i got in an argument with my mom over text today. I didn't have what you would call a "normal upbringing" and it really is causing me some issues now and every time i try to bring it up mom flips it around and says that im ungrateful and that shes done so much to support me and i should get over it and its just fucking me up more. she refuses to admit anything was wrong and wont listen to me when i tell her its bothering me. i dunno what to do at this point because its bothering me more and more
Talk to a doctor about your mother abusing you and see if it has fucked you and see what the next course of action is from the doctor. Our parents mostly fuck us up these days so it’s not unusual if you have issues. Just see how to deal with rhem and move away from your mom if she’s really bad. The ideal path is to help her see how she’s affected you and reconcile that shit right up, but she probably has issues too so it probably won’t be easy or soon. Maybe one day you both get along really well and forgive each other for the past, but it’s something you work towards as you both heal. In the meantime, try to get safe. You can only really start healing once you’re out of the shit.