actually i wasn't thinking at all

anonymous asked:

How can I tell if I'm actually going through emotional abuse and not just being overemotional?

well, here’s a few signs:

  • if you are scared of somebody 
  • if they call you names, invalidate your feelings, apologize insincerely for upsetting you, or manipulate you
  • if somebody has ever called you “worthless”, “useless”, “good for nothing”, or any other variation of telling you that you don’t have value
  • if you think about all your actions in words in terms of “will this make them mad at me” because they tend to get mad over small things
  • if you feel like you have to change your demeanor and personality to suit them because otherwise they’ll be angry
  • if you can’t set up boundaries like “take time to cool down when you’re mad so you don’t call me names”
  • if you don’t have a space that is just yours for at least some time during each day because they invade it
  • if you fear they will go through your phone, diary, journal, etc
  • if you are asking “am i being emotionally abused” that’s also a pretty big indicator that you are

radnydoesthing  asked:

You know, I was worried for you hearing about how you were gonna do this video but I think you made it very fairly and not offensively! You had a lot of solid points and there wasn't much opinion put into it. If anyone complains they're really babies

Actually… there is some offensive and dark jokes in the video… but thanks goodness everyone watch it as a jokes and undestand the real point of the video; Respect how everyone is

I was SUPER scared to upload this video!!! OOH BOY SUPER SCARED!!!! why?? well darky jokes, I like dark jokes sooo I put jokes in all my videos… I am super happy with how everyone react it to it, I am soo happy about this video.

I really enjoy making Pelo Talks about society problems  + puting some darky/unfunny/example jokes, it’s kinda scary because the problems I had (specially here) thanks to my kind of jokes… but yeah! I am super happy of how yall react it

Thanks to yall for sharing your opinions, even if you don’t agree with the video


now let’s wait for another pelo talks war… or maybe one with the yin yang, idk

  • Me: Listen, I can't make you NOT watch 13 Reasons Why, but I can tell you that it has 2 rape scenes and a graphic depiction of suicide, and almost all studies conducted on the subject have found that media reports containing graphic images and explanations of the specific suicide methodology have led to increased likelihood of imitative suicidal behaviors, especially in vulnerable populations such as young people and people with depression, and that most suicide prevention organizations actually advise against a lot of the storytelling techniques employed in this show, and if the the showrunners had been fully committed to suicide prevention they would have sacrificed some of the disturbing imagery and incorporated some of the experts' recommenda--
  • You, an intellectual: No YOU listen, sweetie. I HAD depression and I wasn't triggered at all, so why would anyone else be triggered by it? Also I think it's kind of fucked up that you're telling people not to watch such an important show because it has such a strong message, and you criticizing that message kind of makes you no better than the characters in the show. So maybe you should think about THAT.
  • Kimberly: we have English together
  • what Trini is thinking: actually we have biology together and i know this because i keep failing on all the quizzes because I'm always too busy staring at the back of your gorgeous head to actually pay attention to anything the teacher is saying, and by the way, how do you get your hair to look so perfect all the time? Speaking of perfect, your eyes are like the perfect shade of brown, they're so deep and mysterious, i could get lost in them all day long. I mean, if I wasn't gay before, I'm definitely gay now because of your beautiful brown eyes, and wow your lips are so full, and look so soft, i wish i could feel them on mine
  • what Trini actually says: actually we have biology together

Okay, so I was talking in my other post how fucked up it is that straight people press their sexuality on queer people because they see them as “broken”, even to the point of intentionally hurting their own family members, and it reminded me of something that happened to me awhile back.

Firstly, it must be understood that my brother has been trying to hook me up with someone, specifically a guy, for years. One, because I’m a virgin (gasp!), Two, because I’m on the asexual spectrum and have never been interested in sex whatsoever, and Three, because I’m biromantic and he apparently can’t stand the thought of me pairing off with a woman instead of man, with whom I could have a million babies and be the perfect nuclear family and blah blah blah … (My brother is disturbingly obsessed with carrying on one’s genetics–especially if you’re smart and white–but that’s some shit for another day)

Alright, so, knowing all this, I once (stupidly, apparently) told him about this guy who was passively interested in me.

Now, this guy was already in a happy relationship with someone else. He’d just expressed attraction to me, no pressure to do anything. It wasn’t a come on or an invitation. Just stating that I was attractive, basically. I was telling my brother how I liked the guy, but he wasn’t the type of person I’d date, and my brother suddenly got mad at me.

Mind you, this guy wasn’t even TRYING to date me. Wasn’t asking. Said he was happy where he was. And I had told my brother that.

But my brother got all up in my face about “turning him down” because I “wasn’t giving him a chance!” My brother had literally never met or heard about this guy until now, and had no idea what kind of a person he was. But he was rooting for this stranger to hook up with me, even though I explicitly stated I wasn’t interested. This is the same brother, by the way, that has continually insinuated that he would casually threaten any new boyfriend I got by greeting them on the porch with a shotgun (in order to somehow “protect me” from being mistreated by them, presumably).

Basically, he had it in his head that his fellow males’ gratification was more important than his own sister’s decisions or wellbeing. He literally knew NOTHING about this guy, but the dude’s potential desires (not even explicit desires!) were a bigger deal than my freedom of choice. What more can I think, when my brother knew nothing more about the guy than that he was a guy? It seemed to me that, to my brother, the mere idea of maleness formed an inherently closer bond to him than that of kinship, sibling kinship nonetheless.

He all but says he’ll shoot any guy that brings me harm, but he’ll get angry at me on behalf of someone he’s never met, just because they *might* be attracted to me, even if I wasn’t attracted to them?

That’s fucked up in itself, and that’s not even considering that he knew the guy was already happy with another girl.

So, to my brother, not only was this random guy’s “efforts” (at getting close to me) more important than his own sister’s feelings or safety, and deserving of reward, my brother was perfectly happy to have some OTHER girl, the guy’s ACTUAL girlfriend, suffer in order for this guy to get with me. He was more worried about this guy potentially getting “friendzoned” than he was about his sister potentially ending up in a unfulfilling relationship (best case) or (worst case) being bodily harmed.

That’s about when I realized that my brother, despite what he may believe, was never on “my” team.

Now, I did realize all this as the conversation was happening–that he prioritized the imaginary longings of stranger over his own sister–and I told him as much, and how disturbing I found it. How, even if the guy WAS interested in dating me (and possibly cheating on his girlfriend??) it didn’t matter how much he was nice to me if I wasn’t interested in him, too. That me not being attracted to everything that came my way wasn’t some kind of personal failing or betrayal.

He did take a step back then, and seem to reevaluate his own logic, which was really refreshing to see. But he still, though sheepishly, maintained that I should “give the guy a chance”.

I told him something to the effect of “No thank you, I can make my own decisions like a big girl,” and walked off to have the spaghetti I’d been cooking.

This story is less about me getting my brother to check himself and more about me realizing how prevalent this kind of fucked up narrative is in society, where heterosexuality and sex are prioritized to the point of degrading other kinds of cultural ideals that are supposed to keep us safe. Where friendship is devalued in comparison to a romantic relationship. Where your own family might be perfectly happy to throw you (and possibly others) under a bus if it means you’ll live up to their idea of social norms. Where your opinion doesn’t matter when it comes to your own relationships because you couldn’t possibly know what’s best for yourself.

I am sick and tired of this rhetoric. It is ancient and harmful and it needs to go.

On that note, I’ll leave you with one of my favorite old “oh shit realization” memes, which is essentially what I tried to explain to my brother:

BTS CHAT: Yoongi, Namjoon and Jin prepare to confess to Y/N but they are shocked to run into each other in her backyard at night.
  • Namjoon crouches in the bush outside Y/N's window.
  • NAMJOON: (Deep breath) I can do this.
  • SUGA: Do what?
  • Suga pops out over Namjoon's shoulder.
  • NAMJOON: AHH!
  • Suga covers Namjoon's mouth.
  • SUGA: Will you shut up? Unless of course you want to alert the whole neighborhood that you're crouching in a girl's backyard at 12 am.
  • NAMJOON: What are you doing here?
  • SUGA: I saw you leave the house with your guitar, so I followed you.
  • NAMJOON: Well go back home.
  • SUGA: Not until you tell me what your plan is.
  • NAMJOON: What plan?
  • SUGA: Your plan to impress Y/N.
  • NAMJOON: I'll tell you after it works.
  • SUGA: (Shrugs) Fine, then I guess you I won't tell you mine.
  • ...
  • NAMJOON: Wait, what?
  • Suga opens up a bag and inside are chocolate, flowers and a mini speaker.
  • NAMJOON: What the hell man? Are you serious?
  • SUGA: Yup.
  • Suga walks out into the open and presses play on the song; First Love. Suga holds the speaker above his head and flowers in the other hand.
  • JIN: What the hell is going on here?!
  • Jin walks into the backyard with a picnic basket and a gigantic teddy bear.
  • Namjoon comes out of the bushes.
  • NAMJOON: Are you serious? Is following me just thing you guys do now?
  • SUGA: Well by the looks of it, it's that and liking the same girl.
  • JIN: You guys like Y/N?
  • NAMJOON: Yeah. Pretty much.
  • SUGA: No, I just like to take late night strolls into people's backyards. And sometimes, I like to buy myself roses.
  • JIN: AHHH!
  • NAMJOON: (Concerned) What is it?
  • JIN: Oh, just my back hurts from when you stabbed me!
  • SUGA: Was that supposed to be funny? Cuz it wasn't.
  • JIN: You'll know when I'm being funny Yoongi.
  • SUGA: Will I?
  • JIN: Both of you leave now!
  • NAMJOON: No way! I got here first!
  • SUGA: Actually, I got here first. Y/N brought me to her house before she even met you two.
  • JIN: Well I was born first.
  • SUGA: Speaking of that, I don't think Y/N would be into a 'mature' man.
  • JIN: Good thing I'm not mature then!
  • NAMJOON: I don't think that worked the way you wanted it to.
  • JIN: Shut up and leave. I didn't cook all this food for Y/N for you guys to ruin things.
  • SUGA: Fine. Leave the food here and I'll make sure Y/N and I don't let it go to waste.
  • JIN: Sometimes I really don't like you.
  • NAMJOON: I learnt how to play the guitar for her. Do you know how hard it is to strum with no pick?!
  • JIMIN: SHHH!
  • Namjoon, Jin and Suga look up at Y/N's window to see Jimin shirtless and poking his head out.
  • JIMIN: You guys are so loud. Y/N is trying to sleep.
  • SUGA: What the fuck?!

anonymous asked:

Did you know hercules is actually buried next to Hamilton irl? They were pretty close throughout their lives actually. he just wasn't involved in his political career and just made clothes in his lil shop while all hell was breaking loose outside.

i remember reading about their relationship and all im thinking about is like

anonymous asked:

god, i'll never ever stop thinking about all the late nights Hannibal and Will had during S2, they literally HAUNT me, like can you imagine? after all of their fancy dinners for 2 they sat down in Hannibal's study and sipped wine and talked for hours, and all that time Will had an actual hurricane happening inside of him because he LONGED so bloody hard for something MORE but he couldn't get it because 1) this wasn't supposed to be real, he was a lure, 2) he thought Hannibal didn't feel the same

oh god nonny

Late season 2 angst has always been my lifeblood, but adding in PINING WILL has literally slain me. Will WANTING and HOPING and ACHING. And clearly Will knew Hannibal felt SOMETHING, but how could that SOMETHING be other than twisted, co-dependent obsession? How could someone capable of doing the things that Hannibal does also be capable of falling IN LOVE?

And just to make things worse, what if Will didn’t actually think Hannibal incapable of falling in the big L-O-V-E, but desperately fought against the idea just as he fought against his own burgeoning darkness? Like he just couldn’t ALLOW himself to even go there. Because to go there would be tantamount to giving in, and telling himself it was just IMPOSSIBLE was somehow easier at the same time it was AGONIZING IN EVERY WAY.

I am suffering nonny. I am suffering.

Out of all the Legends’ behaviour, I just can’t get past how - how angry I am with Martin Stein.

He knew Mick had been hallucinating Snart. He knew. Mick came to him early in the episode, saying he’s seeing Snart again, saying that he thinks it’s real - and Stein just - dismisses him. Doesn’t even take two seconds to consider whether some version of Snart is actually walking around (despite the Legion being literally composed of past versions of known supervillains, so it shouldn’t have been an entirely impossible thought) or, just as likely, that his team mate’s mental condition is deteriorating to the point where he needs serious help.

But no. Stein dismisses him.

And then, when it turns out that Snart was real and Mick, thinking him a hallucination, told him their plans, Stein is right there on the “blame Rory” train.

And the thing is? He’s the only one aboard who could have said “No, Mr. Rory has been hallucinating Snart before.” He could have said: “Mr. Rory came to me and told me he’d seen Snart again and thought he might have been real, and I dismissed him.” He could have said many things.

He chose to blame Mick.

Don’t get me wrong, the rest of the Legends acted like assholes as well, and the fact that at the end only Ray seemed to even be willing to admit that they’d behaved poorly towards Mick, well - some heroes they are. (And not too bright, either - Mick had told them straight up, that if it came to a choice between them and Len, he’d choose Len - and Sara still handed him the spear…)

The rest of the Legends were stupid and assholes this week. But honestly? Martin Stein? Is a terrible, awful, despicable excuse for a human being.

You don’t know anything about your soulmate until you are fifteen and that’s when the first visions start. Sometimes you may hear what your soulmate does, other times you get a view into what they are seeing. The first thing Lance ever heard from his soulmate was heavy rock music blaring in his head while he was in the middle of class. Did his soulmate not go to school or something?

Over the years, he’d gotten used to the random things popping in his head. He’d learned that his soulmate had a friend who acted somewhat like a dad, his soulmate’s name was Keith, he didn’t think he had actual parents.

The first time it happened, Lance was sixteen. He hadn’t been expecting it and was hanging out with Hunk when suddenly he was watching a boy get shot. It wasn’t long, but he had enough time to see the guy with the gun turn towards him. Lance couldn’t sleep for days after that, until he heard the Keith’s friend asking him what he was doing that weekend and he realized his soulmate wasn’t going to die.

It didn’t stop after that though and Lance kept seeing the most horrific of things after that. He watched people die and he watched torture. He even watched what seemed to be a kid getting abused. It got to the point that Lance stared at a piece of paper that said “Are you okay?” for the whole night. The next day he made Hunk ask him the question over and over. There was no way his soulmate could have missed that message.

However, it seems the message passed by his soulmate completely. He didn’t see anything from him for a few days and when he did, he could hear him crying to his friend. “What if he’s hurt? What if he has cancer? What if I never hear from him again?” It made some sense, Lance had just watched a guy get stabbed from his roommate. It’s what made him finally try to contact him.

Once he was nineteen, it all finally came together. You never knew when you would meet your soulmate, you just always had to be watching out. However, Lance got lucky. He’d just entered Lux, a coffee shop near his school, with Hunk when his vision went a little hazy and he watched the same sign outside in front of his face. His head whipped towards the door, a distant sound of Hunk asking if he was okay.

He knew who his soulmate was the moment he laid eyes on him, of course he did. “What the fuck is wrong with you?” he demanded as he stormed up to the two guys who entered the restaurant.

“What?” That was definitely not his soulmate’s voice. That was definitely Keith’s friends voice. He turned slowly to the other male of the duo. His soulmate had a mullet. A mullet. What had Lance done to deserve this in his life?

“What the hell is wrong with you?” He whirls on the other.

“What is your problem? Shiro, is this a joke?”

“You’ve watched countless people die and you want to act like that’s normal!” It had gone silent in the coffee shop and Hunk had gotten up to try to quiet Lance.

“What are you talking about? I have not! And you’re the one who everyone keeps asking if they’re okay!”

“That was for you!”

After that day Lance learned that Keith Kogan just really enjoyed odd horror movies. Really liked them. Lance was just really happy his soulmate wasn’t in a gang or murdering people on the weekends.



This came about from watching Sense 8 and thinking about a soulmate au based off the idea of sharing your life that way. I don’t know, I just wanted soulmates who thought the other was dying until they actually met. 

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Why yes, Amethyst’s Peridot impression (Perimpression) is coming along quite nicely, thanks for asking

  • Robbie: We've been dating for six months now. Don't you think that it's about time you finally show me what's underneath your hat?
  • Sportacus: *hesitates* Uh, ...I don't know...
  • Robbie: Please? I'm pretty sure I already know what's underneath it.
  • Sportacus: Well...okay... *slowly removes hat*
  • Robbie: *Jaw drops*
  • Sportacus: ...What?
  • Robbie: That- ...actually wasn't what I expected at all-
  • Sportacus: You mean...you didn't think that I was an elf?
  • Robbie: N-no, I just thought that maybe you had a bald spot that you were embarrassed about!

anonymous asked:

I cannot believe Jane of all people wrote Emma saying those things about Killian. Entirely ooc. And as soon as things got tough? As if offering to die to defeat the darkness wasn't tough?!

I disagree. I actually think Emma was very in-character.  It had only been like a day. Poor thing just had her greatest fear realized. She’s always been abandoned, ALWAYS, and now the person she loves most just left her. And it happened at a moment where she was already fragile and heartbroken after finding out about Hook killing her grandfather and finding out he didn’t trust her with the info and her putting a pause on their engagement.  Then when she heard he took off from a credible source (*shakes fist* LEROY!!!!) I don’t blame her for going to a dark place and not having the confidence to see through it right away. She was grief-stricken, strung out, and emotionally compromised. She is not thinking clearly. Her walls are snapping back up and she’s just trying to get through the day. 

Have you ever said something you didn’t mean fresh off of being hurt? In an attempt to protect yourself and stop the pain? If not you must be the only one in the world.

Give her a day or two and she would have started putting things together. Thankfully she got Killian’s message so we didn’t have to wait.. And notice how quickly she embraced it. Just hearing his voice changed everything. Brought down her walls. 

However, I do think Snow, Regina and Henry were pretty quick to give up on Hook. I mean they don’t have abandonment issues and are not the one who is heartbroken.  You’d think Snow, the queen of hope, might offer some… you know… hope!  A “Go after him, love is worth fighting for”  pep talk. Something. But, no, she just got drunk. 

And Regina, the savvy one, might be suspicious about the timing and the fact they live in Storybrooke and Emma is currently battling a psycho… but nope. Nothing occurred to her, instead she fell right into Gideon’s trap and helped him get what he needed. What a jackass.  

And Henry. HENRY. Good grief when Regina was heartbroken he marched to her house with a basket of wine and chocolate and forced her to let him in. With Emma… he’s just sitting on the couch, not doing a thing. Saying nothing.

However… while all of those things are aggravating and frustrating, they aren’t all that out of character.  Snow never pays that much attention to Emma’s needs and clearly was mired in her own issues this ep.  Regina is only savvy when it suits her and frankly she just got her heart broken, I think it’s in character for her to not try very hard to help someone else make up with their love. She probably likes the idea of Emma abandoned, misery loves company after all.  As far as Henry goes, he’s always coddled Regina, while taking Emma for granted.

So… all in all… in character. 

  • Narumi: it's funny that you think you're going to be the one doing the cooking.
  • Mitsuba: it's funny that you think I care about ur opinion. I cook great.
  • Shinoa: that's funny because we literally almost burnt down a building when we tried cooking last time.
  • Mika: you know what's else is funny? the inevitability that someday we'll all be gone from this earth and that nothing up to this point and past it actually matters because it is all a series of events that will become forgotten when all life is eradicated from earth.
  • Yu: *holding back tears* that wasn't funny at all.

anonymous asked:

Have you listened to that interview where Taylor talked about every song on 1989? I think it was for iheartradio, you can find it on YouTube. Anyway when she describes clean she doesn't talk about a relationship, she's talking about the hate fest of 2012-13 and how she felt tarnished and how her life wasn't hers. Her voice was kind of trembling and you can hear that she choked. I think clean is it actually about a relationship but it's just hard for her to talk about it so she "lies" about it

yes OF COURSE i have do u even know who i AM

1. i don’t think what she describes here is a “lie”or some sort of cover up. i think that writing the song which she describes in the interview below as being “about allowing yourself to really feel pain and then all of a sudden time passes and you’ve survived it and you’ve made it out the other side” was a major part of the emotional process she says she went through while writing and releasing 1989. the two descriptions of the song we have heard, one relating to moving on from a specific relationship and one relating to an emotional process (which forms the basis of pretty much all of the clean speeches) aren’t seperate they are inextricably linked. 

2. she’s really, really candid here and it’s one of the rare times she has opened up about the impact all the external talk about her personal life actually has on her and i find it super captivating 

from (11:14) 

clean is the last song on the album for a lot of reasons but mostly because it felt like a completion of this kind of emotional process i’d been going through for the last couple of years. You know i feel like… my personal life was really, really, discussed and criticized and debated and talked about to a point where it made me feel kind of almost…tarnished in a way you know… and the discussion wasn’t about music and it broke my heart that i had made an album that i was proud of and i was touring the world and playing to sold out stadiums and still they managed to want to only talk about…my personal life. At a certain point i felt a switch and it was at the end of recording this album, that i began to feel like…my life was mine again…and my music was at the forefront again and i was living my life on my own terms and i really no longer cared what people were saying about me and that was when i started to see people talk less about the things that didn’t matter….this song clean which is essentially about allowing yourself to really feel pain and then all of a sudden time passes and you’ve survived it and you’ve made it out the other side. 

Final Trailer Musings

Submission from @creativemultitasker

Sorry this is really long but I needed to get this off my chest enjoy the mini essay

So, I know people have been really iffy about Emma’s involvement in the development of Belle’s character to make her more feminist-friendly and all, and I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t been just a little bit worried about the slight chance of it being too preachy and blown out of proportion, but going off what I’ve seen from the final trailer, I can safely say that those worries have finally been put to rest.

While it wasn't that concerning of an issue in the animated 1991 film, I think the 2017 live-action version’s actually really improved the conditions that surround Belle’s detainment at Beast’s castle. We saw in the final trailer, Belle promising her father that she would escape and the camera flashing briefly towards a confused looking Maurice before being forcefully shoved out of his jail cell by Belle, who locks herself in instead. 

It’s really subtle but I think it just adds so much because in the 1991 animated film, after Belle offers herself in exchange for her father, we see her mourning her loss of freedom before exhibiting defiance and rebellion against her captor, the Beast. But going from what we’ve been shown in the trailer, Belle is shown to be defiant and determined to escape from the very beginning. Considering she had to force herself through her father to get into the cell in the first place, it’s safe to assume that unlike in the animated film, Maurice puts up more of a fight against having his daughter locked in his stead, which forces Belle to resort to actually tricking him: apparently hugging him in faux-surrender to get him to lower his defences enough for her to whisper her promise, shove him out and lock herself in. She doesn’t hesitate to place his safety above and at the expense of her own.

Also another thing thelastthingIpromise: As y'all know, Feminism is commonly mistaken as a movement promoting “female supremacy”, which is why it gets such a bad rap. However Emma has been a very active advocate in promoting what feminism is truly about, and that’s achieving gender equality. And from the trailer, she has her character Belle practice exactly what she preaches when she says: “You have to help me. You have to stand.” That isn’t a timid request. That’s an “I can only help you if you help me too. We need to do this together.” So now not only do we have the answer as to how the fuck Belle got the giant ass 500 pound Beast on her horse, but we also see Belle and the Beast working together as a team, as equals

Like dang.This really just seals the deal for me: Emma is Belle. And that’s that. *drops mic*

This is all I could think of after seeing Steven in that jacket. >v<-)^

fr tho like…lance and hunk are best friends???

just think about the shenanigans they got up to in the garrison? like clearly hunk was used to lance dragging him out to do wild stuff at night but just

lets think about like??? lance helping hunk cook in the student kitchens? or in their shitty microwave if you don’t think the garrison would have student kitchens idk. and by helping i mean sitting there and like washing the dishes as hunk actually tries to make stuff and they’re joking and having fun and being happy

or think about like staying up all night even though there’s classes the next day just binge watching shitty tv shows until its four am and they’re both so exhausted hunk says something like “….i think that ants are spies from the government” and lance just?? looses it? and starts laughing hysterically until he rolls off the bed and just continues laughing on the floor?

anonymous asked:

Yesterday I was helping a customer when a man came up with a few cases of water. As I normally do in such a situation, I politely told him he didn't need to take the water out of his cart, and that I would scan it with the handheld when I got to him. He then proceeded to laugh and talk to the customer next to him like i wasn't there, "She actually thinks I'm going to LIFT all this!". I came really close to just picking up my scanner when I got to him and going, "Oh no... the battery's dead."