acts of bloggery

So the new TERF “repeat it until it’s considered true” mantra is that somehow “men don’t have gender, women do”, and christ I don’t know whether to laugh or to cry.

I mean jesus fuckin mess, how is this not instantly debunked as the most MRAest dudebro viewpoint out there, rather than a tenet of a so-called “feminism”? It reifies cishet masculine presentation as a normative social “default” in a way that even religious right social conservatives wouldn’t dare, because to them any other form of presentation is “performative”.

I’m going to scream this every single day of my life until someone pays attention: MASCULINITY IS PERFORMATIVE MASCULINITY IS PERFORMATIVE MASCULINITY IS PERFORMATIVE

Literally any trans woman & many gay men can tell you that masculinity and heteronormative presentation is indeed performative & a lot of us are coerced into it unwillingly. This coercion is backed up with social disenfranchisement and violence.

Also, like, if a trans woman is a man and a man is an entity devoid of gender, isn’t that some sort of rhetorical divide by zero error?

I love when folks talk about me, as a trans woman, critiquing the patriarchy from the angle that “but it was in your favor before transition”.

Are we talking about the same patriarchy that had me coded as “faggy” and “effeminate” from childhood before I even had an idea of my own sexuality, that always has and continues to regard me as a “lesser form” of however I’ve expressed myself?

That patriarchy?

Yeah that thing did *soooo much* for me, thanks a fucking bunch.

Speaking of OkCupid…

Somehow I’m even more weirded out that he apparently DIDN’T know I was a trans woman before asking me out of the blue how big my feet were.

And then he’s all like HEY I WORSHIP FEET IN  A CREEPY WAY AND PAY GIRLS TO WALK ON EACH OTHER OH SNAP A TR*NNY GOTTA BOUNCE HOLLA

I wish motherfuckers would read my profile before talking to me. Or, if they’re creepy, just not talk to me.