masterpost.
  • 8Tracks.
  • Learn and do yoga.
  • Voulenteer.
  • Learn to play guitar.
  • The thoughts room.
  • Disney games because hell yeah.

College needs:

  • Advice on college
  • Alternatives to buying expensive textbooks
  • AP Cram Packets
  • Cheat sheet for becoming an adult
  • Dorm room survival
  • Free online college classes
  • How to survive college masterpost

Helpful sites:

  • Challenge your brain
  • Feed the hungry while using your vocabulary
  • Free online textbooks
  • Grade calculator
  • Quizlet
  • Rape Escape
  • Whole page dedicated to studying/organizing

High school needs:

  • For Juniors or Seniors With Low Income Families Looking For Scholarships
  • How to survive freshman year

Mental health resources:

  • a website that is always relevant.
  • falling asleep tips
  • How long to sleep
  • how to talk to and help an anxiety-ridden friend
  • how to wake up in the morning
  • keep taking your mind off of it
  • mental illness recovery tips
  • need a motivational speech? i like this one for myself.
  • not having a good day? :c
  • picking up a hobby can relax you during the school year!!
  • seriously just please try to relax ily
  • take your mind off of it
  • tips on self-love
  • when to go to sleep/wake up
  • working out is a total stress-buster.

Misc resources:

  • download free books
  • express yourself with make-up
  • Hobbies masterpost
  • I fucking love to study to this.
  • please remember this.
  • Sick ass movie list I have more but, this is a school one so message me for more.
  • Sites to help you not get distracted with other sites. (Mac)(PC)
  • Various ways to where a scarf
  • What’s the fucking weather

Motivation:

  • earn a cute kitten picture after writing
  • how to get motivated
  • Procrastinator?

Music/Sound:

  • calm/nature sounds
  • chill playlist
  • coffee shop blues
  • coffee shop sounds
  • concentration playlist
  • relaxation
  • study playlist
  • 4hours of classical music

School resources:

  • An already typed essay at your fingertips(type the subject and press random stuff and an essay forms. TO KIND OF HELP)
  • bibliography maker
  • educational links fucking galore
  • my favorite tutoring website
  • online ruler
  • pull an all nighter but do well on your exam
  • Social media citing
  • study like a college kid
  • Time Management
  • Psychology Lectures by a Professor from Yale University

Stress relief:

  • Calm
  • compliments generator
  • how long to nap
  • go to a quiet place
  • learn more about anxiety.
  • panic and anxiety information masterpost
  • Relaxation techniques
  • Stress Analyst
  • the thoughts room
  • take a guided relaxation
  • yoga poses

Studying/school help:
English/History:

  • Best place to get help for English
  • essay structure guide
  • essay writing help
  • free microsoft word alternative
  • Grammar and spell checker
  • Graphic Essay Organizer
  • Help on reading/researching
  • Make a kick ass essay
  • Masterpost of writing software
  • microsoft word equivalent
  • more essay writing help
  • On books you you don’t want to read
  • Tip of my tongue

Foreign Languages:

  • Learn, Spanish, French, English, Portuguese, German, Italian

Geography:

  • learn geography

Math/Science:

  • calculators (includes graphing, geometric, stats etc)
  • College/high school Chemistry notes
  • math problem solver (2)
  • Periodic Table
  • Thinking/memorizing
  • This is the math god

Study Needs:

  • Answers to the textbook
  • Beneficial studying tips
  • Crash course in any subject with John Green
  • Free Educational resources for anyone and everyone
  • help in a ton of subjects
  • Helps you in any subject
  • homework help
  • how to google
  • how to study, Study guide
  • finals survival guide
  • improve your studying skills
  • Learning Websites Masterpage
  • Looking for a word
  • make flash cards
  • One of the best learning websites
  • Scholarpedia
  • Tips before/during an exam
  • Tips on Exams

I know that school can get hard at times and sometimes it may feel like you’re trapped. I hope these links can help at least one person out. I know that they’ve helped me. (: