The reason why you first found out about asexuality online, is because it has been very hard for asexuals to organize offline for years leading up to the internet. We did not have platforms like this until the mid-2000s.
Sure, we had forums here and there but they were slow-growing and harder to find since awareness of us was small. The reason why there seems to have been a “boom” in numbers among the asexual community could be that:
1) Asexual people weren’t organized into one place to this degree until recently, because the internet facilitates better organization due to how easy and flexible it is to use for communication.
2) People in general are becoming more aware of our existence, including asexual people who had no idea that their experiences were not isolated abnormalities but rather a real and valid identity.
3) Offline spaces for asexuals are sparse and given that the number of asexual people in the world is small by comparison to non-asexual identities, it’s not uncommon for some asexuals to never run into another asexual offline.
I mean, that is in my humble opinion as an asexual person who has actually lived through these developments and who has actually had these experiences, but you know, what do I know?
The internet is useful to every community, but it is especially useful and necessary to the asexual community. Flooding our tags (and every new tag we create) with anti-ace rhetoric cuts us off from our community.
It is mentally and emotionally abusive, in that people enjoy causing us distress. It is manipulative, in that the goal is to force asexuals to doubt themselves and their experiences. There is no justification in saying “it’s just a tag.”
You are trying to dismantle a whole community meant to help asexual people, because you misunderstand, disagree with, and vehemently hate us or a few of us for ridiculous reasons. No argument in favor of this tactic is justifiable.
Not only are asexuals being gate-kept from spaces they’ve been a part of prior to the internet, but they’re being gate-kept from their own resources, language, and spaces that asexuals have themselves developed.
I don’t want to hear about how problematic the asexual community is, as a justification for dismantling our own community. If that logic were applied to every community, then all communities would be dismantled.
There are problems in every community. Speaking over us, and policing how we organize and what resources we use doesn’t solve that. Discrediting us because the internet is where we primarily organize doesn’t solve that.
You’re just being an ass, and you’re not here for any good cause. You were either raised into a discourse culture that condoned these tactics, or you took part in developing them to make yourself feel important.
The problem is with you. Not that asexuals primarily organize online. Not that asexuals use tags that help them communicate. Not that asexual people are discovering who they are online.
The problem is with you.