anonymous asked:

do you take amelia as a role model? why/why not?

i absolutely do. amelia has had her fair share of mistakes & failures –– some of them small, many of them huge –– but the beautiful thing about her is that she never gives in or gives up. even when she thinks she might finally have crossed that line into unforgivable territory, she doesn’t stop trying to find redemption, maybe even happiness.

i think it’s easy to look at her, or really anyone in life, & see the bad they’ve done or the faults they have. it’s easy to say ‘she’s a drug addict, so she’s a terrible role model,’ maybe she’s a bit selfish at times, acts out, doesn’t know how to always control her emotions. she runs away. she’s indecisive in her personal life & too egotistical in her professional one. but you have to also look at their strengths & successes.

she’s fallen off the wagon four times, but she’s pulled herself back up every time. she’s been through rehab & a.a. she works in a building full of pills every day, but finds that fortitude to stay sober or to bring herself back from the brink of total annihilation. && especially after all she’s been through, every loss she’s suffered & all that pain, it would be so easy just to let herself self-destruct. but she doesn’t. she comes back. she fights. she works the steps. she does everything she can to make amends & move on. take it from someone who’s been there, it’s an amazing feat in & of itself, just to keep living & stay sober when it seems so, so much easier & even more appealing just to let yourself crash & burn. i know i’m far from the only one who’s found inspiration in her resilience.

she’s selfish sometimes & spends a lot of time in her own head, thinking about how things affect her, but she has great respect for self-care ( which everyone needs, especially when in recovery ). she looks out for herself because, honestly, no one else will. && she also has many moments of strong selflessness & is extremely loyal to people she loves, always being there for friends like addie ( offering to be her surrogate, actively being there for her after bizzy’s death, offering emotional support on numerous occasions, etc. ), charlotte ( going to meetings with her, trying to relate to her & treat her normally to help her move on after her attack, diving all in for maid of honor duty at her wedding, etc. ) & even meredith ( taking care of her house while she was gone, looking after her kids when she was home, trying to step into the void left by her brother, both when he went to d.c. & when he died, even when she’s pushed her away ). hell, she even tried to quietly be there for violet after pete died by making sure there was always someone there for her, that she would never have to feel alone or forgotten, even after everyone else had moved on. she sees these bits of herself in others & she tries to lessen their pain the way few have ever done for her.

she acts out, but she apologizes when she does wrong –– see 11x19, when she admits callie was right without hesitation to save their patient, or 12x01, when she’s the first to apologize to meredith after their morning fight, or 12x04 when she apologizes to steph for not believing her, or 12x09, when despite what they’ve been through, she tries ( albeit awkwardly ) to make amends with meredith, or pp 5x09, when she gives a desperate speech of apology & not only says it, but acts on trying to rebuild those friendships for several episodes after. as evidenced by her speech to arizona, she also knows that apologies can’t be forced, they must be lived. it’s up to the other person to decide whether they want to forgive you. these are only a few examples to say she knows not only how to say she’s sorry, but to mean it.

&& sure, she’s indecisive in her personal life & perhaps too self-confident in her professional one. both have gotten her into trouble, caused her to run away or panic. but when she realizes her mistakes, she accepts them & does her best to fix them. she powers through the overwhelm & anxiety to do what she must, & think of all the lives she’s saved in the process. it’s a distinct human trait, & she learns from her past to make herself both a better surgeon & a better person. i’d also like to add that she looks for opportunities to grow & asks questions to become a better person –– see 12x07, when she tries to better understand white privilege & every day racism ( also just listen to maggie’s incredible speech ) so she can become better at checking herself, instead of perpetuating it, no matter how accidentally it might be.

amelia shepherd is a deeply flawed character, absolutely, but she wouldn’t be interesting if she wasn’t. she wouldn’t be relatable. she wouldn’t be human. && despite being fictional, she still is that: human. she will never be perfect, but no one ever is. we all make mistakes & do things we will later regret. it’s how we learn from them & how we move on & grow that makes us worthy of being role models or inspirations. she is not defined by her faults, but rather by the strengths that coincide, just as everyone should be. && so if you ask me, she is an amazing role model.

anonymous asked:

what you said about jasper having an addiction to feeling fuse and/or powerful makes sense to me because a lot of times when you have an addiction with any substance yr gonna have a bad trip/experience but there will be one part that felt good and itll make it all worth it. and you'll want it again. idk at least this is my experience. for example opiates: they can make you sick as hell. but before/after being sick there is such a euphoric high moment that it all feels worth it

Ah, thank you!

I’m really glad to know that my theory can hold some water. I’ve discussed addiction issues a little (some time ago now) with someone who struggled with an opiate addiction, in fact, and I thought it made sense when compared to what I’d come up with regarding Jasper’s behavior last night, but it’s definitely helpful to have someone else agree, too.

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and insight on the matter! I really appreciate it! <3

it is the year 2016 can we PLEASE stop acting like cigarettes are sexy and fun they’re so gross and they kill people and how is that not like romanticizing an addiction??

okay but everyone knows nothing actually works to discourage Grantaire from drinking

like threats, bribes, interventions, programs, encouragement, games, whatever, he don’t care, they all fall flat

until one time he’s sitting next to Enjolras’ table in the Café Musain and he’s lifting his drink to his lips and Enjolras mutters something and it’s just something totally stupid and inane like, “Just lay me on a guillotine why don’t you” or something while he’s working on his homework and Grantaire overhears it and for some reason it’s just so fucking funny and he just snorts and chokes and has to set down his drink because damnit Enjolras and every time he tries to pick it up again he can’t because all he can picture is a tINY ENJOLRAS SITTING ON THE RIM OF HIS GLASS DRAMATICALLY AND SOLEMNLY PROCLAIMING HE WOULD RATHER BE GUILLOTINED and he just can’t stop snickering in exasperation and eventually he just gives up and turns to Enjolras accusingly with a glare and goes “I can’t finish my drink because of you”

and Enjolras just blinks and goes “What?” but figures it out after watching the other keep trying to drink before covering his mouth and muttering “Guillotines…” and eventually giving up

but like Enjolras intentionally does this again the next time he sees Grantaire picking up a bottle next meeting, just says something random and inane and stupid and out of place and Grantaire just snorts and has to put it down to cover his head because god fricking damn it Enjolras only it KEEPS HAPPENING

every time Enjolras spots him lifting a drink, even if he’s in the middle of a conversation on the opposite side of the room, he’ll suddenly whip his head of blonde curls around and give this intense glance and say something like “I’D SUFFER ANOTHER REIGN OF TERROR TO CHANGE THIS WEATHER” and Grantaire will just slam down the bottle cos FUCK and it’s so frustrating trying not to laugh because it’s NOT EVEN FUNNY IT’S JUST STUPID DOESN’T MAKE ANY SENSE AND FRICK

but despite the weird looks Enjolras keeps getting he still does it and it becomes his own ridiculous little anti-drinking campaign

(Grantaire swears he’s going to throttle Enjolras when the day comes that he looks at a can of beer and can only hear Enjolras’ voice pealing out some godawful French-Revolution-related pun, but as much as he won’t admit it it’s actually been having a significant effect on his intake and the more drinks he puts down the easier it is to do it when no one’s around)

((and then they make out maybe))

Samson Positive Weekend Fundraiser

UPDATE 6/10: The amazing divineleliana​ is going to be matching donations!


Thankfully, lyrium is a fictional drug. Thankfully, real people don’t need to suffer with lyrium addiction or withdrawal.

Having said that, there are plenty of us who are currently in recovery, fighting to stay in recovery, fighting to get into recovery, supporting family or friends through real-life substance abuse and recovery, and grieving for those who’ve lost the fight with substance abuse.

During Samson Positivity Weekend, I want to take some of the online positivity we’ll be generating and turn it into real-life positivity for a group of people that Raleigh Samson would be able to identify with. The Templars in Dragon Age don’t have the benefit of rehab centers, but addicts in our world do.

For every new, original post that appears in the #samsonpositive tag on June 13th and 14th, I’ll donate $5USD to a local substance abuse rehab center (up to $300USD total).

I’ll be tracking the #samsonpositive tag and reblogging entries that contribute to the fundraiser with “#$5″, “#samson fundraiser”, and the current amount we’ve raised as of that post. Once the weekend is over and the tally is counted, I’ll make the donation.

I won’t be counting re-blogs of older content. I’m only counting new content. It can be fanfic, meta, poetry, art, sketches, songs, spoken word, image edits, headcanon, gifs, videos, screenshots; anything that you put time and effort into about Raleigh Samson for #samsonpositive Weekend.

“Positive” weekend doesn’t necessarily mean “happy” or “fluffy” to me, it can be anything that contributes to an appreciation of the character. It can be sad, it can be angry, it can be purely analytical. I don’t shy away from character critique and analysis - he has flaws and they can all be explored without devolving into shitting on his character.

I can’t wait to see what y’all come up with for Samson Positivity Weekend on June 13th and 14th!

I shouldn’t need to say this, but I will anyway: I will not be counting content that sexualizes or fetishizes addiction or addicts.


I’ve already spoken with raleighsamsonsdick (bless ur new username) and cleared the idea with them before announcing this fundraiser to supplement Samson Postivity Weekend.

chicagoist.com
Evidence Of The Corporatization Of Pride Parade, In One Pie Chart

Today, I (Riley Konor AKA Riley Kollaritsch) had the pleasure of doing an interview with Rachel Cromidas who writes for the Chicagoist. We discussed the corporatisation of lgbtq+ Pride parades these days, and this is the result:

For better or worse, corporations love Chicago’s Annual LGBTQ Pride Parade. Evidence of this fact could be found everywhere at this year’s parade, from the “I Eat Tacos” buttons passed out by Chipotle reps via a burrito-shaped float to the Google logo-emblazoned sunglasses carted around in a Google Van to the local fitness center employees whose custom T-shirts read “Less Work, More Out!” Acceptance is very, very in these days. And while many take heart to see rainbows and glitter across their favorite brands, some LGBTQ-rights advocates are increasingly divided over whether that’s unequivocally a good thing—particularly if it’s coming at the expense of the radical politics that characterized the Stonewall Riots that birthed the modern pride movement.

Some parade-goers have been complaining for years that Chicago’s pride festivities have gone corporate, and in the process turned into a commercialized spectacle and yet another excuse for straight people to day drink in the streets. Some LGBTQ revelers have simply chosen to stay home from the parade in response; others have turned to the growing Chicago Dyke Marchfor a more indie alternative and still others have opted to bring their displeasure to the parade itself, as a group of #BlackLivesMatter protesters did last week, with a die-in style protest that brought the parade to a halt.

To test the theory, Illinois-resident Riley Kollaritsch crunched the numbersof parade participants, listed on the parade’s website, and graphed them with a pie chart by organization type. Kollaritsch, 27, a writer and creator of the website Project Queer, found that corporate-representation did appear to surpass LGBTQ groups at this year’s parade—several times over. His graph shows there were 132 floats or parade slots held by corporations, compared to 11 LGBTQ groups, 1 bisexual group, 1 trans group and 5 groups related to queer people of color.

Pride Parade and Fest planners did not respond to requests for comment from Chicagoist Monday afternoon.

Kollaritsch told Chicagoist the graph confirmed what he already suspected, after trekking out to the parade from his home in Marseilles for several years. “Pride has become a very heterosexual spectacle nowadays,” he said. “It’s not about the roots of why Pride was started, and it’s not about the people who started it anymore, the [trans and queer people] who took it to the streets and made this a thing.”

Though some may disagree with this perspective, arguing that mainstream acceptance and visibility beget acceptance and visibility, Kollaritsch’s response is nuanced.

“It depends on the corporation. A lot of the corporations that take part happen to be quite harmful to our movement, like alcohol companies that target our communities even when something like 30 percent of our community struggles with alcoholism and drug addiction,” he said. “I like to have the support of a company that genuinely cares, but if it’s somebody just trying to take advantage without doing anything to give back to the community, then I don’t think it’s appropriate at all.”

Addiction doesn’t suddenly become worthy of your respect when we’re success stories. Respect us all because it’s a hella fucking difficult battle that we’re fighting not even every day but fucking MINUTES at a time. Respect the addicts who die from their addiction, even if they’re not famous. Respect the addicts who win the battle but respect us who lose, too. Respect the celebrity who’s 22 years sober. Respect the homeless woman who dies in the streets. Respect us when we relapse, even if it’s the 5th time this month. Respect us when we don’t. But don’t forget about us just because we’re not Robert Downey fucking Junior. We’re all fighting the same battle here. 

Addiction RP (Closed)

Within the last week, Eren had noticed an obvious change in Armin’s normal behavior. He seemed to be becoming more distant and kept to himself. Instead of eating lunch with him, he’d make the excuse that he didn’t feel well and go straight to the “nurses office”. Instead of walking home with him he would claim that he had “errands” to run and would go off on his on. He didn’t even make the effort to great him in the hallways anymore.

Although they did share an apartment together, It didn’t seem like it at all. The only time Eren would ever see him was for a few brief moments at night, when Armin finally got home, just before he went to bed.

There was one last thing that Eren noticed and seemed to bother him the most.

Armin seemed to have found some new “friends”. Normally he would be happy for him. Or at least he would be if these “friends” weren’t the same group of guys that used to torment the boy on a regular basis. This was why Eren just knew they were the reason Armin was acting so strangely. He was sure of it.

Once evening, though, after Eren got home from school, Armin was surprisingly at home. He was sitting in the living room… surrounded by bottles of alcohol?

@askswiggityswaegererenjaeger

I am so here for all addicts. You either stand with all of us or you stand with none of us 

  • hard drug addicts 
  • alcoholics
  • cigarrette addicts 
  • addicts that relapse every day
  • addicts that went years without relapse 
  • marijuana addicts whose addiction is downplayed because weed isn’t “addictive” (surprise, anything can be addicting) 
  • self-harm addicts 
  • addicts that are sex workers 
  • people with disordered eating 
  • addicts who have been in and out of the program 
  • addicts who can’t work a program/can’t work with a sponsor 
  • addicts of color who don’t have easy access to recovery programs and are more stigmatized than white addicts 
  • chronically ill addicts who have a hard time separating their addictive behaviors from their medicating 
  • trans addicts 
  • LGB+/SGA addicts
  • homeless addicts 
  • addicts that reuse needles and can’t make it to a needle exchange 
  • disabled addicts 
  • food addicts 
  • sex addicts 
  • addicts with HIV/AIDS and/or hepatitis C from sharing needles 

Feel free to add more (addicts and recovering/recovered addicts only) 

anonymous asked:

Please, can you help? I’ve been working on an witch oc who’s hypersexual because of some childhood trauma. I wanted to ask if their are any guides about writing hypersexual characters that’ll help? I don’t want her to come of as another ‘thirsty’ female oc, a label that most hypersexual characters are given in this community. This isn’t something that defines her. ;(

A masterlist of categorized links on hypersexuality including guides, about, and Youtube videos.

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thefreethoughtproject.com
The Drug War is Such a Violent Failure, the Surgeon General is Speaking Up for the First Time Ever
It’s a new year, and finally, a new voice will be added to the drug war debate. The federal government will actually get scientific input on drugs, and it will make prohibition look all that much more absurd.

Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, the nation’s top public health official, will be “presenting the state of the science on substance use, addiction and health,” in the first-ever report from that office.

“It’s time for us to have a conversation in this country that’s based on facts; A conversation that’s based on medicine and science. Which is why I’m proud to announce that next year, I will be releasing the first-ever Surgeon General’s Report on substance use, addiction, and health. We’re going to look at the best science on everything, from heroin and marijuana, to alcohol and prescription opioids.”

The report’s broad scope will look at the impact of all drugs, legal and illicit, “with the goal of capturing the current landscape of the impact of alcohol and drug issues on health…” to work toward “prevention, treatment and recovery.” The Surgeon General’s report will also address “ethical, legal and policy issues,” and those conclusions will be eagerly awaited by those who are fighting to end the senseless, immoral War on Drugs.

CLICK ON THE HEADER LINK TO READ THE FULL ARTICLE.

I struggled with whether to put this out there, because it is clear many people are having a negative reaction to the sneak peak, and I am not here to tell you that you aren’t entitled to your feelings or wrong. I did, however, want to offer a different perspective. So read on if you want a therapist’s take on the sneak peak with Emma and Regina, and if not, that is totally cool!

Keep reading

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The Science of Drug Abuse and Addiction

What is drug addiction?

Addiction is defined as a chronic, relapsing brain disease that is characterized by compulsive drug seeking and use, despite harmful consequences. It is considered a brain disease because drugs change the brain; they change its structure and how it works. These brain changes can be long lasting and can lead to many harmful, often self-destructive, behaviors.

Why study drug abuse and addiction?

Abuse of and addiction to alcohol, nicotine, and illegal substances cost Americans upwards of half a trillion dollars a year (the combined medical, economic, criminal, and social impact). Every year, the abuse of illicit drugs and alcohol contributes to the death of more than 100,000 Americans, while tobacco is linked to an estimated 440,000 deaths per year.

How are drug disorders categorized?

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) is a diagnostic manual used by clinicians, that contains descriptions and symptoms of all mental disorders classified by the American Psychiatric Association. The DSM uses the term “substance use disorders” to characterize illnesses associated with drug use. There are two broad categories: substance abuse and substance dependence. Both are associated with a maladaptive pattern of substance use that leads to clinically significant impairment. Drug abuse includes such symptoms as:

  • failure to fulfill major role obligations;
  • legal problems;
  • use in situations that are physically hazardous; and
  • continued use despite persistent social or interpersonal problems.

The term dependence includes such symptoms as:

  • drug taking in larger amounts than intended;
  • inability to cut down on drug use;
  • a great deal of time spent in activities necessary to obtain the drug; and
  • continued use despite knowledge of health or social problems caused by the drug.

Dependence may or may not include “physical dependence,” defined by withdrawal symptoms when drug use is abruptly ceased, and “tolerance,” the need for more drug to achieve a desired effect. The DSM term “dependence” is what NIDA refers to as “addiction.”

What is the difference between “physical dependence,” dependence, and addiction?

Physical dependence is not equivalent to dependence or addiction and may occur with the chronic use of any substance, legal or illegal, even when taken as prescribed. It occurs because the body naturally adapts to chronic exposure to a substance (e.g., caffeine or a prescription drug), and when that substance is taken away, symptoms can emerge while the body readjusts to the loss of the substance. Physical dependence can lead to craving for the drug to relieve the withdrawal symptoms. Drug dependence and addiction refer to drug or substance use disorders, which may include physical dependence but must also meet additional criteria.

read more from the text source (drugabuse.gov)

photos from ‘Inside a Romanian Drug House’ photo issue of Time Magazine

Drug Addiction

Can I just say that it doesn’t fucking matter if a person is addicted to drugs, because of it being theoretically 100% their own doing: trying drugs repeatedly. That’s really not the point. You shouldn’t treat a person like shit for being addicted even if they made this theoretically improbable 100% conscious and knowledgeable decision to get addicted. If they’re trying to quit, or even if they aren’t, they’re still people who should be treated human. Stop with your dehumanising bullshit.