anonymous asked:

Is it wrong to purposely be nonverbal sometimes? What I mean is I know that if I try really hard I COULD be verbal but it would be much easier and less stressful to just stop speaking in situations where I feel I have to force the words out. I know there's so many people who can't help being nonverbal so I feel bad that in most situations I can force myself to speak, I just didn't know if it was ok to let myself be nonverbal to help myself deal with the situations where I feel like I need to be

Hey anon-friend.

Is it wrong to purposely be nonverbal sometimes? Is it wrong to purposely be nonverbal sometimes? What I mean is I know that if I try really hard I COULD be verbal but it would be much easier and less stressful to just stop speaking in situations where I feel I have to force the words out.

Nah. It’s not wrong. Just like how it’s not wrong to sit when you could stand, or put down your bag when you could keep holding it. Like how it’s not wrong to use a wheelchair when you can technically walk.

To expand on that last example using my own experiences; there are some days when I might be able to walk a bit, but I would be able to go farther, do more, and be in less pain at the end of the day if I use my wheelchair.

So, if I know I’m going to be out for 4 hours, I could:

a) Force myself to walk for an hour before switching to my chair because I’m tired and in pain, which makes for the next 3 hours being kinda sucky, or

b) Intentionally use my chair from the beginning, even if my pain is manageable and I have energy. This option saves me future pain and potential injury, and also lets me use my energy for other things.

As an autistic person, it’s a very similar situation with speaking. It’s an energy suck and you should feel free to toss the expectation of spoken speech overboard if that’s what is best for you.

As for myself, I do choose not to speak at times, or I choose to use a combination of AAC and speech.

I know there’s so many people who can’t help being nonverbal so I feel bad that in most situations I can force myself to speak, I just didn’t know if it was ok to let myself be nonverbal to help myself deal with the situations where I feel like I need to be

It is okay to save your words. It is okay to choose AAC over speech. It is okay to dedicate that brain power and energy to things you consider more important and living life in general.

Forcing speech can lead to meltdowns and shutdowns. It also contributes to burnout, which sucks, so choosing not to speak can be a way to recover from or prevent those things. 

It’s okay not to force yourself, just like it’s okay when I choose to take my wheelchair on days when I might be able to force myself into walking a bit. You should do what you need to do.

I hope this was helpful.

Okay I gotta frigging infodump about this!!!

Optimus’ theme in the Transformers movies. It is literally, and I mean literally, the sound of his Spark-pulse.

Grab your headphones or pull a speaker up to your ear and listen.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=thMRCRxJR8o

Do you hear that faint tink-tink-tink noise of violinists plucking instead of moving the bow? That’s the pulse of the piece. THAT IS OPTIMUS’ SOUL. That sound is present throughout the entire song. It’s the first thing you hear and the last thing you hear. It’s there, even when other instruments almost drown it out. It is still there.

Then you get this flute to establish the melody. I think it’s a flute, but it could be an oboe. They sound very similar to me. Anyway, why is it so sad? Because his Spark is sad. He watched his world die, and he’s part of the reason it had to die. He’s watching his war spread to another world that is totally unprepared. He can’t let that world die, too. But he feels alone, because who do you look up to when you are the one at the top? To be a Prime is to feel alone.

And suddenly that flute changes. Now there’s strings and brass playing the melody and voices come in as a bit of “coloration” that makes me think of light. That is the courage coming out. That is the Prime in Optimus Prime. That is where he is looking ahead and deciding he will do whatever it takes to protect other worlds from the same fate as Cybertron. That is hope. That is Optimus standing up and saying “Freedom is the right of all sentient beings.”

Here comes the percussion. The same melodic line played in the previous section repeats, but now it has percussion behind it. What is that? It’s Optimus charging into battle. It’s his determination to protect, to sacrifice and to fight for what is right. The voices rise and that is glow of his Spark brightening into his optics as he stands up for what he believes in.

Even Optimus’ beliefs can be shaken. Sometimes he loses sight of his goals. But, in the ruin of his doubts, he always rises again and again to fight for freedom.

And THAT is what is in his Spark and THAT is what his theme sounds like.

i was reading an article just now about how it’s common and typical for toddlers to intentionally bang their heads against things when they’re stressed/tired, and they can’t actually do it with enough force to hurt themselves

the article said not to worry unless your toddler also does “other troubling behaviors, such as repetitive motions (like hand-flapping and rocking)”

my first reaction: my autistic ass has “troubling behaviors” 👍

my second reaction: autistic people’s natural ways of being are “troubling” now? cool story bro 😎

my third reaction: troubling behaviors would be a great name for an all-autistic punk band

anonymous asked:

What kind of things could a service dog do to help me w autism?

A service dog can help with a variety of things! 

For those that have dyspraxia, a service dog could assist with those fine motor skills by picking up dropped items, retrieving meds, pulling open drawers, and opening doors. They can also alert to alarms, people at the door, people coming up behind you, etc. 

The service dog could perform deep pressure therapy, or DPT, to help calm an autistic individual during a meltdown, shutdown, or episode. 

They can guide you throughout a crowded area to a quieter, less populated location. 

Another thing that an autism service dog could do is alert to an oncoming meltdown, shutdown, episode, etc. and assist in preventing it. One task that is common is alerting and stopping harmful stimming behaviour like hitting, biting, head banging, etc.

The best thing to remember however I’d that every autistic individual’s needs vary. So not all of these tasks may be taught.

-Soren

hey so just a tip when you see a positivity post dont add stuff like: 

  • “wish any of this was true”
  • “wish this was true about me”
  • “lol none of this applies to me, im shit”

it makes the op feel like shit when they were making themself and others feel better

especially on positivity posts about things that there arent many positive posts about

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anonymous asked:

tafw the tumblr app updates and they moved the bar thingie so it's at the bottom instead and it's awful enough to overcome any executive dysfunction to research how to roll back and install a previous update. i even left a review which i never do bc i feel awkward and don't know how to phrase things. luckily it was a p easy thing bc i'm p sure i'd have had a meltdown if i had had to use the app with the new update for more than 5 seconds. - mermaid asks

Looking for an ASD shirt!

Hey guys!
I’m looking for an autism-positive shirt I can wear in college. (So idk something autism positive but not specifically referring to me?)
Since I live in Germany many shops don’t post to here or postage is hell. The ones on amazon (the ones that aren’t aimed at / made by Autism Parents™ OR have the puzzle piece) aren’t really what I’m looking for.
Oh and the shirt *has* to be black.
Would be cool to get some suggestions :)