Fun fact: “real adults” don’t exist! Learning how to do taxes or changing your sheets regularly or making stressful phone calls are just skills! We’ve actually just been people the whole time, gaining experience and skills that tend to come with time– always unevenly and usually seemingly a little behind schedule. Every one of us! AND, there is no finish line of “becoming” anything else – just updating and expanding yourself! Who knew!!

There’s this weird transition period during your early twenties where you realize that, as you assume more and more “adult” responsibilities, life begins to feel somewhat like a binding contract you were coerced into signing.
—  In between high school/undergraduate degree & first job AND wherever you want to be in life, e.g. graduate school/dream job. So many bills, loans, commitments, activities, no down time.

adulthood!expectation: furiosa - badass, one-armed mom in war paint, successfully commandeers a war rig, great shot, gets shit done while preserving the humanity people easily lose under post-apocalyptic warring conditions

adulthood!reality: max - aimlessly wandering about unkempt grunting hobo thing on his own, yet highly competent at getting caught up in other people’s battles and shuffling away unnoticed when he’s no longer needed

Also, remember that adulthood isn’t about having a relationship and a mortgage. It can mean lots of different things to different people but I think it’s mostly about taking control and responsibility for your life — no matter what that life looks like. Having a failed relationship and building furniture with Allen keys has no correlation to your maturity and ability to be good at life. You’re doing the best with what you have, and I hope it’s not long before you can start to feel proud of it.
At 23, JK Rowling was broke. Tina Fey was working at the Y.M.C.A. Oprah had just gotten fired from her first job as a TV reporter and Walt Disney had declared bankruptcy. None of these wildly successful individuals could have predicted what was in store for them next but the one thing they all had in common was that they knew that there was more to them than what they were doing at the time. And that’s what you have in common with them, too. You know that there’s a bigger, better version of yourself to bring to life. You just haven’t gotten there yet.