adult logic i...........

not to sound like an Abused Kid™ but parents and other adults are untrustworthy and can turn on you without a moment’s notice

“Perfect! You guys are the same age. I bet you have a lot in common.”
Classic adult logic. Reid and I are vaguely the same age, so of course we’re basically soul mates. It’s like horoscopes. Somehow I’m supposed to believe that I’m similar in some meaningful way to every single person born on my birthday. Or every single Sagittarius. I mean, I barely have anything in common with Cassie, and we were born six minutes apart.
—  Becky Albertalli, The Upside of Unrequited

young kids are so much more logical than adults. if i explain the reasoning behind an instruction to a kid, they almost always just listen, think a second, and go “okay.” it’s the easiest thing in the world.

“why do i have to write the sentence? why can’t i just tell you?”

“because we usually remember things better when we write them down and i don’t want you to forget.”

“…okay.”

which is one reason i don’t believe in just telling kids what to do. yeah, there are circumstances where they may not understand, where the explanation won’t resonate w/them, or where it isn’t appropriate to share–but in many situations you can just give them a one-sentence explanation and they’ll roll w/it. 

and yes, constantly being asked “why???” can get annoying, but if you’ve chosen to have or work with kids, maybe just deal? encouraging them to question instructions and ideas is good for their emotional and intellectual development. otherwise you get adults who obey w/o thinking or are incredibly reactionary, arguing w/o questioning, arguing w/o evaluating their argument on its merits. and both are bad.

disciplinc  asked:

"but i thought it was too oc because it made reigen too nice" omfg im laughing (this is the OP of the post on their main blog btw!) i would have thought earlier that it's too oc too b/c it would mean reigen is spending money(!) on mob

haha I’m glad someone saw that! I felt bad for misjudging reigen but I was really surprised he went to all this trouble. I thought it must have happened after the seperation arc because he became noticeably nicer after that but no, that wasn’t until october, he’s just a really great mentor and he was feeling generous (and probably felt really bad for teru, the poor kid), and recall he buys mob food after many of the exorcisms. plus with more media attention he was getting bigger/more lucrative jobs around that time too.

but this was definitely more than I would have expected and it was a really sweet little omake. I especially appreciated how benevolently polite he was to ritsu/inviting him along despite ritsu…not liking him so much, because reigen’s a responsible adult and ritsu is a young child and adults shouldn’t be shitty/petty to kids under their care.

ok but sep arc was in october and this was summer so it must have been around the urban legends arc, because by mogami arc mob’s back to school and that’s immediately after plant dude arc. mob was also pretty bluntly sarcastic to reigen in the omake which is exactly how he was in the urban legends arc as well. the solo mission chapter is set here too in the manga, and the girls are all in school so I assume the manga skipped over a lot of July and August, assuming it started in May/June. like, urban legends is probably the only one that was arguably set in summer vacation time.

shou and serizawa weren’t around because WD arc hadn’t happened yet (a tragedy, I would have loved to see them). 

although dimple wasn’t around either, which is weird..I miss him a lot…

sometimes I think these omakes inhabit a place removed from the regular timeline and logic of the series but are interconnected within their own canon. I will cherish this omake for referencing the Shut Up and Eat incident if for no other reason

These Are Not Just Abstract Issues, They Have Real Consequences: Just in Time For Mother’s Day

I work in a store. Like CVS or Walgreens or Rite Aid. One of those. Pick one, they’re all basically the same. Pharmacy in the back, all sorts of shit you don’t need and is overpriced anyway in the front.

This week I came in and we had a whole bunch of stuff set up for Mother’s Day, which okay, duh, Mother’s Day is coming up and I’ve got nothing wrong with that.

But then my boss said to me, “Oh, don’t forget to wish all the women you see a Happy Mother’s Day.”

And I was like, No. No, I’m not going to do that, that’s a terrible idea.

First of all, it’s insulting. Not everyone is a mother, and assuming that they are just because they are female and adult is insulting. It comes down to the only thing we, as a society, expect of women is to be mothers. There’s no punishment in this particular case if you’re not, but it’s a casual reinforcement of some pernicious attitudes: that child-rearing is the ultimate end-goal in life and that you’re not a complete woman unless you have a family.

Even if you plan on being a mother some day, this is – or should be – insulting. Automatically assuming you are a mother should insult you. I am telling you right now that your only contribution is your children and that the only thing I am praising you for is having managed to have unprotected sex.

If you are childfree, it becomes extremely insulting. It completely invalidates my choice not to have children and tells me that since I am an adult woman, I logically must be a mother – anything else is inconceivable. That I willingly and freely choose not only not to be a mother yet but not to be a mother ever should be a valid, respected choice, but is instead treated as a malfunction.

If you wanted children, but could not have them for whatever reason – lack of a steady partner, infertility, adoption fell through – this is not only insulting, it is hurtful. This is a direct reminder that you should be a mother. You wanted to be a mother, and you maybe almost were. (I’m not even going to touch on “if your child died”). Assuming that oh of course you’re a mother means sweeping painful life experiences like these under the rug and blindly ignoring that in any given day, we will have several people who wanted children and could not have them. That is not good customer service, that is ripping into a wound.

Any one of these circumstances puts the woman on the spot – does she stop to explain that she’s not a mother and why? Personally, I would, because I’m sick of the attitude that everyone must want kids, even though I know the cashier probably has no control over saying shit like this. It puts women on the spot, and no matter what scenario, it stays with them for the day – especially if you’re reopening a raw wound. How many infertile women end up crying in their cars because we had to remind them that “oh haha you’re not a mother are you”? Shit, I’d probably cry in my car if that happened to me.

I hate to beat the feminism drum constantly, but this is why we need feminism. So people know there are other options for women than mother. We’re halfway there, women have options such as doctor, astronaut, prime minister (but not president), scientist, engineer, etc, etc, etc,… but it seems to me society is still going, okay but “doctor… and mom”, “astronaut… and mom”, “prime minister… and mom”, and so on. We need to learn to drop the ‘… and mom’ part.

So no, I was not wishing women a Happy Mother’s Day. Sure, some moms may have wondered why I slighted them, but I think a lot more women appreciated that I did not just assume that because they came and presented as women, they were also mothers.

I used to read the books over and over when I was growing up, so much that they’re starting to fall apart. However, as I got older, I started to notice things that made no sense in them, and faults in the characters who were my childhood heroes. Because of this, I’m reading the books less and less, as I want to remember the magic I felt as a child, not replace it with adult logic. I haven’t read the books in three years now; hopefully, the next time I read them, they’ll be as magical again.