actual 5 year olds these people

Dear young artists

Here are things I wish that someone told me when I started posting/doing art:

1: I know it sucks but you won’t get your art noticed right away. So be patient and enjoy sharing your art even if it seems no one is looking.

2: Do not take request that you know will take you more than 30 minutes. If it takes longer, that’s what commissions are for. Often people will abuse that you are an artist taking request and will give very elaborate requests.

3: Speaking of commissions, do not price ANYTHING under $5. Please value your art. I promise you the people that will complain the “it’s over priced” are cheap. If they actually want your art, they would pay for it as is.

4: SAVE SAVE SAVE. If you do digital art, save it at least every 15 minutes. Save every piece of art, don’t throw it away or delete it.

5: DATE YOUR ART. At the end of last year is when I actually started dating my art within the file name. Example: “6-13-Girl” and have a folder for each year. This would save time when you’re trying to remember when you did an old piece of art or are creating a portfolio.

6: For the love of god, you don’t have to finish everything. Do practice sketches without them turning into elaborate hours of work.

7: Continuing from 6, YOUR SKETCHBOOK IS A SKETCHBOOK FOR A REASON. That’s where you practice. Don’t worry about a drawing not being perfect, the book is for practicing.

8: You don’t have to show someone your sketchbook if you don’t want to. Just say, “I’d rather you not, it’s very personal” and leave it at that.

9: Post your practices and ask for feedback. P.S. take “you need to work on ______ but good color choice!” as feedback and “your art sucks” as someone being an ass.

10: Don’t trace references or others artwork. It will literally not help you in the long run. A good example of how to use a ref is sketch the basic shape and add details as you go.

11: Don’t tighten you hand when you draw or aka don’t carve into the paper. Keep your strokes light when doing the basic shapes then add to darken the lines when you like them. This will save frustration of it not being able to erase.

12: WATCH SPEEDPAINTS. Slow them down if needed and learn from other artists and take the techniques you like from it. This especially works for visual learners.

13: Try tutorials even if you don’t like the style. You won’t know you like doing something unless you try it, that’s how people improve their art as well.

14: If you look through my blog, you can see that I do A LOT of redraws. I find them important to do sometimes to see your progress and show you what you need to work on.

15: Most importantly: Remember that your favorite artists, no matter their age, have been working on their drawing skills for years. It’s taken me 6 years to get my art where I like it and I’m still improving like everyone else.


Any other artists that would like to add or correct, feel free!

5 Things Not To Do When You See A Disabled Person Under 21

I’m a disabled high schooler so I experience this shit a lot and I just wanna tell y’all what not to do, not to be mean but to just educate y’all

  • Assume we don’t know things. This happens to me a lot. I’m a straight A student, I’m in honors classes, and yet people still think I’m in need of educational help. I know it’s the cane cause people will talk to me normally, but then speak like I’m a 5 year old when they see my cane. It’s rude and honestly disrespectful so pls don’t.
  • “You’re too young to be disabled.” Holy shit no. Some of us are born with a disabilty and even if we aren’t, you don’t get to say shit about that. My legs didn’t stop working because I’m young, it’s because I have an actual illness.
  • “You’d be better if you went out more.” I have dealt with this so often. When I’m in extreme pain, instead of getting me pain meds or help, I normally get told I need to go out more. Walk around a bit. Fuck you.
  • “You shouldn’t rely on that ___” Hell no. If you take away my cane, I can walk but I’ll be in so much pain I’ll start crying. Also? Have you thought that maybe I actually need this cane? I’m not doing it for attention.
  • Which brings me to… DONT CALL US ATTENTION SEEKING. I promise you that if I could walk without my cane, I would. I don’t want this shit, and you saying it’s not real makes it worse.

This is just the tip of the iceberg but here’s some basic no-nos.

  • Sharknado 1: A former surfer who now owns a beach bar teams up with his bartender and some regulars to rescue his family when a tornado passing over the ocean rains sharks on LA
  • Sharknado 2 (the second one): The surfer and his family fight off a second, larger sharknado on a visit to NYC. His wife loses a hand, but saves the day by strapping a chainsaw to her stump.
  • Sharknado 3 (oh hell no): After being honored by the President with the Golden Chainsaw Award, the surfer must stop a massive sharknado from ravaging the Eastern Seaboard, by teaming up with his astronaut dad to shoot it with lasers from space. His wife, who now has a retractable chainsaw built into her prosthetic, gives birth to their third child while inside a shark plummeting to Earth from orbit.
  • Sharknado the Fourth Awakens: It's the future, and science can control the weather. Unfortunately sharknados have evolved past that, and proceed to mutate into bouldernados, lavanados, nuclearnados, and more. The surfer's wife is now a cyborg, courtesy of her mad scientist dad. The climax involves a chainsaw-wielding five-year-old, Niagara Falls, a mech suit, and a blue whale.
  • Sharknado 5 (global swarming): The bartender is now the leader of a cult which discovered a talisman capable of summoning sharknados. The Sidney Opera House is actually a Sharknado Defense System, as are the Great Pyramids of Giza. The surfer and his cyborg wife chase a teleporting sharknado around the world in the hopes of rescuing their son. Pope Fabio gives the surfer a Holy Chainsaw that shoots Divine Lasers.
  • Sharknado 6: Sharknados can allow people to time travel.

Sometimes I think about how in the span of like 5 years the word “daddy” as an inherently sexual term to refer to your male romantic/sexual partner became completely and totally normalized and how that’s left an entire generation of young people a little bit pre-trained to be targeted by really gross pedophiles within the ddlg kink scene and I just get…. really sad y’all 

I saw a like, 9 year old girl get side-eyed by her similarly-aged friends for calling her actual literal father “daddy,” you know, because that is a word used nearly exclusively by real actual little girls on their real actual fathers which is the point of the fetish, and told by them that it was gross and she couldn’t call her dad that. Her actual dad

And I hear from people who think the ddlg fetish is gross and disgusting but have this disconnect when it comes to calling their own bfs “daddy” because that’s been so pervasively normalized over the course of a few years and I could write an entire essay on how it happened and why. 

Can I just say how much tumblr’s antis culture confuses me?

Because, you know, words like “pedophile” and “incest” have always held a strong meaning for me, just like it probably does for everyone. Those are not words I’d use lightly and their connotation isn’t something I would approve of.

However, I found myself feeling extremely confused when I first got into an argument with an anti.
Not because I disagreed with the idea they were trying to defend-or fight against- but because their reasons for our argument was… extremely ridiculous and, honestly, new for me.

Now, I am Argentinian and I can understand the point of view on some things vary depending on the culture you were raised in. But, honestly, I couldn’t help but wonder how that person- that human being on the other side of the screen- would understand the meaning of some words in a way so different from mine, and start screaming unsettling words like “pedophile” and “incest apologist” at me for shipping couples that just never occurred to me that could relate to those words, as if there was something I was missing.

I found myself being attacked and called out for liking ships like eremika, mikayuu and sormik, which were simply childhood friends who, sure, were almost practically raised together and, in two out of these three cases, considered each other their family.
But I just couldn’t comprehend how that would make these ships incest and therefore abusive, when there’re many ships like edwin, which has all the mentioned traits, and doesn’t seem to face the same treatment. I suppose it’s because it’s canon, in this case?

Just recently I started to ship otayuri and once again I found more antis than ever harassing me and anyone who showed fondness for this couple.

I have to admit, I might not be the most attentive person, but in my eyes, I was just looking forward to see a beautiful friendship between teenagers turn into something more, not a “pedophilic” ship.

How is a relationship between a 16-year-old and an 18-year-old pedophilia, anyway?

The antis would say “Yuri is a minor and Otabek is an adult” to justify the harassment towards the shippers, but this logic is extremely white and black, in my opinion.

With this logic, a relationship between a 17-year-old who is one day away from turning 18 and an 18-year-old who just turned 18 would be pedophilia, and this is undoubtedly a ridiculous point of view.

Otabek became 18 one month before meeting Yuri, and Yuri turned 16 only 3 months afterwards. How on earth could this be seen as a problematic relationship?

I had my suspicions it might be because of some cultural difference, but I still don’t understand how that could justify harassing other people.

I mean, I would completely understand the disgust if we were taking about ships that are actually problematic, although, personally, I still wouldn’t really justify the harassment of real people over fiction.

For real though, how is a relationship between non-blood-relatives and not even adoptive siblings “incest” just because they see each other as family? Ever heard of ‘childhood friends to lovers’? Ever heard of ‘my friends are my family’? How is a relationship between a 18-year-old and a 16-year-old pedophilia? (I feel personally attacked on this one because my parents had a 4/5 year age gap when they started dating as teenagers).

Have you got any idea how strong the connotation of your words are?? How is someone supposed to take you seriously when you misuse strong words such as those? How can you be taken seriously when you harm actual csa and incest survivors by forcing them to come out and state they support these ships and find nothing wrong about them, because you treat them as if they were the people that hurt them?

You are not heroically fighting incest and pedophilia. You are reducing the weight of terrible words and making actual concerning issues sound like light matters, as if just because you dislike some fictional couple gives you the right to call it whatever you want so that you force people to feel guilty about liking them.

A Letter From a “Concerned Stranger”

I got this email through an email anonymizing service today. I thought I’d print my response here, in case it’s helpful to others. If you don’t know the context, my oldest daughter identifies as a transgender girl, and both my wife (a parenting podcaster) and I (a comedy podcaster) have talked about it a bit on our shows. Neither of us cares particularly to be a crusader, we just love our kid and want her to know she’s supported.

Dear Jesse Thorn,

Because I know it’s going to be the assumption, let me get it out of the way: I’m not transphobic. I have a transgender friend. I’ve had my hair cut by a transgender barber. I’ve frequently interacted with transgendered people and didn’t really care. I’ve even went on a date with a transgender woman once. (I live in Thailand, so it’s really not difficult to come across transgender people.)

With that out of the way, I have for a long time been disturbed by your public declarations about his 5-year old child’s gender-non-conformity. Not because I am against trans people (see above), but because it’s simply bad parenting.

While it is entirely possible for a 5-year old child to actually be transgender and that person will permanently identify with a gender for his/her entire life, it is also entirely possible that it is simply a short-term phase that the child will grow out of. In either case, a 5-year old choosing to act like a different gender isn’t really a big deal and should be embraced and the child should be encouraged to identify with whatever gender they like.

Here’s the crux: the child ALSO needs the freedom and space to change his or her mind if the child so chooses in the future. And this is where my criticism comes in.

By tweeting publicly about your child’s gender identity, by discussing it in Slate Magazine, you have put immense pressure on your child. If your child later decides to no longer embrace their previous transgender identity, the child will hesitate to announce this. In short, the child will feel pressured to maintain the transgender identity that the father has made so incredibly public.

I understand your desire to be a part of the progressive left. I understand your elation at your ideological beliefs being represented in your own family. But you should ultimately realize that your biggest responsibility to your children is to give them the freedom to express themselves however they want–and that means feeling comfortable changing their minds if they so choose. By asserting to the world that your child IS transgender (without for a moment considering it might possibly be a phase that won’t last), you’ve put incredible pressure on the child to stick to a decision that was made far before the child hit puberty.

I don’t think it’s too late to fix this problem, and at the very least I hope you at least consider the possibility that this may have been a misjudgment. In reality, however, I expect to be told to fuck off or simply ignored. For the sake of your child, I hope you consider some self-reflection instead of the easier reflexive response.

Best wishes,

A concerned stranger

Dear concerned stranger,

Look: despite the patronizing tone of your anonymous email, I’m going to take a moment to offer you some education, because despite having a transgender hairdresser, you obviously don’t know much at all about how gender actually works in kids.

There is extensive research on gender identity and gender expression. Children with explicitly expressed gender non-conformity have extraordinarily stable gender identities. It is extraordinarily rare for children who clearly and explicitly express that their gender differs with that assigned at birth to reverse course. It is not a phase. Gender is expressed in all kinds of ways, and certainly there are boys who like to wear dresses and girls who like to play football and boys who say, “sometimes I feel like a girl” and vice-versa. Those feelings and experimentations are natural and to be expected and often transitory. Kids who say, “I am a girl” or “I am a boy” have clear, stable gender identities, no matter what age they are or what gender was assigned to them at birth. We talked about this in the Slate interview - perhaps you didn’t read it - but our daughter never particularly “acted like a girl.” She told us she was and is a girl. And has affirmed that many, many, many times.

We have of course repeatedly stated both privately with her and publicly (including in that Slate interview) that we will accommodate her gender no matter how it is expressed, but the odds it changes are very long. We’ve talked with medical and gender professionals about this extensively, read books and looked at research. I’m guessing you haven’t.

Why have we talked about it publicly? Well, frankly, there are a few reasons. First, supporting our daughter’s gender identity was non-negotiable, throughout her life. School, at home, with family and in the world. My wife and I both have public lives, and so our choices were pretty simple. We could publicly support our kid, or we could try to hide our kid. We chose the former. We try not to talk about specifics of her (or any of our children’s) lives that might make her uncomfortable when she’s older, but we do talk about them in general terms, share funny stories from our lives and talk about our own experiences as they relate to our kids. Ultimately, whatever embarrassment our daughter my one day feel because we talked about her when she was little in our estimation paled in the face of the shame she would feel if she felt we were ashamed of who she was.

Furthermore, while this was not the reason we made the decision, we knew that as public people, we might be able to offer guidance, support and an example to folks who found themselves in similar situations, particularly those who didn’t have the community support and education opportunities we did. Both my wife and I have heard from other parents of trans and gender non-conforming kids, many of whom have expressed immense relief that there’s someone out there, living their life, supporting their kid and not acting like they have a shameful secret. I’ve heard the same from adult trans people, many of whose families simply didn’t have the knowledge or resources to support them when they were kids.

In short: maybe it’s you who should consider self-reflection. You don’t seem to have a lot of knowledge about my situation, or about the science and lived reality of being transgender. Particularly considering you’ve decided to offer me advice.

Jesse

Ghira Belladonna was not always chieftan; Blake did not live her whole life in a mansion.

I’ve actually noticed some people don’t realize that Ghira wasn’t always chieftan of Menagerie, and these people seem to think that Ghira being chieftan means Blake actually lived a really nice, comfortable life in Menagerie.

But I’m pretty sure that’s not the case.

Ghira used to be the leader of the White Fang, until he stepped down 5 years before Volume 1 and became the chieftan of Menagerie.

Corsac, talking to Ghira, in the episode Menagerie:
“The White Fang’s tactics are admittedly, more aggressive since you stepped down as High Leader and became Chieftain of Menagerie.”

The source for the “5 years” thing is that, in Black and White, Blake says the old leader stepped down 5 years ago. She also says that she was at every rally and participated in every boycott with the White Fang, and we were shown imagery of her as a child at a protest.

I’m pretty sure these rallies and boycotts did not take place in Menagerie, as there is no reason for them to.

And odds are, she never lived in the chieftan’s mansion.

From A Much Needed Talk:
Blake: (emotional) You were right. I shouted at you and yelled at you. (looking up at him) But you were right. I called you cowards!

Remorsefully, she lowers her head closer to her father. He holds her.

Ghira: It’s okay.

Blake: (pulling back) I should have left the White Fang with you and Mom. I should’ve listened to you, and I’m sorry. (turning away) I’m so, so sorry.

Through this dialogue, we learn that, when Ghira stepped down and he and Kali left the White Fang, Blake called them cowards and chose to stay with the White Fang. So, when Ghira and Kali moved into the chieftan’s mansion in Menagerie about 5 years before Volume 1, Blake stopped living with them.

She was most likely 12 years old when this happened, since she was 17 in Volumes 1-3. She had been with the White Fang since childhood. The White Fang has always been her entire life. It seems like she didn’t even have a life outside of the White Fang until she went to Beacon.

Yeah, her parents would still have authority over her, but recall that kids younger than 17 attend combat school for years to learn what they need to apply to a Huntsman academy. Ruby was 15 and still had 2 years left before she was done with combat school. Assuming combat school is 4 years long, just like the Huntsman academies, that would mean that Ruby had begun her training at the age of 13.

And Ghira and Kali seem like they would have seen the futility in trying to force Blake to leave the White Fang with them, as she would have just run away and hated them even more. They had a choice:

  1. Let her do what she believes is right, while believing she will survive and trusting in her to eventually realize her mistake.
  2. Try to force her to leave behind the only world she ever knew, only for her to inevitably run away and be even angrier with them for, not only being “cowards”, but also trying to force her to leave behind the big fight.

Ghira said “Blake, it’s fine. We never held anything against you, and I never feared you would fail. The only thing I ever feared was that you would fall down the wrong path, and I am so proud to see you haven’t.” Judging by this line, I think they chose Option #1.

Besides, it’s possible that they were unaware of just how bad the White Fang had turned. They didn’t even know that the White Fang was involved in the Fall of Beacon and was killing innocent people. Ghira was having meetings with White Fang representatives…

… who are not trustworthy. While talking to Ghira, the Albain brothers spoke in a manner that condemned Adam. However, the moment they walked away from the mansion, they said they were going to tell Adam where Blake was. It’s likely that they had been lying to Ghira, sugarcoating and twisting things, to keep him from knowing how dark the White Fang had become since he stepped down.

As for how Blake knew where Ghira and Kali were living without having lived there with them… it’s not hard. She knew Ghira had become the chieftan, and all it would take is for her to have been to Menagerie before to know how to find the chieftan’s mansion. It kinda stands out.

So, yeah, even though Ghira is now the chieftan of Menagerie, that does not mean that Blake is some pampered princess who decided to go out and fight. She might never have lived that life, at all.

I work in a grocery store bakery and I get really annoyed when people get cakes for kids and just get them stereotyped colors based on their gender. At my store when we decorate cupcakes we HAVE to do “girl colors/toys” and “boy colors/toys” (but they’re not sectioned or labeled as such).

Well today I helped someone pick out cupcakes for their daughter(?), who looked about 5/6 years old. I showed the parent the two varieties we had, one w/ pink frosting and pink ribbons and one with blue frosting and (American) footballs. And the parent actually called their child over to choose which one they wanted, instead of just going with the pink one “because it’s for girls”. They said “Which one do you want? The football one or the pink one?” The child did pick the pink one but it just made me so happy that the parent actually cared what their child was interested in and gave them a choice and the child got what they wanted. It was so cool, so unusual, and so wholesome; at the time, it made my day.

This whole Pokemon Go drama of people bashing younger generations on social media has made me think a lot. All the comments revolved around the same: “why don’t you go and adopt an actual animal?” “Or why are you so immature?”

The answer to most of these people is very simple: this is all we got. I’m going to be 25 years old in one month and I just secured my first ever permanent job. At my age my mum had a 6 year old and had a permanent job for 5 years. My dad had his own business. They had two cars, a house and a mortgage. Do you know what I have? Student loan debt, high rent for a tiny flat (that doesn’t allow pets btw!), four plants and a bus pass.

Baby boomers accuse my generation of being lazy and immature and this and that when they literally fucked everything over for us. “How do you want to buy a house do you? Well get ready to fork out a quarter of a million pounds and a kidney while you are at it!”

Travelling, fandoms and nostalgia filled games are all we got. Don’t you think I would like to have children? Don’t you think I go to sleep every night thinking I’m getting older and I haven’t reached even a quarter of the goals I set up for myself? Don’t you think that I’m scared I will never be able to afford a family? 

I grew up hearing that I could be everything I wanted. That if I worked really hard I would be rewarded for it. Well guess what? You lied. You, baby boomer, sitting comfortably in your 4-bed house with your mortgage and your white fence. You lied to all of us. So the least you can do is shut the fuck up and let me catch some Pokemon.

When non-fish friends ask me if a betta would right for them...
  • What I say: Oh, betta are very easy to keep!
  • What I mean: As fish go, betta are very easy to keep.
  • What I'm terrified people actually hear: Betta are basically pet rocks.
  • What I say: They don't need a ton of space,...
  • What I mean: 5 gallons isn't a huge tank,...
  • What I'm terrified people actually hear: A 1 gallon bowl is basically spoiling them,...
  • What I say: ...they're forgiving of water conditions,...
  • What I mean: ...they don't need RO water like discus, and if your ammonia ticks to one part per googleplex, they won't keel over,...
  • What I'm terrified people actually hear: *something something, water buffalo hoofprints*
  • What I say: ...and they don't have a fancy diet.
  • What I mean: ...and they don't require live food like pea puffers. In fact, a jar of high-quality pellets is all you need.
  • What I'm terrified people actually hear: ...and that 5 year old jar of goldfish flakes in your closet will be fine.
  • What I say: If you're interested, I'd love to help you shop around.
  • What I mean: Please bring me. My multiple tank syndrome is flaring up and I'm afraid this is the only cure.
  • What I'm terrified people actually hear: I'm only offering to be nice, please don't trouble me.
A list of reasons why I despise Obadiah Stane

Because sometimes a single para isn’t enough.

1. He has (in canon) manipulated Howard Stark into terrible decisions, taking advantage of his low points and alienating him from more trustworthy friends.

2. He uses Tony’s father and father-related issues as a tool to guilt him into things.

3. He took Tony’s creations, his company, and used it to profit from things that not only destroyed Tony’s soul but also killed countless innocent people. I understand that war always kills the innocent and weapons always do the same but irresponsible dealing of it, giving it in the wrong hands is one or actually ten steps higher because there is no accountability to it. 

4. The Afghanistan kidnapping didn’t just affect Tony, it also killed soldiers. 

5. He has been conning a man who trusts him for life. If he has been conning Howard, then he must have begun conning Tony as a kid/teen. Manipulating a 17-year-old kid who lost his parents. 

6. That scene where he sees the arc reactor on Tony and buttons him up. As someone who has had people use physical affection or casual touches to lull into safety, this is incredibly devious let me tell you. This is your trusted person, your friend or family using your most intimate vulnerability against you. This is them feeding your brain with the thought that those touches mean trust, mean affection, and when you finally realize the lie, your brain doesn’t know how to adjust to the new feedback. It leaves a long-term scar.

7. He used Rhodey against Tony. In IM we see Tony guessing that Rhodey told Obadiah about the reactor. Rhodey is Tony’s best friend, his sole friend from a time when he wasn’t a CEO of a successful company. He knows things about Tony that most people don’t. Obadiah used Rhodey by taking out a crucial information from him and later using that against Tony. I’ll let you imagine the effect of this on Rhodey. 

8. He tried to use Pepper too. That scene between Stane and Pepper is intense because Pepper knows that he’s manipulating her, knows that he’s still trying to get people on his side and see Tony as unstable. He was going to use the Oh I Try But You Know How Tony Is card and use Pepper as a pawn. When that didn’t work, he tried to get her killed. 

9. He made Tony watch as he ripped his heart out of his chest. 

10. He used Howard as a tool even then, comparing the man to Tony and destroying him emotionally as well as physically.

11. He made sure that Tony thought of him as family, as a father figure. There is this line by Raymond Holt of B99 that I always think when I see father figures: “No, I wouldn’t say lucky. I feel bad for this kid. I mean, what kind of father cares so little for his son that he lets him get away with everything?”. This is what people do when they really care about you. Tony was spiraling, was probably spiraling ever since his parents’ death, but Obadiah encouraged it. He nudged him into more of it while teaching him to put on masks. He put Tony between thinking of him as a pseudo-father and pushing him into a space where Tony would be just enough self-destructive to want to push his limits so that he can prove he feels alive. Just enough to get Obadiah’s work done and then let Tony fall, let the world see the spiraling Tony so that they saw Obadiah as the one who was sensible, accountable. He shattered any chance of Tony being better till Tony got to get away from him and came face to face with a reality that didn’t have Obadiah (in Afghanistan). 

So, yes, Stane was bad for trying to kill Tony but he did a lot more than just that and it is important we remember that because people like him, manipulative people like him exist. They exist and they do more damage than people can see. 

It’s good practice to remember that the old “gotcha” chestnut of “if straight aces aren’t straight then are gay aces not gay?” has it’s roots (5 or so years ago) in people forcibly relabeling asexuals to fit both their understanding and agenda.

It wasn’t a “straight asexual” saying “I’m not straight even though straight is right there in my orientation.” and seeming to contradict themselves (aside from pointing out how capital s Straight works), it was people looking at a heteroromantic asexual and saying “I’ve decided that you’re actually a straight person who doesn’t like sex. Get out of here you str8.” and the heteroromantic asexual saying “No, I’m actually a heteroromantic asexual, it’s different, don’t call me “straight” like that.”.

The same thing happened to homoromantic asexuals. Saying “you’re actually a gay person who doesn’t like sex.” to homoromantic asexuals asking to be called homoromantic asexual. Asking to have their orientation respected.

This happened to all asexuals who used romantic orientation labels (except aromantics who were mostly ignored, or called straight), while the community pleaded for it to stop. “Don’t split the asexual community by romantic orientations to decide our “real” orientations.” “Asexuals all face similar problems for being asexual.” “Talk to us as asexuals.” “Many of us are asexual first, romantic orientation second.” 

Neither “straight” nor “gay” were the preferred labels for many (not all, but many) heteroromantic and homoromantic asexuals. They were colloquialisms forced onto the ace community, used to sever our “real” orientation from our asexual orientation, through years of harassment over being privilege denying or homophobic. That’s what that question was born on. Shaky ground.


tl;dr - “If heteroromantic asexuals aren’t actually straight people who don’t like sex, then are homoromantic asexuals not actually gay people who don’t like sex?” is a much different question than “if straight aces aren’t straight then are gay aces not gay?”

Me: Okay I’m reading KS and it’s fucking horrible omg I loved, now I’m going search some SangBum in tumblr and-

Tumblr: YOU CAN’T SHIP SANGBUM IT’S WRONG

Me: wtf but they’re the main characters and actually a “couple” in the comics? Why-

Tumblr: IT’S WRONG AND ABUSIVE!

Me: well, of course, it’s an relationship between a serial killer and a stalker and everything is horrible, but-

Tumblr: YOU’RE ROMANTICIZING ABUSE, YOU’RE WRONG FOR LIKE IT, YOU’RE A TRASH

Me: but I acknowledge that their relationship is unhealth and abusive, just bc I ship it don’t mean I don’t understand how wrong it is, I really like explore the psychological complexity and understand more about the characters towards their interaction, even the romantic side, I understand that in real life it’s extremely wrong, but I don’t tolerate or support abusive relationships just bc I like a fictional abusive ship

Tumblr:

Me:

Tumblr: YOU CAN’T SHIP SANGBUM IT’S WRONG

Me: *looks in the camera like I’m on the office*

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My finished Sheikah Slate!

I actually finished this last week, so I’m sorry for posting the pics so late. This was made for my 6 year old nephew, who cosplayed as Link (in the Tunic of the Wild) for Sask Expo last weekend. He’s a lucky kid - there were 5 people working on the outfit for him, and we managed to pull it all together in the nick of time.

Unfortunately, I can’t share pictures of him in the cosplay because I would need his mother’s permission to upload pics of him here. To be honest, I don’t actually want her to know about this blog, so I didn’t ask. Sorry. Just take my word for it that he was super cute! ‘Cause he was. He had people coming up to him asking to take his picture, but he was being really shy so he wouldn’t let anyone. And he got tons of compliments.

Anyway, to make this Sheikah Slate I followed this tutorial: https://youtu.be/58XcW1UcOkA
I made several changes here and there however, to make it look more accurate (mainly for the handle). I also did the batteries and switches for the lights differently because each switch was attached to a circuit board (thank goodness I had my dad to thank for helping me figure that part out!)

I really enjoyed working on this project. It had been a while since I’d done something crafty like this, and it was pretty fun to make.

Woman Reading - Thailand 

The Tibeto-Burman ethnic minority group, the Kayan People, are native to Myanmar. During the 1980′s and early 1990′s, a number of tribes fled over the border to Norther Thailand to escape civil unrest. Among the groups that fled were the Kayan Lahwi, a group famous for wearing brass coils around their necks. The coils are almost never removed, usually only to replace with new coils. 

Girls start to wear the coils when they turn 5 years old. While the women are known as having “long necks”, it is actually an illusion. The weight of the brass weighs down on the womens collar bones, and compresses their rib cages. Therefore, their necks are not actually lengthened, it just appears so due to the deformation of their clavicle. 

Mikey Way

• Legs longer than my attention span

• Like 10 pounds I could probably put him over my shoulder and I’m a 5 foot 5 inches 15 year old female who doesn’t get off her couch

• Like srsly tho Gerard feed your brother

• He once slept with a member of Fall Out Boy and got evERY FUCKIBG SONG WRITTEN ABOUT HIM

• Precious little sober noodle

• Me and Ray’s actual son

• Always has Revenge era hair in fanfics for some reason idk

• Can pull off a beanie like no motherfucking other

• ½ Chillest MCR members squad

• Eats the weight of like 10 people in sushi and still weighs less than a teacup chihuahua

• Slightly less greasy of a dork than Gerard

• Hi.s glaSsES,,,.., cAn u f,,ucking n¿ot??,,?,

• He can fucking slay a dragon with his jawline I could write a novel about his jawline and I barely even like men

• Doesn’t smile much but it’s ok cause we know he’s got a little cheeky grin on the inside

• hIS g&igG,,le

• Could be a fuckin model if he wanted to

• I might not be straight but his jawline sure fuckin is

• Mutuals with Pete even though Pete could write an even longer novel than I can that fckin fanboy

• Loves cats and is 796328843% better than u

• I’d pay him $20 to punch me in the face (Twenty Dollar Nosebleed ha)

• Looks up to Gerard like a lost kitty cat it’s amazing ain’t no one got as good of a relationship with their sibling than them

• Beautiful innocent celery stick too pure for this world

• If you talk shit about him or Kristin I’ll fucking fyte u m8

• Pete’s novels are actually probably about him it’s been like 10 yrs and he still isn’t over that ass (albeit flat cause Gerard stole all the good booty genes)

• He could smack me with his bass and I’d thank him

• Coffee-loving mini-kitten

• He’s sober and that’s all that matters ok

TL;DR: Parents are too cheap/too ignorant to tell us that they are a family of 3 when they book a room for 2; didn’t listen to my coworker who gave them the details of the room they were about to book and bitch that we can’t just downgrade another customer without checking with them first only to cater for the family’s incompetence!

Fuck that couple who can’t listen to employees and seems unable to book the right type of room! 

The couple had made a reservation over the phone for a twin bedroom. The room they were put down for by my coworker is actually better suited for being used as a single because it is rather small for two people. It is our “last resort” to give that away as a twin if we are otherwise fully booked. We always stress that yes, we could offer them a twin but it is a rather small one so that they know not to expect something too spacious. 

When I saw them come in, I was puzzled as they had a maybe 5 year old with them. We would have never put a family of 3 in that room! So when I am checking them in, I ask “I have you down for room X which is a twin bedroom. When you called, you made a booking for 2 people?” The bloke goes “Yes”. Okay, so they never told my coworker that we had to accommodate a kid as well, so that is how you fucked up! Those dicks probably wanted to save on paying a potential fee for the kid!

So I go on “ Okay, to be honest, there is a bit of a problem now. As my coworker told you, this is a twin, not a double. One adult and a child in one of these beds isn’t really comfortable. But all other rooms are booked so I can’t just switch you to another one. I will have to check with the guests that are still coming in whether they would mind getting the twin instead of the double they booked”

The couple doesn’t seem to understand the issue as “the child just sleeps with us in the bed, it is large enough”. I had to explain to them multiple times what the difference between the double and the twin beds are. Once the penny finally drops, they get all entitled, telling me to just give them another room and that they were never told that it wasn’t a double. Mate, you fucked up, don’t blame that on my coworker. She has worked in this industry for ages, I know she told you about the beds and overall room size because she knows that otherwise, you would bitch about it. You are the one who is unable to book the right type of room for their family by asking for a room for 2 and not for 3 or for 2 adults and a child. I tell them, that I have to wait for one of the remaining doubles to arrive to ensure they are fine with the switch. To be honest, I was hoping that they wouldn’t trade so the dickhead of dad could literally lie in the uncomfy bed he has made. Unfortunately, the guests arrive and they are family members all attending the same family event so they agree. But when I repeat the issue with the room being small and a twin, the dude gets all pissy “yes, we know, you told us that 3 times already”. Uh, asshole, that information was for the other guest so he knows what he would trade his room for!

stop slutshaming bra/bulla 2k17

i have a lot of love for this character and i don’t think she deserves any of the disrespect she receives so often from the dragon ball fandom so in honor of her recent birth in super i decided to do some fleshing out of the one and only daughter of bulma and vegeta.

(note: her birth was bumped up to year 780; she’s younger than pan) but this was the bit of information we were given for vegebul’s youngest child: a precocious girl who has a bit of impishness to her

she’s first seen at the end of z alongside her mother at the world martial arts tournament and appears to be a sweet, well-behaved, and gentle girl. she doesn’t appear to be a fighter, but is only about three years old, and eagerly cheers on her friend pan and marvels at her father’s strength

there is potential

not many people seem to have a problem with this bra, and why would they? she’s an adorable little girl who received very little screen time.

the real hate is usually directed at “teenage” bra in the non-canon spin-off dragon ball gt.

so fun fact! bra isn’t actually a teenager here. if it wasn’t obvious by her underdeveloped build in comparison to her mother’s in dragon ball, then you can simply do the math. gt takes place 5 years after the end of z, making bra 8 at the start and 9 by the end. she’s not even a preteen!

this is a common misconception and the dialogue in the english dub which many of us watched growing up isn’t very helpful either. vegeta never scoffs ‘teenagers’ in the original episode. he, in fact, says ‘nonsense’ in response to his daughter’s dialogue while out on their shopping trip.

so bra is unfortunately a victim of jessica rabbit syndrome, y’know, ‘i’m not bad, i was just drawn that way.’ and while i agree her attire is highly inappropriate for her age, it’s totally unfair to judge her character because of it. this wouldn’t be the first time a young girl was unnecessarily sexualized in the series.

AHEM

in the few scenes we get to see bra, she’s always either with her mother or her father. the one time she’s seen interacting with males is when she is hit on by two much older creeps while in the car, and she’s unbothered when vegeta proceeds to rip off their steering wheel and send them flying off the road

another common assumption about this character is that all she does is shop. well, in the subbed version, bra happily states “papa, this is the first time you’ve taken me shopping in my whole life!” she may have gone a little overboard, and might like to indulge in material things, but again, she’s not the first

it would be ridiculous to assume that her only interest is shopping

my favorite bra scene would have to be when she’s watching as chi-chi and videl prepare for battle. the look of amusement is a vegeta look if i’ve ever seen one, and a glimpse of that impishness we’re told about in her character bio. despite her lack of screen time, you see the perfect blend of both parents.

there have been plenty of other complaints about her being “bratty” and “entitled” but i don’t care to address them. what i hate seeing is the “slut” and “whore” and “hooker.” it’s baseless and rude. 

thanks for reading