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Auror - A Dangerous Job

(Day 9 of 30 day OTP challenge - Hugging)

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As an Auror, Harry Potter had a dangerous job. Draco wasn’t happy with it. Actually, he was quite unhappy with it. He tried not to voice it often because Harry seemed to love his job. But Draco absolutely 100% detested it.

He was sick and tired of waiting for another mission to end and hope that it would be Harry coming home via the floo and not another Ministry worker informing him that his husband had died in action.

Or sometimes it was St. Mungo’s calling. Draco hated those calls as well. He hated seeing Harry injured and sometimes - even unconscious. He couldn’t take it for much longer.

As a matter of fact, he was at his limits. Harry had gone missing during the last mission three days day. There were no clues and no theories. Nothing. The Ministry had told Draco that missing Aurors rarely turned out alive. 

So Draco had been on Calming Drought and a few other stronger potions the past two days. He had panicked, he had shouted, he had even cried himself to sleep. The bags under his eyes were worse than ever and he hadn’t bothered to style his hair so it just sticked out miserably. He had put one of Harry’s favourite shirts on. It made him feel both worse and better. 

His stomach growled loudly and Draco realized he’d barely eaten anything. He stood up to go to the kitchen when the floo activated. Draco watched it with fear. His heart was beating fast and he was unintentionally holding his breath in anticipation. 

The first thing he realized was that the person who stepped through the floo was an Auror. Those crimson robes - he could recognize them anywhere. And the second thing he realized, not even a second later, was that the said Auror was Harry Potter. 

Draco pounced. A surge of energy run through him and he crossed the distance between them in record time. He clutched at Harry, arms winding around Harry’s waist. He buried his face in the crook of Harry’s neck and let relief wash over him. 

Harry hugged him back. One hand was gently petting Draco’s hair. 

“Ron told me you took my disappearance… badly.” Harry mumbled. “Maybe… I think I’ll look for another job. I… I love you more than I love being an Auror.”

Draco hiccuped and his hold around Harry tightened. He couldn’t speak. The tears were making it too difficult. So, instead, Harry spoke again.

“Thanks for never telling me to quit.”

anonymous asked:

What do you think about Arya and Jon as a ship? I know it makes people uncomfortable because they have such an established and loving sibling relationship and i'm pretty sure Grrm isn't going down that route with them anymore....BUT lol I still think the idea of them together is appealing. I also think there's some romantic undertones in the language grrm uses when they think of each other but that's probably just me sighs. All I know is their reunion is gonna kill me lol

Me and @thenedfur were recently discussing how the Jonerys vs. Jonsa fandom war is actually a Stark vs. Targaryen fandom war. Jon is both – the question is, what side will he choose to embrace? Who he falls in love with and marries is ultimately a reflection of the character was a whole. The reason Jonsa is the most popular Jon ship (it is, based on fanfic, meta production and non-freefolk activity, Jonsa stans you gotta stop feeling so threatened) is because this is Jon choosing the Starks. Falling in love with any Targaryen seems like a violation of Jon Snow’s very Starkiness.

In this discussion, we agreed that Jonrya would be A LOT more popular if Arya was a serious contender right now. Really, any Northern girl would be quite popular. 

But I do think GRRM changed his mind because Arya wasn’t able to age as much as he originally intended. Though cousin incest, and emotional half-sibling incest, could be explained away, Arya will likely be 12 by the ending of ADOS. And though GRRM has implied Arya can still save the world if she’s 12, I genuinely do not think he’s going to have Jon Snow fuck a 12 year old. 

Yes, child brides are a thing. Child Brides have certainly not been seen as a good or romantic thing in-universe. Sansa/Tyrion in the book was horrifying, for instance. Besides,  GRRM himself said it’s unhealthy and rare:

In the “general Westerosi view,” well, girls may well be wed before their first flowerings, for political reasons, but it would considered perverse to bed them. And such early weddings, even without sex, remain rare. Generally weddings are postponed until the bride has passed from girlhood to maidenhood. Maidens may be wedded and bedded… however, even there, many husbands will wait until the bride is fifteen or sixteen before sleeping with them. Very young mothers tend to have significantly higher rates of death in childbirth, which the maesters will have noted.

A lot of Arya’s original outline plots have already been given away. Meera was created to take over the going North of the wall with Bran thing. But Arya got lots of other cool plots, and likely she will still be a huge part of saving the world. The part of the original outline that hasn’t changed is likely what was blacked out.

All of this is to say: I don’t think Jonrya is happening. 

For the record, I also don’t think book!Arya is gonna do anything sexually with Gendry. If that happens, it will be epilogue kinda stuff? Same with Jonrya, if it does happen it will have to be at the very, very end. 

That being said: the ship itself is appealing. The way it plays out in the original outline would have been really compelling and romantic. But Arya is different in the original outline, too. I still think she will be a lot like that person when she ages, but that will be beyond the scope of ASOIAF. 

There are objectively romantic undertones to Jonrya as it stands in book canon. There is clear foreshadowing. The original outline even proves Arya was destined to fall for Jon. There is vastly more Jonrya foreshadowing than there is Jonerys, but I do think a lot of said foreshadowing has been turned into a relationship that will end up being purely platonic. GRRM himself says he wishes  he regrets some foreshadowing in his earlier works…*

As it stands: Jonrya is the one pure thing in ASOIAF, and this will remain true whether their relationship is platonic or romantic. Their love for one another is beautiful and perfect and their reunion will be epic no matter what the ultimate outcome of it is. They mean the most to each other, more than anyone else. I don’t think the AA/NN prophecy is real, but if it was, Arya is literally the only person who could be NN, even if their love is just platonic, even if he marries/falls in love with Sansa or Daenerys. Arya Stark is literally (well, figuratively, but whatever) Jon Snow’s heart.

A lot of Targ-stans think Jon will move south and abandon his family (ugh) or that the Starks and Arya will stop meaning so much to Jon because they were only children. But in my opinion that’s why their relationship to one another is so important to the story and Jon’s character in particular. Arya loved and admired Jon when he was nothing, before he became a King, when he was just the bastard of Winterfell. Sure, Bran and Robb and Rickon (RIP) did too. But Jon was Arya’s absolute favourite person because of who he was, his character, not because what he’d done or what he’s achieved. She had complete faith in Jon Snow before he ever proved himself. 

Arya may be Jon’s heart, but this is also a broader reflection of his character and a clear indication on what his future trajectory is. To Jon, Arya is Winterfell, Arya is innocence, Arya is his childhood, Arya is still having hope in the world, Arya is being loved unconditionally. There’s a reason he became an oathbreaker for her and not for Ygritte. Currently, I’m fairly certain Jon does not see Arya romantically. Like 99.9% sure. Being angry she was in Ramsay Bolton’s bed was because she was an 11 year old he didn’t want to see raped, not because he wanted to have sex with her. But Arya is family, Arya is his little sister. If you believe Jon/Ygritte was true love or even just passion, he still didn’t violate his obligations to his people for her. He betrayed her, and she died. But he canonically has broken his oath to save fake Arya. And he died for it.

In Jon’s story, family** and duty are more important than love. This is quite literally the appeal of Jon. For this reason, a platonic Jon/Arya relationship is far more powerful than any romantic relationship Jon could have at this point. 

To Arya, Jon is important because he is so associated with home to her. And being protected, and being loved unconditionally, and being able to be whoever she wants to be. But most importantly, he represents safety and certainty. From the moment they parted ways, she has been unsafe and essentially alone. She learns how horrible the world is. But even though she knows everyone is duplicitous or dead or has abandoned her, she is still completely certain Jon would protect her no matter what. No matter his vows to the NW. And she’s right. He would. Though a lot of emphasis is placed on what an evil bully Sansa was to Arya, Jon was the only person who really accepted Arya on her own terms. He gave her Needle excitedly and with love. Ned allowed her to fight with it after it became apparent how willful she was. But she was still expected to become a lady eventually, no matter what…

In Arya’s story, going home is the most important thing. Jon is her home. Winterfell isn’t her home on it’s own, it’s the people there who she misses. On it’s own it’s nothing. Once WF fell, she could still have that home and safety with Jon at the wall. Going home is much more important than romantic love, especially because Arya is like 11. However, these things and romantic love are not mutually exclusive in any way.

TL;DR If Jonrya were to happen, I would be into it unless she was too young, but even though I don’t think it actually is happening, their platonic relationship is still incredibly important.

*he didn’t specifically say this was about Jonrya, but it is a possibility.
**to any targ-stans reading this, the Starks are Jon’s ~*~real*~*~ family and always will be.

willamdelrio  asked:

Alright, this is going to be my last message. Liv's love for Fitz isn't a weakness. I didn't say that. But Fitz is her weakness - if a villain wanted to control her, they would hurt Fitz. And Liv is Fitz's weakness. It's not a bad thing, it just is. My only problem is that the writers chose to maker her weakness a character like him, because it's a theme we see repeated over and over again. I really admire your eloquence. Thank you for replying to my messages! xxx

Ok, since we are writing our good-byes, lol, this will be mine. It’s a long one…

I like words. I like them so much, sometimes I think it’s important for the discussion that we define key terminology we are using. I do not do it to be patronizing or facetious. It seems we have a miscommunication over the word “weakness”.

Here’s your direct quote from your last message to me:

“…It just seems sort of disempowering to me to make her weakness a white republican politician, as if “even Olivia pope falls on her knees for this perfect white man.” I’m sorry. But I guess that’s just because again, I just don’t see enough positive or mature traits in Fitz (to me, he’s just a whiny child a lot of the time, but I accept that you feel differently).”flymetothelostmoon

According to my interpretation, you are saying that having a black woman be “weak” for a “perfect” (don’t know how you arrived at that deduction) white man is disempowering. The very thing for which she appears to be “weak” in your eyes IS her love for Fitz. You then go on in your current argument to state that others try to exploit Olivia via Fitz. The only way that  is possible is through love. Therefore, you are indeed accusing that Olivia’s love for Fitz is a “weakness”. Speaking of which…

Weakness (n):

the state or condition of lacking strength.

“the country’s weakness in international dealings”

synonyms:

frailty, feebleness, enfeeblement, fragilitydelicacy; More

a quality or feature regarded as a disadvantage or fault.

“you must recognize your product’s strengths and weaknesses”

synonyms:

faultflawdefectdeficiency, weak point, failingshortcoming, weak link,imperfectionAchilles heelfoible

a person or thing that one is unable to resist or likes excessively.

“you’re his one weakness—he should never have met you”

 

So in every which way, “weakness” is not a word people use favourably. It is not a word by which people want to identify themselves. I’m going to quote what I said last night in a follow-up q&a:

“I have a problem in general with how some people view “weakness”. The root of the issue is that we see and value “strength” in really narrow, masculinist terms. Therefore anything that falls outside those narrow confines is seen as “weakness”. It becomes a kind of feminized trait to be eradicated, especially if you wanna get your grown woman on. It’s ridiculous. We are all made vulnerable by someone, or something…”

You could just as easily say that Mellie is made “weak” by the supposed love she has for Fitz. That Fitz is made “weak” by his love for Olivia. That Olivia is made “weak” by her familial love for her father. I think the better word to use when we are talking about Olivia and her love for Fitzgerald is “vulnerability”, which means open to attack, harm, or manipulation. All of that is true. But is the vulnerable party at fault, or is it the motherfuckers who try to take advantage of the vulnerability?

From where I am sitting, it’s the latter. Vaginas are open to attack, harm or manipulation by their very existence on a human woman. You wouldn’t call having a vagina a weakness, would you? Yet the possession of one was the basis on which Olivia’s father, Jake, Cyrus and god-knows-who-else manipulated Olivia in S2 B with that misogynistic ass seduction story line. You see, her father thought Olivia was just Fitz’s favourite concubine, and that if evidence could be shown to Fitz that Olivia slept with another man, then surely he would reject her. Literally, that was the premise and it did not work because Fitz is not that kind of asshole. So, again, loving someone isn’t a “weakness” so much as it is can make you vulnerable, ceding a sense of control.

So here we have the perfect storm of Ms. Pope being at the intersection of blackness and femaleness, wrapped in the inherent imperfection of humanity. Actually, I guess this discussion is about the impression that Olivia is made “weak” by the writer because she doesn’t love the right person.  Fitz’s good and bad qualities are not the point at all, so we can agree to disagree on him as a love interest.  This discussion is about Olivia’s choice in love interest. But you do say that a black woman loving a character “like [Fitz]” is a theme we see over and over again. What is that exactly? Black women who genuinely desire a white male love interest (as opposed to being in love with whiteness as means of salvation from black self-hatred—itself promulgated by racism)? A pulled-together black woman being in love with someone others regard as a fuck boy? Black women whose projection of perfection belies a more complicated being underneath? What is it that we see “repeated over and over again”? By the way, are you totes OK with the problematic relationship of Olivia and Jake?

The core issue of our discussion from tonight and today is an insistence that there is a type of man to whom our black anti heroine  would be most suited. A suitable boy, if you will. Or perhaps, you wish for our heroine not to be made vulnerable in any way by romantic love at all. Perhaps, then Olivia could exist as some feminist fantasy trope instead of a woman who wants and is going after everything. And I’m saying that as a feminist who rejects the paternalism of grown women telling other grown women how to behave in order to further the cause of equality. Similarly with my own folk—black folk—I reject the notion of embodying some Christian respectability (cultivated as a direct response to the de-humanization of racism) as the antidote to racism. Because then I don’t get to be fucked up and human in my own way.  Reading Olivia as “disempowered” by the love she chooses tells me that you don’t see Olivia’s full being as a character, but rather her archetype. You seem to judge Fitz in the same way: a representation of white perfection, which is a way of seeing that is absolutely dismissive to the point of caricature.

I want you to be aware that the lens through which you are regarding Olivia convinces you that she is “disempowered” (your word) through her choice in lover because that lover is white (you have emphasized his whiteness in every single response, so clearly that’s a problem for you), yet perplexedly simultaneously “perfect” and “selfish, immature and self-entitled” (again, your words). You are reading the narrative as Olivia being in-love with the idea of perfection of whiteness (“even Olivia Pope falls to her knees for this perfect white man”). I think you have to dismiss a great deal of the narrative in order to arrive at that conclusion, so I reject it. It’s too simplistic and doesn’t work.

You know what would be actually disempowering? If, in order to be considered “strong” or “great”, Olivia had to choose between the imperfect love that fulfills a great desire within her, and being a kick-ass business owner who restores order. If Olivia had to be judged in narrow masculinist terms of “strength” and “power” to be seen as powerful. If everything Olivia’s brilliance and slayage loses their shine for the audience because she wears the battles scares of familial and romantic love. Now that is disempowering.

Before you cry “the writers!” when you disagree with the parts of the narrative, question yourself on why you don’t do that for aspects of the narrative you accept. Why is what you accept more valid for the writers to portray? Our readings are only as good as our eyesight—and those are limited.